godric:
Go ahead if you know your love is strong enough. I am a living withness, am a Muslim and I married to a pastor's daughter and to God be the Glory we are still waxing stronger.

You're a Muslim but by telling him to go ahead it seems you don't know the Islamic rule. A Christian Guy cannot marry a Muslim lady.

religion...love.. marriage.... ...until u understand the history and meaning of religion first....then u can relate the rest to it....but as u stated..u guys av not even date talk less of marrying yourself.....the marriage is the most important one here once u are into it u either love it or leave it.......dedication will be the key whenever u both are ready for it....but for now u are not ready...

I hate religion

Don't allow religion to lose the love of your life. God is love, you are human first before you are religious. You are going to regret your present decision, when you are older and matured. You will realize one day that you miss out your chance because of nothing. Religion is a state of mind, being good is the ultimate religion.

tosyne2much:
You're still missing it.. What if the lady's father doesn't accept? Remember he's the one that has the final say here (their own decision and marriage plan is just child's play)

What's the essence of dating a lady for three years and her father disqualifies you on the ground of difference in religion. isn't it better if he knows from this preliminary stage if he father can give her out to a Christian or not?

The decision is theirs and theirs alone. Except they are not truly ready.

I used to say "No one"can stop me from going for what I truly want.

[quote author=truthstands11 post=56832002]

Every situation is not the same. There were two thieves on the cross. One made heaven at a glance while the other lost it. Salvation of your soul is more important than marriage. [/quote

Conversion leads to salvation.]

truthstands11:


Every situation is not the same. There were two thieves on the cross. One made heaven at a glance while the other lost it. Salvation of your soul is more important than marriage.

Conversion leads to salvation

Bro, in a situation where you a are consider as an "INFIDEL" by the later, I rather advise you to continue growing your faith & your unborn children faith in Christ ,for the bible say" we the BELIEVERS shouldn't be ignorant about the devices of the devils...a word is enough for a wise, if u really know who is JESUS....

tosyne2much:
Nice one jawe

Baba 10 for the girls.

ShitHead:
Go back. That's the end of the tunnel, and it's dark. Discharge and acquit yourself immediately.

Lmao!!!

VicMadich88:
But does the Bible say..If you are Christian you cnt love or marry anyone out of ur religion? If its there in the bible, pls quote it for us oo?

The phrase “unequally yoked” comes from 2 Corinthians 6:14 in the King James Version: “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” The New American Standard Version says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?”

A yoke is a wooden bar that joins two oxen to each other and to the burden they pull. An “unequally yoked” team has one stronger ox and one weaker, or one taller and one shorter. The weaker or shorter ox would walk more slowly than the taller, stronger one, causing the load to go around in circles. When oxen are unequally yoked, they cannot perform the task set before them. Instead of working together, they are at odds with one another.

Paul’s admonition in 2 Corinthians 6:14 is part of a larger discourse to the church at Corinth on the Christian life. He discouraged them from being in an unequal partnership with unbelievers because believers and unbelievers are opposites, just as light and darkness are opposites. Being a believer is being love to all as God is love.

Not the kind of love that leads to intimacy with the opposite sex or like the ones they call gay today or lesbianism!

guy there is nothing wrong falling in love with a muslim girl, inasmuch as is a genuiue love and not infatuations. i fell in love with a muslim girl who later became my wife after courting for five years, though it wasn't easy initially when i was getting to known the parents but after some years when the girl could not let go the parents had no other option than to accept me, we got married and by virture of marriage she was converted to christain and now she is a minister in redeemed christain church of God, we are both happily married for over a decade and our marriage is blessed with children, my guy if really u love her go ahead and express ur feelings religion differences as for me is not a barrier in mariage

AbujaLover:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls I want to share my love story with you. I'm a christian and there is this my high school friend that we grew fond of each while in high school, we had been "just friends".

While in SS3, I was a prefect and she was my assistant. This gave us more time together, back then we never thought of romance, we were just the "serious type" always discussing our studies and helping each other. We were best of friends.

It was during the last days at High School that we realised how attached we had grown to each other, I remember we talked about how we will miss each other in a 'friendly' manner while taking a walk round the school.

In those days, I realised I had more feelings than friendship towards her but I do tell my self that it was just infatuation that once we leave each other, the feeelings will die off and I will perhaps meet someone else.

Four years down the line, we still can't let go of each other, we usually only talked on phone and social media not until some months ago that I decided to pay her a visit in her home.

The visit was so nostalgic, we were delighted to see each other but we both kept on hiding our feelings. I think we are both pretending not to feel anything beyond friendship. This is because of differences in our religion.

I met with her dad, an Alhaji, that day, and we also discussed Nigeria and the waxing hardship, I sense he was quite liberal. Maybe that's because I and his daughter were "just friends".

Now, our calls usually starts well but ends cold, when it's time to say goodbye, we are both pretending towards each other. I know, and I think she knows also.

If we had been of the same religion, I would have made my feelings known to her but I just can't summon the courage to do so now. Our differences in religion didnot stop me from loving her but stopping me from having her.

I would like your suggestions. Have you ever been in such situation before? How did you do it?

Pls I want mature suggestions.

Thanks in advance.

Ahmed Musa just married a christian lady from calabar and heaven hasn't fallen. Tinubu is married to Remi xtian. Saraki moslem married to Toyin christain. Gov Ahmed married to his xxtian prayer warrior wife. They are all doing great.
Only poor and limited people carry religion for head while suffering. What will be will be children can become adults and change faith like pastor tunde bakare whose father is an imam.
Bottomline let God's will be done take your chance. However if she is mummy/daddy type, chances are it won't work. I have my own personal experience of that.

bro i salute u for seeking advice and for expressing ur feelings bt i will advise u dat u should pray abt it and let d holy spirit lead u because if u follow ur mind, thoughts nd feelings, there is high tendency dat u may b lead astray and by d time u realise dat u are following the wrong way it may b too late, i'm nt disputing d fact dat u can marry her because she may b ur future companion bt b watchful and let d holy spirit take perfect control

ImaIma1, u too sabi (with regards to your first post)... Collect one brotherly hug for there joor...

livinbygrace:
I wont discourage you but you should be ready for both physical and spiritual attack from her family and their Alfas .They dont let go easily and will surely fight you spiritually.I am talking from experience.

Hahahaha Wetin person no go see for Nairaland

luscioustrish:


Baba 10 for the girls.

Hahaha.. Do you know me as a womanizer?

I don die

KingEbukasBlog:
A lot of reasonable people will tell you that it is proper that people who do not share the same religious beliefs should not get married because of the expected corollaries we have witnessed . But there are instances like Mark Zuckerberg (practicing Jew) and his wife Priscilla Chan (Buddhist) and I've got two friends who have Muslim dads and Christian moms - we can see from these instances that the foundation of those marriages is built on love . Love begets religious tolerance and precludes religious bigotry .

But as a Christian do you think you handle the downside of that ? Consider your spiritual growth as a family . And your kids . Which religion will they belong to ? Mum's or dad's ? Or will you give them the freedom to choose theirs ? My friend goes to both Church and the Mosque - can you handle this level of confusion ? And of course , the heated arguments that'd ensue because of your religious differences . People can be very passionate about their religious beliefs . What about religious holidays ? Would you be comfortable with your spouse's religious holiday celebrations ? Would you join her to celebrate ? What if you don't? Can you handle her repulsive reactions and the awkward moments ?

Objective reply. Wise man!

ImaIma1:
Hmmm...well in your case you are the guy snd she might end up becoming a Christian. But if she doesn't, there will be differences and clashed. Love is not enough to sustain a marriage. So you have to project fivd yrs down the line...ten years... . I was in love with a muslim guy at one point abd I saw in him a lot of things i wanted in a husband. But i thought about a lot of things like how would we bring up the children...will they be torn between being Christian or Muslim...would my husband and I be able to pray together...etc. and i knew i was never going to convert and so I moved on.
The moral of my story...weigh all the options before making ur decision.

I might have gone along personally cos i cant let religion be the thing to stop my happiness. Maybe friday they go to the mosque and sundays they go to church. And when they are mature enough they can chose the path they want to stick to. That way u raise kids who won't come on nl in future and start attacking atheists and ppl who follow other religions.
But me as a weak/questioning christian(and almost an atheist) would like to marry a wife that doesn't take religion too seriously and is open minded(or maybe religious with sense) idk sha. But i personally wouldnt want a wife and kids that look upon ppl of other religions as sinners.

AbujaLover:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls I want to share my love story with you. I'm a christian and there is this my high school friend that we grew fond of each while in high school, we had been "just friends".

While in SS3, I was a prefect and she was my assistant. This gave us more time together, back then we never thought of romance, we were just the "serious type" always discussing our studies and helping each other. We were best of friends.

It was during the last days at High School that we realised how attached we had grown to each other, I remember we talked about how we will miss each other in a 'friendly' manner while taking a walk round the school.

In those days, I realised I had more feelings than friendship towards her but I do tell my self that it was just infatuation that once we leave each other, the feeelings will die off and I will perhaps meet someone else.

Four years down the line, we still can't let go of each other, we usually only talked on phone and social media not until some months ago that I decided to pay her a visit in her home.

The visit was so nostalgic, we were delighted to see each other but we both kept on hiding our feelings. I think we are both pretending not to feel anything beyond friendship. This is because of differences in our religion.

I met with her dad, an Alhaji, that day, and we also discussed Nigeria and the waxing hardship, I sense he was quite liberal. Maybe that's because I and his daughter were "just friends".

Now, our calls usually starts well but ends cold, when it's time to say goodbye, we are both pretending towards each other. I know, and I think she knows also.

If we had been of the same religion, I would have made my feelings known to her but I just can't summon the courage to do so now. Our differences in religion didnot stop me from loving her but stopping me from having her.

I would like your suggestions. Have you ever been in such situation before? How did you do it?

Pls I want mature suggestions.

Thanks in advance.

Don't take this the wrong way. But I'm not sure U are a Christian. What did Christ tell U about relating with unbelievers?

AbujaLover:


You get it bro, it's like torture. My fear actually is how will it work? I guess, We are going to have clashes in philosophies due to differences in religion. We are both attached to our religions, but I'm surprised I can't obey the law that "do not be unevenly attached to unbelievers". Love trully has no boundaries, if we are to be sincere with ourselves.

Thanks for your reply..I really appreciate it.

It is not a law.


it is pure logic.



How can light relate with darkness? it makes no sense.

tosyne2much:
Hahaha.. Do you know me as a womanizer?

I don die

You like us jor...u just dey deceive us with your 'ten things'

luckyz4rea:


If your Bible not religion means anything to you you'll not go or do anything contrary to it. Whatever reduces or will reduce you to what you are not or should not be, desist from it with immediate effect!

Don't let impulsive feelings get the best of you as it did to Adam and he went against what he was warned not to do, unless of course you want to be like Adam! I know you wouldn't want to be like him so do the right thing - follow the Truth

Well, This is the best reply or should I say advice I have seen here. There is more trouble in getting married to a woman who has a contrary belief to yours about God than you might perceive now. Marriage can't survive these days without God and how can you even invite God into your marriage when you guys don't even share the same opinion about him. The best advice about marriage that I've come across is to "marry in the Lord", it's not like it's gonna be perfect or trouble-free, but really when the storm comes blowing hot and hard, the both of you can always sort it out more easily than when you don't share the same faith. Seriously my friend, except two agree, can they really walk together? (amos 3:3)
it takes much more than Love to build a happy home, which is the only thing you both have in common now.
but since you're a Christian I'll advice you talk to God, he will give you the best advice ever!

luscioustrish:


You like us jor...u just dey deceive us with your 'ten things'

Before nko? I won't deny it nah

Just as you like us too

tosyne2much:
Before nko? I won't deny it nah

Just as you like us too

It's a problem only for the poor. It's the poor that knows every detail of don'ts, which is mostly responsible for his limitations in life anyway.
It's your life.

prinzfavian:


Well, This is the best reply or should I say advice I have seen here. There is more trouble in getting married to a woman who doesn't share your belief than you might perceive now. Marriage can't survive these days without God and how can you even invite God into your marriage when you guys don't even state the same opinion about him. The best advice about marriage that I've come across is to "marry in the Lord", it's not like it's gonna be perfect or trouble-free, but really when the storm comes blowing hot and hard, the both of you can always sort it out more easily than when you don't share the same faith. Seriously my friend, except two agree, can they really walk together? (amos 3:3)
it takes much more than Love to build a happy home, which is the only thing you both have in common now.
but since you're a Christian I'll advice you talk to God, he will give you the best advice ever!

Absolutely!

What about those joined together in their common place of worship, whose scripture means so much to them yet the marriage don't last two years. People just like deceiving themselves by pretending to know or have the solution to life challenges.

marry potential Boko haram?

translux:
Let me tell you a story about myself, when I was in Iaspotech back then rounding up my HND, I had 2 girl friends, one is christian, the other Muslim, I...

Thank you sir.

We are AFRICANS, foreighn religions is not ours, we are not christians or muslims, we are pretenders, we have our own religion

tosyne2much:
OP, I will advise you cut loose from the relationship because I can see you're the religious...

Thanks sir, I really appreciate your response.