Seriously, it happened just two days ago, my long time girl friend who have been dating since 100level till now (both of us serving in ogun and oyo state) told me a month ago that a pastor said we were not compatible.. which made her to make up her mind that she is breaking up with me..
I couldn't hold it, I had to involve alot of people to help me beg her... but to no avail.

I sha tried to move on, though I still had feelings for her and wanted her back.
Recently, she began to call me and tell me have forgotten her and I told her" wetin you want make I do? " she asked if I still want us back that was on Sunday evening..
I told her yes! I want us back..

she asked if I can forgive her and love her the way I do before if she tell me something.. so I said as long as we would be back together, I would forgive her..

.now she told me she was dating another guy and dey have had sexual knowledge of each other.. she said she didn't know wat came over her and bla bla bla bla..

I was angry and said I can't continue with her, she is now begging me to come back.. she cried that it was a mistake she would forever regret..

I really love her but, the fact that she slept with someone else is really disgusting to me...

I really need your opinion nairalanders

what should I do? should I move on or give her a chance..
some body say if I leave her now , how am I sure my next won't be worse


this is the girl I want to marry..

Need your help people

dbrown:
Seriously, it happened just two days ago, my long time girl friend who have been dating since 100level till now (both of us serving in ogun and oyo state) told me a month ago that a pastor said we were not compatible.. which made her to make up her mind that she is breaking up with me..
I couldn't hold it, I had to involve alot of people to help me beg her... but to no avail.

I sha tried to move on, though I still had feelings for her and wanted her back.
Recently, she began to call me and tell me have forgotten her and I told her" wetin you want make I do? " she asked if I still want us back that was on Sunday evening..
I told her yes! I want us back..

she asked if I can forgive her and love her the way I do before if she tell me something.. so I said as long as we would be back together, I would forgive her..

.now she told me she was dating another guy and dey have had sexual knowledge of each other.. she said she didn't know wat came over her and bla bla bla bla..

I was angry and said I can't continue with her, she is now begging me to come back.. she cried that it was a mistake she would forever regret..

I really love her but, the fact that she slept with someone else is really disgusting to me...

I really need your opinion nairalanders

what should I do? should I move on or give her a chance..
some body say if I leave her now , how am I sure my next won't be worse


this is the girl I want to marry..

Need your help people

You want to marry a girl that cheated on you.. I pity your life.

Sarang:

You want to marry a girl that cheated on you.. I pity your life.

see this

you knw wat you wnt bro,go for it.4give her.hear my own case too...guys pls i dnt knw hw to push this to front page bt i need advice on an issue,.i visited my gals dad for intro,asked for the marriage list and it was given to me and her dad asked me to study it and come for a review in areas i am nt comfortabl wit,sum days ago i went wit my uncle to for d review of the list & he uncle (fathers senior bro) was also sitted after tryin to beat down on sum thingsit didnt wrk bt rather her uncle was just addin up mor expenses,at a point he flamed up dt if am nt ready to marry i should go bck dt inshort d list is too cheap sef as far as he is concern ntin will b changed.my question nw is,does he hav a right to decide on his brothers children marriage when his broda is stil aliv,just because he is a senior?pls i need advic

You can take her back if you still love her.Thank God she opened up to you. What of if she doesn't open up to you? i knw you will take her back without hesitation.Buh before you take her back be convince in your heart that you love her and you're ready to forgive and forget without using those past to haunt her...The devil you have know for a while is better than unknown angel.


Cc: dbrown

think well, how can you be sure when you take her back she wont cheat again?

Gistedge:
think well, how can you be sure when you take her back she wont cheat again?

That's the point....

Nogodye:
You can take her back if you still love her.Thank God she opened up to you. What of if she doesn't open up to you? i knw you will take her back without hesitation.Buh before you take her back be convince in your heart that you love her and you're ready to forgive and forget without using those past to haunt her...The devil you have know for a while is better than unknown angel.



Cc: dbrown

I still love her, but mehn am scared

once bitten, twice shy dey say

Wisebird22:
you knw wat you wnt bro,go for it.4give her.hear my own case too...guys pls i dnt knw hw to push this to front page bt i need advice on an issue,.i visited my gals dad for intro,asked for the marriage list and it was given to me and her dad asked me to study it and come for a review in areas i am nt comfortabl wit,sum days ago i went wit my uncle to for d review of the list & he uncle (fathers senior bro) was also sitted after tryin to beat down on sum thingsit didnt wrk bt rather her uncle was just addin up mor expenses,at a point he flamed up dt if am nt ready to marry i should go bck dt inshort d list is too cheap sef as far as he is concern ntin will b changed.my question nw is,does he hav a right to decide on his brothers children marriage when his broda is stil aliv,just because he is a senior?pls i need advic

I sense a troubled family...
My advice is that you give them time to sort themselves out including the girl in question.
Just recoil back into your shell and maintain absolute silence..
Is the daughter for sale?
Once you want to embark on a journey to enjoy a vacation in Dubai and the flight was cancelled due to bad weather, would you rather risk your life by using a private jet?
Life is a careful journey. Thread with caution.
Tell your girl to give you time to think..
This issue of expensive list is dehumanizing..
Is she made of GOLD?
Beware of such families please..
Gold digging raise to power hundred.
If you want to go stubborn, get her pregnant then.
But prepare for war too...

dbrown:



I still love her, but mehn am scared

once bitten, twice shy dey say

What if she doesnt tell you this and you take her back and marry her but you later find out the truth.What will you do? will you destroy your marriage then because of you spouse past?

Cheating is a crime in any relationship..
Wetin go give girl mind to cheat on you?
My brother forgive her but sleep with one eye closed oo...
Girls of nowadays!!!
For her to confess, she must be tormented and needs you back truly..
There is always a second chance in every broken friendship. That's the reason you re even here for an advice.....smiles

Wisebird22:
you knw wat you wnt bro,go for it.4give her.hear my own case too...guys pls i dnt knw hw to push this to front page bt i need advice on an issue,.i visited my gals dad for intro,asked for the marriage list and it was given to me and her dad asked me to study it and come for a review in areas i am nt comfortabl wit,sum days ago i went wit my uncle to for d review of the list & he uncle (fathers senior bro) was also sitted after tryin to beat down on sum thingsit didnt wrk bt rather her uncle was just addin up mor expenses,at a point he flamed up dt if am nt ready to marry i should go bck dt inshort d list is too cheap sef as far as he is concern ntin will b changed.my question nw is,does he hav a right to decide on his brothers children marriage when his broda is stil aliv,just because he is a senior?pls i need advic

bro, Create a separate page for this for you to get more contribution and advice...

Forget her bro,girls are always fond of using their pastor as a subtle trick to breakup a relationship.
My ex did same,she told me her pastor said we aren't meant to be because the moment her character changed i new she was cheating,because she knew that i had discovered that she has started cheating so she pulled that subtle trick that her pastor said so.
I knew it ws a lie,i cried bt moved on.Abt 2 months later she returned begging i should give her the opportunity to explain,i declined and told her i can't continue,the trust is broken even tho i stil loved her bt i have to be a man.
Op,the reason why she is coming back to u is-2 things are involve (1)She thought she found a better man bt realised she was fooling herself,or (2) she was used by the man and got dumped so she wants to use u as an option.

Refuse be an option she will do it again if she meets another man she feels is better and this time around,u wil be dumped quietly.Move on cos i never regretted my own decision nt to have her back evn tho it was a tough decision.
I can tolerate anything frm a woman, bt if i catch u cheat ones,that is the end no second chance.My new gf is the best any man will crave for,and she knws my tough stand on that. She is in her final year,and we bth getting married in few months time

Bro! As for me, i cnt take back a lady who leaves me to av sex wit sum1 else. D truth iz, she is back begging u because d guy probably dumped her, d guy iz maltreating her, or d guy changes afta sexing her. If d guy was still treating her nicely, she would neva cum back.

Konji just dey distabilize my life ryt now

That other guy was the reason she left and she has discovered that nobody can love her like you do. Experience they say is the best teacher. Pastor told her nothing, she needed a reason that you will accept because she doesn't want you to hurt much.

I was once in a relationship with a lady, the relationship was still at its early stage so we haven't even kissed let alone have sex but it was obvious we will have it soon then she called one evening and said some rubbish about her Pastor telling her that I am the right guy for her but she should not have sex until we are married bla bla bla.

The whole thing was funny to me. I told her that I cannot continue with the relationship because I don't know the next thing the pastor would tell her. We broke up.

She came back months later to tell me that she no longer cared about what the pastor said that she will do anything if I take her back. It was then that I told her what I know about the other guy, she denied it at first but later confessed that he was the reason behind everything.

I didn't take her back but you may take yours if you still love her but do not invest emotionally in the relationship.

She lied her Pastor said you guys are not compatible. Don't go back to her, she must have done worst.

Lied and cheated, trust broken, I couldn't take back such a person.

I won't advise you take her back for a really serious relationship again. But i will advise u take her back and make her your side chick that is if she is good in bed tho cos konji na bastard. But never marry a lady that cheated on you once or lied to you. she will definitely do it again and might not tell u about it next time.

Ha! ladies can lie. when a girl lies to you ehn, u will feel stupid knowing the truth afterwards. she had to make up the "pastor" thing so she can cheat on u. She was already dating that guy while you guys were dating too. I wonder if ladies can ever be faithful. They live in the moment and not thinking about the future or effects of their actions.


O.P If you want to forgive her and forget, it is left to you. I know how hard it will be fpr you to trust her ever again. It will take time. If you guys can talk about it all and let her know your stand on it, it will help yoy make a wise decision .

CuddleMe:
She lied her Pastor said you guys are not compatible. Don't go back to her, she must have done worst.

From a lady. She knows better.

SheldonCooper:


From a lady. She knows better.

I know nothing

CuddleMe:
I know nothing

Yes you do. If you want to know how to fly, ask the birds. It you want to know more about ladies, let a lady tell you.

SheldonCooper:


Yes you do. If you want to know how to fly, ask the birds. It you want to know more about ladies, let a lady tell you.

You are right, that lady is a big time cheat

That girl doesn't love you and she is playing with your emotions, that guy dumped her that is why she came back to you, you are her plan B.

Pierocash:
Forget her bro,girls are always fond of using their pastor as a subtle trick to breakup a relationship.
My ex did same,she told me her pastor said we aren't meant to be because the moment her character changed i new she was cheating,because she knew that i had discovered that she has started cheating so she pulled that subtle trick that her pastor said so.
I knew it ws a lie,i cried bt moved on.Abt 2 months later she returned begging i should give her the opportunity to explain,i declined and told her i can't continue,the trust is broken even tho i stil loved her bt i have to be a man.
Op,the reason why she is coming back to u is-2 things are involve (1)She thought she found a better man bt realised she was fooling herself,or (2) she was used by the man and got dumped so she wants to use u as an option.

Refuse be an option she will do it again if she meets another man she feels is better and this time around,u wil be dumped quietly.Move on cos i never regretted my own decision nt to have her back evn tho it was a tough decision.
I can tolerate anything frm a woman, bt if i catch u cheat ones,that is the end no second chance.My new gf is the best any man will crave for,and she knws my tough stand on that. She is in her final year,and we bth getting married in few months time

U SPOKE MY MIND... WORD FOR WORD

CuddleMe:
You are right, that lady is a big time cheat

yeah. You were very direct. Not all guys can handle the truth about a cheating partner but all the same, a cheater should be merciful to tell the truth. A wicked cheater is one who will lie at every evidence provided against her or one who will keep a secret till you ask.

SheldonCooper:


yeah. You were very direct. Not all guys can handle the truth about a cheating partner but all the same, a cheater should be merciful to tell the truth. A wicked cheater is one who will lie at every evidence provided against her or one who will keep a secret till you ask.

Oh really? I won't be too direct next time

dbrown:



see this

Love is action word. Its not what she says but what she does. If you forgive her, you are right. If you do not want to forgive her, you are still right. You are not obligated to do any. It's your choice

CuddleMe:
Oh really? I won't be too direct next time

Well, is it true that once a lady cheats, she is likely to cheat again?

SheldonCooper:


Well, is it true that once a lady cheats, she is likely to cheat again?

In some cases yes