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Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Joy1706(f): 10:42am On May 13, 2017 |
mikolo80:So she shouldn't work? Her only purpose in life is to bear children? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Joy1706(f): 10:43am On May 13, 2017 |
dominique:How much joy is shekau bringing his mother? Just asking ni o 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Joy1706(f): 10:44am On May 13, 2017 |
vicben27:It is not your place to decide for her where she should work or if she should do business. Is it every woman that wants to do business? |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Nobody: 10:48am On May 13, 2017 |
dominique: Thanks sis,i tried talking to him last night Nd he said"U either get rid of that stuff or im done with u,i'll be here for our daughter but i'll have nothing to do with u"....Called my doc nd he said it'll take at least 2-4months for it to wear of with proper treatment...I don't know how to explain it to my husband |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by vicben27(m): 10:54am On May 13, 2017 |
Joy1706:well datz for me dear! i cant be wit a woman who dosnt listen! we all hav dreams n goals we'd lik to achieve in life. for us to do dat we hav to wrk together as for me i have a spouse who is ready to go all d way! i dnt give Bleep about all dis femist shiit. n buildin a career crap! |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by dominique(f): 11:09am On May 13, 2017 |
Joy1706: It depends on the type of upbringing his mother have him and the environment he grew up in. |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by dominique(f): 11:10am On May 13, 2017 |
tollahni: Keep appealing to him with words and actions. He will come around. |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by thorpido(m): 11:33am On May 13, 2017 |
tollahni:Both of you should go together to see the doctor who will counsel you also. You should have discussed and finalised this with your husband first.You may have to go off family planning and like the doctor said,you may not get pregnant immediately because your hormones will need to stabilize. |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by samtol4(m): 12:14pm On May 13, 2017 |
tollahni:Your job vs Your marriage . No matter how much you earn your home should be the first priority . sister going for family planning without hubby consent is mere invitation for him to get kids outside . Plead with him to forgive you and pray for God to restore the broken bridge |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by samtol4(m): 12:16pm On May 13, 2017 |
SirMichael1:Epic |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by bukatyne(f): 1:14pm On May 13, 2017 |
Am I reading the same OP? Madam said she and her husband agreed to one kid and thereafter lock shop. She had one and did FP as agreed. When it was time for renewal, hubby suddenly developed thirst for another pikin and said no (backing out on initial agreement) and wife decided to follow through. So how is the OP out rightly evil? @OP: Like others have said, bros wants another baby. You either convince him to stick to your agreed one or have another baby. And if you are going to have another baby, do it now. And except your job is your private stuff, it is not worth it in the long run. Check this thread of mine: https://www.nairaland.com/3244764/women-career-before-marriage-marriage 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Eddygourdo(m): 2:00pm On May 13, 2017 |
Joy1706:really? so when your husband doesn't agree with something as sensitive as birth control, and the woman does it anyway, it's not undermining his authority? also you say on top her own body ? do you ladies reason well at all. of course it's now her own body not their own. infact they man is being stupid, how he hasn't gone outside to find one pretty girl to baby mama the rest of the children is beyond me. |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by eyinjuege: 2:37pm On May 13, 2017 |
The OP is not the only one at fault here please. I wonder why the husband agreed to have only one child at the beginning their marriage and suddenly, out of the blues has decided to have more children. Was he initially under a spell and the spell just wore off? Even if you're going to back out of an agreement/contract with your spouse, you have to do it gradually, prime them first, let them get used to the idea and not just spring it up on them. It might take some time to get used to the idea, especially if they're not mentally prepared for another pregnancy. Its your body, and you're the one going to carry the pregnancy. Now OP, let's talk true talk. Two or even three children is OK to have if you can afford it. Its a bit unfair on your child to be an only child. Who will your child have to chat, fight , and make up with? Who will she have to boss around the house? And when she's grown, it's nice to know someone's (your siblings) always got your back ( that's if they're raised right anyway. Some siblings are sworn enemies) I believe you should have enough love to go round as many children as you have. Again, I see you're quite concerned about your job. Are you the breadwinner? If you are, Your concerns might be more than legitimate. I realise a lot of Nigerians are always quick to say it's God that raises children. Believing that once a child is born, the resources to train the child must just show up. Its not always the case. Let your husband understand that he has to be ready to bear your share of household expenses if you're not able to bring anything home from your confinement. As per the family planning you did, the injections usually take about 3 months to wear off. You're still young and hopefully fit so even if it takes a year to get pregnant, you're still on track. Good luck with your family. Babies are cute though, with their beautiful skin... ![]() 10 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by mikolo80: 3:05pm On May 13, 2017 |
Joy1706:yes. that's why men can't get pregnant. will she or you exist with such selfish mothers. kontinue forming feminism una hia. don't go and find out the outcome with the ppl deceiving you.how has it worked out for them 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Nobody: 3:56pm On May 13, 2017 |
eyinjuege: Lol...thank u dear..No I'm not the breadwinner we both contribute.....Nd yes babies are cute nd adorable |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by richdaflux: 5:02pm On May 13, 2017 |
It's selfish to blame the woman for not wanting to have another child, having jointly agreed early in their relationship not to have more than one. That being said, I think the way forward is to reach a compromise, talk it through, and if the husband is reading, sir, you can't force her against her wish. Try to cajole her to see reasons why you have a change of heart and work towards a common goal. One question for Tolani, would you have another child if your job and limited time isn't a barrier? 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Nobody: 9:46pm On May 13, 2017 |
richdaflux: Sure |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Nobody: 9:50pm On May 13, 2017 |
tollahni:You seem jobless. |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by richdaflux: 9:58pm On May 13, 2017 |
tollahni: If that's the case, I would advise that you try and see things from your husband's perspective and reach a compromise. If you had said "No", then it would have been tricky, but your answer in the affirmative signifies that you might regret your decision of one child later on in life, especially when the job is no longer there or when you later have ample time on your hands. Unfortunately, it might be too late due to your biological clock. Think it through, this may just save you a later agony or your husband's resentment in the near future. Yes! Your job is stressful, but you'll always find a way, if you try. May God give you the wisdom to sail through. Shalom. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Nobody: 10:08pm On May 13, 2017 |
pocohantas: Please which section is she suppose to go to? Tell Us, since you are the Almighty who knoweth all ![]() |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Nobody: 6:23am On May 14, 2017 |
alot of senseless comments here esp from the men 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by AKBliv010(m): 7:22am On May 14, 2017 |
tollahni: -deleted- |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Nobody: 8:43am On May 14, 2017 |
One man recently abandoned his wife and two kids (boy and girl) of 14 years. He just left the house without telling them where he lives but comes to see the kids for a few minutes some days. The wife has been a house wife for years now the man is not giving them money to even eat and she is jobless. She's almost going crazy, if anyone can help her with a job it is God that will help you in return, I'm moved by her plight hence my reason for posting this Goodluck to those who are against this OP, human beings are unpredictable, she needs to work o, it is necessary. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by DukeNija(m): 10:12am On May 14, 2017 |
Joy1706: Ridiculous comment. Then she should marry herself, start a family with her body and keep her body off limit to other people. |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by KAYD007(m): 1:38pm On May 14, 2017 |
Funnicator: If to say na China she dey...I for reason with her but na naij oo...one child policy kwa...mbanu! If love sweet me to the extent of even Swearing with the bible for one child. ..I go break am with immediate alacrity.... Please kindly allow the man to have side chick that will give him his heart desire. ...extra children! Since you feel your life is too busy to accommodate children .... 5 years kwa...the man''s been patience enough. I am seriously praying and fasting for you so that when una eventually copulate for additional child....Baba God go bless una with sixplet ![]() |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by KAYD007(m): 1:40pm On May 14, 2017 |
Pidgin2: No where did the OP states that her husband can not take care of her and additional children! |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by KAYD007(m): 1:41pm On May 14, 2017 |
Pidgin2: No where did the OP states that her husband can not take care of her and additional children! |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by cococandy(f): 3:17pm On May 14, 2017 |
Lots of retards on here. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by cococandy(f): 3:23pm On May 14, 2017 |
Child bearing is a dangerous and exhausting venture and no one should be forced to have kids when they don't want to. IMO the man is 100% at fault here. If they agreed on one child before marriage, he should stick to the agreement. People calling the woman selfish can't even have a period much less carry a pregnancy and you have the nerves to talk. So much ignorance. You have no idea what it takes. Like any of you are gonna be there at night when the baby is up to feed it so that mom can get some rest and go to work the next day. Selfish assholes. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by bigcp(m): 3:29pm On May 14, 2017 |
Jesus...only 1 child...and a girl for that matter...still u went ahead to do family planning without his consent?..i don't blame d man at all...vcos i'ld do worse...i may never talk 2 u again ....madam sorry to say...but you've driven ur hubby into d arms of another woman...he'll start seeking for a male child/children else where...good luck with winning him back....u 4kd up big time...it's suppose to be a joint decision... |
Re: My Husband Wont Talk To Me by Nobody: 3:34pm On May 14, 2017 |
cococandy: You are too lazy to have a child! You see yua life? If that man no mercy u kari u go jand, yhu for deh hia der form lazy amerikanah one child policy? Were you in Nigeria, family-in-laws would have come at you by themselves and dragged you away from their son's house. Lazy women generation. ![]() 1 Like |
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