Hello nairaland ladies and gentlemen...

I have a question for ladies in the house. Uhm...guys too. Well...I know it's unheard of, a taboo even, to ask such question among "marriage craze" fanatics that we have in our society. Now- I'm not against one lowering he's /her standard to get married.

My question is; can you cope with the new standard? Here's my thought on this issue- http://kareninspirational.com/2016/07/14/lowering-your-standards/

Ineedinfo:
Hello nairaland ladies and gentlemen...

I have a question for ladies in the house. Uhm...guys too. Well...I know it's unheard of, a taboo even, to ask such question among "marriage craze" fanatics that we have in our society. Now- I'm not against one lowering he's /her standard to get married.

My question is; can you cope with the new standard? Here's my thought on this issue- http://kareninspirational.com/2016/07/14/lowering-your-standards/

Another blogger another journey..

Altnough the blog would use a lot of designing and structure.. since it seems out of place and most people that go to read it wouldn't want to come back

FitnessDoctor:


Another blogger another journey..

Altnough the blog would use a lot of designing and structure.. since it seems out of place and most people that go to read it wouldn't want to come back

Hmm...that said. what's your view on the topic? Most times in life, the treasures 're found in the last place you'd care to look. You know...?

Not clicking...bite me

ucheHapers:
Not clicking...bite me

Lol. what you could find might save you a lot of stress in the future. Not always about appearance...u know?

Ineedinfo:
Hmm...that said. what's your view on the topic? Most times in life, the treasures 're found in the last place you'd care to look. You know...?

Actually most Nigerian women don't have standards... I remember a girl I dated and she was demanding... But I didn't care... (my responsibility as the boyfriend is to take care of her).... She demanded all the material things when she felt she lacked them and I wasn't concerned, but she never demanded for knowledge, wisdom and a way to make her dreams come true... She never demanded to be a better woman everyday... When we broke up.. I asked her why she didn't demand for those things and she told me that she likes her life the way it is and there is no need to go over the headache of those serious things... and I have met so many ladies like these and they told me the same thing

Most Nigerian women don't have anything to lower at all.. It is just society that makes them think they are worth a dime....

You can see them looking good and for what... just for a man to date them and marry them... and that is it (the end of their lives)... No deep ambitions, no true plans for futuristic growth and achievements.

So where are the standards? Is it because you are human and you deserve the best that is why you think you actually have standards? Is it because you are educated? Is it because most men are after what is in between your legs.. that is why you think you have standards?

What does standards mean to a lady? Just ask yourself first before replying me...

You're right, I'm clicking....don't bite me

Ineedinfo:
Lol. what you could find might save you a lot of stress in the future. Not always about appearance...u know?

oh damm!i feel like slaping ya face op.

FitnessDoctor:



Actually most Nigerian women don't have standards... I remember a girl I dated and she was demanding... But I didn't care... (my responsibility as the boyfriend is to take care of her).... She demanded all the material things when she felt she lacked them and I wasn't concerned, but she never demanded for knowledge, wisdom and a way to make her dreams come true... She never demanded to be a better woman everyday... When we broke up.. I asked her why she didn't demand for those things and she told me that she likes her life the way it is and there is no need to go over the headache of those serious things... and I have met so many ladies like these and they told me the same thing

Most Nigerian women don't have anything to lower at all.. It is just society that makes them think they are worth a dime....

You can see them looking good and for what... just for a man to date them and marry them... and that is it (the end of their lives)... No deep ambitions, no true plans for futuristic growth and achievements.

So where are the standards? Is it because you are human and you deserve the best that is why you think you actually have standards? Is it because you are educated? Is it because most men are after what is in between your legs.. that is why you think you have standards?

What does standards mean to a lady? Just ask yourself first before replying me...

Whoa! we're not all, one size fits all...you know. Sadly you've met the type that makes us all look stupid. We do 've standards though.

Some of us detest criminals, abusive men, philanderers, paedophiles, men mercurial in nature, lazy men with no ambitions whatsoever for their lives, sadists. That's not all. The list goes on and on.

There're ladies that won't marry a devious man, no matter how wealthy he's. There're those that won't marry a spender, a gambler, a violent man, lewd fellow. Some actually left men they felt deeply for just because they'd different values.

Please, don't conclude due to your previous experiences- that girls don't 've standards. A lot do growing up, but then societal pressure to marry or be lumped as a wayward girl, if you didn't marry on time- made them discard their standards to marry all sort of miscreants.

Let me ask you a personal question. Are you a type that tries to re-mode your girl? Some ladies hate that with passion. Most ladies would rather you support them on that which they 've passion for than being force fed what you'd prefer.

Prettythicksmi:
oh damm!i feel like slaping ya face op.

Whoa! why's that? lol. What's my offense?

ucheHapers:
You're right, I'm clicking....don't bite me

Lol. Good for you!

Ineedinfo:
Whoa! we're not all, one size fits all...you know. Sadly you've met the type that makes us all look stupid. We do 've standards though.

Some of us detest criminals, abusive men, philanderers, paedophiles, men mercurial in nature, lazy men with no ambitions whatsoever for their lives, sadists. That's not all. The list goes on and on.

There're ladies that won't marry a devious man, no matter how wealthy he's. There're those that won't marry a spender, a gambler, a violent man, lewd fellow. Some actually left men they felt deeply for just because they'd different values.

Please, don't conclude due to your previous experiences- that girls don't 've standards. A lot do growing up, but then societal pressure to marry or be lumped as a wayward girl, if you didn't marry on time- made them discard their standards to marry all sort of miscreants.

Let me ask you a personal question. Are you a type that tries to re-mode your girl? Some ladies hate that with passion. Most ladies would rather you support them on that which they 've passion for than being force fed what you'd prefer.

Before I will answer your personal question..

You talked about ladies who wouldn't marry criminals and wouldn't even go near devious wealthy rich men... What you talk about is the ladies choice of who she wants to be with.. Which is what every Nigerian lady believes that she has a choice to choose who what she likes and what she doesn't... and in the end judging from her appearances, actions and reactions, she is not fit to even be in what she thinks she is..

I am not concluding on my experience, If you read what I wrote up there well, I told you that I talked with a lot of ladies and they relate same with me... I have met a lot of ladies in this life and I mean a lot... more than the men that will ever make advances to you in your lifetime..

Most ladies values are based on emotions... He is not my type.. He doesn't know to make me feel good... He is too demanding... He doesn't pay me much attention..

here is what google defines standards as "a level of quality or attainment" or "something used as a measure, norm, or model in comparative evaluations"

You can see there that it is not just about what the lady think she wants or likes.. that is all about standards... It is something that is valuable..

It is not that I am a woman and you have to respect that..

But that I plan my daily activities and you have to respect my careful planning... (that is quality.. she is focused, straight forwards and confident)..

Back to your question...

I don't actually re-mode any girl I date... But they re-mode themselves, I am not just any kind of guy you see out there... Ladies have always tried to be of their best behaviour and show their good sides when they are around me... my girl (exes) always does something intelligent, fun and smart to impress me.... She thinks highly of herself just because of who I am and you can't see her doing what the average Nigerian ladies do just because it makes me look mediocre..

That is what she had because of me... Standards...

La click la boom la virus

Ineedinfo:
Lol. what you could find might save you a lot of stress in the future. Not always about appearance...u know?

I read it bit you said what I feel most will agree with where you said while lowering the standards one should ve wise about it. The rest of the write up was just a blurr to me

Bumbae1:
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BUTCHCASSIDY:

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Bumbae1:

Una just dey make noise woke me up

Thought u were up already

BUTCHCASSIDY:

Thought u were up already

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BUTCHCASSIDY:

I read it bit you said what I feel most will agree with where you said while lowering the standards one should ve wise about it. The rest of the write up was just a blurr to me

Lol. Well.... Ladies and men aren't wired the same way. A lady may resent a guy whom she view as a source of constant embarrassment to her. This isn't even about the female gender, men too. For instance a well educated man/ lady who married a homely but not intellectually sophisticated like him/her may end up mistreating that spouse because they may not have much in common.

FitnessDoctor:


Before I will answer your personal question..

You talked about ladies who wouldn't marry criminals and wouldn't even go near devious wealthy rich men... What you talk about is the ladies choice of who she wants to be with.. Which is what every Nigerian lady believes that she has a choice to choose who what she likes and what she doesn't... and in the end judging from her appearances, actions and reactions, she is not fit to even be in what she thinks she is..

I am not concluding on my experience, If you read what I wrote up there well, I told you that I talked with a lot of ladies and they relate same with me... I have met a lot of ladies in this life and I mean a lot... more than the men that will ever make advances to you in your lifetime..

Most ladies values are based on emotions... He is not my type.. He doesn't know to make me feel good... He is too demanding... He doesn't pay me much attention..

here is what google defines standards as "a level of quality or attainment" or "something used as a measure, norm, or model in comparative evaluations"

You can see there that it is not just about what the lady think she wants or likes.. that is all about standards... It is something that is valuable..

It is not that I am a woman and you have to respect that..

But that I plan my daily activities and you have to respect my careful planning... (that is quality.. she is focused, straight forwards and confident)..

Back to your question...

I don't actually re-mode any girl I date... But they re-mode themselves, I am not just any kind of guy you see out there... Ladies have always tried to be of their best behaviour and show their good sides when they are around me... my girl (exes) always does something intelligent, fun and smart to impress me.... She thinks highly of herself just because of who I am and you can't see her doing what the average Nigerian ladies do just because it makes me look mediocre..

That is what she had because of me... Standards...

hmm...I see where you're headed. You didn't re-mode your exes of course. They just had to "work" on themselves. You haven't really grasped what I'm talking about. You've a standard, a lady has her own. She wants to go for M.sc, P.hd etc. For instance, she's "on a clock" to marry. Pressured by peers, family, society. She doesn't get to "propose" to herself.

If she's a conversative kind of girl...you see her accepting a marital proposal from someone on a different page entirely. Husband to be might be a chauvinist that'd prefer a housewife or not comfortable with all that furthering of education stuff. For peace sake...she relents. She has just lowered her standard. That's just an example. There're other instances too.

A lady banker could be told by a fiancé, immediately after marriage she should quit. She accepts even though she loves her job. Ladies lower their standards everyday for such unions to happen on a weekly basis.

My concern here however is- being made to discard as unimportant what you hold dear, just to marry. Hope it won't breed, resentment, attitude, disrespect, discontent, disillusionment into that "very" marriage you so wanted that made you lower those standard to start with?

Ineedinfo:
Hello nairaland ladies and gentlemen...

I have a question for ladies in the house. Uhm...guys too. Well...I know it's unheard of, a taboo even, to ask such question among "marriage craze" fanatics that we have in our society. Now- I'm not against one lowering he's /her standard to get married.

My question is; can you cope with the new standard? Here's my thought on this issue- http://kareninspirational.com/2016/07/14/lowering-your-standards/

I could not even enjoy what i was reading about in the blog, cause the use of English there nah gbagam, please abeg, try fix ur words a lil bit better , u could possibly get a proof reader to go through your work but abeg u gats improve on an

afoshat:


I could not even enjoy what i was reading about in the blog, cause the use of English there nah gbagam, please abeg, try fix ur words a lil bit better , u could possibly get a proof reader to go through your work but abeg u gats improve on an

Lol. Where's your sense of humor? Maybe you would prefer a doomsayer? Anyway, what's your opinion on the matter?