This creatures will always be amazed me

Most Nigerian girls would always collect gifts from men,even when they get married.
'They have this 'entitlement mentality' that has ended up making them cheaper than pure water.
Some even beg 'strangers' for gifts,cash,outings... etc.
Back to your topic,I would suggest you tell your girlfriend to return those gifts or probably severe ties with the said 'toaster' if she can be honest.even the nature of the gifts and the manner of the 'chyking' suggests to me that he is a player and a 'fuckboy',and if you don't act fast,your girlfriend would soon grace his bed,because most of these girls are naturally attracted to such guys.

-It is obvious the guy has seen your gf náked before and was not impressed when he saw her bra and panties.

So he is helping you change her undies.

ADVICE TO SINGLES.

Stop laying claims to girl that you havent paid her bride price. She isnt yours until you do the needful.
Girls feel free and mingle

koolsnoop2:
Good day nairalanders..
Please i need mature mind here.
My babe called and said a guy bought her some present. To her greatest surprise when she open it lo and behold she saw panties, underwear and swemming kits inside.
I feel it is normal for someone to buy you a gift, but what is not normal to me is the motive behind it.
After she open the gift the guy now ask her out. She told him she is in a relationship already and she love her guy. The guy said no problem cus she can date us both and compare after which she will choose which she said no. The guy press on by inviting for swimming which she also decline.
My questions:
why will a girl even collect gifts from guys?
Is it even morally right for a guy after a girl told you she is in a relationship to still keep on pressurizing her.

I plan to call and blame her for collecting the gift at the first place, but i don't want to hurt her, cus i know she'll start crying which i don't want.
Please guys, i love her and don't want to lose her.

Have you paid her bride price that you want her to not recieve gifts from others because of you?
If she decides to decline gifts it should be because she does not subscribe to what the giver of those gifts wants from her in return wether she is in a relationship or not.
To me she did wrong accepting those gifts if she knew she would not want to date him. She for no open am sef taljless of keep am.
A girl can double date same as men but sex should not be involved and each date shoukd not expect to recieve gifts and treatments meant for serious partners. When you two decide to settle with each other(exclusive) then you must be mature and make sure you are not in it for fun or to pass time.

Are you saying girls can double date?

chiwetaluAGU:
ADVICE TO SINGLES.

Stop laying claims to girl that you havent paid her bride price. She isnt yours until you do the needful.
Girls feel free and mingle

delishpot:


Have you paid her bride price that you want her to not recieve gifts from others because of you?
If she decides to decline gifts it should be because she does not subscribe to what the giver of those gifts wants from her in return wether she is in a relationship or not.
To me she did wrong accepting those gifts if she knew she would not want to date him. She for no open am sef taljless of keep am.

ok

koolsnoop2:
Are you saying girls can double date?

As long as they are not married, yes. They should try many partners to enable them make the right choice. Same goes for guys

Chai...
Some guys and complain sef!!
Girls this... Girls that..!!
Mtchewww

eezeribe:
Most Nigerian girls would always collect gifts from men,even when they get married.
'They have this 'entitlement mentality' that has ended up making them cheaper than pure water.
Some even beg 'strangers' for gifts,cash,outings... etc.
Back to your topic,I would suggest you tell your girlfriend to return those gifts or probably severe ties with the said 'toaster' if she can be honest.even the nature of the gifts and the manner of the 'chyking' suggests to me that he is a player and a 'fuckboy',and if you don't act fast,your girlfriend would soon grace his bed,because most of these girls are naturally attracted to such guys.

Thanks bro

chiwetaluAGU:

As long as they are not married, yes. They should try many partners to enable them make the right choice. Same goes for guys

Wow!

1.It is not bad for her to collect gifts from guys but there should be reservations on the type of gifts.

2. Having told the guy she is in a relationship and he keeps pressurizing her, it is advisable she cut contact with the guy and define her relationship with him. If he persist he might win her affection for him.

3. Treat your lady right and get her gifts don't wait for another to spoil her with gifts in your own very eyes. I.e if you really consider her to be a wife material.

4. Don't blame her for collecting gifts from guys. She had male friends before you met her but she should learn to define her relationship with the other male folks. Her opening up to you about the gift shows she loves and respects you.

Dextology:
1.It is not bad for her to collect gifts from guys but there should be reservations on the type of gifts.

2. Having told the guy she is in a relationship and he keeps pressurizing her, it is advisable she cut contact with the guy and define her relationship with him. If he persist he might win her affection for him.

3. Treat your lady right and get her gifts don't wait for another to spoil her with gifts in your own very eyes. I.e if you really consider her to be a wife material.

4. Don't blame her for collecting gifts from guys. She had male friends before you met her but she should learn to define her relationship with the other male folks. Her opening up to you about the gift shows she loves and respects you.

Thanks man

koolsnoop2:

Thanks man

You're welcome

koolsnoop2:
Good day nairalanders..

why will a girl even collect gifts from guys?

You probably just started dating Nigerian women

Question1 : Nigerian babes are like the leech who as described in the Bible, always cries 'give me, give me'. All you need to do is make an offer to her and she would accept. Our babes no dey see something comot eye.
Question 2: Bros if you see what you want, go for it. He has seen the quality in her and he is going in for the kill. If you cherish your babe, hold her tight. Until you tie the nuptial knot, you can't lay exclusive claim to a babe.

olrotimi:
Question1 : Nigerian babes are like the leech who as described in the Bible, always cries 'give me, give me'. All you need to do is make an offer to her and she would accept. Our babes no dey see something comot eye.
Question 2: Bros if you see what you want, go for it. He has seen the quality in her and he is going in for the kill. If you cherish your babe, hold her tight. Until you tie the nuptial knot, you can't lay exclusive claim to a babe.

You're rightly on point brother

olrotimi:
Question1 : Nigerian babes are like the leech who as described in the Bible, always cries 'give me, give me'. All you need to do is make an offer to her and she would accept. Our babes no dey see something comot eye.
Question 2: Bros if you see what you want, go for it. He has seen the quality in her and he is going in for the kill. If you cherish your babe, hold her tight. Until you tie the nuptial knot, you can't lay exclusive claim to a babe.

Point of correction, they should hold each other tight, she is not a balloon, she should decide where she wants to be ( which she has done according to the OP) ....

If she truly wants to be with the OP, no manner of gift can change her stand.

What's the point of being in a relationship with someone if they can be poached by someone else....

delishpot:


Have you paid her bride price that you want her to not recieve gifts from others because of you?
If she decides to decline gifts it should be because she does not subscribe to what the giver of those gifts wants from her in return wether she is in a relationship or not.
To me she did wrong accepting those gifts if she knew she would not want to date him. She for no open am sef taljless of keep am.
A girl can double date same as men but sex should not be involved and each date shoukd not expect to recieve gifts and treatments meant for serious partners. When you two decide to settle with each other(exclusive) then you must be mature and make sure you are not in it for fun or to pass time.

shut up jare see this one way day bend down piss


@op forget woman now.my guy just travel go Malaysia two days back.he is sending IV letter for me in two weeks time.because we day hustle together.where is the stupid gf of his.she is begging to come back.even if u don marry am she go collect see the day u accept say Nigerian girls are cheaper than pure water...

woo na u get ur life op

eezeribe:
Most Nigerian girls would always collect gifts from men,even when they get married.
'They have this 'entitlement mentality' that has ended up making them cheaper than pure water.
Some even beg 'strangers' for gifts,cash,outings... etc.
Back to your topic,I would suggest you tell your girlfriend to return those gifts or probably severe ties with the said 'toaster' if she can be honest.even the nature of the gifts and the manner of the 'chyking' suggests to me that he is a player and a 'fuckboy',and if you don't act fast,your girlfriend would soon grace his bed,because most of these girls are naturally attracted to such guys.

this is super true...they re so fishy in their reasoning ehn. Nigeria girls? oh no they make guys to Have just option About them which is " just f**k Them"

Bro, I strongly advise you go to the market and buy back those stuff for her, or something even better, then ask her to return.the ones wih her. Then draw a line on outsider's influence after that

Bro, don't give yourself high bp cos of girls, try your best to stay faithful and be a gentleman while you guys are still courting, have it at the back of your mind that she's opened to many options since you're yet to officially put a ring on it. All you have to do is play your part and pray she'll stay faithful like some virtuous ladies until you both are officially pronounced man and wife.

Once upon a time in Nigeria, seems like a thousand years ago now, girls did not accept gifts from toasters they had no intention of dating. Each party knows the gifts are not just "from the goodness of his heart." A girl can argue that she didn't ask for the gifts but then, why are you accepting it/them? By accepting gifts (cash or kind), you are setting an expectation, wittingly or unwittingly.

I don't know if poverty/awoof mentality has taken over and basic dignifying behavior is no longer a consideration or if it is just upside down civilization that makes it okay to accept gifts from someone you don't want.

Gifts of underwear to boot! Can it get more intimate than that? The audacity! And this girl has no intention of going out with this person? She has not given any green light whatsoever to warrant this situation? And she didn't express any outrage to him?

I'm old school, I cannot understand. Wait for those that can rationalize this, I can't.

Frankgenius213:



shut up jare see this one way day bend down piss


@op forget woman now.my guy just travel go Malaysia two days back.he is sending IV letter for me in two weeks time.because we day hustle together.where is the stupid gf of his.she is begging to come back.even if u don marry am she go collect see the day u accept say Nigerian girls are cheaper than pure water...

woo na u get ur life op

yeye dey smell. Bend down piss dey cause you so much anger wetin you go come do of peraon laydown piss, kill your self?

MMotimo:
Once upon a time in Nigeria, seems like a thousand years ago now, girls did not accept gifts from toasters they had no intention of dating. Each party knows the gifts are not just "from the goodness of his heart." A girl can argue that she didn't ask for the gifts but then, why are you accepting it/them? By accepting gifts (cash or kind), you are setting an expectation, wittingly or unwittingly.

I don't know if poverty/awoof mentality has taken over and basic dignifying behavior is no longer a consideration or if it is just upside down civilization that makes it okay to accept gifts from someone you don't want.

Gifts of underwear to boot! Can it get more intimate than that? The audacity! And this girl has no intention of going out with this person? She has not given any green light whatsoever to warrant this situation? And she didn't express any outrage to him?

I'm old school, I cannot understand. Wait for those that can rationalize this, I can't.

As always

Ur gal don dey collect am for ur back b4 e tell u.

koolsnoop2:
Good day nairalanders..
Please i need mature mind here.
My babe called and said a guy bought her some present. To her greatest surprise when she open it lo and behold she saw panties, underwear and swemming kits inside.
I feel it is normal for someone to buy you a gift, but what is not normal to me is the motive behind it.
After she open the gift the guy now ask her out. She told him she is in a relationship already and she love her guy. The guy said no problem cus she can date us both and compare after which she will choose which she said no. The guy press on by inviting for swimming which she also decline.
My questions:
1. why will a girl even collect gifts from guys?
2. Is it even morally right for a guy after a girl told you she is in a relationship to still keep on pressurizing her.

I plan to call and blame her for collecting the gift at the first place, but i don't want to hurt her, cus i know she'll start crying which i don't want.
Please guys, i love her and don't want to lose her.

1. No
2. No

Ask her the reason behind collecting the gifts in the first place. If she is not interested in him, she should return it.

mctowel01:

Bro, I strongly advise you go to the market and buy back those stuff for her, or something even better, then ask her to return.the ones wih her. Then draw a line on outsider's influence after that

I agree with you

Opistorincos:
Bro, don't give yourself high bp cos of girls, try your best to stay faithful and be a gentleman while you guys are still courting, have it at the back of your mind that she's opened to many options since you're yet to officially put a ring on it. All you have to do is play your part and pray she'll stay faithful like some virtuous ladies until you both are officially pronounced man and wife.

OK....
thanks brother

MMotimo:
Once upon a time in Nigeria, seems like a thousand years ago now, girls did not accept gifts from toasters they had no intention of dating. Each party knows the gifts are not just "from the goodness of his heart." A girl can argue that she didn't ask for the gifts but then, why are you accepting it/them? By accepting gifts (cash or kind), you are setting an expectation, wittingly or unwittingly.

I don't know if poverty/awoof mentality has taken over and basic dignifying behavior is no longer a consideration or if it is just upside down civilization that makes it okay to accept gifts from someone you don't want.

Gifts of underwear to boot! Can it get more intimate than that? The audacity! And this girl has no intention of going out with this person? She has not given any green light whatsoever to warrant this situation? And she didn't express any outrage to him?

I'm old school, I cannot understand. Wait for those that can rationalize this, I can't.

Actually she return the gift back to the guy but he refuse to collect it. she told the guy he came late cus she's already in a relationship and she can't double date and that she love her man. The guy ask her what he is to her and she said just a friend. then she told him that his man is the best man to her and immediately the guy walk out.
I told her to keep the gift in the office, and give him back anytime he show up again.

bukatyne:


1. No
2. No

Ask her the reason behind collecting the gifts in the first place. If she is not interested in him, she should return it.

According to her she reject the gift but he insisted n when she open it n discover wat is inside she return it but he refuse to collect it...

nicerod:


Ur gal don dey collect am for ur back b4 e tell u.

I trust her no matter wat...
n again she's a godly girl n not one of those slay Queen.
In fact she is free to collect any gift in as much her conscience permit her.