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Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 11:33am On Jun 08, 2017 |
Ladies, please do not spend your precious time living with a man who hasn't paid your bride price. If he says he loves you, tell him to go see ur parents and do the needful no matter how small it is. This is coming from a guy who has seen a lot. Living with a man for 20 years and even above doesn't authenticate you to be his wife. Not until he pays your bride price. I'm saying this because of a sad event that occurred in my neighbourhood this morning. A pregnant woman who has been with a man for over 17years with 4 was kicked out of the home this morning. From what I gathered and confirmed, the man secretly got married to another woman last week and decided to send his supposed pregnant wife away.The worst of it is that the lady he got married to is also a neighbour and a student who graduated this year. This is a man who haven't paid a dime for the mother of his 4 kids. Imagine the pains this woman must been going through cos of this young lady. I have known them for few years but what i learnt was that this woman had been with the hubby even when he was jobless until he got a job, advanced to the university with money from the little biz his wife was doing. I am really pained, cos a lot of people have been bashing women who don't wanna stay with a broke guy. Now tell me why God will not adhere to her cry! What we sow is what we will reap! Be warned. 1 Like |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by GloriaNinja(f): 11:41am On Jun 08, 2017 |
ONLY DESPERATE WOMEN DO THAT 1 Like |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by Preca(f): 11:42am On Jun 08, 2017 |
yeah that's true... |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 11:52am On Jun 08, 2017 |
GloriaNinja:well if u live here in port Harcourt you'd know what am saying. Don't knw abt lag doh. But its really painful how men treat ladies. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 11:53am On Jun 08, 2017 |
Preca:true but most ladies are just too hopeful |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by MrWondah(m): 12:08pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
Marriage na marriage no matter how u put am. If a woman misbehaves she goes back home. 1 Like |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by chynie: 12:22pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
is painful but women no dey learn no matter how love shake una 2, if he never pay bride price no live with am men will be saying women don't want to suffer with them my sister no suffer with him ooooooo cos when money come the man go being look outside |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by GloriaNinja(f): 12:32pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
gsogbu: gsogbu:Lagos worst sef ,you will see men and women, even small girls ND small boys living together many teenagers pregnant and they call it "Lagos marriage". no dowry, no introduction , nothing nothing. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 1:00pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
GloriaNinja:LoL, the term "Lagos Marriage" here its called "Port Harcourt" marriage. The negative effect is that many of them lose respect. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 1:02pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
chynie:i will not totally agree that all men will do that; leave the women who suffered with them... Some keep to their promises. 2 Likes |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by chynie: 1:11pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
gsogbu:a man that will keep his promise will want to save his woman from shame He will pay her bride price and wed her no matter how small the wedding is 1 Like |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 1:20pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
chynie:I understand, what I'm saying is that there are men who date a lady while being broke and will stand by such lady when he has money. 1 Like |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by HouseOfWine: 1:32pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
The world we live in is a multi-faceted world.. Its a good thing U said your opinion because i have encountered this situation of bout 7 years and then they still got married... Life is all about risks, dont let your happiness be determined by the society. 1 Like |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by Lionessza(f): 1:32pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
Not every situation ends like this as sad as it is . Infact I would support someone to live with the person atleast briefly before making the decision to marry them. You will get to know many things about them that you wouldn't know if you lived apart. This is ofcourse when you have both made the decision to get married . You will know for sure whether or not you really want to spend the rest of your life with this individual or you want to go separate ways without going through a stressful divorce. 1 Like |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by Nobody: 1:41pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
gsogbu:I hate it when some people try to tribalize things. The term "Port harcourt marriage" is actually used when a lady marries a man she knows nothing of, not for two idiots cohabiting. Stop typing crap as if it's the norm here which isn't. I wonder the area in port harcourt you reside where most people cohabit. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 3:13pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
Lionessza:I understand the point you are driving at. But the issue here is for more than a decade and close to two, the man did not care to pay bride price. Im a guy, but if i were a lady after two years u no shake body, then am off. Its better to save my face now than have four children for u yet u don't bother abt makin a move only to kick me out when u come in with another lady 1 Like |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 3:15pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
Benita27:I think you should check the meaning of words before you use them. Also try to read and comprehend before you comment. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by Lionessza(f): 3:24pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
gsogbu: I fully agree with you here , I also blame the lady for staying with him for so long if she was interested in an official marriage. She should have left him a longtime ago. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 3:26pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
Lionessza: 1 Like |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by Lionessza(f): 3:38pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
[quote author=gsogbu post=57319321][/quote] Ouch! Can't even imagine how the kids must be feeling now, I hope they won't be turned into some Cinderellas by the new woman. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 3:43pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
Lionessza:I just pray their mum will take them along. Though the matter was slated to be discussed this eve. 1 Like |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by loswhite(m): 3:49pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
gsogbu:woman wrappering I believe u are yet to see how painful women treat men... you are a man, so find out how painful women treat men and post that thread |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by PREBuhari2019: 3:53pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
That's Nigeria new culture. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 3:54pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
loswhite:You can call me whatever you like, but i have vowed to speak the truth when I see one. Check my older threads. I respect women because i know someday i will have a daughter and I would want them to be treated the way i treat others. Read the story and tell me if what the man did was right. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by Lionessza(f): 3:57pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
gsogbu: Oh yeah, hope the same. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by Nobody: 4:43pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
gsogbu:Tell me the word I misused let me check what it means on Google. Funny you!. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 5:19pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
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Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 5:28pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
Benita27:My sincere apology if the way i responded was insulting. But using Tribalize and crap i think is out of contest. Nobody said its the way rivers people lived neither did anyone mentioned any tribe. Lagos or PH is made up of several tribes and neither me nor the earlier poster said Yoruba, igbo, ikwerre ijaw or Ogoni. Saying someone wrote crap, for Godsake we are discussing about someone's life here. I don't see how condemning cohabitting is a crap or encouraging men to pay dowry is a crap unless u have other explaination for the word crap (maybe crab). Finally, my knowledge of the word ph or lag marriage over my 20 years of living in ph has meant the concept i used it. Im open to learning if it meant otherwise. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by loswhite(m): 7:14pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
gsogbu:since your prayer is to have daughters only, I can understand your hate for men. |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by gsogbu(m): 7:24pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
loswhite:. What a pity, Who did this to you? |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by GloriaNinja(f): 8:39pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
gsogbu:LOL |
Re: Opinion: Why Women Should Stop Living With Men Who's Yet To Pay Their Dowry by queencalipso(f): 9:46pm On Jun 08, 2017 |
gsogbu: He's obviously a kid, you should ignore him. |
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