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Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 6:17am On Jun 09, 2017 |
My childhood friend is slipping away... Fellow Nairalanders help me ! He was among those laid off during last quarter of 2016 by a Bank (name withheld). Although he has a Livestock Farming he had invested in along the line, but he couldn't just get his mind off the Retrenchment. He is not having it at all. He become so agitative. Any little argument, he flares up. He now takes 'sleeping drugs'. Though, I already go to the Pharmacy to warn them never to sell drugs to him again. He now prefer his own company. And beat up his siblings at the slightest provocation. He is Igbo and I am Yoruba. We have been suicidal friends since primary school. For the first time in our life he accused me of supporting his Fiance because she is Yoruba. That's because he woke just two days ago and said he is no longer interested in the relationship. The same lady who seriously helped both of us through out University days. He has stopped going to Church. He said what's the essence of serving a God who allow bad things to happen to good people. Pls, people this is not my friend ! He is losing it ! He is falling, he is slipping, he is losing his mind ! Worst of all, both of us are introverts. We hardly go out. If we are not at work, We are either with our siblings, our fiance or we are playing Video Game. But all he does now is take sleeping drugs and knock himself all day. Right now I am so scared. Pls What can I do before he irredeemable gets out of hand ? He is the one true friend I had all my life. Pls help ! 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by whitebeard(m): 6:28am On Jun 09, 2017 |
Go back to the pharm, get anti-anxiety pills, get him to watch motivational movies (business), hmm..! If that doesn't wait for other suggestions but bia republicans will vex because u are trying to help their brother. 2 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 6:49am On Jun 09, 2017 |
whitebeard: Drugs again ? No way sir. Drugs seems to be worsening the situation. Back in the university days, he was a motivational speaker himself. He literally talked me to graduate with a first class. So I don't how to bring down his guards with motivational stuffs. Pls and pls edit ur post. Do not turn this thread into one of those childish ethnic nonsense. Thanks. 3 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 6:52am On Jun 09, 2017 |
Lalasticlala Mynd44 pls help me get this to experienced Nairalanders |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Tobiloba84: 7:10am On Jun 09, 2017 |
Dear O. P, often times we enjoy life's sweetness that we forget its all about up and down, he had his good times he enjoyed it, now seem to be the bad time (which wont last) , he is failing to endure. I dont think he has the worse situation on Earth, he graduated and got a job, there are more brilliant heads and minds still struggling to feed at the moment let alone get a job. Did I see something like he has a livestock business, let him booast it any way he can and become totally independent, after all that is what almost everyone wishes for. Remind your friend, tough situation doesnt last. All the best 3 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by whitebeard(m): 7:43am On Jun 09, 2017 |
On a more serious note he needs drugs with cinnerizine in it, like stugeron, diznil, it would reduce his bp, and stress level in turn making him relaxed, and u can start the motivation from there. But not immediately, give it time, or u might be surprised he can even change himself, This drugs are not sleeping pills but when he gets relaxed his body is open to his mind, if the decides to sleep he would fall asleep at his own will. |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 7:54am On Jun 09, 2017 |
Tobiloba84: Thank you sir. His mum and I are doing just this. We will do more. Thanks again bro |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Yoyostic: 4:05pm On Jun 09, 2017 |
Not easy o,especially the fact that u are both introverts.Just dont give up on him and keep showing him love. |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 6:00pm On Jun 09, 2017 |
Introversion is really a deep thing 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by RoyalBlak007: 6:05pm On Jun 09, 2017 |
He needs a Vacation |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by eyinjuege: 7:57pm On Jun 09, 2017 |
It may be a good idea for him to see a psychotherapist. Look for one, and let him have some sessions. That may just help him a bit |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by damiplovR(f): 9:35pm On Jun 09, 2017 |
If he's on Instagram he can talk to @e__counsel he won't regret |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 9:42pm On Jun 09, 2017 |
Your friend sleeps a lot because he is exhausted. He needs some rest. And then he needs to be reminded that life is supposed to be good for him. It is a matter of good timing between the two. 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 9:47pm On Jun 09, 2017 |
Tobiloba84: That's the spirit! I like it! Life is all about ups and downs. We need to know how to ride the waves and understand that food tastes better when we are hungry. |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by DarkRebel69: 11:06pm On Jun 09, 2017 |
Tell your friend to follow these steps and I'm sure he'd feel a lot better. Step one: Visit www.google.com Step two: Type in the problem or difficulty he's facing in the search box i.e. “depression caused by job loss”. Step three: Sit back – grab a can of soda if he wants – and watch Google reel out results of thousands of similar cases. There's a sense of relief and strength in collective suffering as opposed to when we bear the weight of a problem on our own. Remember how less felt the impact of failure was back in school when we realized that almost everyone in class failed a particular course and not just us? Same applies here. No problem is new under the sun. We draw strength from the knowledge that many people have gone through what we are facing, and that even many more are still battling with the problem. 2 Likes |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by DarkRebel69: 11:15pm On Jun 09, 2017 |
Mindfulness: Intrepid Moors Invaded Switzerland Shores Youthful Old Unicorns Lived In Nathaniel's Demented Aunty ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 9:30am On Jun 10, 2017 |
DarkRebel69: ![]() ![]() Good to see you around. 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by ststyreal(f): 5:53pm On Jun 10, 2017 |
abiodunalasa:Thank you o jareeee!!! I am impressed with your last warning to that tribal being that thinks with hatred all the time. 1 Like |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Deeboiy: 8:01pm On Jun 10, 2017 |
[quote author=abiodunalasa post=57336560]My childhood friend is slipping away... Fellow Nairalanders help me ! He was among those laid off during last quarter of 2016 by a Bank (name withheld). Although he has a Livestock Farming he had invested in along the line, but he couldn't just get his mind off the Retrenchment. He is not having it at all. He become so agitative. Any little argument, he flares up. He now takes 'sleeping drugs'. Though, I already go to the Pharmacy to warn them never to sell drugs to him again. He now prefer his own company. And beat up his siblings at the slightest provocation. He is Igbo and I am Yoruba. We have been suicidal friends since primary school. For the first time in our life he accused me of supporting his Fiance because she is Yoruba. That's because he woke just two days ago and said he is no longer interested in the relationship. The same lady who seriously helped both of us through out University days. He has stopped going to Church. He said what's the essence of serving a God who allow bad things to happen to good people. Pls, people this is not my friend ! He is losing it ! He is falling, he is slipping, he is losing his mind ! Worst of all, both of us are introverts. We hardly go out. If we are not at work, We are either with our siblings, our fiance or we are playing Video Game. But all he does now is take sleeping drugs and knock himself all day. Right now I am so scared. Pls What can I do before he irredeemable gets out of hand ? He is the one true friend I had all my life. Pls help ! [/quote.speak to him in anger punch him if need be, most men don't respond to peaceful motivation, so use force in reminding him wat u have all been through. |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 8:05pm On Jun 10, 2017 |
[quote author=Deeboiy post=57394193][/quote] How's that pls |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 8:26pm On Jun 10, 2017 |
ststyreal: ![]() |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Rukkydelta(f): 9:12pm On Jun 10, 2017 |
Hmmm Don't have anything to say but I think what your friend needs now is a therapist and you should also pray for him May God help him |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Erums(m): 3:14pm On Jun 11, 2017 |
I tink hes just over reacting.... The truth is, hes not the only one retrenched.... He shud brace up and walk again |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 3:50pm On Jun 11, 2017 |
abiodunalasa:He needs something to revive the fight in him.. That spark in his life is going out, its left for you to figure out what could reignite that flame. Maybe u could help him get anoda job. Getting him a puppy could help |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Nobody: 3:51pm On Jun 11, 2017 |
Erums:Not everyone is that emotionally strong. In the USA, d guy would b in therapy by now. |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Erums(m): 3:54pm On Jun 11, 2017 |
Nma27: Dats true, bt hes in naija i guess... The conditions re different |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by obiaguna(m): 10:43am On Jun 12, 2017 |
Not Everyone would understand what that person is going through. It comes from a place of emptiness, nothing to hope or look forward to now, sadness and all. You wake up each day without having anything to smile about. Nothing makes sense anymore. Its really not easy coming out of this i tell you but i believe in prayers and faith that with time all will br well. Im going through that phase now and i try as much as i can to not misbehave . I just pray quietly for inner mental strength and ask God to send new opportunities my way. Your friend should be lucky he has you and his gf. Advise him to give his business one more shot and believe in himself again. If i had funds to start a business now im sure i would be less sad and more hopeful só let your friend make the best of his situation. Cheers. |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by jashar(f): 4:48pm On Jun 12, 2017 |
Pray for and with him... he needs Counselling alongside... he even has side biz sef.... that's a start.... if other people open their mouths to talk ehn... he will start jumping upandan rejoicing.... but then, people can fall into a funk every once in awhile... |
Re: Please How Do I Get My Friend Out Of Depression ? by Deeboiy: 6:23pm On Jun 13, 2017 |
abiodunalasa:be forceful, you definitely feel some kind of anger and Love use them both. probably cry too. |
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