For me, hell no.

Reason, he doesn't believe in the existence of God, his mother controls him like remote control.
Like, children are not supposed to eat with meat, so my mum stopped giving us meat. Your wife is not supposed to be part of your business or know any thing about you, and he obeyed like an obedience son.

He is a good man, a philanthropy, he made it early in life but bad family members including his mother made him crashed before we grew up to enjoy his wealth.

jagugu88li:
I dont like this ypur comment, not because its not true....based on your opinion which I obviously cant oppose, but my problem is that you settle the score on western culture which you dont belong to.

West belongs to the westerners....africa is yours. I think the peoblem might be that Africans are brought up in a way that denies freedom of expression and a subtle show of appreciation to wife may be denied/seen as weakness. Each region has its culture and norm of doing thing, sticking to that is wise.

Ma'am, mind you, I am not against your opinon but have you noticed what the western culture has turned Africa to. The attire, language use and repect wise? Terrible I say.
********************

YES YES YES

Awesome dude that one. Infact, I wish my husband to be exaclty like him . This young woman I am today was mostly brought up by a man. Hurray to him.

West belongs to the westerners? Yet u and i cannot do without their innovations.
There is an adage that goes thus 'Love me n love my dog too', you can't claim to love me n hate my dog.

As long as we cannot do without western inventions, we won't be able to do without their cultural influence.
It ain't my fault, buh the course of nature.

mzhorlah:
I will be glad to marry someone like my Dad. So gentle yet so disciplined.


I pray for his richer version tho

we meet again.,pls b my friend

I'm all that and even more

on my way to becoming rich too, not that riches is everything, but its essential

Ngokafor:



...lol@'carrying big bible e.t,c'..chai you are harsh.

Lol, m not lying nah. I was even too softspoken if u ask me.

Mujtahida:

Before you hype up Western civilization as the framework for successful relationship just know that with the way Europe and America is going marriage as you know it will be outdated in the next 30-50 years time and you know why? Marriage as an institution has failed over there. Divorce rate is exceedingly high. Most people do not even marry there, they just have partners which they change at will. So don't use Western culture as the template for a good marriage.

As much as u are right, we are not saying the same thing.
Being a good father does not necessarily have to be in a marriage setting does it?

Codyt:

He's so not doing right..... *covers face*

To err is human and to forgive is divine.forgive him and see if you can start all over again.Remember that everyone deserves a second chance.He's your father and you'll never get another.

alBHAGDADI:
Na wah o.

Children are always heartless towards their dads. If guys were asked if they could marry a woman like their mother, the only few objections would be that they would like the lady to be finer than their mum.

Hardly would they be any other objections.

I have a great woman and mother, also very pretty, but wouldn't want to marry a woman like her.

Her Wahala pass me and only a Man like my father can deal with her drama.

missyadorable:



He was and is still a demon
I have long freed him,of what use is he to me now that I am married,changed my surname and don't need his money?
God will punish him and he will live a lonely wretched life and die a loser

Haba baba!

Pls forgive him, Edàkún...

the comments I'm seeing here are quite scary...



I think it will be safe to say most fathers have failed in their responsibilities as fathers and as husbands

what's more scary is that they did not think it wise to teach their sons to be better fathers and husbands...
samegoes for women and their daughters

I fear for the present and next generation

babasolution:



women just believe westernization is a good thing,you people dont know its otherside,you just see the surface,wonen are so myopic

Westernization has it's cons of course buh the pros outnumber the cons.
Would u rather have us continue to live n believe in all our ancestral african orientations that left us at the bottom of the racial ladder of this world?

Shiitposter:


The definition of alpha males defer a lot, and African's definition is just too extreme.

Blame the culture.

Tahrah:

To err is human and to forgive is divine.forgive him and see if you can start all over again.Remember that everyone deserves a second chance.He's your father and you'll never get another.

Thanks dear... You are right. Would do this though

genieluv:


As much as u are right, we are not saying the same thing.
Being a good father does not necessarily have to be in a marriage setting does it?

Hmmmm you are on to something here. Well I didn't see that coming. To answer your question :any man who sets his heart to be a good father to his child will be good whether married or not.

The hate is real mhen...


I'm just seeing different types of NOs that I didn't know existed...


Anyways, I don't wanna be like my pops and I don't want my wife to be like my mom...and they're great people but I don't want...

desquad:
I swear I can't marry a woman who doesn't love her father, you don't like him then how would you like me?

Stupid untrained girls everywhere, I spit on y'all

Humm, So you mean I should marry my father's type who refused to return from travel because he heard his house got burnt. He left his wife for 3 years with 8 children below 13 years. Returned after 3 yrs, left again and returned after 5 years. He came back when I did introduction and marriage.

I was forced to get his phone number when I gained admission in yr 05, because I didn't want to stress my mum. And from there he paid my other siblings sch fee when they gained admission too.

How we built the house again, my father doesn't know.

My mum was 33, when he left. I told my mum to distribute us and leave too but she said no. She will stay in the marriage because of us. I thank God for her, no more training of kids again.

So if I say I want to marry a man like my father, you will agree abi? You are wicked

genieluv:


Westernization has it's cons of course buh the pros outnumber the cons.
Would u rather have us continue to live n believe in all our ancestral african orientations that left us at the bottom of the racial ladder of this world?

actually our neglect of our ancestral african orientation is what left us at the racial bottom,western nations are degenerating slowly now,the asians embraced their ancestral orientation and are progressing,but africans just keep being dumb copy cats,patriachy is what brought the whiteman to be at the top,the whitemans culture was highly patriachal even more than africans read about the romans,they only started feminizing recently,now african women think their culture is so great,how women are easily deceived,now that they have removed patriachy they are slowly crumbling,africans only have to be more focused and visionary and we will conquer,but nt by copying the west

Absolutely.

yes cause he ain't stingy and no cause he doesn't listen to advice and fails to plan, he is of blessed memory, love him anyways nd still miss him alot

Saying Fathers have failed would be a far stretch! There might be one or two things that their fathers do that doesn't sit well with them, hence making that decision! And everybody wants a perfect partner!

If i were to be a lady, I also won't want to marry a man like my father, he shouts a lot and complains about almost every thing, my Mother should be declared the Patron Saint of Patience And like almost all African fathers, no public/open display of affection, simply put - Romantic!

Unfortunately, I also have that trait of nagging and shouting But I belong to this new age, hence I'm more modernised! I won't do it to my wife and kids!
And I would show a lot of public /open display of affection to both my kids and wife, I would be Mr Romantic and I would establish a very close father to child bond.

babasolution:


actually our neglect of our ancestral african orientation is what left us at the racial bottom,western nations are degenerating slowly now,the asians embraced their ancestral orientation and are progressing,but africans just keep being dumb copy cats,patriachy is what brought the whiteman to be at the top,the whitemans culture was highly patriachal even more than africans read about the romans,they only started feminizing recently,now african women think their culture is so great,how women are easily deceived,now that they have removed patriachy they are slowly crumbling,africans only have to be more focused and visionary and we will conquer,but nt by copying the west

I cannot agree with you.
Asian nations can and will never be ahead of Western nations, not till the end of this world. So many Asian nations are still poverty stricken n war ridden!
Don't mistake Japan, South Korea, Hong kong and oil rich arab nations for the entire Asia.

Where has the destructive caste culture of the Indians taken them to? A country like India will never get rid of poverty forever unless they abolish the Hindu caste culture which condemns innocent people and their generations yet unborn to misfortune. A system that promotes discrimination.
What about the tens of millions of women missing in India n China today? Female foetus are being aborted and female infants buried alive because these devilish cultures have condemned women to inferiority. Pls don't get me started!

Pls let us go back to our African orientations of idol worship, human sacrifice, killing of twins e.t.c . Perhaps they will help us become more progressive.

You have no case here abeg.

homesteady:
Saying Fathers have failed would be a far stretch! There might be one or two things that their fathers do that doesn't sit well with them, hence making that decision! And everybody wants a perfect partner!

If i were to be a lady, I also won't want to marry a man like my father, he shouts a lot and complains about almost every thing, my Mother should be declared the Patron Saint of Patience And like almost all African fathers, no public/open display of affection, simply put - Romantic!

Unfortunately, I also have that trait of nagging and shouting But I belong to this new age, hence I'm more modernised! I won't do it to my wife and kids!
And I would show a lot of public /open display of affection to both my kids and wife, I would be Mr Romantic and I would establish a very close father to child bond.

Great!
Influence of westernization n civilization
Cc babasolution, mujtahida, jagugu88li

jmoore:
Many fathers have failed.

I like your dp. I hope he will succeed.

genieluv:


I cannot agree with you.
Asian nations can and will never be ahead of Western nations, not till the end of this world. So many Asian nations are still poverty stricken n war ridden!
Don't mistake Japan, South Korea, Hong kong and oil rich arab nations for the entire Asia.

Where has the destructive caste culture of the Indians taken them to? A country like India will never get rid of poverty forever unless they abolish the Hindu caste culture which condemns innocent people and their generations yet unborn to misfortune. A system that promotes discrimination.
What about the tens of millions of women missing in India n China today? Female foetus are being aborted and female infants buried alive because these devilish cultures have condemned women to inferiority. Pls don't get me started!

Pls let us go back to our African orientations of idol worship, human sacrifice, killing of twins e.t.c . Perhaps they will help us become more progressive.

You have no case here abeg.

your approaching african history as told by this same white y'all adore,western history is more brutal,do you know what they did to other civilizations ,how they raped and brutalized your fellow african women,because you see their success you thinks its all good,the whites have also been exceptionally evil,political christainity helped to shape white thinking which led to their progress,when i mentioned asia,i meant select nations like china,which has already surpassed all western nations,most western nations are surviving on the back of african resources,african ancestry is beyond the dark parts that are always highlited,the white dont treat their women any better,they have only been indoctrinated by subversive governments into feminization,the white are even worse they women,they brought pornography,homosexuality,bestiality and sex obsession,they are very corrupt,they have only achieved economic ,political,technological dominance through calculated vision by the governments,white men only seem to treat women better because they have been indoctrinated by their media and chained by their laws

My dad is a good man, same as my mum. In short, am happy because, I come from a good family

God forbid, I reject it in Jesus name. I do pray against it everyday

Flakosixfive:
Y'all can see how thankless the task of raising female children is. After all the trouble you take to give them a swell upbringing, what do you get in return? Nothing. Nothing at all!

.

what do u mean by female children? some said they will marry a person like their father and some said no, it depends on d way they were treated when growing up, u can't expect d person u didn't treat right to treat u right in d end so it is applicable to both sex not only female children, moreover if u do a thankless job, u will get a thankless reward.

And to d question, yes and no, he has some good qualities and has some bad qualities also, but all in all, he doesnt c d task of raising up famale children as thankless task, he takes good care of all of us as one and doesn't segregate

alBHAGDADI:
I'll advice most of them to settle for men like their dad, cos guys of today will be worse when they get married. Look at what we have today- [b]yahoo boys, weed smokers, alcoholics, Bet9ja punters, upcoming artistes, pink lips boys [/b]etc.

Are the girls any better?

this is soooooooooo funny! but whats wrong with having a pink lip though? i have natural pink lips, not tattoo version like a clown!!!!

MadCow1:



I have a great woman and mother, also very pretty, but wouldn't want to marry a woman like her.

Her Wahala pass me and only a Man like my father can deal with her drama.

I would definitely marry a woman like my mother!!! without a doubt!! my mother is beautiful inside and outside!!! she is the queen of my heart!! i am my mother's son!!!

Awon jokers, they would still be the one to celebrate their dad on father's day..

Chai, women and brainwashing especially those whose husband has other wives

So in other words,you are asking if the girls truly love their father and u got ur response

missyadorable:



He was and is still a demon
I have long freed him,of what use is he to me now that I am married,changed my surname and don't need his money?
God will punish him and he will live a lonely wretched life and die a loser

God, I see some comments here , and I thank you more for the kind of parents you gave me. I could even someone talking to my dad in a way would not like if it plays out in reality, I get angry in my imagination and, not even happening in reality per se .

We are 10 in our family, we love our moms , but we are more drawn to our dad even more.

I can feel your pain. Haba.....

jmoore:
Many fathers have failed.

Understatement.. Quote me any where many of the ladies claiming yes are lying .they probably stated yea becasue family members are on their pages