What a religion of conflicts,you should have seen it coming dou,but just move on and face your life,biz and son,would do the same if i were you,its better to be alone than sharing candidiasis,syphilis,affection,love etc.just keep working and keep making money,deas no big deal abt man or dick for you again..you have been there....

5oyad:

You are actually the one making a fuss. The lady in question left because she could not tolerate the cruelty. Big deal- why do you feel she must stay. Marriage comes with a mentality of entitlement from both sides- the man demands some rights and the woman some rights. The man might be entitled to his harem but he is definitely not entitled to force an unwilling wife to be part of the harem.

I am not the one making it a fuss, if you follow the arguments and counter arguments. See the first post I quoted to gain some clarity.

Some women are making it look like Musa is some kind of asshole or jerk simply because he decided to take a second wife... Or simply because he decided to divorce his wife (HE left her, not the other way round) for not accepting that he should take a second wife. That's the fuss and the bone of contention here.

That does not mean Christianity permits such. Those Reverend fathers and immoral pastors committing all sorts of atrocities are not the standard of Christianity. Our only standard is Jesus Christ and Jesus outrightly condemned such.

kellybently:

my brother not by vers. we see reverend father that have girlfriend. lot of married pastors caught pant down. Visit celestial church and see how olusho dey Bleep iya ijo and all omo ijo.

You initiated this by telling us christianity permits such, it is your duty to provide proof. When youre done, i will then provide counter proof.

MiddleDimension:
you should tell me where this 'evil' as you call it, is condemned in the bible.

Buharimustgo:
So after the beautiful first wife suffered and endured everything when u were and had nothing,this is what u want to pay her with?Ahmed Musa this is not fair at all,she deserves to enjoy with you despite her differences which u didn't notice when u were a poor church rat

amebo! were you with them in the beginning? do you think she would have married Musa if he was a shoe shiner? A muslim woman knows that her husband is entitled to 4 women right from the beginning, so why is she making a fuss over the issue? am pretty sure she has 3 step moms.

Gaddafithe2nd:

Since Islam permits muslim men to marry christian or jewish women, I don't see anything bad in what Musa did. Our muslim ladies/women are now self centred. Ask 10 muslim ladies this question, 'Would you allow your husband to marry another wife?'. 8-9 of them will go against it, some will tell you they will hypnotise their husband or kill him. Our muslim ladies/women should follow what Allah says in the Quran and stop being selfish.

And they say this Allah is the same God Christians worship. How can this be even remotely possible?

ImaIma1:


And they say this Allah is the same God Christians worship. How can this be even remotely possible?

I don't discriminate, Muslims and Christians don't worship the same God because, Muslim worship Allah (the supreme being) while, Christians worship the Trinity (godhead). But Allah make christian women halal for the Muslim men. Even, prophet Muhammed(PBUH) married an Egyptian Copt christian called Maria the Copt.

You love your wife indeed. If so why look else where? Is the other woman having candy on her kitten? Next news jare.

omotolatoyosi:
What a religion of conflicts,you should have seen it coming dou,but just move on and face your life,biz and son,would do the same if i were you,its better to be alone than sharing candidiasis,syphilis,affection,love etc.just keep working and keep making money,deas no big deal abt man or dick for you again..you have been there....

But, you can allow your husband to have many concubines outside. It is your type that your husband will have a secret wife and 2 kids outside for a decade or more and you won't know.

Silentscreamer:
Celebrity marriages never last long

Who is the celebrity here.....just asking.

hedonistic:


Then what is it about? I don't see the need for all this long talk. A wealthy Northern Muslim Nigerian man chooses to marry multiple wives. Let's pause for a moment, take a deep breath, and ask: what is strange or unusual about this? Why do some girls of nowadays turn to unreasonable monsters simply because they managed to get an 'education', such that they begin to have unrealistic expectations? It really rankles! 90% of the popular elite Northern Muslims and perhaps up to 50% of Yoruba Muslims we know are married to more than one wife, so what exactly is the basis for the annoying entitlement mentality that the defunct wife is killing herself with?

Every girl getting married to a Muslim man (especially a Northerner) can't claim not to foresee a situation where he might choose to marry another wife someday, sooner or later, which is the man's right and entitlement in our culture! What is this damn fuss about, for goodness sake?

I am not too impressed either. She knew what she was going into, so unless they had an agreement that she'd be the only one,i don't get. But being sincere, agreement or not, that must hurt

Chanchit:



So you would advice her to leave if she's your sister? Is she now leaving to marry someone else as the first wife with her two children or she won't bother getting married again? Since the husband can afford to take care of both of them, fund her trip around the world, even if the love is no more there, she could strike a deal with her husband, being the first wife has lots of benefit, her children are the eldest already, but the divorce now put her children at disadvantage cos the new wife would know things she does not know and put her unborn children? They would control things and the real fight would start in the next 20-30 years. Use your brain and stop calculating only now.

cc cococandy, I just got banned for the last reply I gave you. Had it been I've checked ur profile I would know how to reply you better cos it now obvious you think my comment is disgusting because you viewed it from a USA based angle. that's the explanation I gave someone in quote. But I know you still won't understand.

majalisa:
ok treat them equally sire, is it possible for you to treat them equally within your human limits?
Materially very possible, emotionally impossible, asexually possible, sexually impossible
Sir, theoretical possible but practically impossible

That's what you are still mixing. You are to only give them equality on what you have control over, not what you don't.
Even among your children you are bound to love one more than the rest, there is no problem in that. But the moment you send him/her to expensive private school and send the rest to community schools that is treating them unequally! And that is injustice!

What this guy is doing is crazy to me. You are a devoted muslim man and u r taking christian as second wife. How would she endorse that. Destruction beging with pride. But, he must be vey careful. His star is booming with his obedient wife, getting higher and higher. Did he know what will happen in this second era Though, i've not see him play recently. Maybe he has injury, i don't know. May Lord guide all of us to the wright part.

wasuka14:
What this guy is doing is crazy to me. You are a devoted muslim man and u r taking christian as second wife. How would she endorse that. Destruction beging with pride. But, he must be vey careful. His star is booming with his obedient wife, getting higher and higher. Did he know what will happen in this second era Though, i've not see him play recently. Maybe he has injury, i don't know. May Lord guide all of us to the wright part.

So, your woman will be the one to decide who to marry or not. For Musa getting married to a christian lady he hasn't gone against his faith.

Amberon:
That does not mean Christianity permits such. Those Reverend fathers and immoral pastors committing all sorts of atrocities are not the standard of Christianity. Our only standard is Jesus Christ and Jesus outrightly condemned such.

where in ur bible did jesus called him self a christian?

NinaArsenal:
he is an ungrateful man.

How is he an ungrateful man??

Both of them are Muslims and she's fully aware that her religion allows her husband to marry more than one wife.
In addition the husband didn't kick her out. She left her matrimonial home all by herself and the ONLY issue was that she adamantly refused to her husband marrying another wife. did you read where the husband preferred to marry another wife instead of having mistresses??

Chanchit:



Life is not fair bro. I'm a Christian, so my religion does not permit.

I am not a fan of polygamy but can you show me where it is written in the Bible that a man can't marry more than one wife.I would really appreaciate if this can be done.

hedonistic:


Don't be silly. What did she suffer and endure? This kind of useless mentality makes me very angry. So he shouldn't marry a second wife if he so desires - a privilege that his culture and religion entitles him to?

Let the ungrateful and deluded wife go and suffer and endure to make her own money, or to marry another premiership footballer, if it is that easy. She wants to be the solo madam to enjoy all the thousands of pounds that enter every week all alone - because she is the one that helped him get the contract or that empowers him to train and perform on the pitch abi?

Bloody parasites and hopelessly deluded creatures.

To be more objective, I don't think it's wise for an active Premier League Footballer who's at the peak of his career ( an attacker for that matter) to practice polygamy. it may be too demanding to handle two women and still train effectively, if he's not careful, this will have negative effect on his career .

I would have you know that "christian means christ-like", or "follower of christ". So a christian is a follower of Christ. Jesus christ didn't call himself a christian because he cannot follow himself.

kellybently:

where in ur bible did jesus called him self a christian?

daretodiffer:
You need counseling to tube able to use your brain. Pray tell when in the Quran is she mandated to stay with Ahmed?

You're referring to your father at home!

Na wa

The bolded is unnecessary. You do not have to insult women to butress your point. You may see nothing wrong in adultery and polygamy but to the next man it is an evil that should not be heard of.

People like you see no wrong in polygamy and see women as property but cannot withstand seeing their wives with other men. Tell me mister, would you allow your wife marry another man? If not, you have absolutely no right to condemn women who despise polygamy or adultery.

hedonistic:


Then what is it about? I don't see the need for all this long talk. A wealthy Northern Muslim Nigerian man chooses to marry multiple wives. Let's pause for a moment, take a deep breath, and ask: what is strange or unusual about this? Why do some girls of nowadays turn to unreasonable monsters simply because they managed to get an 'education', such that they begin to have unrealistic expectations? It really rankles! 90% of the popular elite Northern Muslims and perhaps up to 50% of Yoruba Muslims we know are married to more than one wife, so what exactly is the basis for the annoying entitlement mentality that the defunct wife is killing herself with?

Every girl getting married to a Muslim man (especially a Northerner) can't claim not to foresee a situation where he might choose to marry another wife someday, sooner or later, which is the man's right and entitlement in our culture! What is this damn fuss about, for goodness sake?

mrdino:

To be more objective, I don't think it's wise for an active Premier League Footballer who's at the peak of his career ( an attacker for that matter) to practice polygamy. it may be too demanding to handle two women and still train effectively, if he's not careful, this will have negative effect on his career .

Wishy washy argument
Do you know the number of married footballers that have several girlfriends outside,some even go a step further to screw the wives of their team mates, one would normally expect the emotional burden of such act and deceit to affect their football,but alas it doesn't.
So how will Ahmed Musa marrying a second wife,an act which in essence gives him a free mind,now be detrimental to his career ??

Amberon:
The bolded is unnecessary. You do not have to insult all women to butress your point. You may see nothing wrong in adultery and polygamy but to the next man it is an evil that should not be heard of.

People like you see no wrong in polygamy and see women as property but cannot withstand seeing their wives with other men. Tell me mister, would you allow your wife marry another man? If not, you have absolutely no right to condemn women who despise polygamy or adultery.

Where did hedonistic abuse " all women " ?? He only asked why SOME GIRLS , not all girls

How does this relate to western women and why insult them? Are you alright?

If they insult your religious doctrine you will begin strapping bombs and beheading people, why then are you insulting western women because of their religious doctrines that supports monogamy.

Gaddafithe2nd:
Well done Musa Ahmed, you are a good man and a good muslim. You detest cheating that is why you followed the Islamic doctrine of getting married to another wife since you are capable to do it financially and physically.
As for his ex-wife, she is the loser. Once you are muslim lady, you can never compel your husband to marry only you. Is only a selfish muslim lady/woman that would go against what almighty Allah says in the Quran. All other muslim ladies should learn from this. I don't know why our muslim women are now selfish like their western counterparts.

A Muslim who doesn't want a co-wife and leaves the husband to marry whosoever he wants is selfish?

Did she stop Musa from marrying Juliet?

Is Musa's goal to marry Juliet his newest sweetheart or marry two wives by hook or crook?

I salute una.

Why should he call "some girls" unreasonable monsters because they want no part in polygamy?

Myself2:


Where did hedonistic abuse " all women " ?? He only asked why SOME GIRLS , not all girls

Lol,he can go ahead,heaven wont fall,so far am up and doing,working and making money enough to take care of my kids and myself,some of us dont really care about marriage so much you know,if it works fine,if it dosnt we must continue living fine,dont forget somepple gave birth to me and they want to see me happy too.i cannot comeand go and kill myself over any yeye man

Gaddafithe2nd:

But, you can allow your husband to have many concubines outside. It is your type that your husband will have a secret wife and 2 kids outside for a decade or more and you won't know.

If you're a christian who studies the bible then you should know the bible strongly condemns adultery which is a sin if sexual immorality/promiscuity.

Pray tell, where did the bible support polygamy?

yepa:


I am not a fan of polygamy but can you show me where it is written in the Bible that a man can't marry more than one wife.I would really appreaciate if this can be done.

Myself2:


Wishy washy argument
Do you know the number of married footballers that have several girlfriends outside,some even go a step further to screw the wives of their team mates, one would normally expect the emotional burden of such act and deceit to affect their football,but alas it doesn't.
So how will Ahmed Musa marrying a second wife,an act which in essence gives him a free mind,now be detrimental to his career ??

Having extramarital affair is one thing, polygamy which involves keeping two or more women and trying to fulfill your marital obligations (to each of the women) under the law of your religion is another.