banmee:


What am i enjoying? Plenty. Been married almost 20 years and it's like we just met yesterday. It's simple really. Just make sure that elements of what you like in your spouse are there before you marry him/her. For me it was kindness, sexual compatibility, and being pleasing to the eye. One very important factor in a marriage is sexual compatibility. As the years go buy it gets harder and harder to keep up so you got to spice it up. I love the way my wife still looks like the same way she was when we met. Flat tummy and all. It's just crazy. She is probably one of the most beautiful women in the world. I am a health nut and so is she. I can run a 2 mile in 15 minute but she does it in 14. That's how fit she is. At 40 fa. Not many 20 years olds can do that. To add honey to the tea, she's gave me 3 strapping boys who are guaranteed to be super models when they grow up if they so choose. Hehehehehe . Seriously though, if i had to do it over again, i'd marry her in a heartbeat.

That being said; we fight on occasion. Marriage is not a bed of roses. The most important thing to realize is that things like that will happen. Think about it; if you can fight with you siblings then you can definitely have one with your spouse. Some days i'd feel like choking her out when she starts pissing me off but when i compare her abnormal days to her normal days it's pretty much 90/10 with 90 being her good days.

banmee:


What am i enjoying? Plenty. Been married almost 20 years and it's like we just met yesterday. It's simple really.

Destined2win:
I really look forward to getting married; currently searching but just like I have read and seen all over the place, marriage comes with a lot of challenges.

A lot of you guys are married and have decided to stay married because of one thing or the other. Now there must be something that has made you to stick to that decision no matter what.

Please I ask that you kindly share so that people here can learn.
What are you enjoying in your marriage that you look at and conclude that you are not going to quit.

Please kindly share. Thanks.

cruchenuti:


Sir, you have been married for 20 years. I hope you know the way the new generation women think now is far diff than 20 years ago. You are indeed lucky sir.

Women no longer want to play their roles anymore.

Destined2win:
Wow. You are indeed blessed Sir.

Ginaz:
People get married for the wrong reasons, why on earth will someone marry cos they fell in love? Love is not the only ingredient needed for a successful marriage.

On a second note, while you're getting married don't be selfish. You own it to your children to give them the best of a father/mother.

Don't marry a drunk and say "you're in love, love will change him". But what about your children? You marry a nagging wife and say "I will manage" but would your children turn out right in the future??

Think before you say "I do" cos few years down the road you'd realise love just ain't enough.

Burgerlomo:


What some people really enjoyed from their ozza room spouse is constant nagging and they still stick to it so you too be prepared.

Ginaz:
People get married for the wrong reasons, why on earth will someone marry cos they fell in love? Love is not the only ingredient needed for a successful marriage.

On a second note, while you're getting married don't be selfish. You own it to your children to give them the best of a father/mother.

Don't marry a drunk and say "you're in love, love will change him". But what about your children? You marry a nagging wife and say "I will manage" but would your children turn out right in the future??

Think before you say "I do" cos few years down the road you'd realise love just ain't enough.

sisisioge:


Hmmm, thanks for toasting me on his behalf. Answer is still no deal.


You of all should know the importance of couple buying onto each other's dreams. I can't imagine myself anywhere near the dreadful Nigerian politics. Whew!

Dude go bin dey wonder wetin dey do us

Godfullsam:
D only reason why I am still married is because of my beautiful sharp and wonderful daughter.

She is the only joy I have in my marriage right now.

Wiretransfer:
I am scared of marriage cos of the responsibilities involved.
I think marriage is an unnecessary burden especially with kids.
It becomes more difficult to achieve your goals and dreams as you are now responsible for others and not yourself alone. Coupled with the economic situation in this country.
I sometimes feel for my married colleagues and friends cos its really not easy.
Family issues, In-laws, Kids, Health, School fees, disagreements with spouse e.t.c
not worth it.

I do not look forward to getting married. I dont even think about it. NOT A THOUGHT

Destined2win:
No I don't want that

2shure:
Me god my heart to a woman. Not me niggi I'd be foreva nacking Cause these bitches aint loyal. Women not tonbe trusted. Sex money cars..fucking out.u nor fit stop them. Acting all innnocent like u nor fit catch them. Naija ladies are useless. Only abt 15 percent are humble Down 2earth Faithful Loyal. Get married in lagos Big waste of time.

Brector:
everybody here is talking about DAUGHTER DAUGHTER are there no more sons again？Hmmmm！Where are heading towards women world

Afonjashapmouth:
100 marriages different experiences however let me hint u on what direction your life might take

New sense of responsibility

Create more self awareness

Increase in your level of maturity

Teaches you to be more prudent

Teaches you how to take charge

You are more realistic when setting goals

You have a standby companion

You are responsible for new sweet young souls

Too much.to say


Get married to.the right woman and your list will be endless.

I wish you luck
The guy asked a very sensible question and you gave him some equally sensible answers. God bless u and yours

Ginaz:
People get married for the wrong reasons, why on earth will someone marry cos they fell in love? Love is not the only ingredient needed for a successful marriage.

On a second note, while you're getting married don't be selfish. You own it to your children to give them the best of a father/mother.

Don't marry a drunk and say "you're in love, love will change him". But what about your children? You marry a nagging wife and say "I will manage" but would your children turn out right in the future??

Think before you say "I do" cos few years down the road you'd realise love just ain't enough.

GogobiriLalas:
Nothing...the only reason you hear other men telling you to get married and blah blah blah is because misery loves company

Afonjashapmouth:
100 marriages different experiences however let me hint u on what direction your life might take

New sense of responsibility

Create more self awareness

Increase in your level of maturity

Teaches you to be more prudent

Teaches you how to take charge

You are more realistic when setting goals

You have a standby companion

You are responsible for new sweet young souls

Too much.to say


Get married to.the right woman and your list will be endless.

I wish you luck

diva90:
They are enjoying food sex and responsibilities ...

nurshah:




Your second paragraph is just it! Every woman owes it to her unborn kids to Marry a good father...once we put this into perspective,we will stop jumping into any relationship or feeling heart broken when it ends

I really am not for one who feels love should be a good reason : If a man is good ,he respects you,responsible,Good level of God fearing.. Marry him love will grow later

helpee:
we were having hot passionate sex this morning. When she was about to come, na so my 2yr old wake up come dey shout, mummy, mummy.....she just said leave me alone, i am fucking your daddy. lol. The girl no gree, she spoilt her parole. She come say na me no do am well early...how e take be my fault. Anyway we promised to continue when the kids leave for school this morning since i be resident doctor with two other doctors working for me this morning so after my ward round with them this morning, the show continues,,,,this is one of our almost daily routine for 9yrs of marriage and 3kids. i come dey wonder why the thing no tire me self since all these years. marriage is sweet brother

Brector:
everybody here is talking about DAUGHTER DAUGHTER are there no more sons again？Hmmmm！Where are heading towards women world

Destined2win:
But you and your wife on your dp look good together

buchilino:


AS A MARRIED MAN LET ADD SOME POINTS. B4 GETTING MARRIED, I KNEW I WAS READY MENTALLY. BEING MENTALLY MATURED HELPS ALOT IN A MARRIAGE. IT'S MENTAL MATURITY DAT MAKES ONE C SOME WRONG THINGS D PARTNER DOES N KEEPS QUIET. U NEED MENTAL MATURITY 4 UR MARRIAGE TO SURVIVE. TWO I KNEW WAT I WANTED IN A WOMAN. AS A QUIET PERSON I WANTED A PEACEFUL WOMAN ALSO. A WOMAN DAT WILL DO ANYTHING 4 PEACE. I DIDN'T CARE IF SHE WAS TALL OR SHORT, DARK OR LIGHT SKINNED, HAUSA OR YORUBA, EDUCATED OR NOT ETC, AS LONG AS SHE'S A PEACEFUL PERSON IS OK WITH ME. FINALLY, I PLEAD WITH D CREATOR OF MARRIAGE INSTITUTION TO GIVE ME MY WIFE. 5 YEARS AFTER MY MARRIAGE, AM STILL ENJOYING MY WIFE. BEST OF LUCK TO OTHERS.

udumosam23:
I don't have much friends. The few I have are damn good liers and betrayers. I guess I've not been too lucky with friends.

I however, find a good friend in my wife. She is a definition of truth and loyalty. She has a sense of humour, she plays a lot, but even in her jokes, you'll not find falsehood.

I also like good food, and she's made me believe I've been living on junk.

We have made 2 kids, they're so wonderful. The day she left them with me for a whole day, I realize she deserve payment for a full time job. The day she took them along with her I felt free and had a sense of relief for a while.

But later on, I realise I was so lonely and bored. No activity could fulfil my joy.