Before you go into that marriage, there are many things to discuss with your beloved to make your journey easier and gain a better understanding of each other.

1. GOD: Who is he in your life? You need to discuss this and the roles you will need God to play in your life, starting your relationship with him. If you don’t agree on this, your marriage may be turbulent if you go ahead.
PURPOSE: What is your purpose in life? What is the reason why you are on earth? You need to know this and discuss it with your spouse to be and listen to his or hers too.

2. VALUES: You need to discuss your values and set of moral beliefs.
Everyone has their own set of values. While most values don’t differ too much, one thing to discuss before marriage is what values are most important to each of you. Then you can decide what values you will share as a family and build your family on that.

3. VISION: Does he know what your future vision and goals are? Do you know his? If you are career minded and plan to put all you have into work for the next six years so you can get a certain promotion or make a certain amount of money, he or she needs to know this. Share your vision about the future, finances and about your children together and marry your vision before you get married.

4. SECRETS: There is no better time to share these intimate and secret things than now. As you look ahead to marriage, share family secrets and challenges. Don’t keep your partner in the dark about your family issues. He or she should marry you with your liabilities and assets if he or she truly loves you. Discuss personal choices, health challenges, problems, mental health concerns, debts, past relationship, addictions. This is the time to share things big and small, paving the way for honesty,[transparency and openness as the foundation of your marriage.

5. CAREER: You need to talk about your career, educating each other about its demands, challenges and what it takes to get to the top there. The level of your commitment should also be discussed. Do you live to work or work to live? How will your respective careers affect family life? Who comes first, career or family? Do you have more schooling and apprenticing to finish? Is there a professional course to be done? If so, what’s the time frame for completing these steps toward obtaining the kind of job you hope for? What kind of personal sacrifices will you and whosoever marries you would have to make to enable you to climb the career ladder to the top?

6. CHILDBEARING: Discuss children, how many, and the time you want to start having them, taking note of the spacing. Discuss child care, where the child will be when you go to work and so on.

7. CHURCH ATTENDANCE: You should discuss the church to attend. How committed you will be there should also be discussed.


8. LOVE LANGUAGES: Your love languages should also be discussed. By love language, we mean what someone may do to make you feel loved. This differs from individual to individual. Some of it are:

a. Words of affirmation: Continuing to say how much one cares and loves the other person.
b. Acts of service: This is helping the person to do things, serving the person in love.
c. Giving gifts: Gifts of any kind that come constantly make many feel loved.
d. Quality time: Spending time together makes some feel loved more than any other thing. For someone like this, giving gifts without staying with them may never make them feel loved.
e. Physical touch: For some, it is touching; hugging, kissing, holding hands and such gestures that spell physical closeness that makes them feel loved.

You need to discuss extensively and know your beloved love language and use this vital information to win his or her love all the days of your marital life. You should also tell your spouse to explore your own love language too.

9. WEAKNESSES: Getting to know your beloved weaknesses will help you a lot in handling him or her. Before you enter the pressure-cooker of marriage, you need to get rid of your bad habits and hang-ups here and now. Do you have some luggage you are yet to drop, do you have some weaknesses? Do you have a tendency to express anger through rage? Do you struggle with any addictive behaviour? Are there any areas in your life that you need to expose and address before you move forward toward marriage?


10. HOW TO FIGHT: Talk about how to fight fair, how to talk when you disagree. Abusive words and curses should be left out no matter the offense or misunderstanding. Physical abuses too, like slapping and beating. So, discuss before marriage how you can approach problems maturely without allowing a situation to get out of control. Also, figure out what topics are likely to generate friction. Avoid such in order to fight fair, and mark a conducive moment when to talk to each other to get the best out of your discussions.

11. BELIEFS: Discuss your beliefs in healing, religion, prayer, marriage, sex, love, tithing, giving and so on.



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Ok make i dey warm up

And most importantly, ur time table for sex! which is: mon-sun 7 times a day, 7 days a week

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Before you go into that marriage, there are many things to discuss with your beloved to make your journey easier and gain a better understanding of each other.

1. GOD: Who is he in your life? You need to discuss this and the roles you will need God to play in your life, starting your relationship with him. If you don’t agree on this, your marriage may be turbulent if you go ahead.
PURPOSE: What is your purpose in life? What is the reason why you are on earth? You need to know this and discuss it with your spouse to be and listen to his or hers too.

2. VALUES: You need to discuss your values and set of moral beliefs.
Everyone has their own set of values. While most values don’t differ too much, one thing to discuss before marriage is what values are most important to each of you. Then you can decide what values you will share as a family and build your family on that.

3. VISION: Does he know what your future vision and goals are? Do you know his? If you are career minded and plan to put all you have into work for the next six years so you can get a certain promotion or make a certain amount of money, he or she needs to know this. Share your vision about the future, finances and about your children together and marry your vision before you get married.

4. SECRETS: There is no better time to share these intimate and secret things than now. As you look ahead to marriage, share family secrets and challenges. Don’t keep your partner in the dark about your family issues. He or she should marry you with your liabilities and assets if he or she truly loves you. Discuss personal choices, health challenges, problems, mental health concerns, debts, past relationship, addictions. This is the time to share things big and small, paving the way for honesty,[transparency and openness as the foundation of your marriage.

5. CAREER: You need to talk about your career, educating each other about its demands, challenges and what it takes to get to the top there. The level of your commitment should also be discussed. Do you live to work or work to live? How will your respective careers affect family life? Who comes first, career or family? Do you have more schooling and apprenticing to finish? Is there a professional course to be done? If so, what’s the time frame for completing these steps toward obtaining the kind of job you hope for? What kind of personal sacrifices will you and whosoever marries you would have to make to enable you to climb the career ladder to the top?

6. CHILDBEARING: Discuss children, how many, and the time you want to start having them, taking note of the spacing. Discuss child care, where the child will be when you go to work and so on.

7. CHURCH ATTENDANCE: You should discuss the church to attend. How committed you will be there should also be discussed.


8. LOVE LANGUAGES: Your love languages should also be discussed. By love language, we mean what someone may do to make you feel loved. This differs from individual to individual. Some of it are:

a. Words of affirmation: Continuing to say how much one cares and loves the other person.
b. Acts of service: This is helping the person to do things, serving the person in love.
c. Giving gifts: Gifts of any kind that come constantly make many feel loved.
d. Quality time: Spending time together makes some feel loved more than any other thing. For someone like this, giving gifts without staying with them may never make them feel loved.
e. Physical touch: For some, it is touching; hugging, kissing, holding hands and such gestures that spell physical closeness that makes them feel loved.

You need to discuss extensively and know your beloved love language and use this vital information to win his or her love all the days of your marital life. You should also tell your spouse to explore your own love language too.

9. WEAKNESSES: Getting to know your beloved weaknesses will help you a lot in handling him or her. Before you enter the pressure-cooker of marriage, you need to get rid of your bad habits and hang-ups here and now. Do you have some luggage you are yet to drop, do you have some weaknesses? Do you have a tendency to express anger through rage? Do you struggle with any addictive behaviour? Are there any areas in your life that you need to expose and address before you move forward toward marriage?


10. HOW TO FIGHT: Talk about how to fight fair, how to talk when you disagree. Abusive words and curses should be left out no matter the offense or misunderstanding. Physical abuses too, like slapping and beating. So, discuss before marriage how you can approach problems maturely without allowing a situation to get out of control. Also, figure out what topics are likely to generate friction. Avoid such in order to fight fair, and mark a conducive moment when to talk to each other to get the best out of your discussions.

11. BELIEFS: Discuss your beliefs in healing, religion, prayer, marriage, sex, love, tithing, giving and so on.



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Nice one but I think SEX should be included... sex is a vital discussion, many family break up because of sex .I have heard of situation where d husband love sex and the wife is the opposite.

The Poster is very, very correct. May God elbow your enemies with Over 2.5.