Marriage is changing. The marriages we see today are far different than the ones of our grandparents or even our parents, for that matter. Our ideas and how we view marriage has evolved, and while for some it still might be the ultimate goal, the truth isn’t a pretty one: Marriage is overrated. Yes, you can take the route of saying it’s just a piece of paper that binds you and your partner, so it’s overrated in that regard, but there’s more to it than that. It’s overrated in a lot of ways.


1. Marriage doesn’t equal happiness. For people who have been longing to get married, pining away since they were kids to do so, they might live under the delusion that marriage will fix everything and make it all perfect, but that’s not true. Even if you marry the love of your life, there’s no guarantee you’ll be happy.

2. No one is immune to divorce. With the divorce rate lingering around 50 percent, no one is immune to becoming a statistic

3. You don’t need to be married to live together. Sure, it might have been frowned upon in the 50s, but if you can live together now and no one cares, locking it down with legality just seems silly.

4. You don’t have to be hitched to have kids. Actually, all you need is some sperm, and you’re golden.

5. You can get insurance by just being someone’s partner. Although this isn’t the case everywhere, a lot companies offer insurance to the partner’s of their employees, straight or gay couples.

6. It’s expensive. Unless you run off to town hall, getting married with all the frou-frou is really pricy. So you waste all that money on one day, then start your life together with pennies. The wedding day is even more overrated than marriage, to be honest.

7. It can make you feel trapped. At least if you’re cohabitating, you can bail when things get scary or you realize it’s time to move on. Being married doesn’t allow for such a luxury.


8. It’s a lot of work. Like, A LOT. It’s one thing to be in a relationship where you live together, but for some reason, marriage changes everything. You’re suddenly two parts of one whole in the eyes of the law and nothing is completely yours ever again ― everything is shared and divided.

9. Fidelity is a struggle. Not to burst anyone’s bubble, but remaining faithful to one person for the long run isn’t easy. And the fact that marriage isn’t viewed as being as sacred as it once was and the reality of temptation always being nearby, fidelity can be one of the biggest challenges of marriages ― a challenge you could avoid by just staying single.

10. You end up sacrificing yourself. Even if you swear you never will, you will absolutely sacrifice much of yourself for your marriage for many reasons. One being because it is so hard, and the second being because people don’t change, so all you can really do sometimes is sacrifice just to get by.

11. It’s becoming obsolete. Not only is marriage overrated, but it’s becoming obsolete. It no longer offers the benefits it once did, because we no longer need it. Both men and women can take care of themselves, human beings are more and more independent, and it’s just become and unnecessary step that people take out of tradition, obligation, or convenience. It really is nothing special

Marriage can never be overrated in Nigeria, marriage open doors to many opportunities, only kids say marriage is overrated.

MARRIAGE IS OVERRATED INDEED, IT'S NOT COMPULSORY BUT MARRIAGE IS SWEET WHEN TWO PEOPLE UNDERSTANDS EACH OTHER AND MAKE A HAPPY HOME.

when the purpose of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable........ I'm out....

Marriage maybe is overrated for most men including myself I so much detest marriage or any long term relationship I always try my best to avoid em.
If by circumstances I eventually get married i will only make sure I have two kids, after that I will divorce their mother and kick her out of my space. Emotional attachment is a no no for me.

On the other side the female folks cherish marriage the most it is their ultimate life accomplishment, they somewhat felt insecure when not married. That is their problem tho.

Ladies work on yourself some of una career path na runs girl to marriage

Honestly I feel like marriage is no longer sacred

As neegas are saying their vows from one side the mouth the other side is saying men will men/ As an african man bla bla bla

The cheating is just too rampant and so disheartening from both husbabds and wifes


because if boys will be boys then girls will be worse

Me77:
Marriage maybe is overrated for most men including myself I so much detest marriage or any long term relationship I always try my best to avoid em.
If by circumstances I eventually get married i will only make sure I have two kids, after that I will divorce their mother and kick her out of my space. Emotional attachment is a no no for me.

On the other side the female folks cherish marriage the most it is their ultimate life accomplishment, they somewhat felt insecure when not married. That is their problem tho.

But why put an innocent woman through this

Why get married if you don't believe in it




Lol this boy actually ain't serious just focus on your studies for now leave discussion for more matured minds

beardlessdude:
Marriage can never be overrated in Nigeria, marriage open doors to many opportunities, only kids say marriage is overrated.

How many single leaders do we have in Nigerian politics.

Marriage is overrated in naija my dear. especially in villages and rural areas. There are many things Nigerians do not understand that determines ones marital status. Illiteracy is one major factor contributing to overrating of marriage. That's why u never see residents of places like V.I, lekki question u abt ur marriage, you own your own life.

beardlessdude:
Marriage can never be overrated in Nigeria, marriage open doors to many opportunities, only kids say marriage is overrated.

go and get married then come back and say this

gabazin080:
go and get married then come back and say this

when did i ever tell you i was single?

RadicallyBlunt:

How many single leaders do we have in Nigerian politics.

Marriage is overrated in naija my dear. especially in villages and rural areas. There are many things Nigerians do not understand that determines ones marital status. Illiteracy is one major factor contributing to overrating of marriage. That's why u never see residents of places like V.I, lekki question u abt ur marriage, you own your own life.

it's obvious you're still be fed by your parent. Haven't you heard of jobs that are meant for married people as they are seen as more responsible enough for such jobs. I'd stop here, you won't understand yet.

Me77:
Marriage maybe is overrated for most men including myself I so much detest marriage or any long term relationship I always try my best to avoid em.
If by circumstances I eventually get married i will only make sure I have two kids, [s]after that I will divorce their mother and kick her out of my space.[/s] Emotional attachment is a no no for me.

On the other side the female folks cherish marriage the most it is their ultimate life accomplishment, they somewhat felt insecure when not married. That is their problem tho.

smh
my eyes have seen my ears on nairaland

beardlessdude:
when did i ever tell you i was single?

if u are married, u will realise marriage is overrated

What do you mean by no one is immune to divorce?

beardlessdude:
it's obvious you're still be fed by your parent. Haven't you heard of jobs that are meant for married people as they are seen as more responsible enough for such jobs. I'd stop here, you won't understand yet.

Lol bro your approach is rash. Makes you sound immature. We're not bashing each other sir. You don't have to go to the extent of saying I'm fed by parents. I've been living on my own for almost 5 yrs now. So I think I've answered your question on that.

Attaching a job to ur marital status is infact a perfect proof of overrating marriage. There are many jobs and top position for people who aren't even married abroad.

The fact is you're just used to what you alone know. Refusing to understand that a person who has a different view from you has his/her reasons for his views and should be respected is a great height of immaturity. Ok

freakthingz:




But why put an innocent woman through this

Why get married if you don't believe in it





Lol this boy actually ain't serious just focus on your studies for now leave discussion for more matured minds

You have no idea. Marriage is simply a contract, whenever a partner says he /she is tired and no more interested in such union, the simple thing to do is to terminate such contract and happily move on. The innocent victim here is the man, considering all the expenses, emotional stress and anxiety he went through just to have children. At the end everyone will be pointing fingers at him, while the woman is no Saint.

RadicallyBlunt:

Lol bro your approach is rash. Makes you sound immature. We're not bashing each other sir. You don't have to go to the extent of saying I'm fed by parents. I've been living on my own for almost 5 yrs now. So I think I've answered your question on that.

Attaching a job to ur marital status is infact a perfect proof of overrating marriage. There are many jobs and top position for people who aren't even married abroad.

The fact is you're just used to what you alone know. Refusing to understand that a person who has a different view from you has his/her reasons for his views and should be respected is a great height of immaturity. Ok

sorry if i sounded harsh.
No hard feelings broda