Most likely, there are still some faithful men but my experiences with two married pals of mine in less than one week brought about this topic..

The first pal, is a business Man that is not doing badly, he has at least two kids that I know of all attending the so called expensive schools... He is from the East, an elder in the Church and we were having some business related conversation when somehow our discussions went into the arena of women.. lol... I told him some of my experiences and he also told me how he almost sent his wife packing for losing 4 million naira in two different ponzi schemes namely donation hub and earnfifty... He then told me about an Akwa-Ibom girl that he came across and made love to and ever since he has been praying to God to help him leave her but instead he is getting deeper into her....

This Man has a very beautiful wife with light skin but he confessed to me how the Akwa-Ibom babe is very sweet and neat... Infact he talked about going home to sleep and snore each time he has his routine sexual exercise with her which invariably means that he may not eat and most likely not touch his wife. When his wife complains of his strange lifestyle, he blames it on working too hard in his office of which he is the Boss...

What surprised me most as we were discussing in his office was that , he said he will not lie to me, that if the Akwa-Ibom babe calls him now, he will leave what he is doing to go and meet her... Within me, I was scared for so many reasons knowing fully well that I am still single and will not want that kind of life but the greater fear was that is possible that this man never planned for this type of life but he somehow found himself with a strange woman....

My second encounter was yesterday night with another Pal who is younger than the Man from the East... This one is from the West, his wife is in the West with their Kid while he is in Port Harcourt... This particular one is not necessarily as successful as the other man but he mentors people in business/investment related affairs... He is the kind of guy you could call to talk to your staff on how they could perform better (Business Consultant). In the course of our conversation, I found out that he is actually waiting for one small girl that lives in my neighborhood that just finished secondary school in FGGC Okigwe I suppose....

While I learnt some things from him, I also told him about the importance of starving his distractions and feeding his focus and we both agreed that women are major distractions.. he told me , he discovered that spends more on accommodating women in hotels for days just to have a sexually nice time....

I'm conclusion I ask, why do many married Men cheat on their wives, how can we help our future/current wives to help us not to cheat on them? What are those things married need that will make them not to cheat on their wives ? (Note: not al married cheat)..

Because they have smelling anuses

Men must cheat. Maybe after like 5years then you will calm down. Go and marry and confirm.

I think men need to shave off some part of the joystick ni...I will suggest the top part. That part that looks like a Lollypop with one dot.

Whew! I'm bored!

Alitair:
Men must cheat. Maybe after like 5years then you will calm down. Go and marry and confirm.

exactly my fears... It looks so normal as if all men must cheat on their wives although theoretically , all men don't cheat

Question of the 21st Century.

Only men with flawed values cheat on their wives. I know for sure that there are men that no matter what the lady looks like or how enticing the free sex offer is they'd never cheat on their wives 'cause is usually some minutes pleasure which is likely to ruin your matrimonial home. Weak men cheat, real men don't.

"Cheating is in our DNA". Is an excuse weak men use to feel it's ok to cheat.

ask afonjas dey will explain beter

Na dem sabi

This will be like the 1000th time this question will be asked on Nairaland. Una no dey tire?

cheating is part of man's nature..

women cheat too but they are way too smart for you to detect


in Nigeria's voice
A MAN WHO GOT MARRIED AND DID NOT CHEAT, IS THAT ONE A MAN??

It will amaze you the number of married women cheating on their husbands. Thinking men are the main culprits is stereotypical. Blame human that is inherently selfish and leave the gender.

It is simple. IMMATURITY

Age is not directly proportional to maturity so you don't expect everyone with the figures to have common sense.

People get into marriages without gathering enough information on how to run their homes. And the 21st century thing is really killing marriages too

Shut up OP
today women are the masters of cheating in relationships

the following kpelu etc
- knowing he has a girlfriend and still gave him your pants to keep for you
- knowing he keeps other ladies but money Hes too kind
- young ladies see them as gods that can provide jobs , connections, etc
- he has always been like that

Mind ur business

Question?

Someone once said that for the fact you are married does not necessarily mean that your spouse will be the only person you will be attracted to. How true is this?

Okay. These reasons could be cultural, religious or biological.

I come from a part of Nigeria where women are shamed and stigmatized for indulging in sexual acts outside marriage.

In fact, they are made to carry a 'pot of shame' on their head , dancing through the entire village while children and women drum for her dance of shame.

So, you see the repercussions are heavy for a woman.

But in my not so few years on earth, no man has ever been shamed for doing that as far as the women is not your sister or mother. So, thats the societal factor.


Religion-wise, just look through the bible for example and see how many women were publicly shamed for adultery, fornication in relation to their male counterparts. Solomon, David?

Biologically, and this is my opinion, men are naturally 'hunters'. This is not justifying it though. But it's hard (but possible) to find a man who is not doing it.

Some who are not doing it have either not found the right opportunity or they are do it in their hearts.

The true test of a married man who wants to keep away from adultery is when he is posted outstation beyond where he can be suspected or caught.


Aside those 'academic ' reasons, some men are just not satiable, no matter how good or beautiful their wife is.

Some women too make it easy for their husband s to cheat on them. They see sex as a tool for negotiation or just perfunctory.

Others could be dirty or have sexual defects like dry vagina ( never gets wet) or never reach orgasm no matter the pre-intimacy.

Unless you are very disciplined, it is easy as a man to sway towards where you are getting the real deal, rather than smashing a dry wall every time.

SmellingAnus:
exactly my fears... It looks so normal as if all men must cheat on their wives although theoretically , all men don't cheat

I understand your fears but not all men cheat. And honestly speaking women determined weather their man should cheat or not.

With your username, I dont think anything good can come out of this.

Greatigbos:
ask afonjas dey will explain beter

No be Igbo man dey give his concubine 1000 US dollars out of stolen $2600

Adultery has no tribe and by the way....

is it your cheat?

We cheat based on logistics. If you think we married you cos of your pusssy, and begin dey collect tithes and offerings with your toto, we negotiate outside. SIMPLE.

Are you familiar with the economics law of diminishing marginal utility?

You can't eat the same soup everyday and not get bored eventually

my paddy said he is cheating because:
a. his wife does not give him blowjob_

b. that he likes women who are hairless like catfish/glass but his wife has hairs on her nipplez, legs, butthole_ and her ass_. He can't even caress her ass during lovemaking.

c. he said the level of hairs on his wife's ass_ can't allow him have doggy with her and he likes doggy style so he goes out to fulfill his sex hunger with other women. Sleeping with his wife is like sleeping with a man.

d. after 3 children, his wife's kpekus has lost all manner of friction so he always looks for kpekus wey still tight small.

e. after they got married, the wife had a skin infection on her legs that gave her black spots all over her legs and this disgusted him so he mingle with women with flesh clean spotless laps.

All in all, he is currently seeking for a divorce to marry one pretty, young and rich Calabar doctor he met of recent.

Marry a man that has the fear of God
Marry a woman that has the fear of God


CASE CLOSED

All men don't cheat. I will never cheat on my wife when I am married.

Op this is the reason why

https://www.nairaland.com/3750699/problem-wife-could-problem-here/1

When women get married their sexual libido reduces and they can no longer satisfy their husbands.

About 95% of Nigerian Men cheat, out of this, about 50% of them feel it's their birthright, some support it with religion and culture.
It is very pathetic.

But these same ones are so protective of their wives that they go through their phones every slight opportunity they get.