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Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by sirusX(m): 12:56pm On May 15, 2017 |
ephi123:You got that right 1 Like |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by gabrielniy(m): 12:56pm On May 15, 2017 |
Favourite01: It's not as bad as you are making it look. Next time you are on the street, cab, church, market, try looking at someone you don't know eyeball to eyeball. Keep the gaze even if the person is aware you are looking and let him/her shift gaze. Try that often, sooner or later you will learn how to stand the sight of strangers. Also try to get more involved in verbal communication, we introverts tend to express ourselves better in writing, but that verbal expression is key if you must break the ice. When you have the opportunity to interact with people more knowledgeable than you are, express your opinions, don't just nod in the affirmative, bring up conversations (you can always start with anything humor-like) in professional environment, discuss a trending topic with someone strange, and always remember that people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Those worked for me and I'm sure they can for you too and our likes. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Nobody: 12:57pm On May 15, 2017 |
Ikem11:sorry abt that. I don't have friends too. none of my class/course mates attended my wedding. must of them claimed I don't have a good relationship with them. I felt really bad. I've being trying to be very nice to anyone I meet now and also try to keep in touch as much as I can. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Johncuppa(m): 12:59pm On May 15, 2017 |
[quote author=Favourite01 post=56524216]I have the same issue too.im an introvert and sometimes I wish I was an extrovert.i ve been seeking for a job since 2015.i ve always been invited for interviews but I don't scale through successfully at the interview stage,i always mess up.it doesn't mean I'm dullard,i ve done aptitude tests in the past which I passed, but wen it comes to the interview stage,i become very nervous,and i simply forget what to say or how to say it even if know what to say.i dnt no how to keep a conversation going.i m really confused,i dnt no if I will ever get a job.[/quote 1 Like |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Johncuppa(m): 1:08pm On May 15, 2017 |
projet:God bless you |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by faites(f): 1:09pm On May 15, 2017 |
Favourite01: Lol. I didnt know there are people like me around. But, you need to work on it friend. I developed some tactics for interviews that help me, though I still forget what to say sometimes. I have had three jobs so far, two of which I got online, and the ones I left, I left on my own terms. The second one I left was because I couldn't be madam's sycophant, and I suffered for it (I find it difficult to hold a conversation, talk more of gossip). I was always professional, and it wasn't good for business. But I am starting to get over the whole introvert ish, and God is helping me with it. 1 Like |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by porozhniy(m): 1:11pm On May 15, 2017 |
Tuham:Lolzzz, I can relate with this. In my own case, it was either socialize to make sales or hunger will finish ol' boy. At the end of the day, I still like my quiet life. 1 Like |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by roik: 1:12pm On May 15, 2017 |
Winters22:Being an Introvert Can Help in your Job - Experiences I realized I was an introvert around the same time I started my first job. The relief of finally acknowledging my introversion was offset by my concern that it would hold me back in my job and prevent me from reaching the level of success I desired. When looking for a job, I noticed the emphasis firms placed on soft skills such as communication, networking, and teamwork—qualities I associated more strongly with extroverts. However, over the next year, as my confidence and familiarity with work grew, I realized that being an introvert was not a disadvantage at all but, rather, something I could use as a strength. When it comes to working with others, networking, and communicating, introverts can often take a less conventional approach but one which leads to meaningful business relationships and creative solutions to problems. Here’s what my first year of work taught me about how introverts can “take back” qualities more usually linked to extroverts: Introverts can remain calm. Busy work environments create stressed employees, which reduces productivity and causes tempers to fray. Although introverts can be accused of lacking vigor, their subdued demeanor is actually beneficial when it comes to problem-solving and overcoming challenges in a demanding setting. Introverts provide balance and diversity. Companies are waking up to the benefits of a diverse workforce, and this diversity should extend to the extroversion-introversion spectrum. The thoughtful and calm approach provided by introverts can act as a positive check on the more zealous members within a team and ensure that a range of ideas is considered before a course of action is determined. Introverts value meaningful relationships. The financial crisis has created backlash against the hard sell. In its place, people are looking for smarter and more considered business partners. This works for introverts who prefer investing time in quality and long-lasting relationships. Introverts are good listeners. Good communication is as much about listening as it is speaking, and many introverts are excellent listeners. This is an advantage when networking because it means introverts take time to understand what others are saying and, as a consequence, can identify areas where they may be able to work with others. Introverts have good ideas and make valuable contributions. Introverts generally don’t say something unless they believe it will be a valuable addition to the conversation. What’s more, introverts have a penchant for creating and developing new ideas, which means they can offer a unique and alternative perspective on an issue. Focusing on these qualities helped me transform daunting situations into opportunities where I could display the great attributes that come with being an introvert. I no longer look to be the loudest in meetings but aim to offer smart and authoritative opinions. Similarly, I now view networking as a chance to initiate a long-lasting and prosperous relationship rather than a time to “work” the room. All of this has helped improve my confidence in the workplace and allowed me to make a greater individual impact and a larger contribution to my team. While they may not shout the loudest or be the most noticeable, many introverts have a sharp brain and a quiet determination to succeed—which is why we will continue to see the Zuckerbergs, Gateses, and Buffets at the top of their respective fields. It may have taken me a year to realize it, but I will succeed in my work because I am an introvert and not in spite of it. 4 Likes |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by joilin(f): 1:15pm On May 15, 2017 |
tyreal: hmmm I thought i am the only one. people always tell me that i hv an innocent face. can u imagine that 1 Like |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by pkang: 1:25pm On May 15, 2017 |
dupsyluzy:Can u hurt anyone as an introvert. How do u feel when u need something and u cannot get it. How do u go about asking for things, are u a fan of direct asking or cutting corners. |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by pkang: 1:34pm On May 15, 2017 |
I find it very amusing for women as introverts. Men are batching them left and right to front and back. That should have let them do some talking and freed them. |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by opylas(m): 1:38pm On May 15, 2017 |
ifenes:This is 90% true 1 Like |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Nobody: 1:49pm On May 15, 2017 |
tyreal:Wah! This is Me! 1 Like |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Winters22: 1:55pm On May 15, 2017 |
pkang:direct asking. |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Nobody: 2:09pm On May 15, 2017 |
porozhniy: Xame here bro My first job after high school during teen years was a marketing job where you must to learn how to sweet talk to let people know of your product's uniqueness. Me wey be say ah no too dey talk, my eye clear sharp sharp for dah time |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by bluebros: 2:24pm On May 15, 2017 |
queenjuli: harsh? Yes i agree with you if we view it from an introvert character. However, my case is that i have this cheerful persona with colleagues. Despite all my smiles i still find myself withdrawn.. a female colleague once complained |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Nobody: 2:26pm On May 15, 2017 |
dupsyluzy: I think you need to take a personality test(there are many free test online) to really know if you're introverted. The greatest myth out there is that shyness and introversion are one and same, but nothing could be further from the truth, according to scientific reports. The singular most important clue that you're shy is that you can't look a guy in the eye, and that ain't introversion. You however can be both introverted and shy. Extroverts can be shy too. Just for clarity, shyness is the fear or anxiety we get from social interaction which influences our behavior in public. According to Schidmt and Buss "Sociability (introversion or extroversion) refers to the motive, strong or weak, of wanting to be with others, whereas shyness refers to behavior when with others, inhibited or uninhibited, as well as feelings of tension and discomfort." You can turn introversion on and off especially when your job demands it, but you can't do that for shyness. That's why you need to work on yourself as your career may depend on it. This may not be a problem if you're a practising engineer. I was a very shy boy growing up in Nigeria, to the extent that I don't like going out, and when I do I tend to remain anonymous. Over time I overcame this fear by arranging my thoughts well before I speak, and I tend to speak very often in the public. My job involves public speaking in conferences, and I don't think I'd be able to keep that job if I don't do well in that area. Next time you see a handsome-looking gentleman, don't look away, but rather look into his eyes and start a conversation like, "that shirt looks awesome on you, where did you get?" Confidence is everything. 1 Like |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Dynamite02: 2:35pm On May 15, 2017 |
JustCalMeDBoss:Look for practical ways to develop yourself. My kid sis was very shy ,I had to step in ,got her materials to read e.g. "Questions young people ask,answers that works"Vol 1&2,you'll find questions such as_"How can I Boost my self confidence?","Is it wrong to want some privacy?"(ask any Jehovah's witness around you they can make it available). And I always set her up(lol...she will say you are weekid)...,I take her to the middle of the sea,abandon her and watch her rescue herself,today she's very loud,sometimes I smh and beg her to keep quiet in public and the funniest thing is she's is an extrovert while I am an introvert but I am not shy |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Smytter(m): 2:35pm On May 15, 2017 |
[quote author=dupsyluzy post=56523594][/quote] you must be ELEHA |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by projet: 2:46pm On May 15, 2017 |
Johncuppa:God Bless U too bro |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by projet: 3:02pm On May 15, 2017 |
Joavid: About surviving on a job as an introvert is try to be the best there is in your field,office,department any necessary gathering,just aim to be exceptional and you will see how ur superiors and colleagues will see u as indispensable. Have you noticed that to some extend most doctors comes out as an introvert. On the dating or marrying aspect...some people might perceive as boring two introverts in a relationship. |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Dynamite02: 3:50pm On May 15, 2017 |
ephi123:Thank you o!!! You nailed it. Shyness and introversion are not the same thing,an introvert can adopt an extroverted demeanour when the occasion calls for it and then recharge in solitude. Shyness on the other hand is fear of social disapproval or humiliation,while introversion is a preference for environments that are not stimulating. An introvert stays home from a party out of preference but a shy person out of fear. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by ephi123(f): 4:37pm On May 15, 2017 |
Dynamite02: You've said it all! Nothing to add. That was my point exactly. 1 Like |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by blueberryblue: 5:14pm On May 15, 2017 |
spacyzuma: "As an introvert, it's important to learn how to network and socialize, or at least PRETEND (which is what I did/do). But it's still hard. Even in my job, the pressure to be outgoing and network and socialize and 'kiss-ass' is still strong, and can be overwhelming."--- I can so relate to this spacyzuma. I agree it can be so overwhelming. I've realised it is really hard for us introverts to ask for help, when looking for jobs,/promotions/other opportunities. Just getting out of that comfort zone is a task. It's not pride, it's just how our minds are wired. But we have to try nevertheless. Nothing ventured, nothing gained right?. It always surprises me how easily other extroverted people can go out to canvass for jobs, call up prospective employers "just to greet them", follow up, even visit them and do other things to get their attention. And I'm just like- I have to really mentally prepare myself to even pick up the phone or go see someone who could link me up to an opportunity, while another person does it without thinking twice, even wondering why you're 'jonesing' or 'forming'. Whatever it is, one has to make adjustments to adapt to your environment in order to get what you want. I guess when you're on the field, you have to play ball. God help us all. 4 Likes |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Nobody: 5:41pm On May 15, 2017 |
Curry30:Yes,exactly. Its not like i dont talk but its takes time for me to open up to people. |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Runninghare(m): 6:00pm On May 15, 2017 |
Ramanto:SERIOUS-LOOKING INTROVERTS WHEN SCRUTINISED PUBLICLY, IF THEY KEEP THEIR COOL AND SPEAK GUD ENGLISH, CAN ALWAYS OUTMANUEVER A GOOD PORTION OF THEIR LISTENERS, EVEN WHEN THEY REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT THEY ARE SAYING |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Tonnierichy(m): 6:01pm On May 15, 2017 |
I started getting over my introverted nature when I went to serve. I jumped at every opportunity to hold an office so it made me get to relate with people more often. Later on I started to address all Corp members during general meetings especially when my cds group is anchoring the meeting. Today am a blend of both introvert and extrovert. You gotta be courageous and relentless. That's the only key. Being an introvert is a blessing believe me. We're the smartest! 4 Likes |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Runninghare(m): 6:02pm On May 15, 2017 |
babyfaceafrica:The whole 'trying to fake it' behaviour, it will always lead to that.. 1 Like |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Ramanto(m): 6:04pm On May 15, 2017 |
Runninghare:wonderful explanation there. thanks 1 Like |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by babyfaceafrica: 6:05pm On May 15, 2017 |
Runninghare:to each is own...it is not by force,if you can't blend it,just leave!! |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Nobody: 6:05pm On May 15, 2017 |
ayenitre:I understand your point sir and have been working on myself which i would say i have progressed but just like you being a public speaker,being an introvert doesnt stop me from performing,presentely am doing a field job which makes me meet people everyday and get to interract with them on a professional level.I guess its more of shyness. I was known as the girl who doesnt speak in school but we had a presentation once and my hod who was handling the course called me to his office and told me i did well and to keep it up,also during my teaching practise examination the lecturer in charge and fellow coursemates couldnt stop telling me how i did well likewise during a memory verse recitation in church when i was much younger my pastor who didnt know me had to ask people whose daughter i was. So its not about speaking publicly i tend to get nervous at first but i always overcome it. The thing is when i find myself in an environment,i let myself loose only if am comfortable with the people around which takes time. For those close to me they know me as a talktative but people viewing from outside see me as an introvert.Its all started from when i was much younger the people around were hypocrites so my parents made us develop this habit of being OYO whereby we dont interract with people and its still happening especially among we yorubas, we claim we love ouselves but its all lies. Thats why i dont leave myself completely and would always prefer doing things on my own cos i dont trust people. I am emotionally weak and people get to take advantage of that,a practical example is during my undergraduate i had a neigbhour who i didnt get close to but she got close to me and she would always take advantage of the fact that i dont talk come inside my room and takes whatever she needs without telling me now i guess if i didnt allow her to get close to me she wouldnt be able to treat me like that. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do Introverts Cope In Job Race by Runninghare(m): 6:07pm On May 15, 2017 |
babyfaceafrica:OK |
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