MissCuppy:
She nailed it.


If you give these men much attention, they take you for granted, that's why I give them little or no attention, they come running like little baby.

some guys do not care how much attention you give. Little or nothing, they dont give a Bleep.

Safiaa:
Absolute nonsense.
I only agree with the ' dont make yourself too available'
That's very true.

couldn't have thought of a better summary

ipain:
It true. A tenant took the privilege that we gave him for granted. Instead of inviting me to his office, he came to my door, in front of his staff, he started talking nonsense. I looked at the paper handed to me, felt insulted and I made sure he regretted ever trying such. Next thing he got was a letter from me warning him not to try that nonsense again and that further details will be communicated.

A few weeks later, he got a call that he has to evacuate the building. I can tell you now that even the slightest thing that does not warrant discussing in the office, he ask for my attention to discuss with him in the office but it is too late.

Generally, when you give people too much attention or privileges, they often end up messing it.

What more can i say, thank you for giving me a helping hand to explain berra to the op....i was just too lazy to type....bottomline, be good but don't let people take your goodness for cowardise.

I'd rather say you saw it from another perspective, Aunty A will surely get married before Aunty B to a guy she met 6 months ago. okay

But I put it to you that there is every tendency that Aunty B will enjoy what is called marriage better than Aunty A.
why

just give Aunty A maximum of 3 years, you will start seeing bartered face and video of her moving out of her husband's house as a result of crashed marriage.

#Myopinion

discman2k2:

the plain truth is that men simply live the hard to get woman. If a lady is always available due to her insecurities and all the lucky guy she's giving all her time to will not see much value in her and thus there wouldn't be any rush to out the ring on it.

Girls, please wisen up & play the Hard to get game with ypur dream man when he comes after you.

The reality is that a man needs his woman available so that they can EXPERIENCE life together, so that he can get to know her on the INSIDE. That's the only way to discover someone, and hopefully wish to spend the rest of your life with her.

By making yourself absent (hard to get) that man may bring a ring quickly, in order not to lose you... NOT because you are the RIGHT one, but instead simply because he wants to keep you around and possibly confirm if you are indeed right. The minute he discovers you are NOT you will be dropped asap... unless you manage to get pregnant within that time, and therefore you will live a miserable married life, anD certainly end up a punching bag or dead, at the hands of this man who resent you (and possibly that child too)

But hey, di many women want to be married at ALL COST that not even death scares them.

MarieSucre:

AUNTY B is AUNTY B, she cannot be a freak.
So you either take AUNTY A the freak or AUNTY B the pelebe.
Smh at men. You cannot eat your cake and have it.

Then let aunty B suffer in silence and accept that aunty A will certainly be the one eating "her cake".
If anyone think that they can be happy on marriage while disregarding their partner's deepest sexual desires, then they rightfully need help from aunty A (aka the freak), in the family bedroom.

@Mujtahida
You are right, many sick men would cheat regardless of whether they have the greatest woman at home or not, but that doesnt change the fact at hand, does it?
If a woman isn't the freak that her husband desires, then it is CERTAINTY that he will eventually seek for someone else to fulfill his sexual desires.

Also, remember that you can't be doing the same sexual act for yrs and expect to still be satisfied in the bedroom. You MUST renew every so often your bedroom activities in order to keep the fire burning and the stimulation/satisfaction high.

As for polygamy, that is the exact nonsense that I have always been against. Here is a clue: too many deluded men hide behind polygamy to CHEAT. If you are polygamous, that's OK, but then be proud of it and tell it to any babe you meet, on the 1st meet!

dingbang:
no... She is a friend who is already giving me d "friendzone signs"

Don't want that in my life now

Okay,good luck then.

auntysimbiat:
Good girl like me oo... I need a good guy too oo

are you Anty A or anty B?

sekxy:

that's not even the issue cos this days aunty A tend to be more careful with her health because she knows her type of business but aunty B will be doing the good girl thing and be trusting her boo not knowing that her boo may be another person's boo thus there maybe high rate of STD in the case of A than B.but that's not my ish..
the reverse might also be the case. we just pray and hope for the best

So which category do you belong? , because you must falls into one.

Realist2:


So which category do you belong? , because you must falls into one.

wetin concern u. oga!!!

iamadonis2:


Dey dia Na... If every other guy were like me, you'll stay single till your village people feel you're old enough to be an Ancestor.

Who ur forming epp?

lmao...this is really cool

4C2215131:
.

Here is wisdom.

Let he that hath wisdom, listen to what the spirit is saying to the churches.

Thanks boss

Good geh where art thou

Please I'm searching for anthy B to marry . Any man that marry's anthy A the runs girls is already destroyed for life

I just believe that the fact that you took longer than others does not mean you wont have a happy ending.God rewards patience. Yorubas say" A pe koto je, ko tun gbodo je ibaje"

coolviv:
The problem is ladies make the fatal mistake of carrying the faithfulness of marriage into boyfriend /girlfriend relationships.
Reminds me of a story of a guy who had this girlfriend. They had been dating for 4 years and as na woman time dey waste, d girl kept asking his plans. He would be nonchalant, or quarel and fight with d girl. Then the girl stopped asking. He felt cool with himself that he has tamed her instead of seeing this as a danger signal.
Long story short...he accidentally found out from a mutual friend that she was getting married to some guy.
The wailing of d guy was so terrible and he reported her to all who would listen and though they tried to console him, not one person blamed d girl.

Are you sure I'm not the girl you are talking about?
Did I permit you to share my story?

MissCuppy:
You sound so pained, you life is pathetic.

Pained? About What? You know that track by psquare nobody ugly ...it was for girls like you ....be humble. In real life probably nobody even give a hoot about you cuz those who ball in real life don't brag about it online.

eezeribe:
Generally in Nigeria,good people always finish last.
From dating,to careers,promotions,appointments,connections,jobs,etc.
Short cut is the fastest way to any form of success in Nigeria.

very true

sekxy:
so moral lesson is to stop being a good girl.
chai..oriegwu

good girls are scarce...a lot of pvssies are already damaged

eternalcity:
Aunty B wasn't a good girl Na. She is indeed foolish. You don't do chores for a guy you aren't married to no matter what. If he wants to know if you are a good homemaker, he should come and see you take care of your father's house.

Once you begin to give tangible things to a guy who has only made an intangible promise to you, then you are on a highway to a sad ending.

ur opinion is not true...if u are a girl and I can not see what u are capable of doing as a woman...I will become suspicious...So u expect me to just marry a girl dat I don't know if she is homely neat or can do house chores.? brother a responsible girl should show case what she is capable of doing to d guy is dating

Joavid:
To be honest, in Naija, it's not favorable for a lady in her 20's, with the hopes of getting married 'soon' to date one guy.

These guys talk about about how they long and wish for real and good girls,but they chase and marry runs babes.


E.g, personally I know a guy that didn't stop his relationship with a particular girl despite knowing the girl's eye is sharp and everywhere. typical wannabe + runsgirl. Maybe it was the intrigue and chase he loved, I don't know.
or maybe the sex was too good, I don't know.

Men say they want one thing, but they're after the other.

Aunty what u are saying is not good...if I were to date u., d moment I suspect dat u are dating two or more other guys dat will be d end of d relationship...even if u are d best of girls I have meant over time....

[quote author=dominique post=56279488]She made some valid points and I have actually seen some real life examples. However, it is not about getting married but staying married. The reason we are hearing about so many failed marriages nowadays is because of the type of rushed wedding aunty A did. After the wedding, reality sets in and both start wondering "what have I gotten myself into?". Still, no two marriages are the same. Some ex runs-girls eventually end up to become the best of home-keepers with successful marriages. Life is one hell of a strange cookie, it crumbles in ways we least expect sometimes.










You are wise

dominique:
She made some valid points and I have actually seen some real life examples. However, it is not about getting married but staying married. The reason we are hearing about so many failed marriages nowadays is because of the type of rushed wedding aunty A did. After the wedding, reality sets in and both start wondering "what have I gotten myself into?". Still, no two marriages are the same. Some ex runs-girls eventually end up to become the best of home-keepers with successful marriages. Life is one hell of a strange cookie, it crumbles in ways we least expect sometimes.

Wise words

TinaAnita:
I always tell whoever cares to listen that what you see in a relationship is what you will get in a marriage. If you marry a girl who hardly stays at home then don't expect her to change to Aunty B all of a sudden. If you marry a girl who can't lift a finger to assist you with one domestic work or the other don't expect her not to employ the services of a maid when she becomes a wife.


If a guy takes a girl for granted simply because she is always available it only means that the love is one-sided because if a guy truly loves a girl he would always want to be with her plus he would never take her for granted or take her constant availabilty for granted.

What's the guarantee that a guy won't take the lady who played hard to get for granted after he marries her? What's the guarantee that he won't get tired of living with her?

Any guy who chases after you simply because you are not always available is only obssessed with your absence and not you as a person. Why not make yourself available every now and then let's see if he will continue the chase? A guy who is truly interested in you will never take you for granted.

Getting married is not the issue but staying married. Whoever can't maintain a good relationship will definitely have a terrible marriage as a faulty relationship can't produce a good marriage.

Aunty B rocks I'm sorry..
It pays to be a home girl

a good view there...how is ur day

MissCuppy:
She nailed it.


If you give these men much attention, they take you for granted, that's why I give them little or no attention, they come running like little baby.

So you are Aunty A

Zirah:
Ashawo. I mean, from your dp you look like a whorre.

too bad ur comment

jconsulting:
Be deceiving yourself

Deceiving not just herself but trying to deceive good girls into becoming runs girls. Let it be Clearly known that men go after women that a lot of men are pursuing, just to collect their share of the 'goodies' she is distributing. No man with his self-esteem intact would initiate marriage proceedings with a runs girl; except he has dubious intentions of duping her of her wealth and leaving her thereafter.

Airtimex:


This is the reason I advice guys to leave girls your age alone and concentrate on girls who mean business...

I don't understand why a reasonable man will leave a good girl to marry a runs girl

Only the looks you will be getting on your wedding day from the guys she must have slept with, is enough to tell you...

Only few runs girls get lucky with such attitude...our young girls are easily convinced when it comes to shiiit like this post...

Over sense dey worry you. I'm already laughing at how a sane man would tie nuptial knots with a girl who is a layabout. Niggaz would laugh you to scorn behind your back. And gullible girls already buy the 'Aunty A' suggestion.

A real man would never ditch a girl who stood by him at all times for a fickle lady who has no element of loyalty and decency in her dictionary. Ask Pablo Escobar...."I can replace anything, but I cannot replace my wife and kids". And of course his Tata was his backbone.

Respect is reciprocal. Loyalty demands counter-loyalty. In conclusion, only those who suffered with me and stood by me when I went through a bad time shall eat at my table.

sekxy:
wetin concern u. oga!!!

just wana know, for knowing sake.

MrBrownJay1:


The reality is that a man needs his woman available so that they can EXPERIENCE life together, so that he can get to know her on the INSIDE. That's the only way to discover someone, and hopefully wish to spend the rest of your life with her.

By making yourself absent (hard to get) that man may bring a ring quickly, in order not to lose you... NOT because you are the RIGHT one, but instead simply because he wants to keep you around and possibly confirm if you are indeed right. The minute he discovers you are NOT you will be dropped asap... unless you manage to get pregnant within that time, and therefore you will live a miserable married life, anD certainly end up a punching bag or dead, at the hands of this man who resent you (and possibly that child too)

But hey, di many women want to be married at ALL COST that not even death scares them.



Then let aunty B suffer in silence and accept that aunty A will certainly be the one eating "her cake".
If anyone think that they can be happy on marriage while disregarding their partner's deepest sexual desires, then they rightfully need help from aunty A (aka the freak), in the family bedroom.

@Mujtahida
You are right, many sick men would cheat regardless of whether they have the greatest woman at home or not, but that doesnt change the fact at hand, does it?
If a woman isn't the freak that her husband desires, then it is CERTAINTY that he will eventually seek for someone else to fulfill his sexual desires.

Also, remember that you can't be doing the same sexual act for yrs and expect to still be satisfied in the bedroom. You MUST renew every so often your bedroom activities in order to keep the fire burning and the stimulation/satisfaction high.

As for polygamy, that is the exact nonsense that I have always been against. Here is a clue: too many deluded men hide behind polygamy to CHEAT. If you are polygamous, that's OK, but then be proud of it and tell it to any babe you meet, on the 1st meet!

is marriage all about great sex?

discman2k2:

is marriage all about great sex?

Of course not, but satisfying your partner wolm go a long way in the fulfillment of this union.

koning:




She is totally wrong. What she wrote is utter nonsense. I am a guy. I am in a position to tell you which of the aunties we prefer. Believe this Olosho writer at your own peril.

If the girl that stays at home can cook, fvck very well(very important) and is reasonably good looking and obedient, she is home free. Her boyfriend will never leave her to marry aunty A.

The boyfriend will fvck aunty A on the outside, but she will marry, protect and guard aunty B(his live-at-home and available girlfriend) with his life

Rily,hw?

Fourwinds:
ur opinion is not true...if u are a girl and I can not see what u are capable of doing as a woman...I will become suspicious...So u expect me to just marry a girl dat I don't know if she is homely neat or can do house chores.? brother a responsible girl should show case what she is capable of doing to d guy is dating

well, that's my opinion. But I don't believe a girl needs to come do an IT in the guy's house to prove her capability.

Though it might be important, there is a limit to what a girl I am not yet married to can do in my house even if we are dating.