AnthonioAlsaid:



Thank you my friend

But I'm no way close to being a writer.

AnthonioAlsaid:



Thank you my friend

But I'm no way close to being a writer.

echobazz:
hello guys,I'm really happy to be here and also overcome the flaws associated with introverts.

please i need a link to the book titled QUIET

Olarewajub:
Gloryne

Are you always concern about how those around you misconcept your actions?

Vorpal:
Yawns and stretches limbs.

Looks around, takes a seat in a very dark corner and watches.

Welcome to the lounge Bro!, be rest assured that whatever challenges you might be facing due to your introvert nature will be taken care of. Thankfully, there are lot of intros here who might have experienced something similar and found a way out. Enjoy the show from your seated position in the corner, with time you'll be the one on stage....

Benteazaa:
Hey guyz, happy to have found this thread. Being an introvert has not been easy. i will say i hv overcomed stage fright because i was forced to become the CLO during my NYSC days and now because of the economic recession i hv no option than crawl out of my shell and do stuffs i dnt believe i could do. it feels good to know there are others like me. thou i still find it hard to maintain a conversation

Welcome to the lounge Bro!, hope you enjoy your time here , the issue of maintaining a good conversation has popped up from time to time so i believe you'll find what you seek as you scale through the previous pages

DonOms:


It's great you thought to join the lounge. It's understandable when an introvert refrains from joining an Introverts' Lounge. As a 'gbeborun' extrovert once mockingly asked on this thread, "doesn't this lounge contradict the idea of introversion?" The idea of the lounge (all the thanks to @olarewajub) is to learn more about who we are and share experiences from similar people. How best can we do that other than have a quiet room where all that is said, or not said, is about introversion?

It's lovely you're working on your people and social skills by joining a group in your church. Participating in small groups doing activities of interests is perhaps one of the best ways to improve social skills as an introvert. And improving people skills is important in this age - introvert or not.

So, a big welcome to you, @grocery, @missuniverse and everyone just joining; and more importantly to those who follow quietly around the edge but haven't walked in.

GloryIsaac:


Welcome to the lounge Bro!, be rest assured that whatever challenges you might be facing due to your introvert nature will be taken care of. Thankfully, there are lot of intros here who might have experienced something similar and found a way out. Enjoy the show from your seated position in the corner, with time you'll be the one on stage....


THANKS MAN, Been going through the pages and i most say am learning quite a lot. SHOUTOUT to the OP and other introverts here


Welcome to the lounge Bro!, hope you enjoy your time here , the issue of maintaining a good conversation has popped up from time to time so i believe you'll find what you seek as you scale through the previous pages

grocery:


thanks dear

Akposb:
@vorpal, OYO is your case. War is not fun.

Akposb:
@vorpal, OYO is your case. War is not fun.

Olarewajub:


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DonOms:


It's great you thought to join the lounge. It's understandable when an introvert refrains from joining an Introverts' Lounge. As a 'gbeborun' extrovert once mockingly asked on this thread, "doesn't this lounge contradict the idea of introversion?" The idea of the lounge (all the thanks to @olarewajub) is to learn more about who we are and share experiences from similar people. How best can we do that other than have a quiet room where all that is said, or not said, is about introversion?

It's lovely you're working on your people and social skills by joining a group in your church. Participating in small groups doing activities of interests is perhaps one of the best ways to improve social skills as an introvert. And improving people skills is important in this age - introvert or not.

So, a big welcome to you, @grocery, @missuniverse and everyone just joining; and more importantly to those who follow quietly around the edge but haven't walked in.

6 TIPS FOR EXTROVERTED PARENTS WHO ARE RAISING INTROVERTED TEENS

Parenting teenagers is tough, but parenting a teenager who seems to have a completely different personality than you can be even tougher. As the child of two introverts, my desire to not be a social butterfly was well-understood. I can’t say the same for my introverted friends whose outgoing parents forced social activity after social activity on them. It may be confusing or frustrating to parent an introvert when you aren’t one yourself. Don’t worry, this introvert is here to help. I have put together six tips to help you better understand and connect with your introverted teenager.

1. Accept that your teen will be different from you.
There is some debate about whether our personality traits are influenced by nature or nurture, but either way, you shouldn’t expect your children to have the same disposition as you even if they do have 50 percent of your DNA. You may have been the “prom queen” or “football star” type with parties to go to each weekend, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that kind of social life would be of any interest to your teenaged kid. The most powerful thing you can do is accept your teenager for who they are. Don’t make them feel like there is something wrong with them if they are quieter than most. Nothing will wreck your relationship with your children more than insisting that they need to change a fundamental part of who they are.

2. Bond with them in their territory.
Introverts are usually content to pursue their interests alone. While extroverted teens might want to gather a bunch of friends to go to a movie or skateboard in the park, introverts may be perfectly happy doing these activities alone. This also means they may not been too keen on doing activities together as a family if you have other children or relatives living at home. Because of this, it may seem like your teenager is shutting you out. Teens do tend to rebel against their parents, but that may not be why your introverted teenager isn’t sharing their thoughts or interests with you or the rest of the family. It’s possible that including anyone else in their interests and goals just slipped their mind. Since you shouldn’t expect to be outright invited to share in your teenaged kid’s interests, you must engage with them.
Ask questions about what books they’ve read lately or if there is a new movie they want to see. If you do this in non-nosy way, chances are your introverted teenager will start to open up over time. Suggest that just the two of you do something that is in line with your teen’s interests. Your introverted teen will likely appreciate the one-on-one time.

3. Push their comfort zone… gently.
When it comes to expanding your introverted teen’s comfort zone, you must strike a balance between pushing them too little and pushing them too hard. Introverted teens can easily fall into a pattern of spending all their free time alone. School and being a teenager in general is hard. This is why they might retreat into their rooms for a lengthy period of time to recharge their mental batteries. Allowing them to have alone time is good, but too much of it can contribute to feelings of depression or low self-esteem. However, chances are if you have a teen boy who is used to spending most of his free time alone or with a few friends, and you force him to go to a huge birthday party or a football game where he’ll be surrounded by thousands of screaming people, he probably won’t have a good time. In fact, forcing him to socialize on your terms or by doing things only you or other family members want to do is a surefire way to make him want to retreat more and more into his room. Much like point two, find out the ways your introverted teen likes to socialize and encourage them to invite their friends along. If they struggle with meeting new people, find a club, group, or event that is centered around one of their interests. This way your introverted teen will feel like they have something in common with the other people around them.

4. Don’t assume they are being rude.
In my life, there have been many times that I’ve come across as rude or disrespectful just because I’m introverted. If you think your introverted teens might have said something disrespectful, ask them what they meant before instantly punishing them. Introverts with
“thinking”-type personalities tend to respond in a matter-of-fact way. This might cause adults to think that they are smart-talking, when in reality, they are just trying to relay the facts to you. If you take a moment to pause before jumping to conclusions, you might see that your teen wasn’t trying to be snarky. Also, remaining silent when spoken to may not necessarily be a sign of disrespect. Your introverted teen might be struggling to vocalize the right thought before speaking. Giving them time to speak will save you from any rash judgements or misunderstanding, which could damage your relationship with them.

5. Bolster their social skills.
Speaking to new people and connecting with them may be something that comes easily to you but may be a challenge for your introverted teenager. So, don’t push them into social situations without giving them the skills to handle them. That’s right, being social is a skill, much like math, auto-repair, or painting. Some people are born gifted in those areas and others have to apply themselves in order to learn these skills. Chances are if you’re extroverted, you are naturally better at talking to and relating to people than introverts. Don’t try to socialize for your introverted teenager, but instead, help them by imparting your social wisdom to them. For example, if you see that they struggle to start conversations, give them advice on how to better speak to new people. Maybe you can tell them that complimenting what someone is wearing or asking them about their family has always worked for you.

6. Learn what’s healthy for an introvert and what’s not.
Parents of all teens, extroverted or introverted, should be vigilant about their children’s mental health. The symptoms of many mental health disorders begin to appear in late adolescence and young adulthood, with depression and anxiety being the most common. There is a line between your teenager being introverted and having a mental health issue. Introverted teenagers will still be able to get through the day at school, pursue their interests, and have friends. Their quiet nature shouldn’t stop them from functioning on a daily basis. But if you notice that your teenager struggles to get by without being extremely sad or angry, that could be a sign of depression. Also, if your introverted teenager is highly uncomfortable socializing with others or avoids it all together, that could be a sign of social anxiety. Be on the lookout for any changes in their mental health, and don’t be afraid to seek help.
Parenting any teenager can be hard, but I hope you’ve learned how to navigate the complexities of the introverted teen a little better. If you appreciate their differences and work with them, there is no reason you can’t have a happy family of both introverts and extroverts.

imitor4us:
I'm an introvert to the core. this affected me while I was on campus that I couldn't reach out to people and they usually thought that I'm forming.

imitor4us:
I'm an introvert to the core. this affected me while I was on campus that I couldn't reach out to people and they usually thought that I'm forming.