DeeTus:
Hehehe. 40 minutes is not the ultimate. A friend of mine lasts up to 4 hours and his wife is always speechless when they make love.

U know how much you can make with 4 hours of hustling ?

KingEbukasBlog:


There is what is called the MHC - major histocompatibility complex - gene and this can be used for sexual mate selection . The sweat is composed of some compounds that make up this gene and the odour from these compounds can be perceived by women through smell . Women's ability to perceive this is at its optimal state during their ovulation . Women are most likely aroused by men who have dissimilar MHCs . The more dissimilar the MHC of a man is from the woman , the more she'll be attracted to him or even sexually aroused .

There's the possibility that you and your husband have very similar or closely similar MHCs that's why you don't enjoy sex with him or you don't get Hot no matter what he does . And when this is the situation , the woman is more likely going to fantasize about other men during sex for her to enjoy sex .

So this could be the case dear , its not about his big peniz size or physical appearance , the MHC is very likely culpable for your problem .

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Most times that's why women cheat . They are naturally drawn to men with very dissimilar MHCs . Not that the man is not trying his best with love , romance or sex . Its just biology

Sorry SexyGirl787, I yapped about the problem without proffering a solution . Gosh , solutions are appreciated .

1. Try Romance

There are people who have satisfying relationships without the sex . To mitigate this sex problem , you need to turn your attention to romance . Women can be drawn to other things especially when it concerns emotions because their endrogen enhances the production of the 'love hormone' oxytocin (natural connection or attachment ) . Maybe this could circumvent or even surmount the problem - using romance as a weapon as the foundation for sex . Try first to connect with each other emotionally strongly for months maybe before physical action . Embrace your feminine side and let him sweep your feet away with romance .

2. Try Spirituality

Who says spirituality can't solve your problem? Grow your spiritual lives together and let the connection between your spirits tighten . Pray , read your bible and share God's word together . People can find the lofty and spiritual sexually attractive . I mean Tullia d'Aragona tried it and her sense of spirituality titillated men . But she was a wh.oore but you get the drift . The spiritual(true self) connection may solve the problem .

3. Try Role Playing

Let your imaginations about that man in your fantasy materialize . Your husband can play the role of any occupation you find sexy . This has the potency to trick your mind thereby eliminating the need to fantasize about other men which makes you feel guilty .

escapefromusa:


U know how much you can make with 4 hours of hustling ?

Not me. It's my friend. He is also very comfortable.

Kondomatic:
I like your advice sir but how can you jump to a fast conclusion that his dick is small? Do do you know how wide her pussy is?

The dick is always the scapegoat even when some pussies are as wide as abysses.

SexyGirl787:
Pls who else is experiencing this? My husby hits me hard and try to satisfy me with all his strength he is everywomans dream he can last in bed 4 up to 40mins tryin 2 please nd maake me cum but most tyms I dnt enjoy it somtyms I feel d pleasure esp when he suck my breast but I always imagine it's anoda man wit a big black dick on me that is how I derive my pleasure. I enjoy sex with him wheneva I imagine anoda man on me. I hav neva discusd dis wit him cos he won't b happy dat is y I kept it 2myself. Pls who else is experiencing this and how can I overcome this? Pls I love my husband nd cannot hurt him or lose my marriage. Sometimes I even watch porn just to enjoy myself while alone. Pls advice

Cc: lalasticlala, Royalroy etc pls move to necessary section. Thanks

Talk to him about it!

99% of problems in marriage occur due to failed communication!

DeeTus:
Hehehe. 40 minutes is not the ultimate. A friend of mine lasts up to 4 hours and his wife is always speechless when they make love.

na the husby or d wife tell u?

lefulefu:

na the husby or d wife tell u?

LOL, my friend of course. He's a man like me. His wife always calls him machine in the bedroom.

Something resonated " I always imagined it's another man with a big black d1ck" is he lacking in this department or is this one of your fantasies? To endure sex with your husband you have to look at alternative scenarios without that then it's nothing more than a chore. You love your husband but you are no longer in love with him. Maybe you never were, you were never honest perhaps to admit to yourself. You are being unfair to him. If he did the same I am sure there will be much said.

You need to take a Birdseye view of things what exactly is keeping you together, why do you love him? What about him exactly do you love? List 10 things you love and ten things you hate. If it takes you a long time to think of anyting you love and less time to complete the things you don't like then you have problems. You need to face them.

SexyGirl787:
His di*ck is not small it's big though not very big it satisfy a woman I njoy it sometimes but most times I don't dats y I always pleasure myself with porn nd imaginations.

D problem is u want variety, tired of eating rice everyday, dreaming of amala n ewedu.
My advice: reduce d frequency, from 3 tines weekly to once/WK for example. Change sex pisition, has ur hubby banged u on a table?
Lie on d dining table, missionary, let him enter u standing BTW ur legs (after smooshing u wet of course). Tank me later.

decatalyst:


Jesu!

This sounds absurd jare. Let him try to enlarge JT. But wearing strap-on sounds weird to decent couple

shebi im dey find beta kondo aka "cucumber dela cassava". Oya na mk e test am. E go hear weeen.

Stop watching porn...

SexyGirl787:

Hm i hope u dont cheat on him tho!.

well..Since it has gotten to this extent ther is only one option to make urself feel satisfied.
I have to be a bit raw and vulgar here (sorriee)

U hv to take ur self as ur hubby sxx slave..
Wierd?. YES but thats only option.
Just bend down spread wide and give him a clear view of that ass. And let him doggy u.
Tell him u like him to turn u around frn diff position to another. (He should be d dictator)
While u feel like a worthless Bleep slave to him.
That thought of (yes im a wortless Bleep slave to ma hubby i dnt care and its nobody's biz)
And tell him those (im urs baby yeh fk me)
Women love to be dominated, so just try to create that "being dominated by my hubby"
Mentality during sex.(always keep this thought in yr mind all d d act)
Just try and develop that fantasy or fetish or wateva.
YEP its doesnt matter hez ur hubby afteral.

DISCLAIMER * pls Im not saying u should become a house slave pls, (it should be strictly on sex alone) before other ladies here got me wrong nd start callin me names.
I only told u how to enjoy ur sexlife with ya hubby oooh.. hmm!!

So PRATICE IT AND TANK ME LATER!

OK thanks all...

Jaynom:

You know Lex Steele? Porn Heads dey nairaland o

Na Charles dera na him me know o

you've had so many sexual partners before marriage that's why you can't enjoy your husband until you need to think of another man to feel pleasure, that's the promiscuous spirit in you.

This is why men need to marry virgins or a girl with at least one or two partners.

read this for clarification
https://www.nairaland.com/3844556/should-women-save-virginity-marriage

a woman who had so many sexual partners is less likely to enjoy her matrimonial home so the only thing that gives them happiness is children, so they can transfer the love to them, but not the husband because the husband is a tool to be used. yes the husband works hard and you get to hate him more. why don't you just tell him that he needs another wife that you weren't meant to be. At least that will give you the freedom that you so dearly seek.

feelgoodInc:
you've had so many sexual partners before marriage that's why you can't enjoy your husband until you need to think of another man to feel pleasure, that's the promiscuous spirit in you.

This is why men need to marry virgins or a girl with at least one or two partners.

read this for clarification
https://www.nairaland.com/3844556/should-women-save-virginity-marriage

yeah

SexyGirl787:
I cant leave my husband cos of sex I luv him so much

Stop watching porn dumbass. You are numbing your brain to BBC