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Please Advice Me by adedejisy: 10:50pm On Mar 28, 2017
My wife want another kid after 3children each time I told her not to think of getting another child,she will turn it to fight....what do I do ....my first born is 8yrs ,second is 4yrs plus and the last born is 2yrs plus..... I will be 40yrs old next year and she is 32yrs old.... Is 3children not enough ni?....Im confused
Re: Please Advice Me by Nobody: 10:52pm On Mar 28, 2017
More than enough for this buhari govt

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Re: Please Advice Me by adedejisy: 11:01pm On Mar 28, 2017
Kinda funny woman,I have discuss about the situation of country n business instead she will tell me olorun lo wo omo( God can take care of child)....I'm just confused
Re: Please Advice Me by subtlemee(f): 11:03pm On Mar 28, 2017
Go and quietly do vasectomy and come back home and rest...she be suffering to do prayer and fasting for more kids while you enjoy your life quietly and happily

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Re: Please Advice Me by Shossie(f): 11:17pm On Mar 28, 2017
subtlemee:
Go and quietly do vasectomy and come back home and rest...she be suffering to do prayer and fasting for more kids while you enjoy your life quietly and happily
And when she gets to know? What would you advise him to do? Smh, Op, talk to her about it, didn't you guys do all these family planning sef before una marry.
Re: Please Advice Me by Nobody: 11:22pm On Mar 28, 2017
Shossie:
And when she gets to know? What would you advise him to do? Smh, Op, talk to her about it, didn't you guys do all these family planning sef before una marry.

who would tell her pls
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Re: Please Advice Me by Nobody: 11:24pm On Mar 28, 2017
adedejisy:
Kinda funny woman,I have discuss about the situation of country n business instead she will tell me olorun lo wo omo( God can take care of child)....I'm just confused

it seems you married a village girl


that is how their brains are wired

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Re: Please Advice Me by yomi007k(m): 11:33pm On Mar 28, 2017
subtlemee:
Go and quietly do vasectomy and come back home and rest...she be suffering to do prayer and fasting for more kids while you enjoy your life quietly and happily
grin

Walai na d solution be ds...
me wey na 1 I wan born, bae don use 2 beg me taya but still on d mata.
Re: Please Advice Me by Oyiboman69: 11:35pm On Mar 28, 2017
op wait let me ask buhari

Re: Please Advice Me by dingbang(m): 11:42pm On Mar 28, 2017
Shossie:
And when she gets to know? What would you advise him to do? Smh, Op, talk to her about it, didn't you guys do all these family planning sef before una marry.
lol Genesis 3:16
Re: Please Advice Me by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:55pm On Mar 28, 2017
Seriously, do you have to bring this to NL? Should forum Members tell you what to do in your family?
Re: Please Advice Me by Nobody: 12:19am On Mar 29, 2017
You are the man in your home ,maybe it's time to remind her. Better still, Let her pay the bills for some months she will definitely understand.

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Re: Please Advice Me by Nobody: 12:24am On Mar 29, 2017
After three children your wife still dey find jara. Op, you sure say she dey this Nigeria ? Omo merin laye change.
Re: Please Advice Me by baby124: 1:53am On Mar 29, 2017
You better tell her to find a job and start reducing the pocket money at home that makes her feel so comfortable to be spreading leg and collecting sperm. Nonsense. Your kids are old enough for her to work so she can understand the value of money. You know what you can afford. Don't do it.

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Re: Please Advice Me by Nobody: 2:31am On Mar 29, 2017
You wife is not only jobless, she's out of touch with reality and common sense.


keep her busy during the day, like a job or business. and enrol her in adult education classes during the evening.


Clearly, she needs both.
Re: Please Advice Me by baby124: 3:29am On Mar 29, 2017
Op, God forbid what if something happens to you tomorrow? Won't these kids suffer. I wonder how some of you are so comfortable with a jobless and lazy breeder as wife.

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Re: Please Advice Me by sisisioge: 5:36am On Mar 29, 2017
Very simple!

Monitor your kini for the time being and leave her to pay more of the bills. Make the money scarce. Don't pay the children's school fees until they send them home twice, be late on the rent...form broke. She's indeed very funny. Let her pay more towards the children financially for now...let her see how it is. Good luck.

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Re: Please Advice Me by Mimzyy(f): 5:43am On Mar 29, 2017
Just take her to a counselling unit abeg. If that doesn't work, slash the bills into two and tell her it's a friendly game. Make her pay the 50% for a while, next time you guys are in the other room, act like you're not gonna withdraw and watch her force it out with speed grin.
Re: Please Advice Me by pocohantas(f): 6:49am On Mar 29, 2017
Am I reading a different post?
Where did the OP mention that his wife is jobless or not supporting financially? The way everyone is saying slash money.

OP, talk to her, take her for family planning classes or do a vasectomy. Women secretly go on pills when their husbands want more kids than they desire too.

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Re: Please Advice Me by Shossie(f): 7:02am On Mar 29, 2017
Archaa:


who would tell her pls
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Marriage should be built on honesty, no matter what the situation is.
Re: Please Advice Me by Shossie(f): 7:10am On Mar 29, 2017
dingbang:
lol Genesis 3:16


The husband will still rule at last, so the husband's say is final.
Re: Please Advice Me by SirVintageCock: 7:34am On Mar 29, 2017
My guy, you have to equalize abeg. 2 boys and 2 girls. Then wait for her to want more after that, that's when you sue her at her family court.

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Re: Please Advice Me by dingbang(m): 9:27am On Mar 29, 2017
Shossie:
The husband will still rule at last, so the husband's say is final.
nope... She has her ways...
Re: Please Advice Me by Nobody: 9:37am On Mar 29, 2017
Shossie:
Marriage should be built on honesty, no matter what the situation is.

but in a situation like this where the woman is only interested in pumping out babies with out considering the economic implications


what choice would the husband be left with ?


What is your take on the part the woman insinuated that (children are trained by God) it's obvious she has no financial contribution to the family
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Re: Please Advice Me by Acidosis(m): 10:25am On Mar 29, 2017
Pretend and act like a broke man for at least 2-3 months.

4 kids in this dispensation is tantamount to heartlessness and cruelty.

I hope you're already living in your own apartment? If I become a landlord, I will get you evicted from my house if all you can afford with 4 kids is a bedroom or 2 bedroom bungalow. Stashing 4 kids and guests in such is cruelty. Even Sardine has reduced the number of fish in that container to 2. Be like Sardine, be wise.
Re: Please Advice Me by Richy4(m): 4:09pm On Mar 29, 2017
You did not mention the gender...It could be that you got three boys..and she got no girl to plait hair on...Or she needed to travel for the popular Nigerian Baby sitting in future done by the bride's family...Just tell her to watch television if she has too much time on her hands...3 is even too much..
Re: Please Advice Me by SeyiKings: 6:05pm On Mar 29, 2017
adedejisy:
My wife want another kid after 3children each time I told her not to think of getting another child,she will turn it to fight....what do I do ....my first born is 8yrs ,second is 4yrs plus and the last born is 2yrs plus..... I will be 40yrs old next year and she is 32yrs old.... Is 3children not enough ni?....Im confused
I think you have to sit her down. The main problem you have currently is that you did not plan. You have agreed before now how many child you wanna have. You have to keep talking to her. Give her reasons why three is enough.
Re: Please Advice Me by ststyreal(f): 9:41pm On Mar 29, 2017
baby124:
You better tell her to find a job and start reducing the pocket money at home that makes her feel so comfortable to be spreading leg and collecting sperm. Nonsense. Your kids are old enough for her to work so she can understand the value of money. You know what you can afford. Don't do it.
Please advice with respect biko, she is someone's wife. Because the husband brought his family issue out here doesn't mean we should disrespect the wife.
Re: Please Advice Me by baby124: 9:58pm On Mar 29, 2017
ststyreal:

Please advice with respect biko, she is someone's wife. Because the husband brought his family issue out here doesn't mean we should disrespect the wife.
Why don't you drop your own advice and get the hell off my mention.
Re: Please Advice Me by Juliearth(f): 10:39pm On Mar 29, 2017
Vasectomy to the rescue.
Re: Please Advice Me by adedejisy: 11:00pm On Mar 29, 2017
Thanks to you all for the advises and suggestion atleast I have picked out some of ur reply to me and I pray to God to give me wisdom to be able to deliver.God bless you all
Re: Please Advice Me by ststyreal(f): 12:58am On Mar 30, 2017
baby124:

Why don't you drop your own advice and get the hell off my mention.
Huhhh!!! Lord have mercy!

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