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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 12:57pm On May 18, 2017 |
Gloryne Are you always concern about how those around you misconcept your actions? |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 1:16pm On May 18, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 1:23pm On May 18, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 1:42pm On May 18, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 2:22pm On May 18, 2017 |
Olarewajub Oh thank you Would give that a hard thought 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Brownhypo: 6:58pm On May 18, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Gloryne(f): 3:03pm On May 19, 2017 |
Olarewajub: Yeah sure i'm always very concerned. Most times, people misunderstand my actions, they assume so many wrong things and the more i try to explain, they just don't seem to understand so i just zip my mouth and move on. Plenty talk can be tiring... 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 4:25pm On May 19, 2017 |
Yawns and stretches limbs. Looks around, takes a seat in a very dark corner and watches. 4 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Benteazaa(m): 7:11pm On May 19, 2017 |
Hey guyz, happy to have found this thread. Being an introvert has not been easy. i will say i hv overcomed stage fright because i was forced to become the CLO during my NYSC days and now because of the economic recession i hv no option than crawl out of my shell and do stuffs i dnt believe i could do. it feels good to know there are others like me. thou i still find it hard to maintain a conversation 4 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 7:38pm On May 19, 2017 |
THERE’S NO SHAME IN BEING AN INTROVERT WHO HAS SOCIAL ANXIETY M y life’s philosophy so far could be summed up in three words: “duck and cover.” As an introvert, I spend a good portion of my time avoiding excess human interaction, and I’ve gotten quite adept at it. I’ve been known to pause and listen with one ear pressed to my apartment door before exiting, just to make sure there won’t be anyone in the hallway that I have to awkwardly smile and nod at. Upon entering the gym, I usually stop to scan the perimeters before proceeding, in an attempt to find the most isolated piece of equipment I can use. I’ve developed an almost supersonic range of hearing that I employ while at work in an attempt to hear if there’s anyone in the office kitchen before I enter. If you are jealous of this supersonic hearing, don’t be. It frequently fails me. My only advice is that heading past the occupied office kitchen and pretending to fiddle with the copy machine is not a good save, especially if you are carrying a large bowl of spaghetti. Introversion Didn’t Explain the Ball of Fear in My Stomach I’d always been labeled a “shy” kid, and I didn’t have any other explanation for my aversion to large groups of people until I read Susan Cain’s Quiet . Cue the lightbulb moment that many introverts have when first reading Cain. I then realized there was another word for my behavior besides just “shy” (and why that label never felt quite right). There was a reason I had more energy when spending time on my own. Most important, I realized I was not alone. That realization gave me the confidence to embrace my introverted nature. I became a lot more secure in who I am as a person, and I no longer felt bad for spending my weekends without plans or cutting social outings short when I began to feel drained. Still, I felt like something was missing. I had come a long way from the awkward college student who turned bright red and stuttered every time a professor asked the class to go around the room and introduce themselves. Since then, I’ve traveled to foreign countries with people I barely knew, managed to come across as a hirable human being at multiple job interviews, and even given class presentations and lived to tell about it. I’m convinced that embracing my introversion actually helped me get through these things. Actions like taking more time to prepare talking points and scheduling downtime after social obligations has improved my mental health. However, it doesn’t stop the ball of fear in my stomach whenever I’m forced to interact with any new group of people I don’t know very well. It wasn’t until I stumbled across the term “social anxiety” that I really began to understand myself. Introversion and Social Anxiety Are Not the Same Thing For those that don’t know, being an introvert and having social anxiety are not the same thing. Being an introvert has to do with your internal thought process, your motivations, and how much social interaction (and what kind of interaction) you find rewarding. Social anxiety is a fear of other people and what they might think of you. It is a real disorder that can cause physical symptoms as well as mental stress, and if left unchecked, can greatly reduce your quality of life. While many introverts suffer from social anxiety, not all introverts do. In fact, most people, introvert or not, have probably felt socially anxious at some point in their lives. It’s a very human response to get nervous around new people. However, it’s important to remember that some people experience this anxiety on a greater scale than others. I’ve learned to embrace being an introvert as a positive thing. I may not be the life of the party, but I’m an excellent listener, I’ve developed strong writing skills (as often happens when you avoid verbal communication), and I’m quite proud of my independent nature and ability to be self-sufficient. When I discovered the term “social anxiety,” I realized I suddenly had a word for all of the negative emotions I had previously and falsely attributed to being an introvert. Somehow, this made me less afraid. It was as if I could finally and completely come to terms with being an introvert, because I could still be an introvert and simultaneously work on improving my anxiety. I wouldn’t have to change who I am and morph into a social butterfly to overcome my social anxiety. Which was good, because whenever I tried this, I just felt worse. While meeting new people and exploring new life experiences has helped my social anxiety, just being confident in myself as an introverted person (and knowing that I’m not alone) has helped the most. Overcoming Social Anxiety Is a Process I won’t pretend that the cure to social anxiety is just discovering you have it and then deciding to get over it. It’s not like that at all. Dealing with social anxiety is a process, and it’s different for each individual. For me, as I grow more self-assured in my introverted nature, I realize that I care less what other people think of me. If I have reached a point where I feel the need to withdraw and recharge my introvert battery, I’ll do it, and I don’t care if that makes someone see me as just being quiet or shy. Plus, if I leave a gathering on a positive note (before I’m exhausted), I feel more self-assured about inserting myself into a group of people the next time. When I realized there was nothing wrong with being an introvert, I started to realize there is no shame in having social anxiety, either. If I scramble my words while talking or don’t always say the most intelligent thing, that’s okay. Most people are pretty understanding. The world is full of introverts (some suggest up to 50 percent of all people are introverts), and it’s full of people with social anxiety. If that surprises you, it’s probably because most people don’t come across nearly as awkwardly as they think they do — and that includes you. Anyone who does judge you for stumbling over part of a sentence, or sustaining a long pause in the conversation that they are also participating in, isn’t worth talking to anyway. I’m trying not to let my fear of awkward conversation hold me back anymore. I have as much right to my apartment building’s hallway and the exercise equipment at my gym as the next person, and I don’t want a couple mumbled “hellos” and a quick jab about the weather to interfere with this right. At the same time, if I decide to wait until the coast is clear before exiting the solitude of my apartment, that decision is my own, and sometimes it’s worth the extra 30 seconds for some peace and quiet. I no longer avoid the office kitchen, though. Small talk really isn’t so bad when you’ve got a microwave timer to help you end the conversation. My new life philosophy is sometimes “duck and cover,” but it’s also to avoid eating cold spaghetti. #Copied From Introvertdear dot com Wow!, really long article but worth it..... Hope to write one before next week ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 8:03pm On May 19, 2017 |
Vorpal: Welcome to the lounge Bro!, be rest assured that whatever challenges you might be facing due to your introvert nature will be taken care of. Thankfully, there are lot of intros here who might have experienced something similar and found a way out. Enjoy the show from your seated position in the corner, with time you'll be the one on stage.... ![]() Benteazaa: Welcome to the lounge Bro!, hope you enjoy your time here ![]() ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 11:19pm On May 19, 2017 |
DonOms: thanks dear 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Presh900(m): 1:06am On May 20, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Benteazaa(m): 7:45am On May 20, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by DonOms(m): 1:40pm On May 20, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by dcolumbus001: 1:48am On May 23, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 7:46pm On May 23, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Akposb(m): 2:57pm On May 25, 2017 |
@vorpal, OYO is your case. War is not fun. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 3:00pm On May 25, 2017 |
Akposb: Who said i was looking for fun? I was driving at something that questions the essence of life. That challenges the very fabric of civility or perceived civilization. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 3:27pm On May 25, 2017 |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Giel: 12:57am On May 27, 2017 |
Olarewajub: seems like most introverts need anger management, I wonder why, I need to search this out, please does anyone know any reason why, I would really like to know 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Giel: 12:59am On May 27, 2017 |
DonOms: Thanks for the welcome, it was really cool 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Michaelnsd: 9:29pm On May 27, 2017 |
Every introverts should endeavor to read Susan Cain's book "Quiet" I love you all... Introversion is a very unique trait... Which I definitely belong to. 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Akposb(m): 2:27pm On May 28, 2017 |
I am compelled to write this short statement which I hope everyone will read objectively. Low self-esteem is a trait shared by any temperament but it is often associated with introverts (subject to correction). It can be caused by physical abuse. Physical abuse here refers to abusing one because of his/her physical features. Being referred to as an ugly person is something anybody will struggle to put up with especially an introvert who is introspective. Low self-esteem can easily be caused by feeling of being unwanted and how best do society judge one, it is mostly by physical appearance. God created different types of people for a reason that is known to him alone. Due to human limited knowledge and prejudiced view, we are likely to favour the fair, handsome and beautiful. This disposition is not bad but it is derogatory to rate one or treat someone just based on their physical feature. Low self-esteem that results from feelings of inadequacy as a result of one's physical features can only be treated by one's acceptance of themselves. Beauty cannot be equated with character, hence for that person out there, work hard on the inner being and see how much transformation you will undergo. On our part, let us make sure to appreciate but not to judge one based on their physical feature. Confidence is belief in one self regardless of what people think about you. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by gidjah(m): 10:12pm On May 28, 2017 |
Happy Democracy Day(in advance) to all my fellow Introverts.wishing this God ordained nation ; speedy positive recovery, restoration of every lost Glory, Faithful , Loyal and Honest leaders in all ramifications.God Bless NIGERIA! 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by imitor4us(m): 10:54pm On May 28, 2017 |
I'm an introvert to the core. this affected me while I was on campus that I couldn't reach out to people and they usually thought that I'm forming. 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by kelspascal(m): 12:29am On May 29, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 1:54am On May 29, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by gidjah(m): 7:24am On May 29, 2017 |
imitor4us:one of the reasons why most introverts are termed 'forming 'is this ; we are mostly self centered in character, self centered in emotion .For instance , if you are not self centered , you won't hurt your love ones around you, by always keeping to your self, never sharing feelings, hurts and the likes? most introverts don't even know how to greet people when they meet them on the way, you have a neighbor and u meet him or her in the morning, and can't say a lil 'good mornin sir /ma'! you shy away because u be introvert! ![]() imitor4us:one of the reasons why most introverts are termed 'forming 'is this ; we are mostly self centered in character, self centered in emotion .For instance , if you are not self centered , you won't hurt your love ones around you, by always keeping to your self, never sharing feelings, hurts and the likes? most introverts don't even know how to greet people when they meet them on the way, you have a neighbor and u meet him or her in the morning, and can't say a lil 'good mornin sir /ma'! you shy away because u be introvert!?, no you are are just emotionally self centered !, people get better with introverted character as they grow old, you notice the introverted nature barely , but once u still behave those ways 18yrs old introvert behave, then u are not growing ! for instance too you (@imitor) was in the uni and yet had trouble with people about communications, making people think you were a snub?, if thats the same way u were while in secondary sch , then it simply means you haven't grown up emotionally ! that's the humble truth.And by the time you get married and still remain this way, then you begin to have serious threatening issues with your spouse .This are all as a result of EMOTIONAL SELF CENTERED NESS .But God will help US all.we all have inside self will to drive either in or out, and once We learn to always put loved ones before US , then we will hurt our selves the less. 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by NaijaIntrovert: 10:02am On May 29, 2017 |
I have been thinking this morning about how uncomfortable I do feel in parties. Don’t get me wrong here, I am always happy people are celebrating one thing or the other like the birth of a new baby, birthday celebration, marriage ceremony or all but attending a party is always like a big problem to me. http://naijaintrovert.com/2017/05/29/birthdays-and-me/ 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by NaijaIntrovert: 11:55am On May 29, 2017 |
@ All can been introverted lead to depression? I created a blog to post what's on my mind daily because I don't think I have the nerve to share it with people and this is getting to me like a lot. Instead of creating a two person conversation in my mind, I decided to blog about it. Of course, I run it as an anonymous. So I ask again, Can introversion lead to depression? 2 Likes |
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