Jman06:
This advice should be taken only by ladies who are rich too. If you are a poor azz lady and you wanna wait for a rich man, you are OYO.

You make sense jare

FelixFelicis:
If you work hard and make enough money, you should date based on love, not on money then. Afterall we guys have been doing that for ages, you don't see rich guys going after rich girls, they go for love. If you love a guy and he's broke why not motivate him? Put him up to something

women are too selfish to love. They think only abt themselves. A rich man will not mind marrying a broke girl just because he loves her but a woman will never want to do that. The annoying part is the way they claim to be the victims

Alesandese:
Abeg carry your wretched dumb head out of my mention.

Are you blind or dumb?

Monkey go and siddon

Safiaa:
PLEASE LEARN TO COMPREHEND BEFORE WRITING YOUR OPINIONS ON THIS THREAD. READING IS KEY!

THERES NOTHING WRONG IN FEMALES BEING WITH A GUY THAT IS STRUGGLING. AS LONG AS HE HAS GOT A VISION AND IS WORKING TOWARDS DOING SOMETHING. YOU CAN'T BE SELLING A FAKE DREAM TO SOMEONE, AND EXPECT THEM TO STAY.

How do you kwn a"FAKE DREAM" Dear?

Safiaa:
PLEASE LEARN TO COMPREHEND BEFORE WRITING YOUR OPINIONS ON THIS THREAD. READING IS KEY!

THERES NOTHING WRONG IN FEMALES BEING WITH A GUY THAT IS STRUGGLING. AS LONG AS HE HAS GOT A VISION AND IS WORKING TOWARDS DOING SOMETHING. YOU CAN'T BE SELLING A FAKE DREAM TO SOMEONE, AND EXPECT THEM TO STAY.

What will the financially buoyant guy get in return? Your fairly used pu$$1?

Enough said.

Safiaa:
I know most men will be triggered by the title of this thread, without reading what i have to say. I really couldn't care less lol. This thread is directed to the ladies !!!


Now ladies, i'm not encouraging you to be lazy gold diggers with no ambition. I'm not encouraging you to use a man entirely for his money. Get your education, work hard and make something of yourself. Strive to be successful. HOWEVER....

Don't be lured into what we call 'ride or die'. A lot of men are deluded by their unrealistic dreams and goals, and believe they can sell you that dream. They'll tell you that they want to do this and that, but they never work towards achieving their goals. I call them empty vessels. Its really sad, because I've seen so many women waste their youth on men who sold them a dream, and end up suffering for the rest of their lives. There's a difference between a broke man with a vision, and a broke man with a fantasy. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO. This is not Bonnie and Clyde, this is the real world, and if you can clearly see that this man is destined to be broke, RUNN!

As a woman, you need to use your YOUTH and BEAUTY to attract the best man who is financially stable as possible. This is not gold digging this is being SMART. Think about your children, think about your future. You don't want to be in your 30's wishing that you spent your younger years with another man. Money is very IMPORTANT in a relationship, and you need to be with someone who will compliment your finances.

Stop making excuses for men, who clearly don't have plans. Stop trying to be the ride or die chick, because you will die in poverty. Yes, we know that women can be the breadwinners of the house, But i can assure you that most women want to be taken care of. If you want to struggle with him now, open your eyes and be sure that you will NOT struggle with him FOREVER.

LADIES BE SMART, YOU'RE ONLY YOUNG ONCE! USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE.

Someone asked you a question. Are you not a daft? Please answer

Sometimes I wonder how people reason before writing. What of all these broke girls all around Lekki Phase 1 and 2, sluting around, house helping, working in computer centers earning 20k monthly? Who will marry them?

tobianthony:


@ Op , I want to say something but I want to just continue lurking .

I want to ask you a couple of questions some of them will offend you ... but I just want to understand where you are coming from with this topic .

Please do not take offence .

Here goes ?

1) be truthful and be honest how old are you ?

2) what do you do for a living ?

3) what goals have you set for yourself and how many of these goals have you accomplished ?

4) what has to physically happen for you to call yourself successful ?

5) I'm assuming that there is a fellow who is (broke) that dated you or someone you know ...is this true ?

6) answer questions 1-4 for him ?

7) finally right as this moment what is your net worth ?

Do not take offence I just want to learn more about you .

OP please answer this

Thanks for the advice.

This your writeup is totally flop, you centered it based on only working class ladies, you did not consider that there are also ladies out there that doesn't earn up to 15k monthly. nawa for you ooo

Safiaa:
PLEASE LEARN TO COMPREHEND BEFORE WRITING YOUR OPINIONS ON THIS THREAD. READING IS KEY!

THERES NOTHING WRONG IN FEMALES BEING WITH A GUY THAT IS STRUGGLING. AS LONG AS HE HAS GOT A VISION AND IS WORKING TOWARDS DOING SOMETHING. YOU CAN'T BE SELLING A FAKE DREAM TO SOMEONE, AND EXPECT THEM TO STAY.

Life is Bisexual . anybody can blow and hit his/her dream

ikp120:
Na wa for these cheap babes everywhere. Na this type we dey use for rituals.

reading your comments on top of mango tree in police headquarters in abuja

Safiaa you see? Shey I warned you, both male and females have commented now, you think we are all wrong and you're right? Smh.

ishowpepe:
then die single

Abi.

In a country where the economy is in shambles.

No need to woo these Naija ladies, you just buy them like a commodity in the market...easiest bit_ches to get.

Just another desperate, dumb Naija biatch

Guys face your hustle and work, and start earning some income before thinking of a babe, babes aint wired to hustle by their very nature.Even God gave Adam work to do before providing him with a babe (Eve). Dont come crying on nairaland when your babe start showing you her other side when you cant meet some of her needs/ demands. And by the way, guys try to cut your suit according to your size. Dont start chasing after a babe that was never raised in a humble background but raised in wealth and expect her to hustle with you, its just basic, dont blame her, she's not a gold digger, she just doesnt understand what hustling mean.

Once again, guys face your hustle and shine your eyes!your own babe that fit you will come.

loswhite:
most ppl due to high poverty level in Nigeria by the way that is caused by the so called successful ppl we admire...o have lost sense of reasoning. We celebrate financial success even tho the person in question stole the money that belong to his entire community. We celebrate Success of I'll gotten wealth. Love is not an escape route for poverty. What if a man is financially stable when u marry him and suddenly finance goes away what do u do?

we are saying the same thing

Safiaa:
Yawns.
Reading has become a task that many Nigerian men fail to do.
Bye boy!

I have taken the time to go through every comment both from you and your readers and I have made some observation thus far.

I have read your constant use of the word "reading & comprehending". It is shocking how you assume sole ownership or understanding of what truth is? when people have different view with you does not imply that you understand something better than they. On a more serious note, I read your write up many times trying to find what is hidden that people don't understand, and I found nothing. The truth is that you got a little cash and your thinking changed. You feel you are comfortable, and you don't need the input of a guy, he only need to have vision and dream with his own money. Trust me, many ladies are growing towards this and it's interesting to realize that.
In conclusion, you wrote well and must be proud of whom you are growing to be. But one thing that is certain is that you are not a man and you don't and will never understand how they think and what they are passing through.

Naija girls mentality tire me. I was chatting with a lady days back and I asked her whats the kind of man she likes and the first on the list in bold letters is a man that can give her money without her asking.. I just tire for some of this girls

Safiaa:
Yawns.
Reading has become a task that many Nigerian men fail to do.
Bye boy!

How come everyone is having comprehension problem? It obviously bespeaks something is wrong with your post. Your post is lopsided & designed to encourage laziness....at the sametime contradictory....Why drag men into it in the first place? You could have advised your fellow ladies to strive for success without alluding to using men as tools! that is why alot of guys are finding your post appalling, because in the real sense it is demeaning...Men are no f00ls....& the manner in which u use the word SMART is questionable. U are just using the word SMART as a smokescreen...Next time u wanna advise women....do leave men out of it....

cooldood:
Guys face your hustle and work, and start earning some income before thinking of a babe, babes aint wired to hustle by their very nature.Even God gave Adam work to do before providing him with a babe (Eve). Dont come crying on nairaland when your babe start showing you her other side when you cant meet some of her needs/ demands. And by the way, guys try to cut your suit according to your size. Dont start chasing after a babe that was never raised in a humble background but raised in wealth and expect her to hustle with you, its just basic, dont blame her, she's not a gold digger, she just doesnt understand what hustling mean.

Once again, guys face your hustle and shine your eyes!your own babe that fit you will come.

Quite shameful, coming from a guy.

porchbaby:
Well I concour sis, even if dey end up having d mulla sef,dats wen dey realize that ur not their type anymore,some men are foolishly wicked on this part

You are so right,I know 3ladies who got married to jobless 'humble' guys, I swear years down down d marriage these ladies were breadwinners of d family,immediately d useless husbands land themselves better jobs,they evaporated into thin air, one of them was my close aunt,imagine taking care of 3kids nd hubby for 17yrs only for him to deny his family as soon as he land himself a good job!
God punish poverty and na broke guys dey fake humble pass.

But the question is: are you people(broke guys) even comfortable/happy with your current status before inviting wives/kids to your miserable lazy lives?

Oshi odanile Pako! Mtshew

No, that's not the issue. If you're going to counter my thread, have valid points. That's all. Make sure you read through my thread, so you don't repeat what i've said.

Ravenclawgirl:
Safiaa you see? Shey I warned you, both male and females have commented now, you think we are all wrong and you're right? Smh.

Alphamale2017:
the only reason am not going to argue with you is because if this part of your write up.

''. There's a difference between a broke man with a vision, and a broke man with a fantasy. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO. "

you didn't completed rule out dating a broke guy in your write but you did in your post title .

have u seen E-money's throwback pix ??

i bet thousands of woman will still like to marry bishop David oyedepo today and become the 700th wife , sure . because they want to ride in a private jet and live in the best houses .

but I bet you 98th of those woman would have passed up the chance to get married to him over 30years ago when he was driving a bike .

what of mark zuckerburg ? he didn't come from a billionaire family either . but today he is among the top 35 richest people in the world at such a young age .

ladies if you see that ur man has got a dream and makes concrete plans to achieve them and your instincts tells you he will succeed then stick around .

money is important yes. but life is not a one way traffic . at least stay for a while and see if they materialise .
who knows , you may become the celebrated wife of a public figure and a celebrated achiever .
Gracias

tell them bro..nelly no finsh sch.bil gate steve job dem no finish sch.check out basketmouth,igodie,2face throw bk picz..annie idibia pls cme n xplain to them biko..

johnson232:

How come everyone is having comprehension problem? It obviously bespeaks something is wrong with your post. Your post is lopsided & designed to encourage laziness....at the sametime contradictory....Why drag men into it in the first place? You could have advised your fellow ladies to strive for success without alluding to using men as tools! that is why alot of guys are finding your post appalling, because in the real sense it is demeaning...Men are no f00ls....& the manner in which u use the word SMART is questionable. U are just using the word SMART as a smokescreen...Next time u wanna advise women....do leave men out of it....

Exactly the same thing I told her, I posted before you. God bless you. To me, she just got a little work giving her little money and she is talking trash

SafeDavid:


This guy dey vex o!

Chairman....I no waste time for rubbish. I'm no-nonsense like Sergio Ramos. Thus, if I ever hear or see rubbish with my ears or eyes respectively, I get bored.

If you wan mention me, abeg do am via private dp. My comment is so sacred to be seen on this pig-sty of a thread.

Alesandese:
Yes there are some broke guys who depends on others for survival. There are also some lazy guys with vision. They dream big but work little. If I as a lady can work for my own money, live a comfortable life at my age why shouldn't a guy do that too?. I don't ask for gifts from guys, they spend on me willing even with certain warnings because I hate being indebted to people so that definition of broke guys doesn't work for me. To me a broke guy is one lower than my standard. One who is penniless, aimless and lazy.

So anybody lower than your standard is broke. Records and standards are broken every day. So tomorrow when the people below you passes your level, then you now become the broke person. And what's yours standard? So for your mind, your comfortable and. Suffering and smiling

God knew why he created different categories of people that end up becoming Pilots, astronauts, Medical doctors, truck pushers, carpenters etc. Despites these, when it comes to marriage the most important thing should be love. This your ideology should be dumped in lawma trash not on nairaland. No wonder they say women have fish brain.