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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by azimibraun: 11:18am On Jun 17, 2017
No make that mistake o!!! Guys no dey carry dia mama matter play o! Just find your way into his mama heart. E go pay you pass o! When you give birth the mama go comot eye from your husband begin like her grand pikin especially if your child is exciting and have similar qualities with your husband in childhood. Your mother in-law will focus on your husbands second coming and free una to enjoy una marriage. Get close to your mother in-law be tolorant and quickly give birth o! That is key...Na from experience I advice you. no listen to kids on NL o!!!

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Kenkeye: 11:18am On Jun 17, 2017
I don't know since when it has become a crime to dearly love one's mother. My advice to you op: don't worry yourself or attempt to misbehave over nothing.

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by PresVA: 11:19am On Jun 17, 2017
GhettoG1:
Have a son first nd u gonna understand, i swear if a girl question about my mum in a slight rude way or she's asking too much then even if it's hour's to our wedding I'm calling it quit. Shikena
I'm a mother and I have a son... none of my daughters will marry a 'man' who is addicted to his mother as the Op described. . it's a recipe for marriage failure. . what if the wife decides too to be that attached to her mum, who will now focus on the family?
OP even said he consults his mum before any decision. . embarassed

Children are brought up to be independent at some point in their lives.. I don't pray I raise sons and daughters who keep running to me for everything and anything at adulthood. . They should be able to make some basic decisions and actions independently.... All the parents should be seeing now is the good result of the decisions rightly taken by their children... it makes them happy and proud. . and not a supposed man running to his parents for every single decision and action. ..

Taking care of one's parents is different from being a 'mummy's boy'...

Op, if you were my daughter or sister , I would advise you not to marry him.. cos it will be basically him and his mum making the decisions in your marriage...
He should know he's a man now and not a boy..

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by oneape: 11:19am On Jun 17, 2017
sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..
guys! Beware of this kind of women for there are The people who come and destroy your home.

So he should forsake his mum for one useless piece of shiit undecided

Useless women everywhere


When you open your dirty nyash and give birth to a son, that's when you will know undecided

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by obataokenwa(m): 11:20am On Jun 17, 2017
sweerychick:
did u read the part i said that im cool with guys that are close to their mums. My mans own is just so weird and creepy
I didn't read either where you said the closeness to his mum affect you guys relationship. My mum once told me "If your wife die, you can remarry... but if your mum dies, she can never be replaced". Your own type of jealousy is a possessive one(gumbody).

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by harbjar(m): 11:20am On Jun 17, 2017
sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..
A man, as in a real man has to find a way to strike a balance between the love he has for his mum and his wife or fiancee, cos no the love we have for both is not the same way.. though called love but we dont feel the same way twrds both of them .... i hope he realizes that soon

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Ngokafor(f): 11:21am On Jun 17, 2017
rainylad:



...rubbish comment..

...It is one thing to be close to your mum,but another to be a lapdog,mummy's boy with no brains of your own..This attitude is a recipe for disaster in marriage.

....We all have mothers we love to death,but matured adults should learn to draw the lines and boundaries when one gets married..

...otherwiise freaking stay single and leave marrriage for matured adults with their brains screwed right..simple!

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by alcmene: 11:21am On Jun 17, 2017
If I'm the guy and I get to see this post of yours, am dumping you immediately.

Can you imagine..... your types will grow to be uncomfortable when mother in-law visits.

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Henri8: 11:22am On Jun 17, 2017
You will still complain even if he gets too attached to your mum.

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by KESHYCOOL(m): 11:22am On Jun 17, 2017
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sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..
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sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..
sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by frubben(m): 11:22am On Jun 17, 2017
PapaNnamdi:
If u are not cool with it,

U ar indeed egocentric,

Nonsense,

No lady can take my mother's place, if u no like am, get the furk off,
Nonsense,
Naso Evans love Lady so tey she betray am,
Which person mama go do like dat to her son?


Annoying self centered ladies everywhere..

Mtchew

God bless u bros, anybody dat take wife over mum is a fool, a big one @ dat. because of 5 minutes pleasure. When my mum was inside the sun, receiving insult from little conductor bus just to get to work and put food on my table, does bitches where forming slay queen am nw a man u wan come control my love for my Mum. Thunder will fire the girl

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by ngwababe(f): 11:23am On Jun 17, 2017
Baby get close to your mum too, give him excuses using your mum even when he needs you most. Thank me later.

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Nobody: 11:23am On Jun 17, 2017
This is how my elder sister ended up a single married woman. The man stayed with her for three years but could not bear to leave his mom alone. They are still married, but he has not lived with her in nine years. If he seems obsessed, be very very careful. I have heard of inappropriate things with some sons and their mothers. I'm not saying that's what's going on with your fiance but it's definitely a possibility.

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by HARDDON: 11:23am On Jun 17, 2017
thorpido:
Closeness is one thing,being a mummy's boy is another. You have to know the difference.
He can be close to his mum yet be his own man and make his own decisions.I don't think you should have a problem with that.If he's a mummy's boy however- can't make decisions without her input,allows her control him e t.c.,then you should run.

Don Endorsed!

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by TheSuperNerd(m): 11:23am On Jun 17, 2017
Madam SweeryChick..... I understand you and believe me, you have every right to be very concerned about this.

Don't mind all the bull craps people are saying about how his mum must have suffered for him and all that. What nonsense! What about your parents?? Didn't they suffer for you?


One of the problems with certain men today is that they don't seem to understand that when they get married to their Wives, They are Now One with them.

A man is One with His Wife... and that makes His Wife the number 1 in His life and his topmost priority. The first person a married man should be willing to lay down his life for is His Own Wife... His Bride... cuz they are One and the same. This is the law of the universe.... Don't understand why Men cannot just accept truth and live by it. This is a principle that have been long established and if any man regards his mum above his wife, there is Always... and I repeat, ALWAYS GONNA BE A PROBLEM IN THAT MARRIAGE.


In your case, You are already seeing the signs that this man will always take sides with his mother even against you. He said he is willing to die for her... has he said same about you?? Lady, the man you call Lord and King and Husband must be the man that is totally in Love with you and respects you and is willing to lay down his life for you firstly before anybody else....

This is how A good marriage is. Mothers come second to A Man's Wife... this is the truth.

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by 0b100100111: 11:23am On Jun 17, 2017
Poison either of them and set your mind free

Bitter truth!
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by debspauly(f): 11:24am On Jun 17, 2017
my sister ...my dear find your level because if you guys get married you are gonna live under his mum's rules still she dies . find your level or stay and endure for the sake of love.

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Niceguy123: 11:25am On Jun 17, 2017
my dear ur man is just a boy and not a man, i love my mom so much but i still get my life to leave. if u decide to walk down the isle with him, just know that your mother in law will be a major contributor on your home, which to me is very wrong. he needs to grow up.

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by pocohantas(f): 11:25am On Jun 17, 2017
frubben:


God bless u bros, anybody dat take wife over mum is a fool, a big one @ dat. because of 5 minutes pleasure. When my mum was inside the sun, receiving insult from little conductor bus just to get to work and put food on my table, does bitches where forming slay queen am nw a man u wan come control my love for my Mum. Thunder will fire the girl
If your dad put his own mother over your mother, his wife... Would you be happy? I wonder how some of you reason.
Your mum has enjoyed her life with your father, let your wife enjoy you her husband. Or does she have to wait till your son grows and the cycle continues.

Is your wife not receiving insults to take care of you guys kids?
Nawa!

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Kenkeye: 11:26am On Jun 17, 2017
Adebayo4all:
Rubish


Has he paid her birth price

I wonder o! Make ordinary fiancee dey claim this kain right

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Revolva(m): 11:26am On Jun 17, 2017
sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..




so because of you make e kill him mama.....or wat na you born am....

ladies of these days cant just try to understand....things....what if he is the only breadwinner of his family.....or the only child or active son close to the mum...

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by MropeEleniyan00(m): 11:26am On Jun 17, 2017
Drop it & ask the boy & mama story then you know she his irresplaceable like mine..as long as the woman is cool with you no problem
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by azimibraun: 11:26am On Jun 17, 2017
PresVA:
I'm a mother and I have a son... none of my daughters will marry a 'man' who is addicted to his mother as the Op described. . it's a recipe for marriage failure. . what if the wife decides too to be that attached to her mum, who will now focus on the family?
OP even said he consults his mum before any decision. . embarassed

Children are brought up to be independent at some point in their lives.. I don't pray I raise sons and daughters who keep running to me for everything and anything at adulthood. . They should be able to make some basic decisions and actions independently.... All the parents should be seeing now is the good result of the decisions rightly taken by their children... it makes them happy and proud. . and not a supposed man running to his parents for every single decision and action. ..

Taking care of one's parents is different from being a 'mummy's boy'...

Op, if you were my daughter or sister , I would advise you not to marry him.. cos it will be basically him and his mum making the decisions in your marriage...
He should know he's a man now and not a boy..
Sorry ma.. You just indicted yourself and justified mothers prevailing over their children in marriage." None of my daughters will marry a Man...." that means you plan to influence who they marry becouse you feel you love them and should protect them. na just prayers, tolerance and being smart go help our daughters.

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by KESHYCOOL(m): 11:27am On Jun 17, 2017
lipsrsealed :-Xis that too BAD.
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by 9free(m): 11:27am On Jun 17, 2017
sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..
While my own wife begs me daily, weekly, monthly and yearly to call my mum.
Women, what do you want?
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Nobody: 11:27am On Jun 17, 2017
Dear, a son or daughter can be so attached to his or her parent without having any negative effects on his or her relationship or marriage, unlike me, i was so attached to my dad, but when he died , i switched toy mum , that we are so close and dear, and no one of them..when my father was alive or my mum that has ever dictate for me how to handle my relationship. So, i don't expect you to create or exercise any fear only if you yourself has skeleton in your cupboard and don't welcome in-laws. As far as its concerned, the woman don't choose date or fiance for his son and d woman never by anyway or d other insulted you, so love d woman d way your man loved him and be happy
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by sekem: 11:27am On Jun 17, 2017
Mothers give unconditional love

I will always choose my mother above any other woman in my life

If you don't like it, that's your fùcking business

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by toyinhope: 11:27am On Jun 17, 2017
Run!!!!!!!
embarassed
oh my God, I will keep running until I get to safety, there is fire on the mountain

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Nobody: 11:28am On Jun 17, 2017
It's only weird to you because you probably grew up in a family where there isn't enough family bonding.

My man is very Family oriented. He's the guy that would go overboard for his sister, attend all family events and give up his last dime for them.
I on the other hand, have a brother I haven't seen in years even though we live in the same town and a sister I don't speak to and probably never will until forever. I've missed more family events than anyone and I am genuinely indifferent about them.

So imagine how weird it was for me to see the bond among my man's siblings when I first met him, it took a while but I eventually accepted it.

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Slai1: 11:28am On Jun 17, 2017
GhettoG1:
Have a son first nd u gonna understand, i swear if a girl question about my mum in a slight rude way or she's asking too much then even if it's hour's to our wedding I'm calling it quit. Shikena

You are talking trash.

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Alariwo2: 11:28am On Jun 17, 2017
sweerychick:
Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.

My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.

One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.

I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..

when you have your own son you lived for and trained to become someone in life, and one girl from nowhere comes to take his attention away.. you'll understand

why didn't you go for a destitute and clean him up?
You want a well brought up man to ignore his deity and first love cos of an outsider like you..I laff at your childishness

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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Lovetinz(m): 11:28am On Jun 17, 2017
Wean him, with the only thing his mum cant give him!

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