"I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner.

In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else. Relationships work out mostly because of our heads not our hearts.

It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline; because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.

In those times, love will not help you. Self control will help you. Emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going.

With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.

You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married to? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!

But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings and it is the great arsenal that destroys those unhelpful impulses.

You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.

We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there; but that can only last for just the first 3 - 6 months of the relationship in many cases.

After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped and it's now your responsibility to make the relationship work, not love's responsibility.

Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence.

On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.

Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.

That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.

Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream.

It's always tough. At some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together. You can scale through the trying times by staying focused and committed.

The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong, be self disciplined and above all, have the God factor that will give you the grace needed to reign you in.

Love don't last forever, commitment can

I can bet everything u copied this write up from anoda thread here on nairaland. I have seen the other thread before, its even word for word. Forget the 2017 u see on our profile, some of us here like me spent 4-5 years as guest before we decided to register, guy edit this post and add "copied" at the end &D

Alphamale2017:
I can bet everything u copied this write up from anoda thread here on nairaland. I have seen the other thread before, its even word for word. Forget the 2017 u see on our profile, some of us here like me spent 4-5 years as guest before we decided to register, guy edit this post and add "copied" at the end &

It's very easy to notice kids on here when you see one, from everything posted on there your problem is maybe it was copied or not?

Channel your frustration to Buhari My brother, no be me koba u

balash:




It's very easy to notice kids on here when you see one, from everything posted on there your problem is maybe it was copied or not?

Channel your frustration to Buhari My brother, no be me koba u

i have read it before, everything made sense. My point is, there is really no need creating duplicate content with a different title , even google frowns at it. , about the other stuff, my brother tame ur tongue. Did u see me insult him ? That shows ur are the real kid. If u must quote me then change ur tune. Do not make me verbally put u to the sword , i do not want to rain invectives on u and get ban. One love

Alphamale2017:
i have read it before, everything made sense. My point is, there is really no need creating duplicate content with a different title , even google frowns at it. , about the other stuff, my brother tame ur tongue. Did u see me insult him ? That shows ur are the real kid. If u must quote me then change ur tune. Do not make me verbally put u to the sword , i do not want to rain invectives on u and get ban. One love

If them dey talk of who go rain anything on me, u no dey anywhere near them atal, you small well well. This is the topic I wish and the write is posted by me. Couldn't you get that straight into your thick skull.

You came on my page with destructive comments and you still have the gut to utter don't insult me comment from that your..................... Make I no respond to u again sef, u no worth my time. Better things to do mhen. Get a job asap

balash:



If them dey talk of who go rain anything on me, u no dey anywhere near them atal, you small well well. This is the topic I wish and the write is posted by me. Couldn't you get that straight into your thick skull.

You came on my page with destructive comments and you still have the gut to utter don't insult me comment from that your..................... Make I no respond to u again sef, u no worth my time. Better things to do mhen. Get a job asap

what do sane people do when they are offered the olive branch ? they accept it and we both move on


. but here u are still ranting . there are thousands of people on nairaland what happens if all keep creating new threads with same content but slightly different titles ? with time, this place will be littered with duplicate and junk threads. u like an article, use the share button simple .


I would have liked to see things from ur own point of view but sorry , I can't get my head that far into my ass. keep living in delusion

Alphamale2017:


what do sane people do when they are offered the olive branch ? they accept it and we both move on


. but here u are still ranting . there are thousands of people on nairaland what happens if all keep creating new threads with same content but slightly different titles ? with time, this place will be littered w8ith duplicate and junk threads. u like an article, use the share button simple .


I would have liked to see things from ur own point of view but sorry , I can't get my head that far into my ass. keep living in delusion

oga leave this guy...even on NL,there is nothing new,if you have seen it before.. Just ignore..no need to comment....

babyfaceafrica:
oga leave this guy...even on NL,there is nothing new,if you have seen it before.. Just ignore..no need to comment....

okay bro . thanks

balash:
"I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner.

In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else. Relationships work out mostly because of our heads not our hearts.

It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline; because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.

In those times, love will not help you. Self control will help you. Emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going.

With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.

You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married to? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!

But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings and it is the great arsenal that destroys those unhelpful impulses.

You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.

We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there; but that can only last for just the first 3 - 6 months of the relationship in many cases.

After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped and it's now your responsibility to make the relationship work, not love's responsibility.

Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence.

On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.

Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.

That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.

Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream.

It's always tough. At some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together. You can scale through the trying times by staying focused and committed.

The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong, be self disciplined and above all, have the God factor that will give you the grace needed to reign you in.

I agree with you, because love is realy not rational. It can’t be controlled , infact i think what we call love is controlled by external variables. Commitment on the other hand, will guide you through all the temptations .Commitment is dependant on a conscious choice you make - and that, is something you have complete control over.