I don't even know where to start from. My boy do some unimmaginable things that atimes I will be speechless. For instance, if I bought him slipas, after about 3months or so he'll use scissors to cut it, the first time he does that I scolded him and talked to him that if he doesn't want d slipas again he should have told me I will buy another one for him then we'll keep it, another person may need it. I bought another slipas but to my greateat surprise he repeated the same thing. Recently, i seized all his balls because he was too playful. Then my boy used d only transparent cellotape i bought to rap their torn book to do ball. He collected some old books, moulded it like ball and used my transparent cellotape to rap it to make it ball. Last week he used a cartoon of crayon in one day to paint nothing imagine! he took d only touch and light at home and dismantled it for no reason to mention but few. Old parents in the house what is d best way to correct/mould a stubborn boy.
It pained me to see him do opposite of what I tell him, i have been praying and still praying for him a times I punish, beat and talked to him even cry atimes. My girls r not like that. Why r boys difficult to raise. Old boys in d house what method d u wish ur parents could have used to correct u then. Pls don't mind my errors. I'll appreciate ur comments. Thanks.

I have a brother like that but as he gets older the better, u should check his friends..!
That is one of the way to influence a kid, their friends..


What their friends do is what they also want to do..! And u shouldn't relent on scolding him with a heart of a mother..pls don't let the scolding let to emotional damage for him..let him know why u scold him..!


Although is method isn't all that appropriate but mothers do it but do not over do it...u have to compare him with "his well behaved friends" let him know say it to his face..!


Lastly that child is yours learn what he loves, leave him let him explore (do not make him to loose) they learn by trial and error.

thanks for d contribution whitebread.

Noloss:
thanks for d contribution sir.quote author=whitebeard post=56800062]I have a brother like that but as he gets older the better, u should check his friends..!
That is one of the way to influence a kid, their friends..


What their friends do is what they also want to do..! And u shouldn't relent on scolding him with a heart of a mother..pls don't let the scolding let to emotional damage for him..let him know why u scold him..!


Although is method isn't all that appropriate but mothers do it but do not over do it...u have to compare him with "his well behaved friends" let him know say it to his face..!


Lastly that child is yours learn what he loves, leave him let him explore (do not make him to loose) they learn by trial and error.

ur welcome

You just have to be tough but still loving. My elder brother was like that, he broke his jaw and other parts of his body due to rough play but now that he's grown, he's such a gentleman you would never believe that he was once like that. He's your cross dear, it will get better as he grows hopefully.

@noloss. How old is he?

NairalandSARS:
@noloss. How old is he?

He is going to 8yrs

Pidgin2:
You just have to be tough but still loving. My elder brother was like that, he broke his jaw and other parts of his body due to rough play but now that he's grown, he's such a gentleman you would never believe that he was once like that. He's your cross dear, it will get better as he grows hopefully.

There was a time he watched judge of d jungle film then did u know it was God that saved him from dying cos he actually wanted to jump from d floor to d staircase. Hw was seriously battered i cant count d number of time he has wounded himself. he carried his sister few weeks ago and put her inside drum. I asked why he did that, he said he was just playing

;DYour son is an engineer, allow him

You see why I keep advocating for the girl child? Their wahala dey moderate biko. I honestly don't know where they get their energy from. Pele. May God bless our babies

Noloss:

There was a time he watched judge of d jungle film then did u know it was God that saved him from dying cos he actually wanted to jump from d floor to d staircase. Hw was seriously battered i cant count d number of time he has wounded himself. he carried his sister few weeks ago and put her inside drum. I asked why he did that, he said he was just playing

He's simply hyper active. Some boys are like that, you just have to discipline him more, don't relent but make him know you love him

What of his father? Can you hand over your son to his dad?
My brother was stubborn like that and my dad was more than capable of treating his fvk up. My mum just handed him over to my dad and up until university my dad was watching my brother like a hawk.

sisisioge:
You see why I keep advocating for the girl child? Their wahala dey moderate biko. I honestly don't know where they get their energy from. Pele. May God bless our babies

Amen. Though he is hardworking but honestly I could have return him to his parents had it been that he is not my child.

Noloss:
I don't even know where to start from. My boy do some unimmaginable things that atimes I will be speechless. For instance, if I bought him slipas, after about 3months or so he'll use scissors to cut it, the first time he does that I scolded him and talked to him that if he doesn't want d slipas again he should have told me I will buy another one for him then we'll keep it, another person may need it. I bought another slipas but to my greateat surprise he repeated the same thing. Recently, i seized all his balls because he was too playful. Then my boy used d only transparent cellotape i bought to rap their torn book to do ball. He collected some old books, moulded it like ball and used my transparent cellotape to rap it to make it ball. Last week he used a cartoon of crayon in one day to paint nothing imagine! he took d only touch and light at home and dismantled it for no reason to mention but few. Old parents in the house what is d best way to correct/mould a stubborn boy.
It pained me to see him do opposite of what I tell him, i have been praying and still praying for him a times I punish, beat and talked to him even cry atimes. My girls r not like that. Why r boys difficult to raise. Old boys in d house what method d u wish ur parents could have used to correct u then. Pls don't mind my errors. I'll appreciate ur comments. Thanks.

If he refuses to take corrections after all these scolding, punish him by banning him from watching his favourite cartons on TV or DSTV for some hours or days.

Btw, do you have a phobia for sending children to secondary boarding schools especially the mission schools?.

elektra:
What of his father? Can you hand over your son to his dad?
My brother was stubborn like that and my dad was more than capable of treating his fvk up. My mum just handed him over to my dad and up until university my dad was watching my brother like a hawk.

My husband do give him punishment but dat does not stop him from doing another thing DAT will beat ur imagination.

Try to manage him, most NOTall of them are like dat. He will change as he matures. I had a family friend sometime ago. They nearly cursed God for given them such a child but the boy changes with maturity. Just be positive. It is well!

ojoj:
Try to manage him, most NOTall of them are like dat. He will change as he matures. I had a family friend sometime ago. They nearly cursed God for given them such a child but the boy changes with maturity. Just be positive. It is well!

Thanks.

I can bet you that it's his friends that are influencing him.

My lil cousin is just 9 too. Displayed all these traits when he was attending a not so good school. He moved with the rough boys there.

We changed his school and surroundings. He attended a private primary school where responsible kids went to. Dude changed into a sweet boy. He's 9 now and in jss1..... He loathes his old rough friends now

Bring him to the barracks, let's 'massage' him...

Buy cane and flog him when he misbehaves.he seems to be getting out of control

Plz stop beating that child
At least for now
You have tried correcting in a hard way but not working
Pls result to the loving manner
Take him out
Talk to him
Threaten him what he loves most if he misbehaves

Not all kids want to be treated like animals
Pls
Stop beating

Dyt:
Plz stop beating that child
At least for now
You have tried correcting in a hard way but not working
Pls result to the loving manner
Take him out
Talk to him
Threaten him what he loves most if he misbehaves

Not all kids want to be treated like animals
Pls
Stop beating

Thanks, we shall try that. I pray it'll work.

Noloss:

He is going to 8yrs

Some people will say don't spank him but if you over pamper him he'll get worse. A little spanking does not kill but corrects. When he does wrong, don't overlook. It's your duty to guild him as his parent. Give him punishment like pick-pin in place of spanking at times. Go to his school and find out who his best friend is from his teacher and how behaved the child is, if the report is negative, tell him to stop playing with that child. Also look for the most behaved and brilliant child in his class and point the child to him. His teacher could be of help here while you do yours at home.

kimbra:
Some people will say don't spank him but if you over pamper him he'll get worse. A little spanking does not kill but corrects. When he does wrong, don't overlook. It's your duty to guild him as his parent. Give him punishment like pick-pin in place of spanking at times. Go to his school and find out who his best friend is from his teacher and how behaved the child is, if the report is negative, tell him to stop playing with that child. Also look for the most behaved and brilliant child in his class and point the child to him. His teacher could be of help here while you do yours at home.

Thanks so much, I really appreciate u.

You are probably to blame (at least partially). Your son has realised that you only pay attention to him when he is destructive. He does not mind that it is negative attention, he just wants you to pay attention to him. Over time, it may have just become habit. Stop overreacting when he is naughty, just punish him by banishing him to his room for sometime, and learn to praise him profusely when he is good. Also, do not be too controlling or naggy. Let him make his own decisions when it does not cause harm (even if his choice is not in line with yours). Children like your son grow up to be leaders if guided aright.

9 in JSS1? Adonbilivit

NevetsIbot:
I can bet you that it's his friends that are influencing him.

My lil cousin is just 9 too. Displayed all these traits when he was attending a not so good school. He moved with the rough boys there.

We changed his school and surroundings. He attended a private primary school where responsible kids went to. Dude changed into a sweet boy. He's 9 now and in jss1..... He loathes his old rough friends now

chingynt:
9 in JSS1? Adonbilivit

he'll be 14 when he leaves sec school. He didn't do pry 6

Noloss:
I don't even know where to start from. My boy do some unimmaginable things that atimes I will be speechless. For instance, if I bought him slipas, after about 3months or so he'll use scissors to cut it, the first time he does that I scolded him and talked to him that if he doesn't want d slipas again he should have told me I will buy another one for him then we'll keep it, another person may need it. I bought another slipas but to my greateat surprise he repeated the same thing. Recently, i seized all his balls because he was too playful. Then my boy used d only transparent cellotape i bought to rap their torn book to do ball. He collected some old books, moulded it like ball and used my transparent cellotape to rap it to make it ball. Last week he used a cartoon of crayon in one day to paint nothing imagine! he took d only touch and light at home and dismantled it for no reason to mention but few. Old parents in the house what is d best way to correct/mould a stubborn boy.
It pained me to see him do opposite of what I tell him, i have been praying and still praying for him a times I punish, beat and talked to him even cry atimes. My girls r not like that. Why r boys difficult to raise. Old boys in d house what method d u wish ur parents could have used to correct u then. Pls don't mind my errors. I'll appreciate ur comments. Thanks.

please don't people telling to put pepper in his eyes on beat him to near-death.
At less than his age I was flogged with cutlass, daggers, planks, name it, but didn't change me one bit. If my father caught me at a PS2 SHOP I would go to another game shop.
It was when I turned 16 that calmed down on my own. I had played almost every 'play', game or sport. Mumu all mumu. Today I am as quiet as anything.
It is just a stage of life.

©NAIRALANDSARS

chingynt:
9 in JSS1? Adonbilivit

My niece and nephew were in jss 1 by 8 years old.
The one that was born in 2005 is already in jss 3.
Better bilivit

Lai Mohamed.. where are they rushing to? And at what age will they enter university?

Berbierklaus:

My niece and nephew were in jss 1 by 8 years old.
The one that was born in 2005 is already in jss 3.
Better bilivit

chingynt:
Lai Mohamed.. where are they rushing to? And at what age will they enter university?

Abeg, help me ask well well. I always wonder where parents are rushing kids to as if they were rushed that way when they were kids. A child should enter JSS 1 at least by 10 years.

NL1960:


Abeg, help me ask well well. I always wonder where parents are rushing kids to as if they were rushed that way when they were kids. A child should enter JSS 1 at least by 10 years.

It's not their guardian's fault that some of these kids are brilliant and some of them got double promotions in primary school.



My cousin is just 13 and in SSS2 as we speak. It was just yesterday her mum was telling her that no matter the outcome of her SSCE she will spend at least 2 extra years at home and she will use the period to complete the hair making training she's currently doing on weekend basis now.