And I ask, but it takes two to tango.

Online, in the church, at home, in the society, all you hear is woman this, woman that. All the books written on relationships are referring to the woman.

A mother calls her daughter and gives her lengthy lecture on how to be a good wife; and no one lectures the son on how to be a good husband. From the day a baby girl is born, the mother starts grooming her into a virtuous, responsible, submissive,good wife.

And the baby boy? He is only taught how to play football, watch television and play TV games.
At the bookshops, all you see is;

9 ways to keep your man

14 secrets to maintaining your husband’s love
5 practical ways to remain sexy and attractive to [url][/url] SEE MORE AT [url][/url] http://www.thisdaymom.com/2017/04/new-generation-husbands.html

OP it's called double standard. Ladies have their own too. It might not be fair/just but it's the reality & it doesnt look like it's going to wane

OP,

Why don't you be the change you want to see. What do you teach your own children? What do you teach your own sons? Are you teaching them to be good husbands? Most importantly, did you marry a good husband? Or did your just marry the richest toaster?

All this teaching is not relevant. Children just watch and learn from their parents. Be the good example to your daughters and let your husband be a good example to your sons.

what does this generation of ladies know? all they do is bend leg on instagram and call themselves slayqueen , they carry big gadget here and there and, wear expensive wigs on their brainless skull msheeeew

the painful thing about them is that they think getting married is an escape route from their poverty and lazy ass. they have nothing to bring to the family table other than demanding for money for fake hair, fake eyes, nails, lashes and even fake ass.

I have a serious problem with this generation of girls. at 300L I already had my business plan in place.i hate dumbass girls that make men see us as liabilities.

lets just say it is am mans world

BobbyDean:
OP it's called double standard. Ladies have their own too. It might not be fair/just but it's the reality & it doesnt look like it's going to wane

hmmm, hope you don't marry one of them. also raise the kind of daughter you want your son to marry, and the kind of son you want your daughter to marry.

darlenese:
what does this generation of ladies know? all they do is bend leg on instagram and call themselves slayqueen , they carry big gadget here and there and, wear expensive wigs on their brainless skull msheeeew

the painful thing about them is that they think getting married is an escape route from their poverty and lazy ass. they have nothing to bring to the family table other than demanding for money for fake hair, fake eyes, nails, lashes and even fake ass.

I have a serious problem with this generation of girls. at 300L I already had my business plan in place.i hate dumbass girls that make men see us as liabilities.

Truth is that, there is already a new generation of women who want Equality. How do you reckon with that ?

true, there are. but in reality women can never be equal to men, we only the men to at least appreciate the efforts of the women in keeping the home.

cruchenuti:
Truth is that, there is already a new generation of women who want Equality. How do you reckon with that ?

Thisdaymom:

true, there are. but in reality women can never be equal to men, we only the men to at least appreciate the efforts of the women in keeping the home.

Hmmm, don't let them come for your head oh Women is this family section are brutal.

im a woman, I don't preach women equality with men, because it was not so in the beginning. can i as a woman take the place of a man?

cruchenuti:


Hmmm, don't let them come for your head oh Women is this family section are brutal.

Thisdaymom:
im a woman, I don't preach women equality with men, because it was not so in the beginning. can i as a woman take the place of a man?

It depends, some Women are Bisexual, they don't even need Men to create Orgasm. Some Women already have enough money, they don't need Men to provide. A lot of women also believe that God is not fair, why God himself placed Women after Men. My colleague actually said this.

In terms of children, I can't say.

Thisdaymom:

true, there are. but in reality women can never be equal to men, we only the men to at least appreciate the efforts of the women in keeping the home.

And you think men don't appreciate the effort of women in keeping the home enough?

Women are unknowingly doing more harm to themselves in this new found quest for equality while abandoning their God giving role. Don't mistake "...God giving role" to mean enslavement or suppression.

No time in history has women been so objectified as mere sexual objects than this generation. The more the women push for their voice to be heard (using the wrong channel), the more they lose their ordained value.

Soon sef, marriage as we know it will become old school and outdated. I have stumbled on an article written by a woman condemning the structure and how marriage is contracted in this part of the world. Now that to me marks the beginning of an agitation in that direction and soon it will take root. In her argument against the present marriage model, she believes women are being bought reason wives are expected to worship their husbands so she is advocating the abolishment of bride price and wedding ceremonies of any kind be it traditional or white. No monies or compulsory gifts should exchange hands and so on.

Where are we heading this generation? God help us.

cruchenuti:


Hmmm, don't let them come for your head oh Women is this family section are brutal.

they are only brutal IF you let them. An average Nigerian woman can't withstand some words. If nairaland was facebook, u will see most of them blocking cos of your words against theirs.

darlenese:
what does this generation of ladies know? all they do is bend leg on instagram and call themselves slayqueen , they carry big gadget here and there and, wear expensive wigs on their brainless skull msheeeew

the painful thing about them is that they think getting married is an escape route from their poverty and lazy ass. they have nothing to bring to the family table other than demanding for money for fake hair, fake eyes, nails, lashes and even fake ass.

I have a serious problem with this generation of girls. at 300L I already had my business plan in place.i hate dumbass girls that make men see us as liabilities.

Where do u guys find this kind of ladies. You should stop searching on instagram and Facebook for girlfriends/wives. So many smar girls around and you keep meeting dumb ones. There's a problem somewhere

ImaIma1:


Where do u guys find this kind of ladies. You should stop searching on instagram and Facebook for girlfriends/wives. So many smar girls around and you keep meeting dumb ones. There's a problem somewhere

You should understand that these "instagram girls" are only doing so because the method always works.

Men would always talk about how they don't want a slay queen for a wife, how she must bring more than sex to the table blah. One fine girl winks at them and next thing they are already rigid.

These seemingly "dumb slay queens" will end up getting married to rich old men that will abandon their family for them, spend their days travelling round the world and when he dies, most, if not all his properties would be given to them.

If all you have to do is look good and have sex to make a living.. Why go the hard way?

Solid points! You hit the nail on the head!

Khonifer:


You should understand that these "instagram girls" are only doing so because the method always works.

Men would always talk about how they don't want a slay queen for a wife, how she must bring more than sex to the table blah. One fine girl winks at them and next thing they are already rigid.

These seemingly "dumb slay queens" will end up getting married to rich old men that will abandon their family for them, spend their days travelling round the world and when he dies, most, if not all his properties would be given to them.

If all you have to do is look good and have sex to make a living.. Why go the hard way?

checkengine:


And you think men don't appreciate the effort of women in keeping the home enough?

Women are unknowingly doing more harm to themselves in this new found quest for equality while abandoning their God giving role. Don't mistake "...God giving role" to mean enslavement or suppression.

No time in history has women been so objectified as mere sexual objects than this generation. The more the women push for their voice to be heard (using the wrong channel), the more they lose their ordained value.

Soon sef, marriage as we know it will become old school and outdated. I have stumbled on an article written by a woman condemning the structure and how marriage is contracted in this part of the world. Now that to me marks the beginning of an agitation in that direction and soon it will take root. In her argument against the present marriage model, she believes women are being bought reason wives are expected to worship their husbands so she is advocating the abolishment of bride price and wedding ceremonies of any kind be it traditional or white. No monies or compulsory gifts should exchange hands and so on.

Where are we heading this generation? God help us.

that is an ideology from the pit of hell, God rightly made man before He from the rib of man made woman. A womans place is under a man if peace will reign in the home.

I think the western world is destroying an average africans woman beliefs on marriage,

I888:
they are only brutal IF you let them. An average Nigerian woman can't withstand some words. If nairaland was facebook, u will see most of them blocking cos of your words against theirs.

Sometimes, "it is a man's world", sometimes, "it is a woman's world". Women are more victimized, so, topics are meant to help protect the victims rather than the culprit.

Another day another B.S

Khonifer:


You should understand that these "instagram girls" are only doing so because the method always works.

Men would always talk about how they don't want a slay queen for a wife, how she must bring more than sex to the table blah. One fine girl winks at them and next thing they are already rigid.

These seemingly "dumb slay queens" will end up getting married to rich old men that will abandon their family for them, spend their days travelling round the world and when he dies, most, if not all his properties would be given to them.

If all you have to do is look good and have sex to make a living.. Why go the hard way?

Lool, you said the hard truth.

Men say they don't want xyz and that's what they end up falling for, they now start lamenting that their wives are not faithfull.You cant choose a well packaged olosho for a wife and expect her to be faithfull.

And you know what, they keep falling for those ladies

Except for the really smart guys, that look for pretty and smart ladies.

TooNoisy:
OP,

Why don't you be the change you want to see. What do you teach your own children? What do you teach your own sons? Are you teaching them to be good husbands? Most importantly, did you marry a good husband? Or did your just marry the richest toaster?

All this teaching is not relevant. Children just watch and learn from their parents. Be the good example to your daughters and let your husband be a good example to your sons.

Very much on point and applicable to all areas of child upbringing.

Reminds me of your thread about the boy child. Same peeps complaining train their sons to be the men they claim they 'detest'.

darlenese:
what does this generation of ladies know? all they do is bend leg on instagram and call themselves slayqueen , they carry big gadget here and there and, wear expensive wigs on their brainless skull msheeeew

the painful thing about them is that they think getting married is an escape route from their poverty and lazy ass. they have nothing to bring to the family table other than demanding for money for fake hair, fake eyes, nails, lashes and even fake ass.

I have a serious problem with this generation of girls. at 300L I already had my business plan in place.i hate dumbass girls that make men see us as liabilities.

Interesting...

I am amazed when I read the bold:

Traditionally, what is the duty of the husband? What is the duty of the wife? Or didn't we read of Wizkid who said he needs a wife because he couldn't put together a meal?

Truth is that, there is already a new generation of women who want Equality. How do you reckon with that ?

How does wanting 'equality' tie into the OP?

bukatyne:


Interesting...

I am amazed when I read the bold:

Traditionally, what is the duty of the husband? What is the duty of the wife? Or didn't we read of Wizkid who said he needs a wife because he couldn't put together a meal?

my dear wake up, this is 21st century . if u are planning to become a full time house wife then u are still in the stone age.

darlenese:



my dear wake up, this is 21st century . if u are planning to become a full time

I believe you mean 'full time housewife'

This is not about me or what I want to do/currently doing.

This is about what we had in the past. If you want to contribute a significant portion of your finance to your home, it is fine; don't condemn does who want to do it the 'traditional' way.

Most of the peeps against 'equality' and 'women taking up men's roles are referring to 'working' wives yet it is the '21st' century and women must contribute.

Na wa

bukatyne:


I believe you mean 'full time housewife'

This is not about me or what I want to do/currently doing.

This is about what we had in the past. If you want to contribute a significant portion of your finance to your home, it is fine; don't condemn does who want to do it the 'traditional' way.

Most of the peeps against 'equality' and 'women taking up men's roles are referring to 'working' wives yet it is the '21st' century and women must contribute.

Na wa

if a woman cannot contribute, fine, but they shouldnt become a total liability to a man, and even make senseless demands on some useless stuff

Following.

The truth is that marriage these days is becoming something else. Moral values has dropped so low.
To find a good woman now you will have to seek and search, and if God has mercy on you to find one.
There are still good women out there, if God favours you, then you will find because the best thing that can happen to a man is to find and marry a good woman. But on the other hand the man must also value the woman because I have seen occasions where men are married to good women but does not value them.

Is it an abomination for the man to be good?
Y'all are proving the OP right with your sexist comments

djon78:
The truth is that marriage these days is becoming something else. Moral values has dropped so low.
To find a good woman now you will have to seek and search, and if God has mercy on you to find one.
There are still good women out there, if God favours you, then you will find because the best thing that can happen to a man is to find and marry a good woman. But on the other hand the man must also value the woman because I have seen occasions where men are married to good women but does not value them.

NoToPile:



Lool, you said the hard truth.

Men say they don't want xyz and that's what they end up falling for, they now start lamenting that their wives are not faithfull.You cant choose a well packaged olosho for a wife and expect her to be faithfull.

And you know what, they keep falling for those ladies

Except for the really smart guys, that look for pretty and smart ladies.

@ the emboldened,
Simply b'cos we are immature & foolish!
Yet we become offended when attempt is being made to correct us in a friendly manner.

CC : Ziinno

obadizena:



@ the emboldened,
Simply b'cos we are immature & foolish!
Yet we become offended when attempt is being made to correct us in a friendly manner.

CC : Ziinno

@ immature and foolish, I plead the fifth. Lol.