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I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by DaddyNick: 10:06pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
It might be shameful am doing this and I am very sure some people will insult me but I don't mind. No matter what happens I just feel somehow, at least one person might really understand me. Honestly I think I am really getting lost. I am someone that felt at my age now, I must have been settled, have a lovely family and just do everything in the world to make my wife the best and happiest woman ever and also make my kids see dad and mum as the best parents. Yes I know its just an imagination but I think am willing to try hard to make that happen. But somehow it seem so far from achieving that and I am so worried. Every lady I come across are just looking for a way to be with a made rich guy. Yes I understand that every lady needs security and a good life, but I am someone that know I will make it because I never give up but the ladies don't see that. I might have nothing now doesn't mean I can't be the best husband ever. I really want to settle down but it's been difficult because I have nothing yet. I don't see anything wrong in a good woman who knows she really wants to settle down helping a guy stand on his feet. Why don't some ladies see that they can assist some guys in building an empire together. They say behind every successful man is a woman, does that actually mean the woman is just to help him control the wealth he has already acquired? I truly need an understanding lady that we can start a beautiful life together even if it means her supporting me to do something great. I want a woman that will believe in me and see that we can build a family together. Please don't tell me such ladies are not here, where can I meet just one. |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by jashar(f): 10:12pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
How old are you? You working/have a business? You still living in your parents house? Do you have a confident/whiny personality? Are you the type that will be waiting for a woman to bring you money? Let's start from these ones 1st. |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by subtlemee(f): 10:23pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Go get a job or handwork to show God and man some seriousness and stop waiting for manna to fall from heaven, you'll wait forever till you become a subject of ridicule |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by zealblinks(m): 10:29pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
If you dont have money. U can go to kiriri, kuje or brothel. You will find one....... You better double your huslte give the game what it takes nd 4get about settling down for now |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by DaddyNick: 10:49pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
jashar: Ok... I am a little above 30, I dont stay with my parents, I am a Real Estate consultant but things are not that smooth yet, am not a shy guy but I think am hardly looking at women because I don't feel settled and I have a very likable personality. I am not waiting for a woman to constantly put food on the table, I have a goal and am focused on it. |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by DaddyNick: 10:50pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
subtlemee: You got it all wrong. Thanks anyway |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by DaddyNick: 10:51pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
zealblinks: Hmmmm, cheers 1 Like |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by Perfecttouch(m): 11:07pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
i was at this same cross road 3yrs ago. And I made that mistake though it's all a blessing now. I had nothing on me and to make matter worst,I impregnated my girlfriend though unknowingly. My brother,I suffered!!! I have to do tipatipa introduction cos my fiancé family will not accept me without an intro. I borrow tire.the beebee Intro cost me 80k 6months later,she gave birth. Everyone abandoned me to source for naming ceremony's money myself. Business was at a stand still. Nobody gree snap photo again. Again I managed to raise 100k, my friends and some associate na dem suffer am sha. Now comes that part that have always been hearing about.(pampers). I use to think it was a fluke or overhyped. 90pieces of pampers, 3800 and it finishes in two weeks. I almost died. Wife has no job Husband, a graduate no job, even handwork I relied on(photography) no gel. I was living from hand to mouth. Landlord's wahala, Siblings pressure Parents pressure Child and mother's welfare priority I have to rethink my life after all these. Though it's not as worst as before but I thank God there is a bit, atleast 10% changes from before. So my brother,with these little point of mine, You should be able to make a decision. INCASE MY STORY MOVES YOU AND YOU FEEL LIKE HELPING ME (COS I STILL NEED SERIOUS HELP) PLS HELP OOOOO. Wetin be my own self, this beer again? Are you on auto refil?
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Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by Viking007(m): 11:13pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Perfecttouch: ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by DaddyNick: 11:14pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Lol... @perfecttouch Wow your story even inspired me more. I really want to face it all and get made already being inside of it than making it and bringing a woman into it. I want to grow and be well established with a woman I will respect so much for how much she stood by me and helped me grow to achieve alot 1 Like |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by shortgun(m): 11:34pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
Bros a woman by ur side is not what u really need right now....that's just the truth. Even if you finally get a woman you will regret it later. The truth is dat a woman can smell a guy with potential 1000kms away. Try and work on ursef first. Stop blaming women for ur misfortunes. The way you are so full of ursef with nothing to show is enough turn off for a lot of girls. Sorry, if I was hard on you but its for ur good. Shalom 6 Likes |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by DaddyNick: 11:41pm On Mar 28, 2017 |
shortgun: I don't want to ever live with such mentality and I will never. The people that are living a good married life do they have two heads? |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by dupzy05: 4:22pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
Viking007:do so touching |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by LatestProperty(m): 4:39pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
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Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by sisisioge: 5:06pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
Daddy, I'm sure a good woman will see all these your good attributes and settle with you soon. However, do you at least have the capability to provide the basic needs of a family for now? If not, just keep calm, work harder and you will get there. It is not enough to dream it, you need to live it too. A woman that would build an empire with you needs ingredients to start with unless you want her to be your man. If that's the case...it is well. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by ElsonMorali: 5:22pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
It is wonderful to be married, have lovely kids running around all over the place calling you daddy and a wife or husband who adores you. Yeah. But the truth is not everybody will get married. The earlier people get this down pat, the better for them. If you're not self-fulfilled and you jump into marriage, the weight of the marriage will almost kill you. Add the arrival of babies and additional cost...mehn... you don't wanna do that to yourself. Trust me. 1 Like |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by kaywhynoni: 5:27pm On Mar 29, 2017 |
hmmmmn..... #word. Perfecttouch: |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by DBestDoc(f): 5:24am On Mar 30, 2017 |
DaddyNick: I hope you'll keep procreation on hold so the innocent child doesn't partake in your adventure. It will save you a lot of stress too. All the best. 1 Like |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by Idydarling(f): 8:41am On Mar 30, 2017 |
u said u hardly have time for women op, how do you think you'll get the woman who have those qualities u want. Get a lil closer to a woman, try and get to know her, one thing I'll tell u, don't be overconfident wen talking to one, it irritates, me included |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by Nobody: 9:34am On Mar 30, 2017 |
Do you know a lot of women are also in the same position as you and they feel the same way. Life is hard. Everyone is fighting for their own survival. It wasn't like our parents time were an educated man or woman had high prospects of getting a well paid job. People are more selfish about their decision of a partner this days cos no one wants a liability. and it's not just women, men look out for ready-made women too. So, i understand how you feel. cos as social beings, it's normal that you need companionship but don't lose focus on what's important and have your priorities straight and with that I believe you will find your woman along the way. |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by DaddyNick: 11:06am On Mar 30, 2017 |
Joavid: Nice |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by Ineedinfo(f): 7:50pm On Mar 30, 2017 |
Op, why do you think a woman who wants to help you control your wealth isn't a helper? Let go of such mind set. A woman can help control your wealth through her business sense, her hard work, knowing how to manage resources available to her. Or are you simply saying you need an "already made" lady? If the latter is what you are searching for, it could become a turnoff to ladies you meet. You may have found what you need already, yet your eyes are glued far ahead for already made ladies. |
Re: I Know I Truly Need Help At This Point. by DaddyNick: 8:10pm On Mar 30, 2017 |
Ineedinfo: You seem not to have gotten what I said because your comment is totally different from what I stated in my post. |
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