Tajbol4splend:


You end up with the better and stay committed to him or her

Like Renee said, you never know which would be better until you're in it

ReneeNuttall:

Truth is people sometimes hide their true identity, till after marriage. You know that u can't know everything about someone until u start cohabiting with d person.

It all depends on you to make it work

Yorubas have a saying

Death is different from sleep o.

YourImaginaryBF:
Like Renee said, you never know which would be better until you're in it

It all depends on you to make it work

On us buddy

YourImaginaryBF:
Like Renee said, you never know which would be better until you're in it

It all depends on you to make it work

U mean both parties involve right?

ReneeNuttall:


U mean both parties involve right?

Tajbol4splend:


On us buddy

In a case where one of the duo are no longer interested. Someone has to do something to calm the situation

YourImaginaryBF:
In a case where one of the duo are no longer interested. Someone has to do something to calm the situation

Of course but in case of having a rebellious partner

ReneeNuttall:


U mean both parties involve right?

It works better

Tajbol4splend:


Of course but in case of having a rebellious partner

then you try to change them. you don't just call it quits because you don't like somethings about your partner. there's no such thing as a perfect relationship

Tajbol4splend:

It works better

ok

YourImaginaryBF:
then you try to change them. you don't just call it quits because you don't like somethings about your partner. there's no such thing as a perfect relationship

I will not marry a girl that does not want my family

Tajbol4splend:


I will not marry a girl that does not want my family

there's got to be a reason to why she does not want your family, what if your family's attitude towards her is not pleasing but you both love each other? Would you leave her?

Tajbol4splend:


You know having more than one gf or bf can be of an advantage sometimes but when one is doing it for the right reason

Bros, don't let your babe see this comment oooo

tosyne2much:
May God bless you my sister.. Marriage opens people's eyes to reality while courtship may not

na dem no wan see

YourImaginaryBF:
I have seen couples who courted for 10years only to get married and break up months later. There are alot of responsibilities that come with getting married that most new couples will have a hard time facing

not by quantity quality time spent together

ReneeNuttall:

Truth is people sometimes hide their true identity, till after marriage. You know that u can't know everything about someone until u start cohabiting with d person.

na you no wan find out or you close your eyes

YourImaginaryBF:
there's got to be a reason to why she does not want your family, what if your family's attitude towards her is not pleasing but you both love each other? Would you leave her?

I trust the kind of family I come from, that's why I said it

tosyne2much:
Bros, don't let your babe see this comment oooo

Haha, lol

Tajbol4splend:
I have seen people who claimed to be in love with themselves before marriage but you see them having a lot of disputes after getting married, I ask myself why this should be, I ask if it is still the same two people who used to do things together, who used to show love in different ways, all of a sudden at the time when the love is supposed to be at climax, they start having problems they never used to have before marriage, things then change, they then change.

Well what I think that causes this is that most people in relationships don't pay attention to necessary details about their partners.

Nairaland veterans and geniuses over to you, what do you think brings this bitterness into marriage between two people who have claimed to be lovers before their marriage

I think people rush into marriage with the wrong perspective. Ladies always have that fantasy of a happy-ever-after marriage (too much of hollywood I pressume).
Another factor is that people rush into marriage for the wrong reasons and when these reasons do not suffice, things may take an ugly turn.
Above all,I would say that when a couple waste the entire period of their dating and courtship on copulation,pizza and shawarma,that marriage may likely develope some faults.
My admonition is this: Marry your best friend cos at some point in a marriage,love might be lost,but friendship will get things going. Do not expect too much of your spouse. I am not saying you should downgrade him or think less of him,but appreciate his efforts though little...Appreciate his/her flaws cos there is no such thing as a perfect man/woman... Lastly,no third parties.

After marriage things are taken for granted

Cusan:
After marriage things are taken for granted

That's it.

All but one major issue is left untouched which to me is the most important reason why a marriage might crumble without it seeing the light of the day. This hotcake for a successful marriage is PRAYER. We seem blindfolded by love and an atmospheric expectation that we fail to commit our affairs unto the hand of our LORD before forging ahead believing that things will automatically play out. My people marriage is not a movie or some Hollywood stunt but rather a reality show hanging around our neck.

Juliearth:



I think people rush into marriage with the wrong perspective. Ladies always have that fantasy of a happy-ever-after marriage (too much of hollywood I pressume).
Another factor is that people rush into marriage for the wrong reasons and when these reasons do not suffice, things may take an ugly turn.
Above all,I would say that when a couple waste the entire period of their dating and courtship on copulation,pizza and shawarma,that marriage may likely develope some faults.
My admonition is this: Marry your best friend cos at some point in a marriage,love might be lost,but friendship will get things going. Do not expect too much of your spouse. I am not saying you should downgrade him or think less of him,but appreciate his efforts though little...Appreciate his/her flaws cos there is no such thing as a perfect man/woman... Lastly,no third parties.

Almost looks like you mean love between two people fades but friendship they may have built lasts

Well, some relationships are based on lust and not love.... After they're tired of the lust, the relationship ends.

There are some questions they should have discussed before marriage. You can click on it to check out the questions.

Marriage is an institution, thus very dynamic. Love is only a part of it.

Tajbol4splend:


Almost looks like you mean love between two people fades but friendship they may have built lasts

Absolutely!

Juliearth:



I think people rush into marriage with the wrong perspective. Ladies always have that fantasy of a happy-ever-after marriage (too much of hollywood I pressume).
Another factor is that people rush into marriage for the wrong reasons and when these reasons do not suffice, things may take an ugly turn.
Above all,I would say that when a couple waste the entire period of their dating and courtship on copulation,pizza and shawarma,that marriage may likely develope some faults.
My admonition is this: Marry your best friend cos at some point in a marriage,love might be lost,but friendship will get things going. Do not expect too much of your spouse. I am not saying you should downgrade him or think less of him,but appreciate his efforts though little...Appreciate his/her flaws cos there is no such thing as a perfect man/woman... Lastly,no third parties.

Oooooh this is brilliant

Abidx22:
All but one major issue is left untouched which to me is the most important reason why a marriage might crumble without it seeing the light of the day. This hotcake for a successful marriage is PRAYER. We seem blindfolded by love and an atmospheric expectation that we fail to commit our affairs unto the hand of our LORD before forging ahead believing that things will automatically play out. My people marriage is not a movie or some Hollywood stunt but rather a reality show hanging around our neck.

Prayer does go a long way especially if the foundation is built properly. Most relationships that start with sex can make both parties not to see each other's faults or rather think they can manage the faults. Marriage is really hard work and for me my major desire is to marry a lady who sincerely loves God cause when you really love God then you can be reasoned with no matter the situation.

Juliearth:


Absolutely!

I think I can afford your point

dhardline:


Prayer does go a long way especially if the foundation is built properly. Most relationships that start with sex can make both parties not to see each other's faults or rather think they can manage the faults. Marriage is really hard work and for me my major desire is to marry a lady who sincerely loves God cause when you really love God then you can be reasoned with no matter the situation.

Remember we have people who love God but who don't understand God's take on romantic relationships

Tajbol4splend:


Remember we have people who love God but who don't understand God's take on romantic relationships

Then that person is a hypocrite who only claims with the mouth to love God but with the heart despises His ways. Think about it, if you really love someone you will do everything possible to please him. You want to know more about him and will do whatever the person asks you to do.

Now place God in that context.

Hence the person will want and seek to know everything concerning relationships according to God's way.

mikolo80:
na you no wan find out or you close your eyes

Are you now saying u are a mind reader or a monitoring spirit?....I am not understanding

There's a popular saying - love is blind, marriage will open your eyes.

I've always believed love isn't enough for marriage.
Friendship for me is number one.
Marry someone that compliments you. someone who balances out were you're inadequate.