Safiaa:
Love this love that. Love cannot make a relationship last in the long run. Other factors come into play. Mind you, you can detect a lot of things from a persons mindset and work ethic. The same way you can be broke today and rich tommorow is the same way you can be broke today and broke tomorrow. And if she wants to avoid disappointment by all costs, she can damn right make that decision. Life itself is a gamble, and some women dont want to take that risk. What is so hard in understanding that?

Amarabae:
Sister, a guy being broke should not be a key issue if you as the lady have something doing to earn some money.
Must you be a financial liability in a relationship?
Even if the guy is broke, you can offer to him intelligent suggestion on how to come out of it, businesses he can venture in, how he can raise capital etc

haibe:


Am not saying you shouldn't make the decision. Am saying its a silly decision because where the relationship is not based on love but material thing it would hardly every last. Such marriages tend to be abusive infact. What happens when your beauty fades? A man that doesn't love u will disrespect u badly or when you dont look attractive to him anymore.

I agree life is a gamble but marrying the person who loves you truly gives you a better assurance of a long lasting relationship than someone who doesn't but just likes your beauty. Several ladies cry everyday because of an abusive marriage which they have been lured into because of money. You cant compare the pain a lady faces in such a marriage than a lady who is merely not married to a rich man.

You really need to wake up!!

Skubidude:


Talking from experience uh?

Amarabae:
Sister, a guy being broke should not be a key issue if you as the lady have something doing to earn some money.
Must you be a financial liability in a relationship?
Even if the guy is broke, you can offer to him intelligent suggestion on how to come out of it, businesses he can venture in, how he can raise capital etc

Safiaa:
everything na talk. Talki talki. Who's talking about being a liability here? At the end of the day its not easy dating a guy who has less funds than you. Problems like insecurities, depression and all sorts will arise from this. Im talking from experience. Everybody wants to be a counselling therapist for their boyfriend on nl for likes, but in reality its a very frustrating experience. Ah beg be with somebody who is on your level or above. And if he's broke, he must have a serious plan to get out. I dont have time to be setting out a business plan for anyone.

Amarabae:
Sister, a guy being broke should not be a key issue if you as the lady have something doing to earn some money.
Must you be a financial liability in a relationship?
Even if the guy is broke, you can offer to him intelligent suggestion on how to come out of it, businesses he can venture in, how he can raise capital etc

Safiaa:
Love is important in a relationship. But trust me, it is NOT the most inportant thing. Im telling you this now, so you better wake up. Even if im drowned in love, the problems that derive from money can cause me to sign those divorce papers. Should i start naming a few? Insecurities, theft, jealousy, infidelity..this list goes on.

A wise woman would think about the other aspects of a relationship more than love, because that's what determines longevity.

Cinderella5:
I can see you are one of those trying hard to impress onlookers with the hope of getting a pm from a man who would see you as a good wife material.You are also the type that begs guys for recharge cards.
If you read my posts to understand my line of reasoning, you woundnt have wasted your time typing this long post. I never talked about total dependent on a guy. It's about a broke guy who never has, you will be deluded if you are suggesting money is not important in a relationship. This is not western world where you both go out and settle each other's bills, certain responsibilities are for the man and it should remain so.

Safiaa:
Why are you bringing self dependence into this now? Independent women still do not want men who will not compliment their finances. Women like to be taken care of, regardless of if she has her own or not. Thats facts! Maybe in the beginning she'll compromise, but in the long run, Absolutely not!

Like I said most men derive their self esteem from their money. When they're broke, they look for a woman who their self esteem can get. Once the money comes in, they fish out to all their available options. Its very common. so some women don't want to be in that situation of building and helping a man, and being slapped in the face at the end. Women have the option to say no to broke men. It's not your place to call them leeches. You're so closed minded its shocking, especially at your age.

funmisticqueen:
Oya take this small sense as a souvenir, let me be going

Doctorfitz:
President Buhari wow I typed Dullardin*o and Buhari popped up.

Nairaland is cool afterall

Cinderella5:
even if you are getting married, you should spice it up with surprise gifts and items, vacations, outings, that's the fun I am talking about, marrying a guy like you will be as boring as hell, can even make a woman cheat.

Safiaa:
Love is important in a relationship. But trust me, it is NOT the most inportant thing. Im telling you this now, so you better wake up. Even if im drowned in love, the problems that derive from money can cause me to sign those divorce papers. Should i start naming a few? Insecurities, theft, jealousy, infidelity..this list goes on.

A wise woman would think about the other aspects of a relationship more than love, because that's what determines longevity.

MrsPhysics:

I have followed all you comments and if I'm a judge, I would have ruled in favour of you.
You have made matured comments.

Just learn to let go of irrelevant comments made to you, its not necessary.

MzLarem:
Certain responsibilities are for the man who you are married to,note that.

For the fact he is your boyfriend doesn't mean he owes you anything, he owes you no dime, sister and whatever he does for you is only out of self will and the love he has for you just like you owe him no shit too.

About the issue of dating a broke guy shouldn't even be an issue... if you know you can cope, go right ahead... if you can't, then step aside. We all have different specs. But for you to start thinking your man owes you so much cos you are dating him, erase that mentality. You are not doing him a favor by dating him... it's a mutual thing.

Lastly, if you can't date a broke guy, don't be broke yourself cos it's like saying you can't date You.

Cinderella5:
you didn't prove anything. There are no broke girls. Only guys are termed broke. If in the next 10 years I don't make money no one will look down on me, provided I have a family, but if you don't, you will be termed a disappointment.

funmisticqueen:
Thank you, i will try from now on, this gender war on romanceland is becoming quite tiring

Cinderella5:
In my opinion, a girl loving a broke guy is like a guy loving an ugly girl, it's tough.

Girls how do you cope in loving broke guys?

haibe:


What is the point of getting married then if love is not the fundamental thing. If its all about money, you can simply be a prostitute or a thief dear.

Cinderella5:
In my opinion, a girl loving a broke guy is like a guy loving an ugly girl, it's tough.

Girls how do you cope in loving broke guys?

Safiaa:
Love is important in a relationship. But trust me, it is NOT the most inportant thing. Im telling you this now, so you better wake up. Even if im drowned in love, the problems that derive from money can cause me to sign those divorce papers. Should i start naming a few? Insecurities, theft, jealousy, infidelity..this list goes on.

A wise woman would think about the other aspects of a relationship more than love, because that's what determines longevity.

tobianthony:


Partly true ... but there's nothing wrong in her waking up one morning and saying babe this year I'm going to pay the school fees ...while you pay the rent but only this year ohhhhh ...and don't touch the money we are saving to buy land .

ImaIma1:


This guy sounds painfully broke.

MrsPhysics:

You really do not understand the essence of life. You need to read Mark Zukerbergs convocation commencement speech. It would change your purpose of life. As a lady have suggested here, get a book and read. Its good to read because it will expose you to a lot of things. I have followed your arguments and others, you are not making sense.

In as much as money is important, love in a relationship is more important.
He that finds a wife should find a good thing not a money monger. What should keep you in a relationship should be a purpose.

Just yesterday, I read a story from a married woman who is currently going through a lot of things. She might have made a mistake by marrying a guy because he lives in Dubai. I even assume they didn't even date. Now, the man is beating her even in pregnancy.

That is what the quest for material things will lead to. You just need to understand the purpose of life.

Cinderella5:
In my opinion, a girl loving a broke guy is like a guy loving an ugly girl, it's tough.

Girls how do you cope in loving broke guys?

haibe:


What is the point of getting married then if love is not the fundamental thing. If its all about money, you can simply be a prostitute or a thief dear.