hmm, i would advice you to face reality.marriage is a life time decision even thou the present day world have a custom of divorce.Who you marry really matters and there are billions of ladies out there.How far you go in life is determined by who you choose to marry.Ladies are complex and so also are guys.As a guy, there are possibilities of falling in love with several ladies when you get in contact with them.I would say from experience that for marriage , LOVE is not everything, our feelings may deceive us..But you need Gods guidance in all you do as a christian,its not a decision a friend can take for you , neither your pastor can make it for you.if i would advice you, you need to sit the lady down and ask her view on religion.I must say that the best is for you guys to reach an agreement, one has to submit to another.As a man, what kind of religion do you want your kids to practice ,xtianity or Islam.You cant be in between.But know that women have great influence from their mum.Would their um agree to allow them go to church or would you be happy to let them go to mosque.i must say that don't be deceived by those saying love is everything.LOVE sometimes get cold and beauty is not even everything, even humans change based on situation.
life is a battle ground and the kind of support you get from your wife matters, sometimes in life, there are attacks, can your wife sustain you when you are weak or down on the field.
Once again, i cant decide for you on who to marry or not, the down fall of a man begins with a woman.marrying a wrong woman can set you back by ten years or move you forward at a supersonic speed.just my view.NB FORGET WHAT COUPLES DISPLAY OUTSIDE,some families display to the outside world that they are happy, but do you know what goes on inside their home,with the kids.Yeah some who give you examples of christians who married moslems and are happy.Do you know what they are enduring inside, i dont know the level of your christianity and also the level of her islam.But no strong xtian will marry a moslem and no strong moslem will marry a xtian.

banky23:
guy there is nothing wrong falling in love with a muslim girl, inasmuch as is a genuiue love and not infatuations. i fell in love with a muslim girl who later became my wife after courting for five years, though it wasn't easy initially when i was getting to known the parents but after some years when the girl could not let go the parents had no other option than to accept me, we got married and by virture of marriage she was converted to christain and now she is a minister in redeemed christain church of God, we are both happily married for over a decade and our marriage is blessed with children, my guy if really u love her go ahead and express ur feelings religion differences as for me is not a barrier in mariage

Marry a muslim lady is easier to make her convert because there is nothing new you want to teach her about christianity, just go to church clap and dance

Omotayor123:
Don't let religion Robb you of your love. You can regret it for life.

Thanks ma

AbujaLover:


You get it sis, you get it. I do think of things like our children, praying together and stuffs like that. I've actually tried 'moving on', but I just can't. I've tried cutting contact from her, but it didnot work. It's just like torture, everyday torture.

Bro remember the case of Samson and Delilah.. Use ur head bro before u lose ur two eyes

technicallyrich:
You are a yoruba boy.i know these because your cowardice stinks from afar.so you can't even talk in the presence of an hausa girl and tell her how you fell.if it's fulani men now I know that it is normal for you to be afraid because they are your masters.
My advice is for you to go to ibadan and pick up one dirty girl there Atleast you can talk since you and her are yorubas.

We are both yorubas.

bolargeez:
Don't allow religion to lose the love of your life. God is love, you are human first before you are religious. You are going to regret your present decision, when you are older and matured. You will realize one day that you miss out your chance because of nothing. Religion is a state of mind, being good is the ultimate religion.

Thanks for this.

WHY DO U WANT TO MARRY DAUGHTER OF "TERRORIST" OR WOULD YOU HAVE ALLOW U SISTER TO MARRY SON OF "TERRORIST"? YOURS IS YOURS, OURS IS OURS.

Bro i saw your post and I just had to comment.. I have been through this before
I dated a Muslim girl she lived very close to me apart from that I was almost part of her family they recognize me and my parents recognized them.. My relationship went on quite well until well we started joking about the fact of getting married some day to each day...

That was when it all changed..
I can easily handle my parents...
But hers it went totally berserk...
They immediately turned everything around
From denying me to seeing her...
To warning my peeps from their daughter...
Lol its funny because we haven't even graduated yet oh..

The small rough play turn serious matter by force....

In the end we parted ways... Although she herself presently is now a Christian and I am hoping to boot up my relationship with her again...

Bro it depends on her family... I don't you getting hurt or something if you are the serious relationship type like me.. Just have a heart to heart talk with her.. It's something I never did.. And I think it's best.. Talk to her and ask her if her parents would support your relationship...
Me I am ready to fight for what I love... Thank God she too don jump boat by God's grace things will work...

So please it depends on her people if they say no.. Then your chances are very slim but not impossible...
Let love lead you

doctorbabs:
WHY DO U WANT TO MARRY DAUGHTER OF "TERRORIST" OR WOULD YOU HAVE ALLOW U SISTER TO MARRY SON OF "TERRORIST"? YOURS IS YOURS, OURS IS OURS.

Guy you are high on camphor juice

ImaIma1:
Hmmm...well in your case you are the guy snd she might end up becoming a Christian. But if she doesn't, there will be differences and clashed. Love is not enough to sustain a marriage. So you have to project fivd yrs down the line...ten years... . I was in love with a muslim guy at one point abd I saw in him a lot of things i wanted in a husband. But i thought about a lot of things like how would we bring up the children...will they be torn between being Christian or Muslim...would my husband and I be able to pray together...etc. and i knew i was never going to convert and so I moved on.
The moral of my story...weigh all the options before making ur decision.

Exactly what happened to me last mnth(after 2yrs with her)...no matter how hard you try, the chances of making it far are very slim. Don‘t try it...

I'm gonna advice you based on experience. Love is not enough u two are not compatible. I stand to be corrected but let me share my story With u. I'm a Christian gal I met this guy early 2014 we were just friends later we grew to love each other. He's a Muslim by religion. We thought love was enough to see us through but in this case it wasn't. He loved me so much and I loved him too. At first he said I was gonna still practice Christianity after marriage but our kids will be Muslims. I couldn't imagine my children becoming Muslims that's mean in the house I will be the only one going to church, no morning devotion, no family prayer. I couldn't just go ahead, I also know with time either his family forces me to convert or they get him another wife. My dear it's gonna be difficult to cope unless she's ready to convert to Christianity or u become a Muslim

Zinny25:
I'm gonna advice you based on experience. Love is not enough u two are not compatible. I stand to be corrected but let me share my story With u. I'm a Christian gal I met this guy early 2014 we were just friends later we grew to love each other. He's a Muslim by religion. We thought love was enough to see us through but in this case it wasn't. He loved me so much and I loved him too. At first he said I was gonna still practice Christianity after marriage but our kids will be Muslims. I couldn't imagine my children becoming Muslims that's mean in the house I will be the only one going to church, no morning devotion, no family prayer. I couldn't just go ahead, I also know with time either his family forces me to convert or they get him another wife. My dear it's gonna be difficult to cope unless she's ready to convert to Christianity or u become a Muslim

This post make some sense.

My friend, you can only succeed in getting that angel if you are ready to convert and join her religion, unless you are not ready to marry her. That is the condition islamically, if you cannot convert then let her go, there is no compulsion in religion.

doctorbabs:
WHY DO U WANT TO MARRY DAUGHTER OF "TERRORIST" OR WOULD YOU HAVE ALLOW U SISTER TO MARRY SON OF "TERRORIST"? YOURS IS YOURS, OURS IS OURS.

your stupidity amazes me

taiyeayodeji:
hmm, i would advice you to face reality.marriage is a life time decision even thou the present day world have a custom of divorce.Who you marry really matters and there are billions of ladies out there.How far you go in life is determined by who you choose to marry.Ladies are complex and so also are guys.As a guy, there are possibilities of falling in love with several ladies when you get in contact with them.I would say from experience that for marriage , LOVE is not everything, our feelings may deceive us..But you need Gods guidance in all you do as a christian,its not a decision a friend can take for you , neither your pastor can make it for you.if i would advice you, you need to sit the lady down and ask her view on religion.I must say that the best is for you guys to reach an agreement, one has to submit to another.As a man, what kind of religion do you want your kids to practice ,xtianity or Islam.You cant be in between.But know that women have great influence from their mum.Would their um agree to allow them go to church or would you be happy to let them go to mosque.i must say that don't be deceived by those saying love is everything.LOVE sometimes get cold and beauty is not even everything, even humans change based on situation.
life is a battle ground and the kind of support you get from your wife matters, sometimes in life, there are attacks, can your wife sustain you when you are weak or down on the field.
Once again, i cant decide for you on who to marry or not, the down fall of a man begins with a woman.marrying a wrong woman can set you back by ten years or move you forward at a supersonic speed.just my view.NB FORGET WHAT COUPLES DISPLAY OUTSIDE,some families display to the outside world that they are happy, but do you know what goes on inside their home,with the kids.Yeah some who give you examples of christians who married moslems and are happy.Do you know what they are enduring inside, i dont know the level of your christianity and also the level of her islam.But no strong xtian will marry a moslem and no strong moslem will marry a xtian.

Your write up is based on imagination rather than facts. What problems do people from different faiths face that people from the same faith don't face? I need just one, not even pastors or imams are exempted. You're just pretending to know what you don't know. I'm fifteen years into marriage across the divided of religion and even ethnicity in addition to that and I can tell you, most of the problems you highlighted are more imaginary than real except the only preoccupation you have in life is religion, in which case you belong to the past AC ND possibly the poor as well.

truthstands11:


Don't talk back at me. You have the right to state your opinion and back it up with facts. I just stated the obvious. Marriage is built on God and on whose name will they end their prayers? Muslims and Christians can walk along in classrooms as classmates but not as husband and wife. Read my post with conscience and you'll know I'm saying nothing but the truth.

You are writing nonsense. Chris oyakilome and okotie are both Christians with marriage built on God. What happened at the end?

Babatunde fashola, Bola Tinubu are both Muslims with Christian wives but are still in marriage till date. What do you have to say about that?

You wrote blatant trash

Piercy:

...So please it depends on her people if they say no.. Then your chances are very slim but not impossible...
Let love lead you

Thanks

IN addition to my previous view,you may marry her if GOD leads you to marry her and in that case,GOD has a reason for such because he knows the end of a thing before the beginning.A good wife comes from God and i would say dont venture into anything that God is not in it, dont go on a battle that God is not going with you. Sad to say, i have seen a marriage of one year , the husband died a year after the marriage.It shall never be your portion but think and dont be decieved by people who say follow your mind.the path that God has laid for you is different from Tinubu's path or any other married person, LOVE IS NOT EVERYTHING, GOD IS EVERYTHING.HUMAN LOVE CAN FAIL WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT.THOSE WHO DIVORCED TODAY WERE ONCE MADLY IN LOVE

Zinny25:
I'm gonna advice you based on experience. Love is not enough u two are not compatible. I stand to be corrected but let me share my story With u.

Thanks sis.

Zinny25:
I'm gonna advice you based on experience. Love is not enough u two are not compatible. I stand to be corrected but let me share my story With u. I'm a Christian gal I met this guy early 2014 we were just friends later we grew to love each other. He's a Muslim by religion. We thought love was enough to see us through but in this case it wasn't. He loved me so much and I loved him too. At first he said I was gonna still practice Christianity after marriage but our kids will be Muslims. I couldn't imagine my children becoming Muslims that's mean in the house I will be the only one going to church, no morning devotion, no family prayer. I couldn't just go ahead, I also know with time either his family forces me to convert or they get him another wife. My dear it's gonna be difficult to cope unless she's ready to convert to Christianity or u become a Muslim

I think it is cristal clear how Islam spelled out the conditions for interreligious marriage between a Christian and a Muslim. A Muslim guy can marry a Christian lady and allow her to practice her faith while a Muslim lady can not marry a Christian unless he is willing to convert to her practicing faith.

swiperthefox:
It seems as if you are looking for permission to go ahead with this relationship. If you have made up your mind go ahead but just know that light and darkness cannot dwell together. My advice is that you should cut all contacts and focus on finding a good Christian girl to marry.

have u ever considered if ur parents were mu
slims

YEA YOU ARE RIGHT,no marriage without a storm.Life is full of challenges.Even the big men of God faces storm in their marriage , talkless of the ordinary.i never said he should not marry her.it good to take a deep look at every aspect of everything when taking a decision, the physical aspect and also the spiritual aspect.i gave an advice based on my area of expertise,the religious aspect.so let those who are more experience in other areas and religion give their advise in their areas of knowledge. i respect your view and opinion and i would never force my opinion or believe on anybody.A biologist would give his view based on his knowledge, a social person also on his experience.I have given my view from the little i know,its left for the op to take it or discard it.LIFE IS MORE THAN MARRIAGE, MARRIAGE DOES NOT GIVE HAPPINESS, GOD GIVES HAPPINESS.THOSE WHO ARE DIVORCED TODAY WERE ONCE MADLY IN LOVE,lets not be decieved by what some people display outside and you think they are happy with their marriage.there come a time when storms who hit the marriage,can HUMAN LOVE STAND. i respect your experience in your field. by the way, poverty is a thing of the mind,I AM A CHRISTIAN and not a religious folk as you may think.I serve a rich GOD AND I THANK GOD that am far above poverty.my views

fatiaforreal:

Your write up is based on imagination rather than facts. What problems do people from different faiths face that people from the same faith don't face? I need just one, not even pastors or imams are exempted. You're just pretending to know what you don't know. I'm fifteen years into marriage across the divided of religion and even ethnicity in addition to that and I can tell you, most of the problems you highlighted are more imaginary than real except the only preoccupation you have in life is religion, in which case you belong to the past AC ND possibly the poor as well.

Do it like dir, take her out, talk, laugh, gist and in the end, tell her your mind, then tell her ur fear and why u haven't told her all this years. Stand up and leave. Wait for her reply afterwards

Shey Musa marry Juliet yesterday......shebi d Juliet don turn muslim

Abi musa turn christian

Kakamorufu:
Do it like dir, take her out, talk, laugh, gist and in the end, tell her your mind, then tell her ur fear and why u haven't told her all this years. Stand up and leave. Wait for her reply afterwards

Thanks for this..

MichaelUweh:
Bro, in a situation where you a are consider as an "INFIDEL" by the later, I rather advise you to continue growing your faith & your unborn children faith in Christ ,for the bible say" we the BELIEVERS shouldn't be ignorant about the devices of the devils...a word is enough for a wise, if u really know who is JESUS....

If the Muslims considers the Christians as Infidels then what does the Christians considers the Muslims as?

Some people will just write nonsense portraying themselves to be superior and the only way.

AbujaLover:
Hello Nairalanders. Pls I want to share my love story with you. I'm a christian and there is this my high school friend that we grew fond of each while in high school, we had been "just friends".

While in SS3, I was a prefect and she was my assistant. This gave us more time together, back then we never thought of romance, we were just the "serious type" always discussing our studies and helping each other. We were best of friends.

It was during the last days at High School that we realised how attached we had grown to each other, I remember we talked about how we will miss each other in a 'friendly' manner while taking a walk round the school.

In those days, I realised I had more feelings than friendship towards her but I do tell my self that it was just infatuation that once we leave each other, the feeelings will die off and I will perhaps meet someone else.

Four years down the line, we still can't let go of each other, we usually only talked on phone and social media not until some months ago that I decided to pay her a visit in her home.

The visit was so nostalgic, we were delighted to see each other but we both kept on hiding our feelings. I think we are both pretending not to feel anything beyond friendship. This is because of differences in our religion.

I met with her dad, an Alhaji, that day, and we also discussed Nigeria and the waxing hardship, I sense he was quite liberal. Maybe that's because I and his daughter were "just friends".

Now, our calls usually starts well but ends cold, when it's time to say goodbye, we are both pretending towards each other. I know, and I think she knows also.

If we had been of the same religion, I would have made my feelings known to her but I just can't summon the courage to do so now. Our differences in religion didnot stop me from loving her but stopping me from having her.

I would like your suggestions. Have you ever been in such situation before? How did you do it?

Pls I want mature suggestions.

Thanks in advance.

Who is a Christian? When did you become one? What does the Bible say about Christian marriage?

A Christian Lady Asked a Sheik In a conference on peace In Jos, she said why is it that your religion allowed you to marry a Christian girl but you are not reciprocating by giving your daughters in marriage to Christian men? The sheik replied, yes the is reason for that. As you probably know, Muslims believe in Jesus p.b.u.h. as a Prophet sent by God, and we also believe in the original scripture of the Bible (Injila) that God sent him with. All these have been clearly stated in our Glorious Qur'an . you see, with these even if our Muslim brothers marry Chirtian ladies they would have no problems because he has respect for whom she believes in, but if you Christians can reciprocate these gestures by believing in our own prophet of Islam , Muhammad pbuh. and also believe in our Glorious Qur'an as we do to your book, Bible Injila, then we can give our daughters in marriage to you Chiristians.

Yahaya85:

A Christian Lady Asked a Sheik In a conference on peace In Jos, she said why is it that your religion allowed you to marry a Christian girl but you are not reciprocating by giving your daughters in marriage to Christian men? The sheik replied, yes the is reason for that. As you probably know, Muslims believe in Jesus p.b.u.h. as a Prophet sent by God, and we also believe in the original scripture of the Bible (Injila) that God sent him with. All these have been clearly stated in our Glorious Qur'an . you see, with these even if our Muslim brothers marry Chirtian ladies they would have no problems because he has respect for whom she believes in, but if you Christians can reciprocate these gestures by believing in our own prophet of Islam , Muhammad pbuh. and also believe in our Glorious Qur'an as we do to your book, Bible Injila, then we can give our daughters in marriage to you Chiristians.

This is very deep. It's one of the problems of Christians. They don't believe in anything besides theirs only.

Where is the children going to worship?.

shaddoww:
1corinthians 7 vs 12-16
To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
Normally, Yorubas don't have problem doing inter-religious marriage but dis days things as changed, people now put religion on their head, if u were d lady, it may b difficult convincing ur parent, bt as d guy n being being xtrian, I don't think u will av a problem convincing ur parent but the problem now is hw do u convince d gal' parent?
I know of some people married to d other religion n doing fine.
1. Asiwaju Bola Hammed Tinubu
2. Babatunde Raji Fashola
3. Folorunsho Alakija
4. Ibikunle Amosun
5. Abdul Fatai Hammed etc

shaddoww:
1corinthians 7 vs 12-16
To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
Normally, Yorubas don't have problem doing inter-religious marriage but dis days things as changed, people now put religion on their head, if u were d lady, it may b difficult convincing ur parent, bt as d guy n being being xtrian, I don't think u will av a problem convincing ur parent but the problem now is hw do u convince d gal' parent?
I know of some people married to d other religion n doing fine.
1. Asiwaju Bola Hammed Tinubu
2. Babatunde Raji Fashola
3. Folorunsho Alakija
4. Ibikunle Amosun
5. Abdul Fatai Hammed etc

Ibikunle Amosun isnt doing fineoooooooo,women are not chanced to make choice after marriageooooo,belle is the surest bet,but datz if her dad is not a fanatic.GOODLUCK

Follow your heart, forget the advice being given to you by people that can't even differentiate btw love n lust ok goodluck hoping to attend your wedding ceremony!