Bibi294:

See where domestic violence starts o...
1) it is not even your story and you're this temperamentall?
2) kissing some other guy was what the op saw and they got over it....
Please and please, stop quoting me ooo... Op asked for advice which I shared my opinion so share your opinion without been violent

thesuave10:
Ki.mbra spice and vinegar? Damn!

kimbra:
Lol, that's the plain truth.

BTW, this op and his girlfriend of 9 years are confused.

tukurutaiwo:


I like your response and i really appreciate it.. God bless you.

Chibydinho:

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No qualms... I've been in that sh1ts shoes where I'm not sure if she loves me like I do, and it can be frustrating... But like I said...
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Decide what you want with her.. Marriage? Then go and have a talk with her... Dating? I suggest you let her be because 9 years no be beans and she won't forgive you if you turn her mind to continue and you later dump her..
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So, if you've got marriage plans, pay a visit.. Talk and sort things out... Then when things are going well, start using the push and pull method on her.

thesuave10:


Hehe now you're just tryna scare me off. I think you're sugar+ spice + a Lil mango flavour somewhere.

I swear. Sha love is confusing sometimes. I bet yours won't as long that before the big day

extremelygolden:
This is your 9th year with her, right? You are working, abi? And you don't think it's time you move the relationship to the next level by engaging or marrying her?

Her colleague visiting her at home is just her way of letting you know that if you are still not ready to settle down with her after 9 years, she's already considering doing so herself. Oga, that's her way of awakening your consciousness to reality and making you see you could be replaced if you don't act fast.

She loves you and I am sorry you will lose her soon! You ought to be smart. She's even slow in dropping your sluggish ass, abeg! Who get time to waste further?

tukurutaiwo:


We've been talking about marriage and plans too.. She's not picking my calls and I've been to her place once but she wasn't around. There's no way i can know the time she'll be home cos she's not picking my calls..

I888:
if I slap u, u will go blind? Who is playing with whose heart here? Didn't u read she kissed the other guy, not know he was behind them?

Yet, she said nothing is going on between them.

Chibydinho:
You are showing how desperate you are and that's pushing her away.
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If you still love her, try and pay her a visit and be objective when you reach there.Not being too emotional like soft baby. Talk things out with her and explain to her that it was all joke...
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By the way, she give you love portion? Try to give ladies in ya life chance and enjoy ya life alone for sometimes... Use the Push and pull method also when dealing with ladies you love because I bet you showing you care and love so much can makes ladies run away (I've tried it too).
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Be the prize here, stop acting like she is doing you any favor by dating or getting married to you... She must need you as you need her too... Else, na one chance you dey...
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Peace

tukurutaiwo:

selflessmaya:
Any person who is immature enough to spread a false message about impending nuptials to make his/her partner OF 9 YEARS!! feel bad deserves to lose that person, u were with her for 9 yrs and u made her hear from a friend that you're getting married to another, then when she finally dumped you, you're emphasizing that you've been with her for 9yrs, you get no sympathy here. you're immature.

fastjett:
Relationship rule 101: do not take every advice from ur friends and apply to ur relationship no two relationship is the same. Always seek for a relationship councillor for relationship advice.

Op u should have continued trying to talk out things in shape with her rather than doing g what ur friend told u. I know ladies could be so annoying some times and u can't just understand them but with patience and love u can still win there heart, if u really want her. Keep in touch with don't give space otherwise another guy will fill that vacuum, and she may forget u just like that I know how this girls out there reason like fish.

kimbra:
I'm a combination of all. What I deliver depends on what you ask for.

Someone once said we should date yearly and if the relationship isn't heading anyway tides should be cut off. I don't know how feasible that is, but there's sense in it cos the longer the worse emotional trauma. Usually if you don't break their heart, they'd break yours, so what's the point?.

GodnGold:
Oga,abeg teach me this push and pull method.

Gistedge:
She wants competition,you are too easy for her, stop treating her like a trophy because you have been dating for 9 years. she wants the spark.

Nne5:
Op you're too what's the right word um


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Possessive.


Yeah that's it

or should I say immature? Imagine breaking the poor girl's heart with your useless 'plan' TWICE.

See when she comes back just marry her.9 yrs nor be beans

DaAwesome1:
d gal sef na binsh + her overpossessive nd obsecced booo..

tukurutaiwo:


Expansiate pls

tukurutaiwo:

Kindly read the article properly

tukurutaiwo:

I spoke to one of my friends about it and he told me that we should try something out to know if she still cares about me. So myself and my friend composed a message and sent to her. Her sister and her friends inviting them to my wedding with another lady. It actually worked because we spoke on the phone for hours and she said that it's her work and that she's sorry. She cried on the phone and then i later told her it was all planned.

Gistedge:
tukurutaiwo

Okay.

Make her jealous, make her know you are worth it, from what i read you are too caring which makes you weak and that might be pushing her away, you need some of that energy to focus on you right now. Whether or not you send her text she will still find a reason to walk away.

I think the spark is gone, and you are trying too hard to convince her to stay, stop doing that else she will stay out of pity or sentiment and not because you both deserve each other.

tukurutaiwo:


We've been talking about marriage and plans too.. She's not picking my calls and I've been to her place once but she wasn't around. There's no way i can know the time she'll be home cos she's not picking my calls..

selflessmaya:



you don't have to like my reply, it's very blunt and doesn't exactly pamper so i can understand if it's not very liked by u. but don't try to tell me i don't know what i read. it's right there in bold. i said, you spread a false message about your impending nuptials, what don't i understand.

tukurutaiwo:


Well that's what I tried to do n it backfired.