Phonefanatic:
OP take your bag and leave in shame(preferably an older female friends place make sure you have confessed to her) if he begins looking for you give up your location and invite him over, get a genuine female pastor involved, confess your sins and let him know you had to leave because you are no longer worthy of his forgiveness. Remain there for days, spend your sober days there and see what happens next.

istoctober:


l lost my three months preggy cos of my depreesion in Jan, 2016. Ever since, l have not been myself. l keep seeing myself as not worth living.
Each time l look at him, l have this guilty conscience that l have disappointed God and my parents. I cry in my lonely hours and it has made me to stay calm even in my right at home, l felt that l deserve everything that is happening to me.

uboma:


the Op doesn't owe you the full narrative.
She owes her husband that.

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

mayprince:
Only God knows if it's my wife posting this

Yes Mr Mayprince.... please forgive her. I am the offending pastor. My rod is 12 inches, just used it to part her seas.

PLEASE, forgive and forget!

Young03:
Let by-gone be by-gone



let it be ur secret..... God will be d one to judge u

Topgainer:

Yes, I thought of that
But you will need to know the age of the marriage because this step will be disastrous for a very young marriage besides any middleman here must be a couple the man heeds to and respects. Not Pentecostal Pastors given their penchant for 'double-life' and not a relation of the man.

akpamuomenka:



He that breaks the hedge, the serpent will bite. You have defied your matrimonial BED and you stands in judgement hence all these are happening to you. Your conscience which is the spirit of God in a human has started judging you so is nature also judging you. Though hand joins to hand the wicked shall not go unpunished.

Your genuine repentance and confession is the only thing that will give you peace of mind.

hedonistic:

And who appointed you as her mouthpiece? My friend Bleep off.

mayprince:
Only God knows if it's my wife posting this

katyamizotta:
Istoctober,

I am so sorry about the torment you are going through.

There is no perfect person. you have already judged yourself so I can never judge you.

I want you to know that God has forgiven you.

you have confessed to Him and he has forgiven you. NOW FORGIVE YOURSELF. I perceive you never went back again. FORGIVE YOURSELF SISTER. Release yourself from this bondage of guilt because Christ has forgiven you.

Now let's look at it scripturally:
When Jesus saw the adulterous woman, He asked her to go and sin no more. the ultimate confession was to him, he did not require her to go and confess elsewhere.
When Jesus went to the house of Zaccheus, he did not ask Zaccheus to restitute. Zaccheus decided that on his own.

If you decide to confess, just know it is your decision. God is not requiring that from you.

Dear Jesus, I commit this sister into your hands. Thank you for forgiving her as she has asked. Please envelop her with your peace, and break the hold of torment over her life. Make her life beautiful again. Strengthen her marriage. In Jesus Name.

kaffy4tope:







Stop beating about the bush. Answer these questions or carry your fornicating life outta here.

wadetaw202:


God has already judged. Her sins will remain if she doesn't do restitution, which involves confessing to her husband. You may want to read Proverb 28:13.

It is better not to commit a sin for which you can't make restitution

Berbierklaus :
Mtchwweee

Semper247:


Everyone posting nonsense and fabricated stories all in a bid to get the fp slot....

..... Now that u have the fp, go to the bank and withdraw with it.

Nonsense!

jara:
Your remorse and guilt in this day and age is refreshing to many. I am sure that after going through this wrenching aftermath, you will not dare it again.

Don't Tell him now. There are incidents men don't want to know about. Use your remorse to care more about and for him. Forgive his shortcomings that all men and women have because you also know you are a sinner.

In your old age, both of you may have something to confess and forgive.

Again I love your healthy conscience.

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.