armyofone:
Who is thinking of marriage when you are faced with hugely and bigly student loans to pay off.

FortuneTeller:
I think Americans are becoming more cautious of marriage due to finances. Women are outpacing men in the workforce, so men are not as valuable. Also the risk of ending up with a lazy man who doesn't want to work, can easily happen in the current society. I see men getting left frequently because they don't want to contribute well to their family. No woman wants to be the breadwinner and have to deal with a man who not only insults her, but can't even feed his family. A woman doesn't want her husband to be a liability. He's in even a lower position than the children. I firmly believe the more money women make as a whole, the more likely marriage will slowly become obsolete. I feel this is slowly happening in Nigeria as well.

CFCman:


I will add that men are also not settling for marriage anymore because we perceive that the family law court system in the US is anti-men. Men run a great risk of being thrown of the home, losing access to their kids and paying spousal support for a long time. Of course, there are certain legal nuances involved in child custody and spousal support, but the general feeling is that it is better to have one-night stands or spend money on a stripper or a friend with benefit, than to be "bogged down" with marriage.

CFCman:


I will add that men are also not settling for marriage anymore because we perceive that the family law court system in the US is anti-men. Men run a great risk of being thrown of the home, losing access to their kids and paying spousal support for a long time. Of course, there are certain legal nuances involved in child custody and spousal support, but the general feeling is that it is better to have one-night stands or spend money on a stripper or a friend with benefit, than to be "bogged down" with marriage.

FortuneTeller:


I agree. It's really a large financial risk for both people. In the end, it's almost not worth it, except for having children. I have noticed a lot of people are only having one child, maybe to avoid these types of situations in full. But then again, do we really want to be alone when we are old? I think many of us will end up regretting it. It's a lot to think about.

FortuneTeller:
I think Americans are becoming more cautious of marriage due to finances. Women are outpacing men in the workforce, so men are not as valuable. Also the risk of ending up with a lazy man who doesn't want to work, can easily happen in the current society. I see men getting left frequently because they don't want to contribute well to their family. No woman wants to be the breadwinner and have to deal with a man who not only insults her, but can't even feed his family. A woman doesn't want her husband to be a liability. He's in even a lower position than the children. I firmly believe the more money women make as a whole, the more likely marriage will slowly become obsolete. I feel this is slowly happening in Nigeria as well.

Funnicator:
I don't really think they are anti-marriage. They just love their flirty and single lifestyle, without any attachment.

That is why you see them, get married and divorce in two years, the others marry late; just around early 30s, while another greater percentage will conceive, become baby mama and choose to remain that for the rest of their lives. A little percentage of them love and appreciate early marriage of 20-26.

Greenbullet:
actually nobody wants to get married anymore cause a woman can take 50 to 85 percent of their property

FortuneTeller:


I agree. It's really a large financial risk for both people. In the end, it's almost not worth it, except for having children. I have noticed a lot of people are only having one child, maybe to avoid these types of situations in full. But then again, do we really want to be alone when we are old? I think many of us will end up regretting it. It's a lot to think about.

Funnicator:


That's why in Igbo we call women Oriaku; wealth consumer.
Now I understand why there are so many baby mama's and divorcee's in the US. I understand better also, why huge percentage of our males come down to Nigeria to marrry.

armyofone:
come down to marry and then what next ?
No guarantee...American society is a teaching one
See that village gal in a year or two

Mindfulness:
Another aspect is that millennials are less religious. They do not consider relationships without a marriage certificate or divorce a sin or scandal.

FortuneTeller:
I think Americans are becoming more cautious of marriage due to finances. Women are outpacing men in the workforce, so men are not as valuable. Also the risk of ending up with a lazy man who doesn't want to work, can easily happen in the current society. I see men getting left frequently because they don't want to contribute well to their family. No woman wants to be the breadwinner and have to deal with a man who not only insults her, but can't even feed his family. A woman doesn't want her husband to be a liability. He's in even a lower position than the children. I firmly believe the more money women make as a whole, the more likely marriage will slowly become obsolete. I feel this is slowly happening in Nigeria as well.

bukatyne:


This now begs the question: is money the only thing an average man is bringing to the table?

MissCuppy:
True, but the number of babymama is high.

bluskyee:
For those saying the Men maybe left behind, I laugh in Spanish. My dad called me just last week to tell me that my Grand Papa wants to get another wife . A 79 year old. The man is never behind no matter how you re-arrange. Back to the subject, there are a lot of distractions for young people now than any other time in history. I spent a full week (work leave) indoors without seeing sunlight, let alone saying hi to my neighbours. There are so many fascinating and enchanting activities other than getting Married. As a guy, I have no reason to get married. Not now or later. A few minutes on Badoo, I get a hook-up, she spends 2-3 days and I am back to default mode. My mum calls occasionally to talk me into future plans and I had to warn her sternly. Why would I want to get married, when single-hood is the best thing to ever happen to Mankind. You can get a lady come spend weeks with you, without you marrying her, yet you have your space, your time and good sex. Companionship is as free as air. Please let us say NO to Marriage. Marriage is a huge scam. Science and Tech, is doing a good job trust me!!!

bluskyee:
For those saying the Men maybe left behind, I laugh in Spanish. My dad called me just last week to tell me that my Grand Papa wants to get another wife . A 79 year old. The man is never behind no matter how you re-arrange. Back to the subject, there are a lot of distractions for young people now than any other time in history. I spent a full week (work leave) indoors without seeing sunlight, let alone saying hi to my neighbours. There are so many fascinating and enchanting activities other than getting Married. As a guy, I have no reason to get married. Not now or later. A few minutes on Badoo, I get a hook-up, she spends 2-3 days and I am back to default mode. My mum calls occasionally to talk me into future plans and I had to warn her sternly. Why would I want to get married, when single-hood is the best thing to ever happen to Mankind. You can get a lady come spend weeks with you, without you marrying her, yet you have your space, your time and good sex. Companionship is as free as air. Please let us say NO to Marriage. Marriage is a huge scam. Science and Tech, is doing a good job trust me!!!

FortuneTeller:


I have noticed a lot of people are only having one child, maybe to avoid these types of situations in full. But then again, do we really want to be alone when we are old? I think many of us will end up regretting it. It's a lot to think about.

proudafrogal:


well my paternal grandmother has 7 surviving children and 26 grandchildren yet right now as I type this she is alone in the village. somehow we cannot escape being alone at some point in our life. that your spouse might die before you or even children. your kids will leave home to search for greener pastures.

ednut1:
Same as in UK. Who marriage epp. The UK babes of naija descent no dey see men marry easily. It has to be one bros dey link dem with from 9ja or one hustling guy wey need stay dem dey see marry.

CFCman:

That is serious. The tables have been turned because it was usually the abroad-based man that sought a Nigerian-based woman