SPEEDEPITOME:

You are one of the few who think this way.
The thing is, girls are not wired to handle rejection like guys. You people are used to the snubbing and ish that comes from talking to a lady. A lady musters the courage and faces rejection, it's not easy. I got that attitude from someone I just wanted to be friends with, imagine how killing it must have been.

I'll honestly advise you not to try making the first move on a guy next time. Never mind all these guys encouraging you to. It doesn't work that way! Guys are wired to go for the chase while ladies are to make all the 'shakara'. That's the normal natural arrangement. If you did biology in sec school, you would have noticed that in genetic crossing females are represented with a straight symbol while males are represented with a bent symbol pointing towards the female's direction. If you want to hold your head high in the relationship, let the guys chase you not the other way.

SPEEDEPITOME:

You are one of the few who think this way.
The thing is, girls are not wired to handle rejection like guys. You people are used to the snubbing and ish that comes from talking to a lady. A lady musters the courage and faces rejection, it's not easy. I got that attitude from someone I just wanted to be friends with, imagine how killing it must have been.

Guys easily dump the ones they chased let alone the one that did the chasing herself.

Hannysmilez:
Oh. I prefer the anonymity. I did put it up at a point tho

Inasmuch as I respect the decision of some ladies not wanting to put up a dp I just wonder how a guy will just send a PM to an anonymous entity.

This is not about dating or romance but it just sounds strange for me to hook up with a lady I have no idea of how she looks....what if she is a robot.

1234onyekwe:
I don't understand u ladies how do u want to be friends with a guy that wants to date & be an intimate relationship with u. (looking for who to Friendzone).

I don't think Friendzoning is the case. Personally, I can't date someone I hardly know and I can only know you and then determine if I want to date you by being friends first. Therefore, I don't see it as Friendzoning.

Toks2008:


Inasmuch as I respect the decision of some ladies not wanting to put up a dp I just wonder how a guy will just send a PM to an anonymous entity.

This is not about dating or romance but it just sounds strange for me to hook up with a lady I have no idea of how she looks....what if she is a robot.

This sounds funny to me. I can easily decide if I'm interested in you from the way you chat, if it's just friendship. If it's more than that, I keep on chatting with you and If you get a "pass" in that aspect, I can then be interested in your looks...

Pearl005:

This sounds funny to me. I can easily decide if I'm interested in you from the way you chat, if it's just friendship. If it's more than that, I keep on chatting with you and If you get a "pass" in that aspect, I can then be interested in your looks...

For a lady YES but guys are very visual..we mostly react to what we see.

Toks2008:


For a lady YES but guys are very visual..we mostly react to what we see.

OK then

Toks2008:
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Toks2008:


Inasmuch as I respect the decision of some ladies not wanting to put up a dp I just wonder how a guy will just send a PM to an anonymous entity.

This is not about dating or romance but it just sounds strange for me to hook up with a lady I have no idea of how she looks....what if she is a robot.

LOL.! True. Others get attracted to the mind of the lady. Putting up a display pic draws unwanted attention;every Tom,Dick and Harry feels obligated to assess it

SPEEDEPITOME:

A while back, I saw a guy on here that I thought I could be friends with because from his posts he stays in an area I just moved to. I sent him a PM, his reply was 'I don't do Nairaland girls'. I told him I just wanted to be friends. He asked how I got to know he stayed around that area, I told him I read his posts.
Guess what he said next? 'Quit stalking me, idiot'. I've never been more embarrassed my whole life.
so don't blame me if I don't send any guy PM on here or any platform for that matter.

That's terrible, and you didn't deserve that. We can all agree that the guy is the idiot here. Being close is no criteria to start a friendship you know.. I bet if you went through his previous posts/topic you'd see the kind of person he is. Many mad people are roaming the cyberspace these days. Good thing you still choose to be an open person.

Jman06:
I'll honestly advise you not to try making the first move on a guy next time. Never mind all these guys encouraging you to. It doesn't work that way! Guys are wired to go for the chase while ladies are to make all the 'shakara'. That's the normal natural arrangement. If you did biology in sec school, you would have noticed that in genetic crossing females are represented with a straight symbol while males are represented with a bent symbol pointing towards the female's direction. If you want to hold your head high in the relationship, let the guys chase you not the other way.

Speak for yourself dude!!

There's nothing more attractive in a woman than confidence and humility. A lady that's confident enough to make the first move is all shades of awesome!

babake79:


Speak for yourself dude!!

There's nothing more attractive in a woman than confidence and humility. A lady that's confident enough to make the first move is all shades of awesome!

I pity those that would fall for your lies. How many ladies have successfully wooed a guy and the relationship blossomed thereafter

Jman06:
I'll honestly advise you not to try making the first move on a guy next time. Never mind all these guys encouraging you to. It doesn't work that way! Guys are wired to go for the chase while ladies are to make all the 'shakara'. That's the normal natural arrangement. If you did biology in sec school, you would have noticed that in genetic crossing females are represented with a straight symbol while males are represented with a bent symbol pointing towards the female's direction. If you want to hold your head high in the relationship, let the guys chase you not the other way.

Sending a PM is not first move dude but only mature minded guys will appreciate it.

SPEEDEPITOME:

A while back, I saw a guy on here that I thought I could be friends with because from his posts he stays in an area I just moved to. I sent him a PM, his reply was 'I don't do Nairaland girls'. I told him I just wanted to be friends. He asked how I got to know he stayed around that area, I told him I read his posts.
Guess what he said next? 'Quit stalking me, idiot'. I've never been more embarrassed my whole life.
so don't blame me if I don't send any guy PM on here or any platform for that matter.

Babes you got yourself a mail

steppin:

See the oldest lie in the book. "I wanna focus on my career". Those other women married and focused on their career, are they different?
Kukuma say you're lacking.

Mr. man or whoever u call yourself. if i wanna focus on my career and move on! is my career your career? must u kuku quote me? If i don't wanna get married is none of your damn business go and marry the women and stop showing up here. and please don't come and quote me wrong here for i never mentioned that married women aren't career focused as u ku ku dey take Yash*** read my message. Please borrow person glass and read it well again. My life is my life don't come and be talking nonsense here. waka pas!!!
Yeye Child!!!!

mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew

All I am curious about and waiting for as aftermath of this thread is pre-wedding pictures!!!

And maybe a very bold, beautiful and intelligent free lady can still PM me

cuteme88:


Mr. man or whoever u call yourself. if i wanna focus on my career and move on! is my career your career? must u kuku quote me? If i don't wanna get married is none of your damn business go and marry the women and stop showing up here. and please don't come and quote me wrong here for i never mentioned that married women aren't career focused as u ku ku dey take Yash*** read my message. Please borrow person glass and read it well again. My life is my life don't come and be talking nonsense here. waka pas!!!

mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew

What am I supposed to do? Get scared because a little girl feels like ranting?
You're in a public forum, so it's my damn business! Be ready for criticism or quit.
Don't hide behind career, you dey lack period!

SPEEDEPITOME:

A while back, I saw a guy on here that I thought I could be friends with because from his posts he stays in an area I just moved to. I sent him a PM, his reply was 'I don't do Nairaland girls'. I told him I just wanted to be friends. He asked how I got to know he stayed around that area, I told him I read his posts.
Guess what he said next? 'Quit stalking me, idiot'. I've never been more embarrassed my whole life.
so don't blame me if I don't send any guy PM on here or any platform for that matter.

While I agree that the guy's case is a peculiar one ..ladies must understand this fact....A MAN AND WOMAN CAN NOT BE JUST FRIENDS...except they are colleagues at work or of an organization or just platonic hi hi level.

The mistakes many ladies make is believing a guy can just be friends with you...HELL NO!

Offline hook up is just same as online....a guy sees you...likes what he sees and approaches you for friendship or tomance..

Its the same online...If you have your pics on your profile then be ready to have a guy who likes your appearance to PM you but you can't be anonymous and then send a PM to a guy who may latter not fancy you.

Ladies must get this fact right here and now...GUYS HARDLY WASTE TIME BEING FRIENDS WITH A LADY THEY DON'T FANCY...Quote me anywhere.

If you can't display your pics for guys who fancy you to see and make that first move then you should be ready to be possibly ignored by any guy you PM...that's how it goes.

Guys are visual so show yourself and let those who like your look PM you...this has nothing to do with desperation but it's called maturity without hypocrisy...

Many mature ladies and guys are dieing of boredom yet they still form and pretend...taaarh!

steppin:

What am I supposed to do? Get scared because a little girl feels like ranting?
You're in a public forum, so it's my damn business! Be ready for criticism or quit.
Don't hide behind career, you dey lack period!

oyaaah na bring it on!!!! as u no sabi read person comment before criticising it. oga first class, phd in criticising. keep concerning your damn business in my business as u no get any other business to concern yourself for. I dey wait uuuu! you are welcome to my business. I will pay u for quoting me if u want!!!!

As na Mature man u be u suppose no dey mind your business for little girl like me. My advise though

cuteme88:


oyaaah na bring it on!!!! as u no sabi read person comment before criticising it. oga first class, phd in criticising. keep concerning your damn business in my business as u no get any other business to concern yourself for. I dey wait uuuu! you are welcome to my business. I will pay u for quoting me if u want!!!!

As na Mature man u be u suppose no dey mind your business for little girl like me. My advise though

C'mon girl! You're getting soft and emotional on me. You were blazing like fire from your first post. What happened? Abeg, No take anything too serious for here.

The irony of it all from my observation is that a good number of the guys clamouring for the ladies to put up DPs don't even have a profile picture of themselves. Excuse me please, are the ladies some kind of wares to be displayed by force by fire Its a matter of choice. If u dnt like the "masquerade crew" jump and pass. You guys are just thinking one sided. The last time I checked, it's a thread for both single men and women. Do you men think its only you that has sole right to do the "checking out'' alone? Abi una think say we(ladies) no get eye for beta thing too!!!
Abeg forget all that talk, we are bigger than this. Let people be please!

And for the "if I don't have picture I am not confident of myself" crew, i think it is rather vain to attribute a mere picture with confidence.Weh Don Sirs!

steppin:

C'mon girl! You're getting soft and emotional on me. You were blazing like fire from your first post. What happened? Abeg, No take anything too serious for here.

Look who's become a psychologist in a day Like u can tell the look on my face via my comments!!! Mr. Boy

Lemme go and fry Beans ooh jawe. Got some mature business to handle! u can keep following up with my other comments on Nairaland! y'are always welcome

Rayton:

Nice coz am to start my Msc in toxicology n pollution soon...

wow! which school?

Neroski:
The irony of it all from my observation is that a good number of the guys clamouring for the ladies to put up DPs don't even have a profile picture of themselves. Excuse me please, are the ladies some kind of wares to be displayed by force by fire Its a matter of choice. If u dnt like the "masquerade crew" jump and pass. You guys are just thinking one sided. The last time I checked, it's a thread for both single men and women. Do you men think its only you that has sole right to do the "checking out'' alone? Abi una think say we(ladies) no get eye for beta thing too!!!
Abeg forget all that talk, we are bigger than this. Let people be please!

And for the "if I don't have picture I am not confident of myself" crew, i think it is rather vain to attribute a mere picture with confidence.Weh Don Sirs!

I love this comment

cuteme88:


Look who's become a psychologist in a day Like u can tell the look on my face via my comments!!! Mr. Boy

Lemme go and fry Beans ooh jawe. Got some mature business to handle! u can keep following up with my other comments on Nairaland! y'are always welcome

Famous last words. One minute you were acting like a hopeless case, giving me advice to leave you alone and all that. I decided to let you be, but your small mouth starts running again.
Smh.. Women. And yes miss hothead, reading your posts alone is enough to know how you feel.
I don't need a psychologist to do that.

Neroski:
The irony of it all from my observation is that a good number of the guys clamouring for the ladies to put up DPs don't even have a profile picture of themselves. Excuse me please, are the ladies some kind of wares to be displayed by force by fire Its a matter of choice. If u dnt like the "masquerade crew" jump and pass. You guys are just thinking one sided. The last time I checked, it's a thread for both single men and women. Do you men think its only you that has sole right to do the "checking out'' alone? Abi una think say we(ladies) no get eye for beta thing too!!!
Abeg forget all that talk, we are bigger than this. Let people be please!

And for the "if I don't have picture I am not confident of myself" crew, i think it is rather vain to attribute a mere picture with confidence.Weh Don Sirs!

You have a good point but then there are loopholes and I will explain.

Simply put...Guys do the searching which is why the Bible says "who so finds a wife"....now even if a man wants to start as friends....he go still search and he needs to have an idea of wettin he Wan go close to....

As a lady even if you see a guy's dp the best you can do is to PM him IF you feel like getting to know him but some imature guys may see it as approaching a guy which is why most ladies don't do that

What am I implying? Guys really don't have to put up their dp cos they "don't really expect to be approached" while ladies seriously ought to have a dp so that they can be seen and possibly approached by any guy who likes them.

I don't know if I'm making sense..

busybeei5:


I love this comment

Why you no go like am?
Even on your wattsup dp you still hide take pics lol!

Toks2008:


Why you no go like am?

Even on your wattsup dp you still hide take pics lol!

refiner:


Awww...thank u dear...

You growing lean in this your new pic, are you checking your weight or what's happening? I kinda believe all is well...
Acetyl cares...

Pearl005:

I don't think Friendzoning is the case. Personally, I can't date someone I hardly know and I can only know you and then determine if I want to date you by being friends first. Therefore, I don't see it as Friendzoning.

Hei ooooooooooo

That line sounds familiar oooo

Run for ya life

Just stumbled on dis thread.... My bf told me dat he is scared of losing me and he is in a fix..he is travelling out of d country in July.. He said he can't do distance... Imagine after two years of dating.. Though I m just 24 and m almost done with my msc..i av decided to channel my energy into my research work cos some guys don't know Wat dey want..