Phonefanatic:
I'm in this delima. 2 girls I intend picking one to marry. The one I really love very much isn't rich but her loyalty can't be questioned even if she's rich tomorrow.

The other is rich and can boast of at least 40M personal cheese but I see signs of someone who's going to make references to all that.

I got so confused I had to approach a spiritual eye..... Gave the 2 names without explaining anything so he prayed and picked the One without cash saying she will make me a happy home and peace of mind while the rich one will bring me problem and divorce. Now I'm tripling my hustle. Loyal over money.

teamsynergy:
patriarchy is what obtains in Africa.. meaning that a man is suppose to take care of his family needs. if the case is reversed the man is going to be under a lot of pressure from the society and the woman is gonna be very vulnerable cos the man might get cocky ...so for Africa, a man better make money and rule his family...



simple

DeadPresident:
...Women are naturally dumb...

Tloc:
Society has evolved my dear friend. We don't live in cages no more.

Rozaybb:
dats y a man should always be a sole provider to his family

sukkot:
it is what it is mayne. if you have no money leave women alone. Why would you be chasing women if you dont have money ? makes absolutely no sense. just mastur-bate when you are under pressure. FACTS

olujaidi:


I'm curious...are you saying women don't have egos? Or that they do not let their egos get in the way as well?

ivolt:


I am not talking about violence in homes, I am talking about who runs the home
and decides on critical issues.
The partner who wears the trousers.

Even if you have no experience of an African home setting, I don't expect you
to hold such stereotypes of richer women because you cannot experience one
without the other.

Sterope:
Talking about your mama, aren't you?

Sterope:
How is it disrespect now?

I am glad he knows but he could have forgotten, that is why it is good to remind him and YOU.

PaperLace:
How do men handle being richer? tyranny?
Was it not on this same NL a thread was created asking people if they'll like to marry men like their fathers, and most people said no?
Citing how their father bossed everyone around because he is the sole provider? When a man is richer, he immediately crowns himself god, everyone falls into place. Isn't it this providing you men keep using to disturb someone's ear, why can't the woman feel important when she assumes same role?

When a woman is richer, you expect her to belittle her achievements to please the man, she'll buy a car and has to tell people it's the husband that bought it _ that's the only way to look humble.

As far as I am concerned, the problem of most Nigerian men is ego. Aside their manhood and money, they feel useless. They have been brought up to feel they must provide and earn more. The moment they are not living up to that, insecurity sets in. Even the wife's footstep will be likened to pride.

I don't blame women that go for richer men at all!!!!
Work on your fecking insecurities and stop looking for a woman to control with money.

Tloc:


Society has evolved my dear friend. We don't live in cages no more.

Abang52:

You are big fool transcending from neurosis to psychosis, you mean to tell me I don't have the right to go for any woman I want because I don't have money well, I am a prospect and my self esteem is intact. All my niggas on the same train don't need the right from you we gave ourselves the right

smardray:
The first sensible thread u created in the year 2017... Applause

foyeks2001:

Pray to God to give you your missing bone Bro because my father had this same mindset of yours....Its too late for him( he's in his late 70s now), but not you
When my father was father, then he was working with a German firm at that time HF Scrolder( don't know if I got that right), he had money then, always looked down on my mummy( a bread winner )( a poor Federal civil servant), he comes home at odd hours after giving order of 'serve them round', plus concubines etc.
When an opportunity came to own a flat for my mom( all these Jakande Estates), she informed my daddy abt it, and the money to be paid b4 securing a flat( the rest wld be deducted from her salary), my father( he bought a land in Lag but the Omo onile finally hijacked the land) bluntly said he cannot live under a woman's roof, she even told him that , we don't need to live there, if he can just help her out with that first payment, then my father said that a woman cannot own a house b4 him....my mom tried all she could, but she missed the opportunity.... years after, when Abdulsalami entered, he changed the whole thing, he increased civil servants salary.... my mom bought a land in Lagos and built a structure on it (then HF scrolder had folded up, dad managing with Eleganza and left for another meager pay till he finally retired himself)...
As God wld have it,My mom ( a retired civil servant) has been responsible for my dad's welfare(even b4 she retired in 2005)( her pension(over 50k) and monthly pay she receives from her daughters and sons- in-law) till tomorrow, even living under a woman's roof he declined years back....Its now I can confidently say that my mom is enjoying her marriage, God gave my father his wife
Only God knows how he distributes HIS things, you might be destined that your life partner wld be richer than you are, or wld be the one to lift you up....
I do tell my mom that if she were to be me, I wld have divorced such a man a very long time ago because I don't understand where u had one child, you noticed your spouse bad behavior towards you and d baby till u gave birth to 6kids for this man

PaperLace:

You forgot "my house" and the plenty threats to throw her out and back to her father's house. They don't know that there are women also praying their husband doesn't get rich...hehe.

BiafraBushBoy:


But you will say "All men are the same shebi?"

ivolt:



Please, stop imagining things in your head, imagination is not equal to reality.
Women are more Emotionally Intelligent than men, many researches have
confirmed this.

The number of women CEO is a question of patriarchy not women's fault.

How many women in authority have you interacted with to make the use
of the word "most" ?

The problem you guys have is that of superiority complex when working
with women, you can't imagine a common woman making decisions,
a woman that should be on her feet worshipping you.

Many guys suffer in their workplace courtesy of their boss's attitude but they
won't complain if the boss is a man but let their be a change in management and a woman is in
charge, that is when they will remember that their boss is evil and proud.
This is no surprising as their unconscious mind is interested solely in finding
evidence that the woman is incompetent and they tend to confirm their
bias.

Even in politics, when 10 men are arraigned for corruption, the usual
comment is that "politicians are generally bad", "we are all corrupt".
But should one woman be arraigned , the story immediately change
to "corrupt nature of women", " women shouldn't be in government.
The same commentators who couldn't condemn corruption when men
are involved suddenly find their voice by blaming the gender instead
of the person involved.

damseyl:
I don't join them to say it

sukkot:


am sayin tho, when you are busy chasin women you are not chasing securities like money to get house and car. when you get house and car woman will flood you. no point being a broke a-ss playboy. that shytt aint cute

Jiang:
Don't really care if shes richer dan dangote as long as she fufills all her wifely responsibilities & not nag in my ears for about how she bought d new plasma TV cause the one i bought was too local.

I will just pretend she is a smelly shyt

chronique:
Don't ever pray for your woman to be richer than you. It's gonna be pretty hard to have a proper relationship under that kind of situation. If you give a woman an inch, chances of her taking a mile, would occur at least, 80% of the time.

Nb: when I mean "don't pray for your woman to be richer than you", I don't mean you shouldn't pray for her to succeed. Just don't start nursing the idea of wanting to be married to a lady who is richer. If fate brings you guys together, fine. But if you have an option, don't go for one. Not all ladies can handle such a relationship. Most allow their finances to get into their head.

Cinderella5:
May thunder strike you mad.

Women are naturally dependant, it's just this feminism movement that's making some become financially indpendent. You can't compare them with men, a real man takes responsibility. Not fake gold diggers and lazy goats like you.

Cinderella5:
May thunder strike you mad.

Women are naturally dependant, it's just this feminism movement that's making some become financially indpendent. You can't compare them with men, a real man takes responsibility. Not fake gold diggers and lazy goats like you.

eph12:

Erm who is supposed to run the home? I believe it's supposed to be the man yes?

IHate9jerians:
I had a friend who lost his job a few years ago and his wife had become the sole provider in the home.He had been out of work for about 3months and i visited him inorder to say 'Hi". While i was there,a football match was being shown on the telly and we both sat down in the parlour gisting and watching the game.
All of a sudden,his wife stepped into the sitting room and switched off the tv from the socket.She then stared at us and said she pays the DSTV bills and we dont have the right to watch it since none of us paid for it.
Wetin concern me.I immediately got up and took my leave inviting my friend for a drink at a joint.He tried to apologise for his wife"s actions but it wasnt necessary because i knew what caused that her behaviour.
No finance,no romance in this hard-knock naija

swegiedon:

true man