I'm in my early 30's a graduate but presently unemployed tho I have one or two things I do online to make an income but it's never enough.

Now bearing my age in mind, I'm having the inclination to start a family thank God I have a place of my own so accommodation is nothing to worry about. Feeding too isn't an issue. The only issue I have now is the basics requirements to make a comfortable living.

Would it be wise for me to take a woman considering the added responsibility talk more of putting her in the family way.

I'm also of the opinion that I may be motivated to work harder and think smarter when I have responsibility he's staring at me. Perhaps my limited responsibility isn't enough motivation to make a breakthrough.

I just need reasonable advice on what to do in this kind of situation because tone is not really on my side anymore.

Finally, can I still find a lady out there who wouldn't place too much financial burden me. I'm just scared of not being able to fulfil my responsibility as a man if I choose to settle down and that can be very frustrating especially if ones partner is a nagging one.

Too many things on my mind. I just need someone to relate to.

you don't need anyone's help nor advise..

Cos you will still do what's on your mind...
So op do whats on your mind, you know yourself better....













Is everyone destined to marry? Op is not by force to marry when you not sure of yourself.

optional1:
you don't need anyone's help nor advise..

Cos you will still do what's on your mind...
So op do whats on your mind, you know yourself better.

Nothing is on my mind , I'm trying to take a big step here. A step which will change the tragectory of things for me eaither good or bad.


Someone might have a good suggestion and that's why I'm putting it out there.

optional1:


Is everyone destiny to marry Op is not by force to marry when you not sure of yourself.

It's only natural to feel the need to procreate and that's what this is all about and not some elaborate wedding ceremony.

dnt bring a child into ds world if u dnt av resources to tke care of it especially Nigeria

optional1:
you don't need anyone's help nor advise..

Cos you will still do what's on your mind...
So op do whats on your mind, you know yourself better....













Is everyone destiny to marry Op is not by force to marry when you not sure of yourself.

Sometimes I wonder if it is a crime to think before typing??

And you gonna ask why I always attack you?

Because yo always violate the human nature!! Think before you Type!!

nnamdiokere45:
dnt bring a child into ds world if u dnt av resources to tke care of it especially Nigeria

That's the issue, at least I may be able to take care of one or two kids.
Do I have to wait till I have the resources before embarking on this journey.?
Have it ever crossed your mind that your could grow old and grey without any dependants?

These are thoughts that actually come to my mind.

Isn't it better to take up the challenges, take the bull by the horn at once. Who knows, things might turn out better.

Being optimistic now.

Bandwagon:


That's the issue, at least I may 've able to take care of one or two kids.
Do I have to wait till I have the resources before embarking on this journey. Have it ever crossed your mind that your could grow old and grey without any dependants.

These are thoughts that actually come to my mind. Isn't it better to take up the challenges and take the bull by the horn at once. Who knows, things might turn out better.

Being optimistic now.

if u can comfortably take care of one or two,den go ahead.u musnt have 3kids

nnamdiokere45:
if u can comfortably take care of one or two,den go ahead.u musnt have 3kids

Definitely not comfortable enough for that right now but who knows what tomorrow might bring.

These are my fears and considerations before embarking on this journey.

BiafranBushBoy:

Sometimes I wonder if it is a crime to think before typing??
And you gonna ask why I always attack you?
Because yo always violate the human nature!! Think before you Type!!

thank you for alwayz attacking me like a wolve who sees a teddy bear...
Nice one kontinue prof sir ride on..

optional1:



thank you for alwayz attacking me like a wolve who sees a teddy bear...

Nice one kontinue prof sir ride on..

Thank God you ain't cute because people might assume I am crushing on you!!

But for christ sake... always think before you type!!

Bandwagon:



Nothing is on my mind , I'm trying to take a big step here. A step which will change the tragectory of things for me eaither good or bad.


Someone might have a good suggestion and that's why I'm putting it out there.



It's only natural to feel the need to procreate and that's what this is all about and not some elaborate wedding ceremony.

i pray you gets the best and right answer to your questions.

Obviously, you are not ready to marry.

BiafranBushBoy:


Thank God you ain't cute because people might assume I am crushing on you!!

who ask you Why are you saying it loud today

BiafranBushBoy:



But for christ sake... always think before you type!!

thank you next time will call you to help me think before i dump the trash....
Thanks God bless

optional1:


who ask you Why are you saying it loud today







thank you next time will call you to help me think before i dump the trash....
Thanks God bless

Piss off and your god's blessing!!

BiafranBushBoy:

Piss off and your god's blessing!!

lolz why are you piss off now oga prof...


Did i say any wrong?

So you want to take permission from nairalanders before you want to marry abi?


If I were you, I will do some research..


Find out how much it will cost me to do a traditional marriage dat is very affordable for me in my current financial capability, second.. Find out how much brideprice I can afford to pay den find a girl from dat tribe...

Bandwagon:
I'm in my early 30's a graduate but presently unemployed tho I have one or two things I do online to make an income but it's never enough.

Now bearing my age in mind, I'm having the inclination to start a family thank God I have a place of my own so accommodation is nothing to worry about. Feeding too isn't an issue. The only issue I have now is the basics requirements to make a comfortable living.

Would it be wise for me to take a woman considering the added responsibility talk more of putting her in the family way.

I'm also of the opinion that I may be motivated to work harder and think smarter when I have responsibility he's staring at me. Perhaps my limited responsibility isn't enough motivation to make a breakthrough.

I just need reasonable advice on what to do in this kind of situation because tone is not really on my side anymore.

Finally, can I still find a lady out there who wouldn't place too much financial burden me. I'm just scared of not being able to fulfil my responsibility as a man if I choose to settle down and that can be very frustrating especially if ones partner is a nagging one.

Too many things on my mind. I just need someone to relate to.

In your early thirty,if at that age,you're feared you might fail as a married man,then I bet the fear will continue to stare at your face till you clock your early 40s.


The best way to allay your fears is to face them. Your time starts now bro. goodluck!

Why do u want to box urself by urself who dey pressure u go marry??

Na by force ni

Find a woman that is working and please work on yourself and your financial stability too. Make it a project for the both of you and be humble and faithful. There are some women out there who will love you and work with you. Just make sure you never forsake such a woman. Goodluck.

Bandwagon:
I'm in my early 30's a graduate but presently unemployed tho I have one or two things I do online to make an income but it's never enough.

Now bearing my age in mind, I'm having the inclination to start a family thank God I have a place of my own so accommodation is nothing to worry about. Feeding too isn't an issue. The only issue I have now is the basics requirements to make a comfortable living.

Would it be wise for me to take a woman considering the added responsibility talk more of putting her in the family way.

I'm also of the opinion that I may be motivated to work harder and think smarter when I have responsibility he's staring at me. Perhaps my limited responsibility isn't enough motivation to make a breakthrough.

I just need reasonable advice on what to do in this kind of situation because tone is not really on my side anymore.

Finally, can I still find a lady out there who wouldn't place too much financial burden me. I'm just scared of not being able to fulfil my responsibility as a man if I choose to settle down and that can be very frustrating especially if ones partner is a nagging one.

Too many things on my mind. I just need someone to relate to.

When you can feed yourself and two other mouths comfortably..... you can start thinking of financially ready to settle down.

God has a way of showing himself when times get harder..... take the bull by the horn but while at it don't settle down with a liability...look for a graduate who is enthusiastic about working or earning

Thanks baby124 and rex444 all I needed was some morale booster.

@Dingbang I'm not after any ceremonies now. I guess a family introduction will do at this moment.

Bandwagon:
Thanks baby124 and rex444 all I needed was some morale booster.

@Dingbgang I'm not after any ceremonies now. I guess a family introduction will do at this moment.

ok bro.. U can proceed. Take a step further...

Reading this,one thing gets my attention,

"I'm also of the opinion that I may be motivated to work harder
and think smarter when I have responsibility he's staring at me.
Perhaps my limited responsibility isn't enough motivation to
make a breakthrough."

I'm not trying to call you lazy or anything at all so please don't misunderstand.. but if the fact that ur very serious about taking a wife and starting a family isn't enough motivation already for you to work harder and think smarter then I don't know what should be.

KizzyyRae:
Reading this,one thing gets my attention,

"I'm also of the opinion that I may be motivated to work harder
and think smarter when I have responsibility he's staring at me.
Perhaps my limited responsibility isn't enough motivation to
make a breakthrough."

I'm not trying to call you lazy or anything at all so please don't misunderstand.. but if the fact that ur very serious about taking a wife and starting a family isn't enough motivation already for you to work harder and think smarter then I don't know what should be.

Even though I won't say I'm lazy but I'm pretty sure I'm not doing enough.

That's why I'm having the opinion that more responsibilities will make me sit right, focus and work harder.

It's just an opinion.

Bandwagon:


Even though I won't say I'm lazy but I'm pretty sure I'm not doing enough.

That's why I'm having the opinion that more responsibilities will make me sit right, focus and work harder.

It's just an opinion.

Okay if u think so. Buh right now do you have anyone in mind? If u do cool ,then maybe u should take d next step as per getting married or atleast jst take a step and just see how it goes.if u feel responsibities will "ginger" you, You being married should be enough motivation...babies should come after your "breakthrough" .I'm sure u want them to have d best..don't experiment.. wish u all the best xx

KizzyyRae:

Okay if u think so. Buh right now do you have anyone in mind? If u do cool ,then maybe u should take d next step as per getting married or atleast jst take a step and just see how it goes.if u feel responsibities will "ginger" you, You being married should be enough motivation...babies should come after your "breakthrough" .I'm sure u want them to have d best..don't experiment.. wish u all the best xx

I don't have any particular person in mind right now. Dates could be expensive these days so it prevents me from going out to meet people.

I sure want to best for my kids .

Marry a working class lady.

MissCuppy:
Marry a working class lady.

Good suggestion. Just don't know which is better between a salary earner and someone who learnt a craft or trade.

@OP

Nobel people settle to marry they don't marry to settle. . . However, settling in this regard is always subjective, its on the basis on an individual future set-standard.

Also, note that it's not the early morning bird that catches the day.

More so, a sane and sound person that lives on other people's opinions is not better than a dead person - that doesn't mean that they don't seek for advices or listen to other people's opinions, no. By the way, only small-minded people competes with others while nobel people creates their own paths and encrypts it.

My submissions will only make sense to you if you're a realist. However, if you're an idealist, which means you're a faith proponent like every religious person is, then it won't surprise me if it makes no meanings to you.

Responsibilities don't have 2 stare @ ur face b4 u can work hard & smart. In short, dis is d best time 2 think & make d best decisions concerning ur life. Now, d distractns are less so it gives u room 2 focus.
If u don't feel right abt raising a family now, don't pressure urself.