cooldood:
I have said this before and I'd say it again. Guys face your hustle so the gal of your 'size' will follow you, stop coming on nairaland to argue with gals. For the umpteenth time,gals ain't wired to hustle like guys and so they naturally drift easily towards guys that can meet their needs, now needs are relative. Don't fight it, just double your hustle and cut your suit according to your size. There are beautiful gals across all levels,find your size if one rejects you. These gals are actually giving you clues on how to get them but here you are calling them all sorts of names. How will you feel if you tell people the type of sexy,beautiful gal you want and gals start calling you names too? The gals have spoken,if you like keep fighting it.

Very true.
What is the point of dating a "broke" guy? Who is a broke guy anyway? Is it a lazy or unambituous guy? Whether or nor we accept it,money is important in a relationship. When u love you give. The lady could be giving the guy from her earnings but for how long? There will be problems...his pride and ego will set in. And a poor man has bigger ego. And his love might be dependent on his situation. If he hits it and makes money,will he still love? Or he will forget all the suffering they both went through.
I have concluded that it is not worth it especially when it's the kind of guy that is like a wall gecko...always at home.

Oya take this small sense as a souvenir, let me be going

Randy91:




e pain am again ooo ooooo.....Lolzzzz


#having madt fun

oya don't quote me again

Juell:

Wrong comparison, a broke guy can become rich tomorrow, but an ugly can't become pretty no matter what.

gbammmm!

Toks2008:


Then become self reliant and make the freaking money so you won't care less if that sweet guy you truly want is broke or rich rather than saying yes to a man you won't date in your dreams because he has money.

sir... This is one of the best replies have ever seen on this thread

majekdom2:
Thank you... is it by the ride?? I know a guy that drives a one of the latest ride, works with an IOC but doesn't date any girl in need. Only working class... he told me clearly. He will never be responsible for any babe!!

Hahahahah.
I wanted to have this mentality sometimes ago.
But I just learnt to relax on the idea, you see lots of people have been through shit,
As a guy, you disregarded me before I got into good business or a good job. And you think I won't have the mentality that any girl must date must be rich herself.
She will know I have, but I won't give her a dime

haibe:


The most foolish thing any lady can do is to marry a man because of his "current" financial status. People go from being extremely broke to being ridiculously rich while people also go from having stupendous wealth to being very poor. If your so called rich husband goes very poor tomorrow, what would you do? A divorce right? And then he gets rich again, u then start begging him back for reconciliation? Thats the dumbest thing ever.

How about marrying someone you truly love and who has a potential to be great in life (even if he is not currently great).

Same thing with the guys that marry for beauty. Beauty fades away and even if it doesn't (because of wealth), you may just get tired of her beauty one day. If however you marry someone u truly love and loves u back; even if she is not the most pretty one, you will always love and appreciate her presence. This is likely to lead to a long lasting relationship than simply marrying for beauty.

Love this love that. Love cannot make a relationship last in the long run. Other factors come into play. Mind you, you can detect a lot of things from a persons mindset and work ethic. The same way you can be broke today and rich tommorow is the same way you can be broke today and broke tomorrow. And if she wants to avoid disappointment by all costs, she can damn right make that decision. Life itself is a gamble, and some women dont want to take that risk. What is so hard in understanding that?

I am currently dating a broke guy now but we are loving each other like kilode. It's not about today but what the future holds. We plan today and water today, it grows tomorrow. It's all about knowing the kind of person you are with. If he is worth it, walk with him through the night, he wouldn't forget it for his lifetime.

MrTechy:
sir... This is one of the best replies have ever seen on this thread

Na so my brother.....

lefulefu:

understand say most fanatical feminists in naija are actually dykes in disguise.havin said dat ..na wich kain help u need

Ahhh brotherly, my case is helplessly hopeless for now because no action for me till am off work in 2-weeks time.

But, once i get out, na to hunt mixed breed chiquita upandan; get ready o, make we go enter Island side. I get "recruitment-tinz " on my mind & i nor too sabi Lag make dem nor come kidnap me o !

tobianthony:


Baba one should naturally want to take care of their partner ...the prevailing sentiment here is that every one should learn to get their finances in order and not depend wholly on their significant others .

Yes if you are in a relationship or marriage its not a bad thing if you shoulder part of the bills in relationship regardless of your gender or roles .

No more house wife ohhhh ..or house husband .

If the bread winner gets fired by the bread maker nko ?

Bakery go close ?

And because the bread business isn't moving does it mean the partner shouldn't respectfully help out ?

Speaking of bread ..I'm hungry .

you guys are not getting what this girl is trying to point out,all she is saying is that women prefer to date rich guys,but with the prevalence of broke men,its a struggle for them to settle with broke men,its only natural,as a man you shouldnt be expecting your gf or wife to help u out financially only when you are in dire need,a man should strive to be as financially dominant as possible,this ensures a stable relationship,but when the man starts expecting a woman to handle things for him he looses credibility and respect.trust me its more fun when you have so much more and your woman depends on you totally,u will enjoy her so much,buh when shes shouldering some responsibilities she becomes fustrated even if she is rich,women want to be taken care of,mens goals should be to strive for financial success and marry or date a beautiful ,good woman,not to be seeking for working women

Cinderella5:
money makes ladies look good too, with the right clothes, hair, cream, make up, she will become beautiful.

How old are you?

Euhedral:
I am currently dating a broke guy now but we are loving each other like kilode. It's not about today but what the future holds. We plan today and water today, it grows tomorrow. It's all about knowing the kind of person you are with. If he is worth it, walk with him through the night, he wouldn't forget it for his lifetime.

I like your spirit but one more thing....he must not be the give me this and give me that type cos I hate a scrub.

If you have enough to help him please do without expecting him to reward you by force with love or faithfulness to you....it's all about taking the risk.

Wish you the best

Safiaa:
we understand that. But realistically not every story has an happy ending. We have people who are just destined to be poor. Thats fine, but some women don't want that. And if she states that she doesn't want that, it's a problem. The same way men have criterias for picking their partners, is the same way women are entitled to have their say too. A woman can only bring so much to the table financially. Once she becomes the breadwinner, problems occur. I don't care about what any body has to say.

I see reason with you ... to some extent .

Me personally I used to have so many requirements to choose a partner when I was young ...now the only criteria I have is the inability to kill me .

Sometimes I honestly ask myself what would happen if my partner suddenly became richer than me ... So I will give you this one .

At least this I learnt today .

Odunharry:

Good u saw d rubbish she wrote..
Alot of ladies have that mentality.

Well,I understand where they are coming from,you know some ladies date guys who don't have and get jilted in the long run,I can testify,but at this stage I've gotten,money is very inconsequential in a relationship for me.

Call it feminism,but I find it absurd to depend on a guy,and make statements like a girl is not considered broke,its annoying to me.
Tomorrow when this men beat them or cheat,they don't have any financial power to complain or protest,na still the same feminists them go run to for help,its disheartening.

majekdom2:
Thank you... is it by the ride?? I know a guy that drives a one of the latest ride, works with an IOC but doesn't date any girl in need. Only working class... he told me clearly. He will never be responsible for any babe!!

Hahahahah.
I wanted to have this mentality sometimes ago.
But I just decided to do away with the idea, you see lots of guys have been through shit,
If as a guy I was treated with disdain before fortune smile on me, naturally I will develop the mentality that any girl must date must be rich herself, she must not be in need, because I won't be financially responsible for her, I won't even invest 1kobo in the relationship or we will both will share the cost equally.
She will know I have, but I won't give her a dime except for equal contribution to offset cost of the relationship.

babasolution:


you guys are not getting what this girl is trying to point out,all she is saying is that women prefer to date rich guys,but with the prevalence of broke men,its a struggle for them to settle with broke men,its only natural,as a man you shouldnt be expecting your gf or wife to help u out financially only when you are in dire need,a man should strive to be as financially dominant as possible,this ensures a stable relationship,but when the man starts expecting a woman to handle things for him he looses credibility and respect.trust me its more fun when you have so much more and your woman depends on you totally,u will enjoy her so much,buh when shes shouldering some responsibilities she becomes fustrated even if she is rich,women want to be taken care of,mens goals should be to strive for financial success and marry or date a beautiful ,good woman,not to be seeking for working women

My brother you made lots of sense but for me...a working class lady all the way cos I can not come and go and die for any lady who will dump her bukata on me.

Even if I have all the money in the world I would rather prefer to set you up in a good business so that you can help yourself, your family and our family.

One thing I always say us that only broke ladies make it a big deal dating a broke guy.

Draei:

A girl is labeled broke financially & mentally
the moment she hunts after all-ready made men.

Thank you, broke guy deserve to be happy too in any relationship they find themselves.

Cinderella5:
I can see you are one of those trying hard to impress onlookers with the hope of getting a pm from a man who would see you as a good wife material.You are also the type that begs guys for recharge cards.
If you read my posts to understand my line of reasoning, you woundnt have wasted your time typing this long post. I never talked about total dependent on a guy. It's about a broke guy who never has, you will be deluded if you are suggesting money is not important in a relationship. This is not western world where you both go out and settle each other's bills, certain responsibilities are for the man and it should remain so.

You are lucky you haven't met a guy who would thoroughly educate you (by experience) on the disadvantages of this mentality.

You can never equate your good looks to a man's wealth. It should even be demeaning to your womanly pride. Anyway, to each, his own.

Cinderella5:
well, People say it but they are wrong, no broke girls. Reason is this, when a girl does not have money, it's not as much as an issue compared to when a guy doesn't have.

hw old are u? Sounding like a 10yr old child

babasolution:


you guys are not getting what this girl is trying to point out,all she is saying is that women prefer to date rich guys,but with the prevalence of broke men,its a struggle for them to settle with broke men,its only natural,as a man you shouldnt be expecting your gf or wife to help u out financially only when you are in dire need,a man should strive to be as financially dominant as possible,this ensures a stable relationship,but when the man starts expecting a woman to handle things for him he looses credibility and respect.trust me its more fun when you have so much more and your woman depends on you totally,u will enjoy her so much,buh when shes shouldering some responsibilities she becomes fustrated even if she is rich,women want to be taken care of,mens goals should be to strive for financial success and marry or date a beautiful ,good woman,not to be seeking for working women

Partly true ... but there's nothing wrong in her waking up one morning and saying babe this year I'm going to pay the school fees ...while you pay the rent but only this year ohhhhh ...and don't touch the money we are saving to buy land .

erico2k2:

Omo U vex gann

Oboi I just wake up from sleep I come see the mumu thread, I never fit sleep well for days cause I have lots of work on me to finish up I dey vex come join this useless op ehn. I nor know when I take turn savage am like that

Nigerian girls they bleeped up in the head walai
Oboi when I go Cape Verde I almost weep, the place so nice and if you see as the girls just they look me they smile, about 3 of them come strike convo with me and them nor even know me, I was like mehn life is sweet, just they most of them don't speak English.

Reason why most rich niggas treat women like trash. because they know if it wasnt for the money......

daclint:



Legendary comment , where all those nairalander guys wey wan marry , see wife material oo

Amarabae is married. Reason She speaks more sense than all this children

babasolution:


tru talk,i dnt knw why guys on nairaland justify their brokeness and start attacking ladies,i support women dating only rich guys,that shud motivate you as a man,but the guys here are so weak,they pushing girls to thrive for financial independence,then when girls talk about their sucess they start ranting and calling them feminist,i dnt just understand this nairaland guys,were are they from?

Dont get it twisted. A girl shud be able to carter for herself not been a liability to some guy dat is about to start life. A guy can be only supportive not a bearer of a girls burden up until it has been formal i mean marriage den she is his total responsibility

well maybe marriage or being in relationship wasn't for everyone, my mom married dad as a poor guy from the street after one year later things got better before the had me dad had 4 buses on the road and lands ,early 2000 dad got ill and things took a nosedive to a point with had to eat rice for one month because someone gave us and that was the only meal available meanwhile mom hustle for our school fees,clothing and other things to a point nobody even noticed that we were so broke but God changed our story once again. Uptill now if my mom doesn't contribute her money to anything my dad does then she doesn't feel cool, she supports him till now. how many girls of this generation can do that? As for my unborn children I owe you that privilege to have a good mother even with one eye rather than this things we have now. Hold down any good girl you find now because their type are very rare

Safiaa:
Love this love that. Love cannot make a relationship last in the long run. Other factors come into play. Mind you, you can detect a lot of things from a persons mindset and work ethic. The same way you can be broke today and rich tommorow is the same way you can be broke today and broke tomorrow. And if she wants to avoid disappointment by all costs, she can damn right make that decision. Life itself is a gamble, and some women dont want to take that risk. What is so hard in understanding that?

the sure way of Insuring your life risk is to stand in your own two legs, ie bring something to your own table at least.

Toks2008:


Funmi let me hint you about something...

I'm not bragging but I have developed a strange phobia for Nigerian ladies expecially the educated ones and I will tell you why.

These ladies are availed the same opportunity as their male counterparts...we went through the same educational system and strangely enough the Labour market favors the females the more yet after stressing themselves to aquire a degree, they still come out looking for a financially comfortable guy to dump their life on....WHY?

I have vowed never to go near a jobless lady no matter how sweet looking you are...you must do something even if you make 1k a day or in the process of doing something worthwhile

Only a hopeless lady will say NO to a guy because he is broke because a reasonable goal getter will understand that a broke guy today can be rich tomorrow as long as he is smart and hardworking

One thing I expected the OP to write is about a broke leech of a guy who is not just broke but will be asking the lady for money. ..this is A BIG NO FIT ME.

Please ladies think.

The minute you wake up to realise that men and women are not equal, the better for you. Physically, emotionally, mentally, we are wired different. Even in the labour/ corporate world, men are given more opportunities in leadership roles than women. Men averagely make more than women. When we look at the the world's richest people, it's dominated by men. Now I'm not saying that women cannot be successful, but stop trying to equate your finances with a woman. Understand that a woman can make her own finances, but she will ALWAYS want a man who will compliment that. Take it or leave it, this is the world that we live in.

Go and look for a rich guy that will use his juju prick to bleep u, don't hustle for ya self and be a rich babe

Catastrophe1:
Amarabae is married. Reason She speaks more sense than all this children

No wonder

sonofLuci:






Oboi I just wake up from sleep I come see the mumu thread, I never fit sleep well for days cause I have lots of work on me to finish up I dey vex come join this useless op ehn. I nor know when I take turn savage am like that

Nigerian girls they bleeped up in the head walai
Oboi when I go Cape Verde I almost weep, the place so nice and if you see as the girls just they look me they smile, about 3 of them come strike convo with me and them nor even know me, I was like mehn life is sweet, just they most of them don't speak English.

I don dey clear for thier eyes now.back in teh days, when they land gand, dem go carry this 9ja mentality come, xpect guys to buy hair ,nils phone,T fare, etc, na so some of dem dey stay 3 years nobody price thier market until dem realize say here nah true love win not money love.

Toks2008:


I like your spirit but one more thing....he must not be the give me this and give me that type cos I hate a scrub.

If you have enough to help him please do without expecting him to reward you by force with love or faithfulness to you....it's all about taking the risk.

Wish you the best

Thanks a lot dearie..I am actually not the blind lover. I notice every action and inaction. He doesn't ask from me and even feel embarrassed when I offer to help cos he feels it should be his responsibility. If he becomes rich today and I notice him drifting apart, I will leave honourably that minute. I don't believe in a one sided love story ahn ahn. I am actually still here because he is a great lover and I believe love is a collective thing. Wishing you all d best too

In every relationship money should not be the top most priority. A guy should not be a girl's full time responsibilities but can only supports her when d need arises. As a girl u should not make money to be the reason of loving a guy because if he s very rich today tomorrow he can be as poor as a church rat, then a guy that s poor today can even be a billionaire cos grace and destinies differs in an individual. So I will advise my fellow girls not to love a guy for what he has but for whom he is. U can marry a guy that has enough money making u comfortable but still u won't be happy in that marriage because he doesn't have your time or giving u d attention that u need. While u can marry an average guy that might not have much money but will still have your time n gives u an attention. Like what a guy said to me, he said that I should pray for a man that is sincere and faithful before talking of any other things.
I just pray to meet a man that will understand my kind of person n be ready to love, care n respects me both in my presence n absence n also be sincere with me.
Thanks I rest my case here.