is there anything you would be unable to forgive in a relationship or are you of the school of thought that love covers a multitude of sin? what one thing would your love do to you that you would never be unwilling or unable to forgive either in a marriage or other relationship?

if a guy betrays ma love 4 him
dat would be his end

If i catch my Guy on top of a lady.hmm is over!!

Sure if i do catch my chick on top another guy, i go disown am straight

i would forgive anything. if my partner was to sleep with another woman--- i would have to see what is wrong in our relationship that he feels he had to even think about doing that in the first place, and if he slipped up and is truely sorry, then God will forgive him, so must i also.

i think a lot of people will say that if he knows this he will take advantage of it, well no, not for me and my relationship because we are both in God, and both desiring to be the best we can be in our relationship with each other and, more importantly, with God.

uhmm interetsing posts. however i am personally of the opinion, (it can only be my opinion anyway) that there is nothing unforgiveable as far as relationships are concerned, except incest. if you catch your guy or babe on someone else, you may be hurt and angry but personally, i would forgive him. it may take awhile, but i would.

IF YOU REALLY LOVE THE PERSON DEFINETLY YOU GOT TO FORGIVE AND FORGET.BUT IF YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE FAKING THE LOVE THEN YOU CANNOT FORGIV.IF MY BOYFRIEND HAD TO DO SOMETHING WRONG TO ME AND HE COMES TO SAY SORRY THEN WHATS MY REASON NOT TO FORGIVE HIM.GOD FORGAVE YOUR SINS SO WHO ARE YOU NOT TO FORGET SOMEONE YOU LOVE.

If the guy keeps cheating on me. I'll let him go without any consideration.

SISTER GET REAL COZ YOU MUST FAKE LOVE.IF ONLY YOUR BOYFRIEND KNOWS THAT IS WHAT YOU ARE SAYING ABOUT HIM I WONDER WHAT HE WILL SAY.BUT LET ME ADVISE YOU LOVE IS NO SOMETHING THAT YOU CAN PLAY ON.KEEP THAT IN MIND.

I would forgive justabout everything - once!
such as : him sleeping with another woman, beating me, stealing for me, etc.
for example - if he found out my husband was cheating on me - and I talked to him about it and asked him to stop, as we've sorted our problems and he still cheated on me - I'd have to seriously re-look at our relationship.
Everyone is entitled to a mistake and Everyone is entitled to a second chance - we are only human after all.
Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me - is a popular UK fraze.

@alpacaem

Very rightly said. I definately agree with you.

But before we go on forgiving, we must make sure that the
cause of the problem is looked into and addressed.

Sometimes, a second offence can be so bad that you can't
recover from it.

For instance, men that end up crippling/disabling their wives after
beating them repeatedly.

From a religious point of view there is nothing unforgivable.For Christians we are all created in the image of God.If God Almighty is able to forgive all sorts of sins(Sodomy,murder,rape,cannibalism to mention a few),We can also forgive our spouses for whatever offence.Betrayal,heartbreak are terrible sins but are not the worst of sins.
Jesus provided a conditional ground for divorce(on grounds of infidelity).Because of it's conditionality he provided room for us to forgive our partners whenever they go the wrong way.What's the difference between an adulterer/adulteress and the partners who does not forgive and goes on to marry another partner.Both are guilty of the same crime(one was caught during the relationship and the other took advantage of the other partner's offence to commit adultery)
Are the bulk of Nairaland users suggesting that they cant forgive and are generally adulterous?!?!?!

cheating on me i cant tolerate that if its becoming more of an atitude than a mistake then am out of the relationship

The only thing I can't forgive is being murdered by my very own partner.

no there is nothing. if u are madly and foolishly in love, u will forgive just anything. from experience!

I wil forgiv but the affair may not continue.

if u rilly ,deeply and trully love the person u will find it in ur heart to forgive------------------just cos ur man or gal cheats on u does not mean he has commited the worst abomination---------------------------the relationship may not continue butu shuld be able to forgive

if i catch my girlfriend cheating on me i will forgive her but my wife will let her go, maybe she prefer him

Yes, lying and cheating, Gbam!!!!

Really am a soft heartd person but if she carry my harmbugger give another man chop I'll 4give her bt d memory will linger on.

Yeah, if my lady cheats on me!

Sure i will forgive her and we will both put 'em behind us.

But she messing around with ma Homey?

Am not sure of that.

It got to be "What goes around comes around"!

there are a handful of things i cannot forgive in a relationship and even if i forgive, i will neva take him back.love can not cover every wrong i will not be a door mart in the name of love,sometimes love is just not enough

Getting another girl pregnant. I dint say cheating (cuz that is inevitable and pardonable in the long run)

YES!!!!!!!! CAUSING THE DEATH OF ANY MY CHILDREN--by accident or design!!!! In fact --- he will join him or her---by the grace of the almighty!!!! Any other reason na nonsense!!!! Forgiveable for the right price!!!!!

In actual fact there's nothing dat love shld't b able 2 forgive. So wat it means is dat wat we actually practice is no true love. May b in d best senarious we have a very high sense of affection for d other party. But then again we misunderstand d concept of love forgiving all. Wat it actually means is dat if d person can truly b repentant, den d love dat u feel is willing d give not a second chance, but a fresh chance where, u like wipe off d slate n u dont c wat d person did, but u him/her as she currently is repentant n willing 2 start again without goin back 2 d act. There's no point in giving d person a fresh chance if he/she's not repentant or if u r not sure dat d deed wld not b repeated.

Taking advantage of the weaknesses I have for him would evaporate all the love instantly!

Love ko hate ni....

ngozi2007:

IF YOU REALLY LOVE THE PERSON DEFINETLY YOU GOT TO FORGIVE AND FORGET.BUT IF YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE FAKING THE LOVE THEN YOU CANNOT FORGIV.IF MY BOYFRIEND HAD TO DO SOMETHING WRONG TO ME AND HE COMES TO SAY SORRY THEN WHATS MY REASON NOT TO FORGIVE HIM.GOD FORGAVE YOUR SINS SO WHO ARE YOU NOT TO FORGET SOMEONE YOU LOVE.

People like you are rare to find..