Amarabae:
NONSENSE. Must a lady be a financial liability to a man? Is Relationship a poverty alleviation program?
Ladies should dream of working to be financial independent, its brings respect to a woman.
If a guy is broke and you love him, as long as you as a lady is financial dependent, you can be in a relationship with him.
"Broke" is temporary, that he is broke today, does not mean He can't make it tomorrow.
Stay with him during rainfall, He will appreciate it when the sun shine.

Ooooo Adanne, you are on point

Alesandese:
Na so Mama Kelechi sit with vision, twenty years later ordinary mirror them no get. Abegii

So, mama kelechi too cannot afford to buy the same mirror the husband couldn't buy in 20yrs too.

Poverty meet poverty, equation balance, the game na draw.

Safiaa:
Of course, im not expecting anything less.
Because they obviously fit into that category of what I'm talking about. So it hits them.

Nice piece. But where is the place of gender equality in this write up? Please brief me

Santi69:
Say no to broke ladies, Guys be smart!!

someting that your father never did. Broke ass gigolo spotted

DozieInc:
OP well written, it's your opinion though. hope you write on financial independence for the ladies sometime in the future

To the gentlemen in the house: avoid desperate ladies and those that don't believe in you/ your dreams

ladies too aviod men who sell you one big dream then wakes up the next morning by 10am, play ludo, then ps3 then asks for food before going out with the boys, he is a no good, lazy bum who will sidetrack and destroy your destiny.

ikp120:
Na wa for these cheap babes everywhere. Na this type we dey use for rituals.

ritualist spotted

FelixFelicis:
We guys have the natural instinct to hustle, to make money, to be successful, to be able to fend for family, it won't do bad for ladies to borrow some of that instinct, life would be so better that way.

where do you think, men got the instinct from, ladies have been taking care of their families since time immemorial, why do you think more women are taking over the work place or more single mothers doing the jobs of two parents trying to bring up her kids,, if it is a man now, sharp sharp they will marry cos they cant do it alone.

I see this as a poverty-stricken post , na so all these hungry unambitious girls dey talk. That was how I met one babe here by name Gladys2017,told her would like to meet her, na so story start she beg for money even said her Mom had diabetes and is in coma,I ended up sending her 10k na so she stop picking my calls and blocked me on whatsapp, come dey find another story to talk.
Before then she even sent snapchat and pix to me of some Nairaland guys that sent her nudes (some guys dey fall hand shar)....I just smh.

BoboYekini:
Don't be silly, boy. Are you her father?!
Who dey give all these small boys these kain pusșy OT sef

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Sierusvirus:


Ooooo Adanne, you are on point

may two of you not experience stories that touch in jesus name

Hmmm! What a useless write up.Your kind of write up wll make some women fall victims of problems after marriage BCS they look at money not other moral thing:even if a man is an armed Robber,or kidnapper,ladies should just go ahead and maried them.And this is one of the write up that causes depressions on men and thereby committing a Suicide.U don't talk about fear of God,yours is money...

Safiaa:
Can you just email me please. Thanks.

upset not dear, d email on this account has been blocked by yahoo which makes it impossible for me to email and receive yours. please can you email me with this one chi4ik42@gmail.com. sorry for the inconvenience. I really need ur inputs on this challenging issue of mine

even, temporarily broke guys don't chase after dating, we chase our dreams with all seriousness and ride in our low low.

Alesandese:


Say no to lazy, unambitious,dumb guys. In fact no be vision we go chop! Say no to jobless broke guys!!! . I can't feed myself and a grown ass

is the guy ya father?
Liability spotted

QueenSuccubus:




Abeeeg, who be Asian here nau?

As u see, i dey yarn pidgin wella sha

. Hmmmn. I see

Well,I've read through and through,everybody seems to be able to pretty much define and understand who a Broke Guy is. Let me attempt defining who a Broke Lady is: A Broke Lady is any jobless, desperate, untalented, blackmailing, gold-digging female who brings NOTHING useful to a man's life except her slack and worn-out pv$$y - The only asset she aims to "lease" to men in hopes that she'll one day be able to afford the lifestyle of a celebrity. Guys please avoid them!!!!

I agree with the op 2000%

Stupid broke ass nigga! They should go and die

funmisticqueen:
where do you think, men got the instinct from, ladies have been taking care of their families since time immemorial, why do you think more women are taking over the work place or more single mothers doing the jobs of two parents trying to bring up her kids,, if it is a man now, sharp sharp they will marry cos they cant do it alone.

To be honest I don't know where it originated from but nice try dear

It's clearly that 98% of guys including you don't understand her post. She's talking about broke guys that are lazy and hoping to achieve a dream of a fantasy. Do you expect a hard working lady to stay or struggle with a broke guy that is irresponsible, a guy that stays at home all day, eat, sleep, go to parties, and waste his life away and promise her with false hopes that he's going to make it and be rich when he's not even trying or working hard at all. Is it fair?! It's not compulsory to struggle with a broke guy that's lazy with no vision. It's suicide please. This is the summary of what the op was talking about. 98% of guys including you that are bashing the op for the bitter truth are just pained because you guys are in the category of a lazy, irresponsible broke guy and you want us hard working females with dreams and ambition to join you in your suffering and poverty till death do us part. God forbid bad tin! Only smart ladies will heed to the op's advice, while gullible females will be suffering and smiling like mumu Nigerians.

Much love ❤️

FTBOY:
op must be deluded to think a real man would try to attract a girl he wants to make his wife with money. keep waiting and hoping for that messianic millionaire that would take care of all the problems you and family have gathered over the years.

i mean...have you asked yourself what you got to offer to your future husband apart from the same pussy you've shared to musa, emeka and gbenga?

LOL! the joke is on you...we don't want liabilities too.

[i] This article is flawed in every aspect and I know that it will mislead many young girls.. This write-up will do nothing but breed laziness in ladies.

It's disheartening that the OP only put up this hogwash to demean those who find themselves in broke state. OP, I want you to know that we are in a world of mystery where nothing guarantees riches. Not even vision, goals and education guarantee riches.

Only if you know that not everyone will be rich in this life no matter how much he or she strives.. If you ride your way to riches, just thank God for your own life because they're so many people with better goals, visions and dreams yet they're roaming the street living a life of mediocrity

Quinn22:
It's clearly that 98% of guys including you don't understand her post. She's talking about broke guys that are lazy and hoping to achieve a dream of a fantasy. Do you expect a hard working lady to stay or struggle with a broke guy that is irresponsible, a guy that stays at home all day, eat, sleep, go to parties, and waste his life away and promise her with false hopes that he's going to make it and be rich when he's not even trying or working hard at all. Is it fair?! It's not compulsory to struggle with a broke guy that's lazy with no vision. It's suicide please. This is the summary of what the op was talking about. 98% of guys including you that are bashing the op for the bitter truth are just pained because you guys are in the category of a lazy, irresponsible broke guy and you want us hard working females with dreams and ambition to join you in your suffering and poverty till death do us part. God forbid bad tin! Only smart ladies will heed to the op's advice, while gullible females will be suffering and smiling like mumu Nigerians.

Much love ❤️

finally. someoe gets the message.

As a woman, you need to use your YOUTH and BEAUTY to attract the best man who is financially stable as possible. This is not gold digging this is being SMART. Think about your children, think about
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Op Your above statement got Me cracking...

So as a Woman After You use your youth and beauty to possibly attract the most financially stable man, what of when the Woman's youth and beauty passes with time, what would the Woman now use to still keep the financially stable man who can STILL use his FINANCIAL Stability to rent or acquire another so called Young and beautiful woman/girl

Why did You not talk about a woman using her intellect or intelligence. Which right thinking intelligent and Financially Stable man would want a wife who is NOT intelligent and has only Youth and Beauty which DEPRECIATES, a woman who has little mental capacity to assist the Children in doing homework and assignments when the Man works late or is out of town on business or job trips, a woman who cannot manage his business Empire if the Man is not around or is no more.
Mark Zuckeberg's ( The Young Facebook Billionaire's) wife is a Medical Doctor from a top ivy League top ranked American University which is Stanford University and is the First person in her family to go to University. To enter Medical School in America is not an easy task.no matter how brilliant You are. Doctors are the Highest paid Professionals in America.

The rich young and old billionaire's that marry Bimbo's or Airhead's that is Beautiful Girls without Brains regret it later except those that were previously married or have inferiority or self esteem or facial image issues because the Women are just Eye Candy not a life partner or feel they need Someone who is not smart enough to outsmart the billionaire financially.(TRUMP) I cant imagine marrying someone with Shallow communication skills, can't contribute intelligently to creative progressive discussions, can't discuss intelligently, see the Guy as their Personal Financial and Life Insurance Policy, Can't take Business Davy decisions, can't make financially intelligent decisions which are based on intelligent data and information research and analysis....not opening a supermarket or boutique because my mates are doing it,


Guys and Ladies...... Don't marry an intellectually shallow partner whether a Man or a woman

You can say anything you want, after all is your mouth you are talking with.

Safiaa:
PLEASE LEARN TO COMPREHEND BEFORE WRITING YOUR OPINIONS ON THIS THREAD. READING IS KEY!

THERES NOTHING WRONG IN FEMALES BEING WITH A GUY THAT IS STRUGGLING. AS LONG AS HE HAS GOT A VISION AND IS WORKING TOWARDS DOING SOMETHING. YOU CAN'T BE SELLING A FAKE DREAM TO SOMEONE, AND EXPECT THEM TO STAY.

not all that glitters is gold my dear.

Safiaa:
I know most men will be triggered by the title of this thread, without reading what i have to say. I really couldn't care less lol. This thread is directed to the ladies !!!


Now ladies, i'm not encouraging you to be lazy gold diggers with no ambition. I'm not encouraging you to use a man entirely for his money. Get your education, work hard and make something of yourself. Strive to be successful. HOWEVER....

Don't be lured into what we call 'ride or die'. A lot of men are deluded by their unrealistic dreams and goals, and believe they can sell you that dream. They'll tell you that they want to do this and that, but they never work towards achieving their goals. I call them empty vessels. Its really sad, because I've seen so many women waste their youth on men who sold them a dream, and end up suffering for the rest of their lives. There's a difference between a broke man with a vision, and a broke man with a fantasy. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO. This is not Bonnie and Clyde, this is the real world, and if you can clearly see that this man is destined to be broke, RUNN!

As a woman, you need to use your YOUTH and BEAUTY to attract the best man who is financially stable as possible. This is not gold digging this is being SMART. Think about your children, think about your future. You don't want to be in your 30's wishing that you spent your younger years with another man. Money is very IMPORTANT in a relationship, and you need to be with someone who will compliment your finances.

Stop making excuses for men, who clearly don't have plans. Stop trying to be the ride or die chick, because you will die in poverty. Yes, we know that women can be the breadwinners of the house, But i can assure you that most women want to be taken care of. If you want to struggle with him now, open your eyes and be sure that you will NOT struggle with him FOREVER.

LADIES BE SMART, YOU'RE ONLY YOUNG ONCE! USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE.

What about you bringing out a dream to be built upon, or is your education such a waste you
don't have a dream to be built upon.
My friend Look for a man who will complement your own dreams. Look for the person you can reason with, and be happy to built a life with. Not the one that has built such a big business or big career.
In Marriage you are a Partner not an employee so it is either you complement each other in building your individual dreams or any of you can bring out a dream to be built on.

Though it is good to avoid people whose characters are the tendency of losers at all costs, can't wish such a person on my sister or daughter. But your post looks more like a character of Gold digging Sisters.

Alesandese:
Na so Mama Kelechi sit with vision, twenty years later ordinary mirror them no get. Abegii

Is Mama Nkechi handicapped? Is Mama Nkechi void of her own vision? Success is not limited to men alone; you know? You and I most likely earned same academic qualification, you can also make 100 million naira like I will....

Safiaa:
PLEASE LEARN TO COMPREHEND BEFORE WRITING YOUR OPINIONS ON THIS THREAD. READING IS KEY!

THERES NOTHING WRONG IN FEMALES BEING WITH A GUY THAT IS STRUGGLING. AS LONG AS HE HAS GOT A VISION AND IS WORKING TOWARDS DOING SOMETHING. YOU CAN'T BE SELLING A FAKE DREAM TO SOMEONE, AND EXPECT THEM TO STAY.

So how about those who's dreams are hinged on someone else's dream? What should we call them, 'gold digging broke ass bitches'?

bullabong:
Nice piece. But where is the place of gender equality in this write up? Please brief me

You know, the gender equality thing is ONLY when it's convenient. Now only the guys needs to suffer/work because society deems it that way and therefore it's correct. But when it's time to share the yam, they're being marginalized. Double standards.

Venom247:
Trash!!!
.
What if I tell you right now, for everyone one broke dude who turned out successful in the above instances, there are million of broke dudes who could not make it despite having the 'vision and zeal' Please!!


No guy should date if he doesn't have what it takes to carter for a lady.

Are you lame or physically challenged? Why can't you hustle for yourself then 'marry a man of your choice' if you so wish? Has relationship all of a sudden become a poverty alleviation program Or has gender equality suddenly disappeared based on this topic?

Quinn22:
It's clearly that 98% of guys including you don't understand her post. She's talking about broke guys that are lazy and hoping to achieve a dream of a fantasy. Do you expect a hard working lady to stay or struggle with a broke guy that is irresponsible, a guy that stays at home all day, eat, sleep, go to parties, and waste his life away and promise her with false hopes that he's going to make it and be rich when he's not even trying or working hard at all. Is it fair?! It's not compulsory to struggle with a broke guy that's lazy with no vision. It's suicide please. This is the summary of what the op was talking about. 98% of guys including you that are bashing the op for the bitter truth are just pained because you guys are in the category of a lazy, irresponsible broke guy and you want us hard working females with dreams and ambition to join you in your suffering and poverty till death do us part. God forbid bad tin! Only smart ladies will heed to the op's advice, while gullible females will be suffering and smiling like mumu Nigerians.

Much love ❤️

if this bullshït you wrote up there is what you call "summary of what the op was talking about" then you have comprehension problem. the op said not to waste time with a man that doesn't have a feasible vision...in order words, go for the already-made one with a house, cars and a huge bank account. otherwise, how could you tell which dream would come true and which would not just by ordinarily looking at the dreamer?

first question you should have asked yourself is, how can a broke man who sits all day at home doing nothing wake up one morning and start thinking about marriage?

do they marry with empty pockets anywhere in nigeria? what parents would give out their daughter to a man free of charge? and would you be so stupîd to live with a man who can't afford your bride price?

you said i'm in the category of the 'lazy, broke ass men'. no wahala, but it still doesn't make your father better than me. at least i'm a graduate and i work, drive and live in a flat. and i'm not going to marry a responsibility.

You just want to interpret my article in the way that strokes you ego. Youre trying to make yourself feel better about yourself. Of course you can detect if a man's vision is realistic or not. What kind of silly analysis am i even responding to. We see many broke unmotivated men who stay in relationships with girls for comfort. That's what I'm warning girls about. It shouldn't even lead up to marriage, if you can clearly see that he's not ambitious. Dont waste your valuble years and allow a guy to manipulate you with false hope, when you know deep down hes not doing much. You men are so hurt. Its actually a shame.

FTBOY:


if this bullshït you wrote up there is what you call "summary of what the op was talking about" then you have comprehension problem. the op said not to waste time with a man that doesn't have a feasible vision...in order words, go for the already-made one with a house, cars and a huge bank account. otherwise, how could you tell which dream would come true and which would not just by ordinarily looking at the dreamer?

first question you should have asked yourself is, how can a broke man who sits all day at home doing nothing wake up one morning and start thinking about marriage?

do they marry with empty pockets anywhere in nigeria? what parents would give out their daughter to a man free of charge? and would you be so stupîd to live with a man who can't afford your bride price?

you said i'm in the category of the 'lazy, broke ass men'. no wahala, but it still doesn't make your father better than me. at least i'm a graduate and i work, drive and live in a flat. and i'm not going to marry a responsibility.

Im so happy with the response i've gotten from this thread

I've opened the eyes of a few females, and that was my initial goal.

The reactions from all these nigerian men, it has a hidden message. I can only laugh

My mission is complete here.