No! You only owe that to God

fastgyal:
A man can
A woman shouldn't.

Typical naija girl.

Lagos girl at that.


Wehdone ma

it just has to be done.

Hmm

For me it's no for these reasons; 1. Trust will be broken 2. Love will be lost 3. It may lead to divorce ( And we know God says " I hate divorce). I will rather confess my sins ( adultery) to God. He alone can truly forgive. P.S wisdom is profitable to direct...

Before you shout hallelujah, remember that this could be a fiction or non-fiction from a stranger.

It is necessary you tell your spouse so that he/she may be aware and also forgive you too... because you have wronged him/her... Furthermore, so as not to have the gut to go back into it again.

fastgyal:
A man can A woman shouldn't.

Are you serious?

taylor88:
I taught it was about the last night thread



not knowing it's a brand new comin from another unfaithful lover


thank God i don't love


just give u money fuccckkk u till i seize to breath


if u be the type wey don stress me d fuukkkk no go get part 2


if my mum never com draw me for leg am not standing up

.

ephi321:
Does that apply to the men as well? Cos I can see someone cc 1stoctober the lady who opened a thread yesterday.

When married men cheat, you don't see them debating whether or not to tell their wives, or having a bothered conscience.

Rules and standards should apply to both genders. Full stop.

I believe the message is crystal for everyone to read and heed to its warning.

Remember the word conscience is the OP. Never forget. The Married men who cheat on their wives don't get pricked by their conscience.

So, it's a thing of conscience, if you cheat and your conscience prick you, then go ahead and confess. If not, keep on pricking.

not necessarily, a true Christian is expected to always be led by holy spirit which will tell you what to do at every situation

ShaqFu:
I believe the message is crystal for everyone to read and heed to its warning.

Remember the word conscience is the OP. Never forget. The Married men who cheat on their wives don't get pricked by their conscience.

So, it's a thing of conscience, if you cheat and your conscience prick you, then go ahead and confess. If not, keep on pricking.

As long as all you've typed applied to everyone, both male and female, no wahala. There is no debate about it.

fastgyal:
A man can
A woman shouldn't.

I get your point. Because it may turn out the kids do not belong to the man after all, right? After all a large number of kids especially first born ones, do not.

Deception in perpetuity is great, right?

Cheap DNA kits will soon be available.

ephi321:

As long as all you've typed applied to everyone, both male and female, no wahala. There is no debate about it.

I'm sure you thought it only apply to men, abi.

ShaqFu:
I'm sure you thought it only apply to men, abi.

nope my opinion is it should be for both, but you and I know the Nigerian society typically would only expect that to apply to the women.

fastgyal:
A man can
A woman shouldn't.

Oh because a man has two heads. That's stupid entitlement. Rules applies to both.

ephi321:

nope my opinion is it should be for both, but you and I know the Nigerian society typically would only expect that to apply to the women.

The society dictates what it wants and will, those who deviate from societal norms are deviants, simple.

This people pass my power

How do people differentiate the voice of the Holy Ghost from that of Jesus Christ and Almighty God still amazes me. You knew God from the onset still you went ahead and spread your legs wide open to another man knowing too well that you were married. make sure it don't repeat itself again should your husband deny you time and care

kasheemawo:

Why always Christians
Tell them to marry more than one wife to curtail adulterous life they will say God created only Adam and eve
Where does it stated in bible that man should marry one wife? They won't tell you
So many cases of raping underage girls by pastors too

Marrying many wives does not stop a man from committing adultery.

DeutschJunge:
marriages these days are nothing but just a sham.. its nothing but a contract between 2 people, lets live life together, give birth to children and appear to be perfect to society!
the true meaning of marriage has been lost..

if you cant tell your spouse your deepest secret, then why are they your spouse?

marriage is void these days because people have started engineering before and in marriage wisdom contrary to God's wisdom

ShaqFu:
The society dictates what it wants and will, those who deviate from societal norms are deviants, simple.

That statement says nothing.
In any case, i've made my point. Whatever is expected of women, must be expected of men. One party (male) cannot be free to frolick and put the other at risk while the female is beaten over the head with guilt.

exlinkleads:
It does more harm than good.

To be honest, conscience is a bit.ch so is advisable not to give in to it.

Though have done that and till today, it still hunts me.

While it maybe advisable for woman to confess infidelity to their man, I can't advise the other way round.

Unless you want to die in your sleep or be bath with acid or hot oil.

you did? God, I'm afraid of marriage.

taylor88:
I taught it was about the last night thread



not knowing it's a brand new comin from another unfaithful lover


thank God i don't love


just give u money fuccckkk u till i seize to breath


if u be the type wey don stress me d fuukkkk no go get part 2


if my mum never com draw me for leg am not standing up

Una bad for here.

confess and watch your marriage crumble

Well, I learnt that man's greatest judge is his conscience. it is absolutely necessary to confess such sins to your spouse for total atonement and a clear conscience. Someone said you confess to God only... meanwhile committing adultery was a Sin against God, AND YOUR SPOUSE. Guilt is a terrible burden, for those whose conscience is still alive. No secret wey no go come out last last. Confession brings consequences most definitely and she/he must be able to bear that.Brace yourself for whatever comes..your husband may chase you out, but he will forever admire your sincerity in clearing your conscience.
The God factor: This kind of confession must be done prayerfully with a contrite heart. people do worse and get forgiveness, God can touch a heart and he'll still accept, forgive and cherish you. Who knows if he too wants to confess some dark things?

Easier said than done.. but doing the right thing is paramount, for your own sake.

cc: istoctober

Personally, i won't. Before you know what's up, the man's gonna use it against you.

GodwinTobi:
For me it's no for these reasons;
1. Trust will be broken
2. Love will be lost
3. It may lead to divorce ( And we know God says " I hate divorce).
I will rather confess my sins ( adultery) to God. He alone can truly forgive.
P.S wisdom is profitable to direct...

fuc.k you one million times!

taylor88:
I taught it was about the last night thread



not knowing it's a brand new comin from another unfaithful lover


thank God i don't love


just give u money fuccckkk u till i seize to breath


if u be the type wey don stress me d fuukkkk no go get part 2


if my mum never com draw me for leg am not standing up

It's still about the thread

ephi321:


That statement says nothing.
In any case, i've made my point. Whatever is expected of women, must be expected of men. One party (male) cannot be free to frolick and put the other at risk while the female is beaten over the head with guilt.

do males even confess? society has made it acceptable for us. Such behaviour has been normalised to the extent the wife is in the know, but is helpless.

Omoluabi16:
do males even confess? society has made it acceptable for us. Such behaviour has been normalised to the extent the wife is in the know, but is helpless.

Exactly my point. It's such a norm that men that don't indulge in extramarital affairs are now seen as the unusual ones. I am not trying to encourage adultery on either side, but it just seems really unfair that the thread below is already 24 pages simply because it's the female. I bet most of those men advising her to confess have their bits on the side (along with the health risk it brings to their wives) but yet have the effrontery to be hitting the OP on the head with guilt.

https://www.nairaland.com/3838186/cheated-husband-want-confess-him