we are all bound to make mistakes.......... if the husband truly loves her,he will still keep you as a wife , as far as you are true in ur confessions and make him realize that it makes you feel really guilty.... the word #GUILTY ,will make him calm down ,and if he truly loves you ,he will give you a second chance............................... my wife had this similar issue like you...... when she confessed to me,she cried bitterly and she thought i would push her out or hit her......... the fact is ,we men dont like hearing such news from people outside and then comes bad to confirm to you if this news is true, trust me that will make him #SPARK.............. so the best for you is to confess directly to him before he hears it outside, tell him how guilty u feel,tell him who seduced you into ur cheating , you will be surprised that he will not take it so harsh on you....but will give u a very last warning........ and his last warning MEANS IT.....so dont ever go back to ur cheating so ur conscience can be very free as air..... my wife and i now understand ourselves more and we like brothers and sisters.... tell him before he hears it outside from people.... for ur own safety

istoctober:


Am scared of my parents cos l know God has forgiven me and l know when he will ask me about it, that l will confess and that is my fear. My husband with parents will be disappointed with me forever cos they raised me well.

madam, my only advice for you is to keep this shit to yourself. as much as i am against a cheating partner, certain things are NEVER to be said. even if he puts it to you, you tell him to prove it. you may never like your life after your supposed confession. NOT EVERY MAN HAS THE NERVE FOR SUCH CONFESSION. you cant determine what he will do to you. he may even kill you . seriously consider your actions. the best you can do is to hate the person you did it with and now begin to love your husband more even if he treats you wrong.

we are all bound to make mistakes.......... if the husband truly loves her,he will still keep you as a wife , as far as you are true in ur confessions and make him realize that it makes you feel really guilty.... the word #GUILTY ,will make him calm down ,and if he truly loves you ,he will give you a second chance............................... my wife had this similar issue like you...... when she confessed to me,she cried bitterly and she thought i would push her out or hit her......... the fact is ,we men dont like hearing such news from people outside and then comes bad to confirm to you if this news is true, trust me that will make him #SPARK.............. so the best for you is to confess directly to him before he hears it outside, tell him how guilty u feel,tell him who seduced you into ur cheating , you will be surprised that he will not take it so harsh on you....but will give u a very last warning........ and his last warning MEANS IT.....so dont ever go back to ur cheating so ur conscience can be very free as air..... my wife and i now understand ourselves more and we like brothers and sisters.... tell him before he hears it outside from people.... for ur own safet

istoctober
Talk to an expert Yolanda George David of inspiration FM. She airs a program around 1pm. You need to forgive yourself and be sure you won't go that way again.

all i did was to warning he in a calm matured manner so that the next door neighbour doesnt hear it at all....... and she really appreciated the way i handled the issue.

OnePunchMan:
All these "God has forgiven you... blah blah blah, don't tell your husband.. blah blah blah" I hope they all know the person you sinned against is your husband.. no matter what the rest of the world says, it's your husband, your other half, your life partner whose opinion counts. Don't tell your husband is more hypocrisy from bigger hypocrites.. you will spend the rest of your life living on the edge of "WHAT IF" because you and i and every hypocrite telling you not to tell him know that if he ever finds out (which is almost certain) YOU'RE FINISHED... not even God nor his mother prostrating flat on the floor will save you from his wrath.

3 years is a while, you deserve points for actually coming clean, he's human too.. the greatest gift in life is forgiveness, it will hurt but you will use your actions and love to heal him.. if he decided not to even after all you do then HIS LOSS... at least then you are genuinely and utterly free.

You have spoken very well, all this people that say God has forgiven you, it's only God you sinned against e. t c are all hypocrites.
You sinned against your husband confess to him and you are free.
Even the laptop that told you not to tell him is not telling or giving you the right advice, except and of course he is the one you cheated with.

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

I admire your conscience...

It's not dead! However let me make this clear... If you humble yourself and ask for forgiveness he will wash you clean and make you whiter than snow.


You have asked for forgiveness from God which is key but you also need to get rid of the guilt. You need to apply wisdom if and when you tell your husband, he's already suspicious of you but do you know there's nothing God cannot do?


Do a 7 days midnight prayer... Pour out your heart to God. Wake up by 12am and pray like you've never prayed, ask him to direct and tell you what to do.


See erh, you dont need any Man of God! Just stay away from sin and do this prayer with your whole mind. Tell God to have mercy on you... Just watch what will happen.


And please you also need to get your mind off what you did. Recalling it won't help you!

Thank me later!

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

Cheating is a hard thing to swallow. Your relationship will never be the same again. Good luck.

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

Pray through.
With all wisdom and sorrowfulness make sure you confess this sin to him.
Make up your mind to bear whatever the final outcome.
Believe God and always acknowledge that it's all your fault.
Your peace of mind is more valuable than the things of this life.
By the way, if eventually you don't confess, how long more may you live?
If you die in this condition,
You won't make it.
Fear God, not men.

Imagine with a pastor chai. am dead

Keep praying.

istoctober:


l was 29, when l cheated on him but am 32 now.

That means you are not doing it anymore. But are you still going to cheat on him?do you have kids? If so Whatever you are doing that makes him think you are cheating please stop it. Then think of the consequence of confession and how many people you will destroy. Sometimes to bear you pains quitely is more honurable than crying out.

zheroes:
madam, my only advice for you is to keep this shit to yourself. as much as i am against a cheating partner, certain things are NEVER to be said. even if he puts it to you, you tell him to prove it. you may never like your life after your supposed confession. NOT EVERY MAN HAS THE NERVE FOR SUCH CONFESSION. you cant determine what he will do to you. he may even kill you . seriously consider your actions. the best you can do is to hate the person you did it with and now begin to love your husband more even if he treats you wrong.

This is a masterpiece! I like your contribution.

[color=#990000][/color]swthrt, u shld learn to forgive urself first cos, if we are all in ur shoe,, dia is a fifty fifty chance dat we will do more than u did......so no one has d right to condemn u.....but let me tell u dis, d beauty of repentance is confession n d beauty of confession is instant punnishment instead of prolonged suffering, in short, confess to him under d right atmosphere with an extra-sober voice n damn d concequence.....cos it's better u tell him urself dan he finds out himself, but i assure u, no matter d consequence,if he truly loves u, wit tym he should totally forgive u......bt dia is a 90% chance he will send u packing......God's grace dear!!![b]swthrt, u shld learn to forgive urself first cos, if we are all in ur shoe,, dia is a fifty fifty chance dat we will do more than u did......so no one has d right to condemn u.....but let me tell u dis, d beauty of repentance is confession n d beauty of confession is instant punnishment instead of prolonged suffering, in short, confess to him under d right atmosphere with an extra-sober voice n damn d concequence.....cos it's better u tell him urself dan he finds out himself, but i assure u, no matter d consequence,if he truly loves u, wit tym he should totally forgive u......bt dia is a 90% chance he will send u packing......God's grace dear!!![/b]swthrt, u shld learn to forgive urself first cos, if we are all in ur shoe,, dia is a fifty fifty chance dat we will do more than u did......so no one has d right to condemn u.....but let me tell u dis, d beauty of repentance is confession n d beauty of confession is instant punnishment instead of prolonged suffering, in short, confess to him under d right atmosphere with an extra-sober voice n damn d concequence.....cos it's better u tell him urself dan he finds out himself, but i assure u, no matter d consequence,if he truly loves u, wit tym he should totally forgive u......bt dia is a 90% chance he will send u packing......God's grace dear!!!

Seek Allah

Even if your husband forgives you and decides to take you back.
Remember that theres a possibility he will never trust you again, he may resort to physical or emotional abuse.
You will likely not have a say in your home.

The things you think you are passing through would be minor compared to the dish.

sexy74:

You have spoken very well, all this people that say God has forgiven you, it's only God you sinned against e. t c are all hypocrites.
You sinned against your husband confess to him and you are free.
Even the laptop that told you not to tell him is not telling or giving you the right advice, except and of course he is the one you cheated with.

madam dont listen to all these self centred hypocrites, they are not any better than you to judge you.infact no one is a saint in many ways to judge anyone. Just find peace with God. Some things are better left unsaid because the damage is collosal.

Pls don't tell him anything, just keep it out of your mind and move on. Since u stoped 3 years ago, make sure you don't do it again. Go will forgive you. Just erase it from your mind and be faithful to him. The native doctor won't know anything about it since it's not recent action. Believe in your God.

Some truths are better not known...that's where wisdom comes in.. Tell him and 1. Loose his trust till death. 2. Give him BP 3. Risk loosing your marriage. 4. Live with Shame..
Pray to God to forgive U .then forgive urself and move on. Most importantly. .don't cheat again.

do u have a child/children with him? if yes then ur pastor is right, keeping on praying, seek for counselling and avoid much suspicious. God will guide you

Nothing troubles like a wounded conscience.the best thing you can do is to forgive yourself. It happened to David and could happen to anyone including me, though no one prays to be in this kind of situation. Give it a prayerful thought. Try to prepare a soft landing. You need to confess to him at the end. But pray to God to help you deal with the outcome. Your remorse and the steps you have taken shows that you have morals.

istoctober:


l lost my three months preggy cos of my depreesion in Jan, 2016. Ever since, l have not been myself. l keep seeing myself as not worth living.
Each time l look at him, l have this guilty conscience that l have disappointed God and my parents. I cry in my lonely hours and it has made me to stay calm even in my right at home, l felt that l deserve everything that is happening to me.

Ishilove:
Poster follow this advice.
God answers prayers, I'm a living proof.

HungerBAD! she's a living proof

Let me tell you the truth as long as you keep living with him in the house your conscience will always judge you about that act, so confessing is the best option but you need God's guidance in the process. You've already committed the act although you seems remorseful but your remorsefulness is incomplete.

Secondly, why confess to the pastor is it not the same pastor that penetrated you?

NB: Desist from most of these new generation churches cause most of the so called pastors are devil's agent.

Istoctober
What if this same husband of yours has done similar thing in the past?

No one has the right to condemn you
Your sins have been forgiven.
Just pray and leave God to take the wheel. Believe me, when God takes over, even when you tell, you will be surprised the way your husband will handle it. Or even when you don't tell, watch how you will heal gradually.

You have being focusing on doing it yourself. Why not invite God to do it this time. Let him lead the way. And whatever becomes the outcome, see it as the ultimate decision from God.

Ishilove:

Poster follow this advice.

God answers prayers, I'm a living proof.

Olosho
So u cheated too
Hehehe

Roseey0:
What if this same husband of your has done similar thing in the past?

No one has the right to condemn you
Your sins have been forgiven.
Just pray and leave God to take the wheel. Believe me, when God takes over, even when you tell, you will be surprised the way your husband will handle it. Or even when you don't tell, watch how you will heal gradually.

You have being focusing on doing it yourself. Why not invite God to do it this time. Let him lead the way. And whatever becomes the outcome, see it as the ultimate decision from God.

Any man that marries U is finished
As in FINISHED
U ARE QUEEN OF ADULTERERS

istoctober:


l was 29, when l cheated on him but am 32 now.

just tell him. I mean find a way

Mrs Cheater,
I can't judge U cos I've done worse things
Slept with 2 married women before
One was deliberate
The other wasn't so I fall short of glory
U know what, U gotta be very prayerful
Extremely prayerful
& whatever confession U want to make
Ask ur pastor or someone U feel can be a godly figure to be present
Even if na me
I'd hate U with all of me
That's my simple ogogoro for U

LyfeJennings:


Any man that marries U is finished
As in FINISHED
U ARE QUEEN OF ADULTERERS

You didn't read my post
Desist from quoting me
King Adulterer

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

My dear Madam,if you have the big mind to cheat on him and he is not sick, you are not physically sick. Sorry, i will like to advice that keep it to yourself and never do it again if you are still in love with him.

Bich

LyfeJennings:
Mrs Cheater,
I can't judge U cos I've done worse things
Slept with 2 married women before
One was deliberate
The other wasn't so I fall short of glory
U know what, U gotta be very prayerful
Extremely prayerful
& whatever confession U want to make
Ask ur pastor or someone U feel can be a godly figure to be present
Even if na me
I'd hate U with all of me
That's my simple ogogoro for U

See ashewwo calling another Cheater
What are you?