So I was at a frnd's place today who is married...we wanted to go somewhere and saw her putting on skirt and rubbing white powder...we've known each oda for quite a while and hav known her to be dis exposed babe;i mean she no dey wear skirt at all...so I asked her her y,and she told me her husband told her to stop wearing trousers,using makeup,big earrings etc immediately after their wedding..and I could remember this same guy practically gift her things like dis while dey were dating..

So I want to ask...why is it so?
Why do men pretend dey like something wen dey actually dont?
To d married women;has it ever happened to u?
Let's hear ur views..

Cc: lalasticlala, mynd44

If ur husband goes clubbing b4 marriage, wud u expect d same rate after marriage?


I knw u will say its not d same but it hovers around mindset.


Different folks, different strokes.

yomi007k:
If ur husband goes clubbing b4 marriage, wud u expect d same rate after marriage?


I knw u will say its not d same but it hovers around mindset.


Different folks, different strokes.

Like u said...is not d same thing..
U can only compare if d woman was a prostitute bfr marriage...so I wldnt expect it to continue after marriage.

yemsai:

Like u said...is not d same thing..
U can only compare if d woman was a prostitute bfr marriage...so I wldnt expect it to continue after marriage.

I guess u answered ur own question.



So if u get married n ur hubby pleads for u to dress more decently, wud u decline?

It is only an insecure man that will ask the wife to stop appearing on point just because he is scared of loosing her. What attracted me in the first place if not for her being on point and in trend.

Mind you, there is a big difference between being trendy and on point and appearing like an invitation to treat.

Modesty is the watch word!!!

Their are men like d@ 4 real buh one thing I ve noticed is most men d@ do d@ feels insecure for nothing sake and are hypocrites. they will tell dier wives not to wear trousers and make-ups buh will still go around chasing girls wearing trousers and heavy make-ups

Perhaps,the guy got born again.The issue of not wearing make-up or earings looks like a religious thing.

Really there are guys who are insecured and will pretend or endure till they are married before showing their dislike.
Modesty should be a watchword after marriage however for the woman.

Decit!

It's insecurity dear.
This is Nigeria where married women are expected to look a certain way and this way has nothing to do with decency or religion,but she should just look plain unattractive like a married woman .

If she rebels,he'll employ emotional blackmail tools_like, "who are you looking good for outside, oh you're trying to attract men?"

As long as she is decent, I see no reason to excessively dictate what she wears. You can switch up his/her style, but to take an already decent dressing below what it was prior to marriage? Mbanu!

The problem is, if it were the wife dressing this way on her own, same people supporting the husband will come here to threaten her_ they'll tell her so dress sexy or lose him to karashikas out there.

What do some men really want?
Don't be surprised he'll be admiring baby okus out there. I fear his type o, I fear them well well.

yomi007k:



I guess u answered ur own question.



So if u get married n ur hubby pleads for u to dress more decently, wud u decline?

So wearing trousers is an indecent dressing?

yemsai:

So wearing trousers is an indecent dressing?

Nope...


Answer my question too.

yomi007k:



Nope...


Answer my question too.

I won't decline..

PaperLace:
It's insecurity dear.
This is Nigeria where married women are expected to look a certain way and this way has nothing to do with decency or religion,but she should just look plain unattractive like a married woman .

If she rebels,he'll employ emotional blackmail tools_like, "who are you looking good for outside, oh you're trying to attract men?"

As long as she is decent, I see no reason to excessively dictate what she wears. You can switch up his/her style, but to take an already decent dressing below what it was prior to marriage? Mbanu!

The problem is, if it were the wife dressing this way on her own, same people supporting the husband will come here to threaten her_ they'll tell her so dress sexy or lose him to karashikas out there.

What do some men really want?
Don't be surprised he'll be admiring baby okus out there. I fear his type o, I fear them well well.

Yes...insecurity it is..
Dnt mind dem..after turning u to old woman, dey'll go outside chasing ladies doing same thing he stopped his wife frm doing..
Hypocrites..

oluwayimika123:
Their are men like d@ 4 real buh one thing I ve noticed is most men d@ do d@ feels insecure for nothing sake and are hypocrites. they will tell dier wives not to wear trousers and make-ups buh will still go around chasing girls wearing trousers and heavy make-ups

Abi o...on point!

yemsai:

I won't decline..

So we r actually on d same page...jus a lil misunderstood

yomi007k:



So we r actually on d same page...jus a lil misunderstood

No we r not...

yemsai:

No we r not...

Dt is also cool.

Truth is, she can actually stop the heavy makeup and big earring and still look even 'sexier'.

I find skirts and gowns attractive. Tell your friend to invest on herself and dress sense. Like many married women, she has finally settled down and found no reason to look flamboyantly elegant anylonger. She only sold that husband story to re-paint the true scenario.

If her husband indeed told her to drop the idea of going out on trousers and big earrings, can't she buy good sexy gown/skirts, cute gold earring, necklace and makeup kits? Abi her husband recommended Mary Amaka (touching ground) skirt? There is no point blaming her husband over something she no longer loves to do.

yomi007k:





Dt is also cool.

Better..

She still love doing dem..bt her husband has restrained her frm doing it..
Y can't he tell her wen dey were still dating?

That's what happens when you marry Okonkwo imi utaba.

yemsai:

Yes...insecurity it is..
Dnt mind dem..after turning u to old woman, dey'll go outside chasing ladies doing same thing he stopped his wife frm doing..
Hypocrites..

That's who Nigerian men are
Before I will get married I will tell hubby to be to please tell me anything I'm doing or putting on that it doesn't like. So that will can settle any issue before marriage
Can't look like a granny after getting married while he will look like young bobo

Rukkydelta:

That's who Nigerian men are
Before I will get married I will tell hubby to be to please tell me anything I'm doing or putting on that it doesn't like. So that will can settle any issue before marriage
Can't look like a granny after getting married while he will look like young bobo

Lolz...abi o...well said

It takes an enlightened human to let go of the default urge to control a fellow being.Freewill must be respected at all times regardless.

Nigerian babes? hmm, statistics has shown they fare badly with total freedom.

Like a friend always advices- learn a thing and two from Islam and our forefathers the art of handling women.

Rukkydelta:

That's who Nigerian men are
Before I will get married I will tell hubby to be to please tell me anything I'm doing or putting on that it doesn't like. So that will can settle any issue before marriage
Can't look like a granny after getting married while he will look like young bobo

You'd scare the hell outta him with terms and conditions.

Just be true to yourself and set a standard.

Chubhie:

You'd scare the hell outta him with terms and conditions.

Just be true to yourself and set a standard.

Just saying cos I don't want anyone to change me to what I don't like
I'm against indecent dressing
But do you know some men change their wives who don't put on trousers when single to putting it on likewise the ones who does put on trousers some men will want them to stop
It will be good if the man shows his displeasure during courtship. It's not terms and conditions it's communication

Rukkydelta:

Just saying cos I don't want anyone to change me to what I don't like
I'm against indecent dressing
But do you know some men change their wives who don't put on trousers when single to putting it on likewise the ones who does put on trousers some men will want them to stop
It will be good if the man shows his displeasure during courtship. It's not terms and conditions it's communication

I wish you the very best as you journey the human experience.

Rukkydelta:

Just saying cos I don't want anyone to change me to what I don't like
I'm against indecent dressing
But do you know some men change their wives who don't put on trousers when single to putting it on likewise the ones who does put on trousers some men will want them to stop
It will be good if the man shows his displeasure during courtship. It's not terms and conditions it's communication

Don't pray for such, let him know what you like upfront and ask him if he's okay with it. Some people will agree but change later but always be yourself and don't settle for an insecure humanbeing just to answer Mrs

Chubhie:

I wish you the very best as you journey the human experience.

Thanks

Pidgin2:


Don't pray for such, let him know what you like upfront and ask him if he's okay with it. Some people will agree but change later but always be yourself and don't settle for an insecure humanbeing just to answer Mrs

Thanks

I know of a man that stopped his wife from wearing trousers. Infact she started wearing long skirts immediately after her wedding. But this same man I heard goes after small girls on trousers. I just don't know what is wrong with men seriously.

No man will stop me from wearing trousers or dress the way I'm used to as a single lady, just as long as I continue to dress decently. I cannot come and be dressing like mbeke just because I'm married.

Rukkydelta:

That's who Nigerian men are
Before I will get married I will tell hubby to be to please tell me anything I'm doing or putting on that it doesn't like. So that will can settle any issue before marriage
Can't look like a granny after getting married while he will look like young bobo

hmm, ur husby will not even complain of anything like that cos in real life u dnt wear trousers n heavy makeups,no earing n necklace. N i knw u always wear long skirts

so u gat no problem,a churchman will be ur typ

Homeboiy:


hmm, ur husby will not even complain of anything like that cos in real life u dnt wear trousers n heavy makeups,no earing n necklace. N i knw u always wear long skirts

so u gat no problem,a churchman will be ur typ

Lol
I do put on makeups also with earings
And long skirts not my thing though I don't put on mini skirt