Charlieswhite:
I don't mind killing him

I won't mind killing you! Waste of space, go and hustle your own. Fathers are there to train you to 18 or at most 21.

Damfostopper:
everybody ain't the same... ur luck n his luck might not be the same

I understand ..I Just wanted him to know by 21 he could even employ his dad ..16 is the best time to leave home believe me

Osaib:


Yesterday U were married and your neighbor's wife calls you woman wrapper. Today you are 21 and your father has decided to abandon his responsibilities in search of enjoyment. No bi only woman wrapper, you will soon be called papa wrapper. E bi like say this your mu** na follow come.

good research skills, LoooooooL

i m

Legalbeing:
My name is john. Am twenty one :-X9
Here is my story. Not just a story but an irony of truth and lies.
Do u know that if any human clocks 50 all he keeps thinking was his death?....(daddy said so)
Just like a utility maximisation, we tend to reach to a point and depreciate. Nov
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My father abandoned me and my siblings
just because he will soon die and he need to plan and enjoy the few years he has to spend on earth. He told my Mum that we all have our own future fend for. if we keep expecting him to pay our school fees, buy cloths and feed us complete thrice and many more that we are joking.. He also told my elderst brother that the money he has is for him and his wife. I thought the joke was a plank.. Not until when my two elder brother left the home to no destination.. I sat to share issues with my mum who pointed out vividly that my Daddy made the right decision.
So i wonder if that is right.. Is it only my father that has that mentality or is it a general undertaken. Someone needs a help.

OP is 21 and by global standards​ should be fending for himself but here in Nigeria, parents carry the burden of financially sustaining their children who are even heading to their 30's!

I wonder why everyone just thinking one way...

Your mum agreed to his plans, which means they both has a plan for you guys... No mother will agree on that trust me.


Your dad and mum are up to something.. They want you guys to hustle early.. Independent, take responsibility for yourselves early..

They have plans.. You think they don't know that they would need you guys help at old age? They ain't stupid!!!

They have good plans for you guys...


Maybe there is something you guys aren't doing which they want you to do.

Otherwise... I may be wrong tho.

Nma27:
What's d correlation now?

Please leave me d fvck ALONE!!!!

My crazy thought, it may sound harsh but it will bring the best out of you quick. From your write-up, he only stop paying for education but still accommodate you, and probably still feed you.
If that's the case, he wants you to think....recently I watched "the men who built America" inside I learnt few things from Rockefeller and co in the story... most of them started from nowhere but were able to think outside the box. We have overrated university education so well that even most graduate don't even know to what purpose is the education given to them. We are so adapted to the routine, goto school, graduate and get a nice job.
Just read a topic about facebook CEO graduated from university after establishing himself.
Few weeks to my NYSC POP last yr May, my dad said I should obtain Master's form but I told him to give me sometime to see what I can do with my life. Now am doing what I didn't learn in school. I am only hoping it gets better.
As for Master's, I know few that have MSc but still engage sec sch stdnt with tutorials to meet end means.

Let me guess.

Your dad took out life insurance to cover for when you the last born turn 21. Now that you are 21 he decides to enjoy his life.

Your dad is not selfish as some people suggested. He is just telling you to become the man you are supposed to be. This may sound harsh to some but it's the reality of life. If at 21 you are still thinking like a teenager the possibility of ever becoming a man is remote.

If you follow your dad's advice you will thank him later.

smith666999:
my dear, if Life throws Shit to you, pls build a septic tank. a lesson for all.

Or use it as manure for your growth.

Legalbeing:
My name is john. Am twenty one
Here is my story. Not just a story but an irony of truth and lies.
Do u know that if any human clocks 50 all he keeps thinking was his death?....(daddy said so)
Just like a utility maximisation, we tend to reach to a point and depreciate.
My father abandoned me and my siblings
just because he will soon die and he need to plan and enjoy the few years he has to spend on earth. He told my Mum that we all have our own future fend for. if we keep expecting him to pay our school fees, buy cloths and feed us complete thrice and many more that we are joking.. He also told my elderst brother that the money he has is for him and his wife. I thought the joke was a plank.. Not until when my two elder brother left the home to no destination.. I sat to share issues with my mum who pointed out vividly that my Daddy made the right decision.
So i wonder if that is right.. Is it only my father that has that mentality or is it a general undertaken. Someone needs a help.

Wrong Mentality, at age 50, he should be coaching his sons on how to be successful and help all his siblings to fly high and also avoid all the mistakes he made in life. Rich folks always put their sons and daughters in a vantage position so they can take over their bizness. They employ poor folks to do the dirty deals...

A good man leave inheritance for his childrens children. The simple fact is that success can come at any age, these are list of folks that still made it after age 40,

Ray Kroc spent his career as a milkshake device salesman before buying McDonald's at age 52 in 1954. He grew it into the world's biggest fast-food franchise.

Taikichiro Mori was an academic who became a real estate investor at age 51 when he founded Mori Building Company. His brilliant investments made him the richest man in the world in 1992, when he had a net worth of $13 billion.

Wally Blume had a long career in the dairy business before starting his own ice cream company, Denali Flavors, at age 57 in 1995. The company reported revenue of $80 million in 2009.

Harland Sanders, better known as Colonel Sanders, was 62 when he franchised Kentucky Fried Chicken in 1952, which he would sell for $2 million 12 years later.

Anna Mary Robertson Moses, better known as Grandma Moses, began her prolific painting career at 78. In 2006, one of her paintings sold for $1.2 million.

Harry Bernstein spent a long life writing in obscurity, achieving notoriety at long last at age 96 for his 2007 memoir "The Invisible Wall: A Love Story That Broke Barriers."

Legalbeing:
My name is john. Am twenty one
Here is my story. Not just a story but an irony of truth and lies.
Do u know that if any human clocks 50 all he keeps thinking was his death?....(daddy said so)
Just like a utility maximisation, we tend to reach to a point and depreciate.
My father abandoned me and my siblings
just because he will soon die and he need to plan and enjoy the few years he has to spend on earth. He told my Mum that we all have our own future fend for. if we keep expecting him to pay our school fees, buy cloths and feed us complete thrice and many more that we are joking.. He also told my elderst brother that the money he has is for him and his wife. I thought the joke was a plank.. Not until when my two elder brother left the home to no destination.. I sat to share issues with my mum who pointed out vividly that my Daddy made the right decision.
So i wonder if that is right.. Is it only my father that has that mentality or is it a general undertaken. Someone needs a help.

Dude it's time to brace up. You are lucky in a away because your father made his intention known to you. I left my father's house in my first year in the University. I knew how difficult it was having to asking for my secondary school tuition of N250 n vowed never to return to ask him for tuition beyond my 100L.

Never went back home till now. Some fathers believe they have the right to be irresponsible to the upbringing of their children or some of their children but believe they are deserving of love n affection from all their children but it does not work like that at least not with me so take your destiny in your hands.

There are people that will be several times more responsible to you than your father can ever be. Just be strong look out for life opportunities and take it. Each one is laced with different sort of risk but never forget survival n success is the ultimate goal.

luminouz:

Please leave me d fvck ALONE!!!!

Pls don't give people weird ideas my frd! I no hold you!

There is always two side to every issue, probably he want u guys to be independent, strong and be yourself... He will still help you but just wanting to see the step you will take. The truth is can u your father? If he dies truly does that means your life will end too? He want you to think right now!

Billyonaire:
Your Dad loves you and your brothers very much. What he has done now will make you all very independent minded and you will become better men. Today y'all will think your Dad is wicked. But remember this day, your Dad was already married at 24/25 and your elder brother has reached that stage and age. And your Dad says 'I am fuccking tired, At your Age I was already independent and married your mother and you all are depending on me'.

It is called mid-life crisis. Sorry

same thing my pop's been doing to me since age 16.

Op you are not alone and I'm yhr first sef and he's 40 something
I believe in karma tho

Nma27:
Pls don't give people weird ideas my frd! I no hold you!

I ain't ur frd! N d guy understood what I meant! Why u carrying it on ur head like gala? Reread again if u don't get DAT simple statement! Am in no mood to argue biko!!!

I read a question on quora about a guy seeking for how to start his life when his parent stopped taking his responsibilities at 19.
From most replies, it was a "way of life" to the westerners. Someone even said he was paying his parents house rent for staying with them at age 19th.

Truth is, the earlier you take your life at your hands, the better it is for you. It good and easy to achieve great with your parents help but also it not a crime if they don't and they are not self. Just hustle and pray!

Snow5:
I wonder why everyone just thinking one way...

Your mum agreed to his plans, which means they both has a plan for you guys... No mother will agree on that trust me.


Your dad and mum are up to something.. They want you guys to hustle early.. Independent, take responsibility for yourselves early..

They have plans.. You think they don't know that they would need you guys help at old age? They ain't stupid!!!




They have good plans for you guys...


Maybe there is something you guys aren't doing which they want you to do.

I thought so too but when you consider that two sons are out to unknown places, a parent should be concerned. You can make a child sit up and work for his money without going this far. They are adults that can be spoken to such that they understand the issue at hand and key into the proposed solution.

We've seen cases of children abandoning their parents in old age and giving the excuse of having fended for themselves while the parents enjoyed. I believe that it's wise to have just the number of kids you can cater for.

@Op
Maybe there's something missing in your story though. Hope we're not judging wrongly based on incomplete information.

Tell your dad he has a choice of joy in you guys success or an old age filled with loneliness and regrets as you guys succeed without him... Or worse, long years of shame and disgrace if you guys God forbid turn out to be thugs and agbero

op your case is good na, atleast your p-man trained you till 21, me since I was a baby till now,my father is alive but dead to me,since I was have grown till now,my father has never for once called to ask how I am,not to talk of money, I am just lucky I have a good mother,which you seem to b lacking.To think the selfish man is chilling in his house waiting to collect bride price on my head

Legalbeing:
My name is john. Am twenty one
Here is my story. Not just a story but an irony of truth and lies.
Do u know that if any human clocks 50 all he keeps thinking was his death?....(daddy said so)
Just like a utility maximisation, we tend to reach to a point and depreciate.
My father abandoned me and my siblings
just because he will soon die and he need to plan and enjoy the few years he has to spend on earth. He told my Mum that we all have our own future fend for. if we keep expecting him to pay our school fees, buy cloths and feed us complete thrice and many more that we are joking.. He also told my elderst brother that the money he has is for him and his wife. I thought the joke was a plank.. Not until when my two elder brother left the home to no destination.. I sat to share issues with my mum who pointed out vividly that my Daddy made the right decision.
So i wonder if that is right.. Is it only my father that has that mentality or is it a general undertaken. Someone needs a help.

You get kicked out of the house at 18 yrs in western countries (Europe, US, Australia, Canada and New Zealand). If you choose to remain at home after 18, then you have to contribute to rent and feeding. It is only in non western countries that you see a 21 years old demanding that their parent still take care of them.

Legalbeing:
My name is john. Am twenty one
Here is my story. Not just a story but an irony of truth and lies.
Do u know that if any human clocks 50 all he keeps thinking was his death?....(daddy said so)
Just like a utility maximisation, we tend to reach to a point and depreciate.
My father abandoned me and my siblings
just because he will soon die and he need to plan and enjoy the few years he has to spend on earth. He told my Mum that we all have our own future fend for. if we keep expecting him to pay our school fees, buy cloths and feed us complete thrice and many more that we are joking.. He also told my elderst brother that the money he has is for him and his wife. I thought the joke was a plank.. Not until when my two elder brother left the home to no destination.. I sat to share issues with my mum who pointed out vividly that my Daddy made the right decision.
So i wonder if that is right.. Is it only my father that has that mentality or is it a general undertaken. Someone needs a help.

What is the life expectancy of a nigerian?

I think that should answer your question...

I showed this thread to someone just now and we immediately started laughing....
Unless there is afamily curse or hes hiding a terminal medical diagnosis, your dad is a COMEDIAN and a asshole too !

Well he should better leave money for his burial.

That's social media for you, almost everyone behind their qwerty pad forming independence, funny most of them are still under parents roof collecting daily stipends . unfortunately you exposed yours.

What a ridiculous excuse. At 50, he is still young. There're plenty of 50 year olds who're working and living their lives. There're plenty of 60, even 70 year olds who're still working and doing their thing.

Miss life crisis coming at a later age.

Give him time, he will outgrow this stage

frenzyduchess:
op your case is good na, atleast your p-man trained you till 21, me since I was a baby till now,my father is alive but dead to me,since I was have grown till now,my father has never for once called to ask how I am,not to talk of money, I am just lucky I have a good mother,which you seem to b lacking.To think the selfish man is chilling in his house waiting to collect bride price on mg head

only your mum must take the bride price o!!!

fastgyal:
Your dad is simply trying to shy away from his responsibilities. The only time he's permitted to make this statement is if he has fulfilled what he owes you all(education). Maybe you guys ain't making he happy and he decided to act this way. OP are you in school? and as for you elder brothers. . .has he settled them at a point in time and they didn't yield anything positive?

am a proud Ssce graduate. Non of my sibling attaine Nce not to talk of Bsc or any as such.

NevetsIbot:
only your mum must take the bride price o!!!

if it were possible I would,but our stupid culture will not permit it ,it just makes me angry when I think of it