So I'll just go straight to the point.
I met this guy in my Church and days later, he started showing interest in me. In less than a month of meeting me, he started making marriage proposals, telling me he would want to meet with my people for introduction. I told him it was too early and besides, I would want to complete my studies before settling down. But he suggested we went for the introduction first and then waited till after my graduation for the marriage. Again, I told him it was too early for him to start making marriage proposals, as he had not known me for long, and that I wouldn't want to rush into marriage, cos I would Want to know who I would be getting married to. His reply was that he doesn't like dating before marriage, so I told him to look elsewhere, that I can't marry someone I haven't taken my time to study. On the long run, he said he would want us to court and that he would wait for me to finish my schooling, because he doesn't want to lose me.




Now, this guy is very caring, supportive and hardworking. Though he didn't go to a university, and the doesn't know how to speak well, I'm not bothered about that, cause I like him for who he is and not what he has achieved. But the problem is, I'm not tall, I'm just 5.4ft and I'm a bit taller than this guy. When I think of the kind of children we would have in future if I marry him, it gives me a lot of concern. I don't want my children to be called names such as dwarf, short devil, akakpor, etc. I'm confused here. Apart from his height, the guy is ok. Pls will our heights affect our children? Your kind advice are needed. Thanks in anticipation.

Definitely your kids will be midgets.

And I think you are not setting your priority right

With fervent prayer anything is possible

trishluvly:
So I'll just go straight to the point.
I met this guy in my Church and days later, he started showing interest in me. In less than a month of meeting me, he started making marriage proposals, telling me he would want to meet with my people for introduction. I told him it was too early and besides, I would want to complete my studies before settling down. But he suggested we went for the introduction first and then waited till after my graduation for the marriage. Again, I told him it was too early for him to start making marriage proposals, as he had not known me for long, and that I wouldn't want to rush into marriage, cos I would Want to know who I would be getting married to. His reply was that he doesn't like dating before marriage, so I told him to look elsewhere, that I can't marry someone I haven't taken my time to study. On the long run, he said he would want us to court and that he would wait for me to finish my schooling, because he doesn't want to lose me.




Now, this guy is very caring, supportive and hardworking. Though he didn't go to a university, and the doesn't know how to speak well, I'm not bothered about that, cause I like him for who he is and not what he has achieved. But the problem is, I'm not tall, I'm just 5.4ft and I'm a bit taller than this guy. When I think of the kind of children we would have in future if I marry him, it gives me a lot of concern. I don't want my children to be called names such as dwarf, short devil, akakpor, etc. I'm confused here. Apart from his height, the guy is ok. Pls will our heights affect our children? Your kind advice are needed. Thanks in anticipation.

Lolzzzz....quite funny

hahaha this height issue go cause kasala ooo


anytime I take a look at my height

I just dey always thank my papa in his grave. The mam na Dongo

lol.....


op free the guy. otherwise u will with what you don't like for ever ooo

Op are u Èsàn ??

I'm think I'm 5ft 3inches and I date guys that are 6ft plus and will marry one too. Pity your future children small.


Tall and short marry not short and short.

What if you go lookin for that "tall Jordan" and he ends up not giving you the marriage of your dreams. Ur guy pans out well from the description you gave, just the hight issue, which to me, is not that all bad. I know of a couple who are similar to you guys in height, but ended up having very tall children, it just genetics. Stick to ur guy, d devil u know is...

We will get to a point in our lives when having good people to share our worlds with will beat all the fancies of the world...height, money, fame, looks etc. In fact, the fancies will chase you and you would make sure you aren't caught up with. Once you find a good man, all fancies around him become added advantage. That's the way life is.

If he's a good man, and you totally like him, his height shouldn't be a problem. Although, his initial garagara gives me the jitters but since you said he's OK...biko no look height. God might bless you with tall kids thanks to a recessive tall gene that becomes dominant. And if them no tall...God is everywhere o.

Slap yourself OP.

You are worried about his not too fluent English but you keep telling yourself, it doesn't really matter. Slap yourself again.

You are worried about his height but you want people that have never seen this guy before to give you a false reassurance that it's OK to go ahead. Slap yourself!

My dear, wake up from your slumber and ask yourself what you really want in a relationship. If this dude doesn't fit, then tell him nicely and walk away abeg.

If the only thing you are attracted to bout him is money then your priorities are misplaced and you might end up regretting later. Let the dude go.

If you really love him, then height shouldn't be a deciding factor.

@Trishluvly

But the problem is, I'm not tall, I'm just 5.4ft and I'm a bit taller than this guy. When I think of the kind of children we would have in future if I marry him, it gives me a lot of concern. I don't want my children to be called names such as dwarf, short devil, akakpor, etc. I'm confused here. Apart from his height, the guy is ok. Pls will our heights affect our children?

As you mentioned, the only box he hasn't ticked is his height.
It's socially discomforting that at 5.4" you're taller than him but that's not all there is to marriage.
You both could be recessive for tallness, meaning that you could have offsprings that are much taller than you both especially if they're well nourished.
Does he have taller siblings or parents or grandparents? If yes, then there is hope.
Again, I'm worried and it sounds queer to me when a partner says he/she doesn't want dating, acts all nice and lovely and wants to take the short cut to marriage. Pls shine ur eyes, there may be more in the cupboard than meets the eye.

trishluvly:
But the problem is, I'm not tall, I'm just 5.4ft and I'm a bit taller than this guy. When I think of the kind of children we would have in future if I marry him, it gives me a lot of concern. I don't want my children to be called names such as dwarf, short devil, akakpor, etc. I'm confused here. Apart from his height, the guy is ok. Pls will our heights affect our children? Your kind advice are needed. Thanks in anticipation.

When I read post from people like you, its makes me laugh . if he was wizkid or davido that proposes to you.

You won't factor his height , but now he's one common man that can hardly speak English. I laugh.

Its like saying you can't marry korede bello. Because of his height.

Abeh na who height Dom EPP ?

olrotimi:
@Trishluvly
As you mentioned, the only box he hasn't ticked is his height.
It's socially discomforting that at 5.4" you're taller than him but that's not all there is to marriage.
You both could be recessive for tallness, meaning that you could have offsprings that are much taller than you both especially if they're well nourished.
Does he have taller siblings or parents or grandparents? If yes, then there is hope.
Again, I'm worried and it sounds queer to me when a partner says he/she doesn't want dating, acts all nice and lovely and wants to take the short cut to marriage. Pls shine ur eyes, there may be more in the cupboard than meets the eye.

Thanks dear

cruchenuti:


When I read post from people like you, its makes me laugh . if he was wizkid or davido that proposes to you.

You won't factor his height , but now he's one common man that can hardly speak English. I laugh.

Its like saying you can't marry korede bello. Because of his height.

Abeh na who height Dom EPP ?

point noted. Thanks

Mimzyy:
Slap yourself OP.

You are worried about his not too fluent English but you keep telling yourself, it doesn't really matter. Slap yourself again.

You are worried about his height but you want people that have never seen this guy before to give you a false reassurance that it's OK to go ahead. Slap yourself!

My dear, wake up from your slumber and ask yourself what you really want in a relationship. If this dude doesn't fit, then tell him nicely and walk away abeg.

If the only thing you are attracted to bout him is money then your priorities are misplaced and you might end up regretting later. Let the dude go.

If you really love him, then height shouldn't be a deciding factor.

LOL. I've slapped myself 3x. Thanks for the advice.

sisisioge:


We will get to a point in our lives when having good people to share our worlds with will beat all the fancies of the world...height, money, fame, looks etc. In fact, the fancies will chase you and you would make sure you aren't caught up with. Once you find a good man, all fancies around him become added advantage. That's the way life is.

If he's a good man, and you totally like him, his height shouldn't be a problem. Although, his initial garagara gives me the jitters but since you said he's OK...biko no look height. God might bless you with tall kids thanks to a recessive tall gene that becomes dominant. And if them no tall...God is everywhere o.

Thanks for your kind words of advice. I appreciate.

MARKone:
What if you go lookin for that "tall Jordan" and he ends up not giving you the marriage of your dreams. Ur guy pans out well from the description you gave, just the hight issue, which to me, is not that all bad. I know of a couple who are similar to you guys in height, but ended up having very tall children, it just genetics. Stick to ur guy, d devil u know is...

Thanks bro. Advice taken.

ToriBlue:
I'm think I'm 5ft 3inches and I date guys that are 6ft plus and will marry one too. Pity your future children small.


Tall and short marry not short and short.

Noted. Thanks dear.

agohmamuda:
Op are u Èsàn ??

Nope. I'm Ijaw (Bayelsa)

it's 2017 darling, and you're still worried about the wrong things . wawu

Personally I don't care about height, but I don't think it's right for me to dismiss your concerns.
but don't be too worried cos genetics play a part in the height of your kids, but it's not limited to you and your hubby's. You probably have tall parents or grandparents, so your kids can be tall too.

Nutrition plays a vital role as well.

Finally, as much as I'm trying not to judge you, I don't think you're ready for marriage if things like height is what bothers you. you just said how much of an amazing man he is.
I would expect that you'd be more worried if he isn't smart or intelligent or if there's some kind of mental retardation in his family, cos this things are what you wouldn't want to pass unto your kids.

Who height don epp?? abeg some body tell me

babseg:
Definitely your kids will be midgets.
And I think you are not setting your priority right

Thanks dear.

Mimzyy:
Slap yourself OP.

You are worried about his not too fluent English but you keep telling yourself, it doesn't really matter. Slap yourself again.

You are worried about his height but you want people that have never seen this guy before to give you a false reassurance that it's OK to go ahead. Slap yourself!

My dear, wake up from your slumber and ask yourself what you really want in a relationship. If this dude doesn't fit, then tell him nicely and walk away abeg.

If the only thing you are attracted to bout him is money then your priorities are misplaced and you might end up regretting later. Let the dude go.

If you really love him, then height shouldn't be a deciding factor.

what so much abt this hight of a thin

trishluvly:

Nope. I'm Ijaw (Bayelsa)

Owk. u got a mail.

Okay ooooo, see life. While some marriageable ladies out there are crying and praying for a date. One want to throw away her own cause of immaterial thing hmmmmm such is life to later join the group of beliving for husband later

No insults... Just slaps...

Mimzyy:
Slap yourself OP.

You are worried about his not too fluent English but you keep telling yourself, it doesn't really matter. Slap yourself again.

You are worried about his height but you want people that have never seen this guy before to give you a false reassurance that it's OK to go ahead. Slap yourself!

My dear, wake up from your slumber and ask yourself what you really want in a relationship. If this dude doesn't fit, then tell him nicely and walk away abeg.

If the only thing you are attracted to bout him is money then your priorities are misplaced and you might end up regretting later. Let the dude go.

If you really love him, then height shouldn't be a deciding factor.

trishluvly:

point noted. Thanks

So, one month. Just one month and he's already thinking marriage. Hmmm...

I'll tell you what, I think you made a good decision when you told him to walk If he wasn't ready to date you properly.

I guess you're having a change of heart now because he spends well for you.

Haven't you been told not to get engaged or married to someone you just met yesterday?

If he doesn't want to date you for at least a year tell him bye bye and Godspeed.

Some people will tell you physical attributes don't matter. Don't mind them. It does

TonyeBarcanista:
With fervent prayer anything is possible

E mura si

trishluvly:
So I'll just go straight to the point.
I met this guy in my Church and days later, he started showing interest in me. In less than a month of meeting me, he started making marriage proposals, telling me he would want to meet with my people for introduction. I told him it was too early and besides, I would want to complete my studies before settling down. But he suggested we went for the introduction first and then waited till after my graduation for the marriage. Again, I told him it was too early for him to start making marriage proposals, as he had not known me for long, and that I wouldn't want to rush into marriage, cos I would Want to know who I would be getting married to. His reply was that he doesn't like dating before marriage, so I told him to look elsewhere, that I can't marry someone I haven't taken my time to study. On the long run, he said he would want us to court and that he would wait for me to finish my schooling, because he doesn't want to lose me.




Now, this guy is very caring, supportive and hardworking. Though he didn't go to a university, and the doesn't know how to speak well, I'm not bothered about that, cause I like him for who he is and not what he has achieved. But the problem is, I'm not tall, I'm just 5.4ft and I'm a bit taller than this guy. When I think of the kind of children we would have in future if I marry him, it gives me a lot of concern. I don't want my children to be called names such as dwarf, short devil, akakpor, etc. I'm confused here. Apart from his height, the guy is ok. Pls will our heights affect our children? Your kind advice are needed. Thanks in anticipation.

My advice look for someone taller since that's the *height* of your problem. (See what I did there )

Antina:

E mura si

What is it?

TonyeBarcanista:
What is it?

I meant good advice.

Antina:

I meant good advice.

which language is that