mmuonso:
Bum bum is a fool, yeah forced marriages should not be accepted, but why wait till the weeding day, eeh kwa ?

dangotesmummy:
abi o.when anything happens won't they tell her to go back to her husband house after all you saw him before you married him

Meanwhile if a man did the exact thing the lady did they'll say maybe it's because her character is not good.

Nigerian culture is so anti women especially in marriage

coolesmile:
Her Twitter handle is Bum Bum. What do you expect? I hope bum bum is married now, or is she still waiting for the perfect man?

But that girl bum bum set o. if na her pic be dat .

Antichristus:
A fool at 30 is forever a fool. You didn't want to marry him and you played along to the very last minute under the guise of being pushed or coerced? You should have stood your ground from the word go. Right to marriage (whoever one wishes) is a fundamental human right under international human rights law. Now, any sensible potential suitor should simply walk past you because you could still change your mind after saying "I do."

omoolorire:
The lady in question did not get it right. Reason:
She allow the guy to even proposed for unrealistic relationship
She gave the guy impression of her consent by allow introduction to take place.
She was still not convince enough during engagement.
She just allow the guy to waste his resources on kangaroo wedding
Well I don't blame her if what she claimed actually happened but the guy too ought to have seen the red light before wedding day.
I wish the guy good luck in all his future endeavors.
For elders in the house mark my word something is waiting for the girl in future. Pls don't ask question for God sake. Thank you.

ShawttySoFyne:
No one should ever be forced into an unloving marriage

dangotesmummy:
the reason the father is angry is because of the money he has spent for the wedding and the embarrassment it will cause him. Same applies to the mother. No opportunity to show off to her friends and her family. It's like you don't know the way African families are. They do things for their own parochial reasons and make it look like it's for the family

Kebreal92:

May GOD help our Women. We treat women in this part of the world like trash. As if they do not have say in issues concerning their own lives.

Ayanfeoluwaoba:
This is one of the best response so far.

Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured, why will you force me to marry a person I dont see a future with?

My Parent once told me it's a must I marry from their town and I asked them, what if fate brings me to someone from another place? In response, grandma said it will not hold, I then asked her a question that "How many more years do you have to live, that you want to decide for me?" Mumsy went like never....and I said I will do their wish only if they are ready to perform all the "wifery" duty. Nobody taught them to back off.

It's the happiness in Marriage that matters not the many many preaching.

dangotesmummy:
are you serious ? So she doesn't have a right to change her mind at anytime? Isn't it her marriage? Isn't she the one that will live with him?

Why do society like sticking their nose into other peoples business and be forming unnecessary itk.even the one the husband is beating blue black at home will come and be forming marriage counsellor

Cordis92:
It's really pathetic imaging what that young man went through after that day, but I pray he finds a woman who will love him and be his wife. Every disappointment is a blessing. The lady saved him from unhappy marriage or future divorce.

Lesson to people who like recommended marriage, please ask the person if he or she really loves you and is ready to take the walk with you. Ask well o

I won't judge the lady. She is old enough to know what she wants. I pray God helps her in her life journey.

Billyonaire:


You are one brave young woman. Parents almost always believe that they know better, that their advice is the best, that they have better experience after years of practical approach to life. But what they have failed to notice is that Times Have Changed. Social media and other universe of ideas are on now available. People no longer want a 9-5 job to be successful. And women no longer accept the idea of being ruled over by men, especially if the man in question is more ignorant, less educated or even "make-I-Hurriedly-marry-My-time-don-dey go" category. I have personally accepted the fate of the world, that 50 years from now, marriage, as it is practiced now will NOT exist. Common law marriages with 7 years renewable contract will become popular and a lot of people will not even want to get married in the first place, so, what is all this noise about leaving the alter. Marriage these days is just an overrated financial wastage re-packaged to 'fulfill traditional expectation of the society'.

The Lady did right.

Nweike1:
God bless you sir

Antichristus:



YOU WERE RIGHT UNTIL THE VERY LAST STATEMENT. WHAT YOU DESCRIBE IS ALREADY THE CASE IN EUROPE AND THE AMERICAS - NORTH AND SOUTH.

MY DISAGREEMENT WITH YOU IS THE CONCLUSION DRAWN. THIS GIRL SHOULD HAVE BLUNTLY INSISTED SHE'S NOT MARRYING THAT GUY AND THAT ANYONE DOING/SAYING/PLANNING ANYTHING TO THE CONTRARY IS SIMPLY WASTING THEIR TIME.

dangotesmummy:
are you serious ? So she doesn't have a right to change her mind at anytime? Isn't it her marriage? Isn't she the one that will live with him?

Why do society like sticking their nose into other peoples business and be forming unnecessary itk.even the one the husband is beating blue black at home will come and be forming marriage counsellor

HARDDON:


Like others said, she shouldnt have waited that long , wasted the guy's time , efforts n money b4 calling it off!
And d big embarrassment?

Been in Church with officiating Minister n invitees waiting for some bride n been told ova d phone that bride has changed her mind! Da fuq!!!!??

What happens to d money spent on fud, arrangemrnts n all other bleeping ish!!!! ?


SHe is mos def a Devil. But luckily, for once, the devil did a right tin even if it was left So late. Itz beta to have broken it now dan frustrate d guy's life later

Antichristus:


WHICH SCHOOL DID YOU GO TO AND WHO WAS YOUR ENGLISH TEACHER. JUST CURIOUS TO KNOW. TAKE ANOTHER LOOK AT MY RESPONSE AND DECIDE IF YOUR QUESTION IS STILL PERTINENT. TO PUT IT IN ANOTHER WAY:

P1=FROM DAY 1 SHE NEVER WANTED TO MARRY THE GUY;
P2=FROM DAY 1 SHE SHOULD HAVE STOOD HER GROUND BECAUSE SHE HAS A RIGHT TO DO SO;
P3=EVERYONE WOULD HAVE BACKED DOWN OTHERWISE THEY WOULD BE VIOLATING HER FUNDAMENTAL RIGHT;
C =THE SAD EVENT OF THAT DAY WOULDN'T HAVE HAPPENED AND THE WHOLE WORLD WOULD RESPECT HER STAND.


DO YOU STILL NEED A TRANSLATOR

Cordis92:
Do you know how many times they met or spoke? Do you know how many times she refused it but people told her it would be fine that love grows? Like I said before, I won't judge or condemn anybody because I was not there and even if I was there, I still do not have that right.

PaulSteve:
She should have ended it earlier but no,she kept pushing till wedding day before 'embarrassing everyone'. Well better late than never!

vantage001:
Am i the only to notice that ladies bearing bunmi actually have decent ''bum-bum''.
I dated one sometime ago and she had a humongous as$. Yoruba people should clarify this.

hush15:


Common, someone that left someone at the alter already invited the society into her private life already because all those guests and friends will talk bout it forever. More so, when everybody seen to have forgotten, she took to twitter to start explaining what should have left alone and invited the society again to come feast on her issue. Even she can't get over her actions. That one aside,

Now about what she did, whether is wrong or not, only God knows best because here all I can see is that she will pose a very big problem for the guy in the marriage because rather than focus on her marriage and build her family, she will be distracted and complain every time. After all, she wasn't into it anyway but cos her family had a say, she went ahead. Probably cheat on the guy eventually sef.

However, she could still have cancelled the wedding a day to the wedding not on the wedding day. Cos that pressure didn't come on the wedding day. There is a build up already and while planning everything, am very sure she would have asked herself if this is really what she wanted. It's not like she didn't like the guy, she just wasn't sure whether she could pull through. And when it seems she can't, should have just saved the guy the huge embarrassment even if if it the day before.

Me, I believe that there is more to it and am sure she has interest in another but can't come out clean yet and besides, can't introduce since the parents are upset already. It's a question of time.

Dynamite02:

From her story she did not push,but her loved ones kept pushing her..pressuring her against her own desire...they must have trapped and choked her with their nagging leaving her with no choice,for someone still depending on her parents it must have been hell for her. Generally people will judge the aftermath but not the journey itself

talk2alabama:
Ok.. Bravo.. I hope she isn't living with her parents still.. Because if na me.. Na pursue I go pursue her comot from my house

ShawttySoFyne:
No one should ever be forced into an unloving marriage

ShawttySoFyne:
No one should ever be forced into an unloving marriage

Tosinex:
Very bad of you bunmi.. Heaven sef can't be happy with you, what you did is enough for that man to commit suicide! He proposed to you, engaged you and you agree! You shouldn't have agreed atleast he will know his stand. Go to God in prayer and ask for forgiveness! Ask the man also to forgive you because you've not offended only him you offended his creator.