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Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by frubben(m): 11:29am On Jun 17, 2017 |
pocohantas: Madam, he is showing love to his mum, my mum did not come to nairaland to complain because she understood, the problem comes when my dad cannot makes decision without his mum. Since the guy make his own decisions and mum does not do it for him. So d babe should chill or move. 4 Likes |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Lumig: 11:31am On Jun 17, 2017 |
So you want to be the instrument of discord in a family you are about to join. You women are your own enemies, when you become older, your daughter inlaw[s] would seek all means to separate you at your old age from your son[s]-Law of retribution. I wonder why you are jealous of your about to be Mother-in-law, is she your rival? You must be wicked and selfish [ME-AND-MY-HUSBAND-ALONE SYNDROME]. WHY NOT KILL ALL HIS FAMILY MEMBERS? 3 Likes |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by pocohantas(f): 11:31am On Jun 17, 2017 |
frubben:Go back to the first page, she said the mum makes decisions. I hope you guys won't mind your wife putting her father first too. Make we see who will remain in the marriage to fix things as a couple. 4 Likes |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by PresVA: 11:31am On Jun 17, 2017 |
azimibraun:So that's all you could get from the comment? smh |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by DerrickM(m): 11:31am On Jun 17, 2017 |
Sister,i will tell you this,nothing is going to change even if you get married and this will lead to resentment even regardless how "cool" who are with it in the beginning. Yes,it is sad that he lost his Dad so early and his mother took up the responsibilities. Detaching himself from her isn't going to be easy and may get complicated in the long run. Running out of the office just like that even when she said is not a big deal gives me a lot of concern. God forbid he has an accident or is run over racing to her aid. He needs to be calm and collected in his actions or reactions. If you are in a situation probably childbirth or more severe and his mother's own issue comes out of the blue, i really don't have the confidence that he will not bail out on you without thinking twice. Mothers tend to smother us with love,manipulate us to do their bidding and it's choking for real a times when you just want to be alone. Am very independent soul and even Mummy's boy not even a tag i like even from a tender age till date. Yes,she is his mother and gave birth to him but a fine line needs to be drawn for balance and privacy because even for me i find this case really weird and taking it too far. If there's anything i have learnt from my parents' marriage,no one changes his or her mind or attitudes on any issue till they realise some truth from all the advice,their spouses or 3rd party close confidantes have been saying for long. Think about this wisely please. sweerychick: 1 Like |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by robosky02(m): 11:32am On Jun 17, 2017 |
sweerychick: he is just a mummys boy 2 Likes |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by pennywys(m): 11:33am On Jun 17, 2017 |
sweerychick:the fact that you brought this issue to social media shows that you have no chills in you at all A son showing love and concern to his mom, and that become unfathomable tragedy to you How would you like your son to treat you? Mothers are very expensive, they are irreplaceable |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by rainylad(f): 11:34am On Jun 17, 2017 |
Masquerade7: ...Thank you for giving them a chance to marry a normal man...You and your mum would have made life hell on earth for them. ..And please stay single and tied to your mum's apron strings forever,no sane lady will miss your kind....Goodluck. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by bionixs: 11:36am On Jun 17, 2017 |
sweerychick:please dear,would your wish YOUR OWN son be same to you? Your answer must fix it |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by dreezybines: 11:37am On Jun 17, 2017 |
thorpido: Your advice is super cool... But the run away aspect is a no... 1 Like |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by azimibraun: 11:37am On Jun 17, 2017 |
Boys should stay off marriage abeg. If you are not above 33 and earn your own money and stay in your own home and send your parents money don't marry. Simple. It's important your mother see you as a Man getting married and have the belief you can handle your business. For the ladies stop snging my mummy... my mummy all the time when you are getting into a marriage. if you do that too much and your mother-inlaw to be sees you and get an impression that your mum has so much influence on your words and actions, she will want to ensure she protects her son from the mummy..mummy you won't stop singing about. Marriage no be for kids. When I was set to marry, my mum was already sympathising for my fiance and her mum. She knew they would be dealing with a Man who is fully in control. No time. 3 Likes |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by frubben(m): 11:37am On Jun 17, 2017 |
pocohantas:I no c dat one. If she like love her father like God, so far her dad does not make decisions for us and she gives me my 3 round steady ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by vickydevoka(m): 11:37am On Jun 17, 2017 |
poison her or better still send assassin to eliminate her. do it n thank me lerra |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by olaoye15(m): 11:37am On Jun 17, 2017 |
sweerychick: I am glad he made that statement that he can't so without his mum... that is final I I believe you can read it carefully. Be informed that his mum will contribute significantly to decision you make in your home.. thank God he is not deceptive. He has shown you the kind of person he is. whether addicted or mummy's boy, his mum will inputs will matter in decision you make. what is important now is for you to understand what matters to you. Now it is a thing of opportunity cost. of he possesses what you can't afford to miss in a man, go ahead and hope for the best in the relationship. But if your complain is what matters to you, then back out period! after all you are not an tree. this trait is most common in last born simply because they it is believed that mothers devote much time to care for them than any other children. Hence, cordial relationship is built. 2 Likes |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by okenwa101(m): 11:37am On Jun 17, 2017 |
sweerychick: I must say, you have a loving and caring husband to be and my advice is this if you love him too, try all possible strategies to win and have that his mother in ur palm, let the mother talk about you every minute and everywhere she is. by the time her mum start referring him to you or tells him that your choice is her choice and stand, then congratulations because he will henceforth see you as her mother. |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Oyindidi(f): 11:37am On Jun 17, 2017 |
sweerychick:pray the mother love you, if not you are in for a loooooooooooong thing. Relationship with guys like this doesn't last. They give excuse like.. my mom said I should not have erection for one week ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by mrsuccess2010: 11:40am On Jun 17, 2017 |
My advice for her is to kill d mum, maybe that one will make her fill confortable, idiot woman, if the woman no train the boy u go see am love? This one she is already complaining b4 marriage, I wonder wat she will do after marriage. The guy better run b4 juju go enter. Point of correction, anything u do for ur wife, u should never tell ur mum and anything u do for ur mum, u should never tell ur wife. Let the man keep his mouth shut and stop reporting his mum case to his woman. Na because he dey report , that s y she s complain. No reporting, no complain. Shikena. |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by azimibraun: 11:40am On Jun 17, 2017 |
PresVA:Truth hurts. But those were your words not mine. You wish to protect your daughters but your In-laws should not protect their sons. It doesn't work that way. Folks should allow their kids run their homes and watch from the sidelines. If they need your help they will call upon you. It's a selfish world. 2 Likes |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by ariklawani(f): 11:41am On Jun 17, 2017 |
sweerychick:My dear is a problem. just make sure u don't live with her. 1 Like |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by TheSuperNerd(m): 11:43am On Jun 17, 2017 |
They actually want "Balance".... a man should be sensitive to know how to strike the balance so as not to send out she wrong signals. Your wife telling you to check on her mum-in-law (ur mum) doesn't mean you should now place your mum over her suddenly coz truth is Your Mum is still your well beloved Mother but your wife is You... for she is one with you. Your Wife is your world and your all. A balance is key. She shows she cares for your mum but that doesn't mean you should now cross the line and make your mum the topmost priority. 9free: 1 Like |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by AODT(m): 11:43am On Jun 17, 2017 |
sweerychick: My dear, If you bother to know, there is nothing cool about a man attached to his mum. When it comes down to it, such men naturally sacrifice their home for the mother. A friend just got divorced because the husband still consults his mum before making vital decisions on his marriage. By the way he is even in his mid 40s. 2 Likes |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by azimibraun: 11:44am On Jun 17, 2017 |
vickydevoka:Guees what? Some Bi-polar lady might just take you seriously and do what you just suggested. Your position for he'll eh!!! It's not a joke somethings people bring up on this forum. Most people are telling their true life stories and take our words seriously. Denounce your joke right now and make peace with God and Man. I am waiting. |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by EYIBLESSN(m): 11:44am On Jun 17, 2017 |
vargasvictory: Cold Bottles of Original Origin for you. |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by nikkyshyne(f): 11:45am On Jun 17, 2017 |
Provided his mum does not influence him in anyway. Say like a mummy boy. If he loves her too much shldnt be an issue. Only when his mum makes decisions for him then that is where the issues lies. I had an experience with a mummy boy. We broke up in the end. |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by ZeroUnity: 11:45am On Jun 17, 2017 |
Since people are telling you the truth and you love the one's that are not real.... Cool then leave your man for that gurl that loves a man who is toooo close to his mum... Mother's are many men's world... His treating his mum well shows he can take good care of you... Or is the guy not doing you well?? |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Alariwo2: 11:46am On Jun 17, 2017 |
frubben: Are you minding those myopic souls called women in this age? I can bet it that the same lady complaining will bring her mother only close to herself and her husband when she successfully gets rid of her mother - in - law. That's how they are 2 Likes |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by ferhyntorlah(f): 11:47am On Jun 17, 2017 |
ImaIma1: God bless you my sister. Immediately I saw the topic, I knew the guys of Nairaland would come hard on her. I have brothers too and they don't exhibit these traits the poster mentioned. 1 Like |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by mayskit4luv(m): 11:48am On Jun 17, 2017 |
sweerychick: U might as well let his mom know that great chemistry between them. The mom will be the solution to the problem, but letting it sink to the son's brain that he should be prepared for the inevitable. Which is death and I'm sure she wouldn't be selfish not to guide him through. @Op it's not a problem, everyone has its cross. Be thankful |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by aljazirahnews: 11:48am On Jun 17, 2017 |
GhettoG1: You have said it all sir. A lady like the op can kill her mother inlaw out of sheer jealousy |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Nobody: 11:48am On Jun 17, 2017 |
Ta. Before you call it off she'd have dumped you, so, forget it. Anyhow, grow up and be a man! GhettoG1: 3 Likes |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Mopelawlar(f): 11:50am On Jun 17, 2017 |
Madam,try get close to d mom too kk by doing ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Man Is Too Attached To His Mum, Advice Needed by Nobody: 11:50am On Jun 17, 2017 |
thorpido:The only reply that makes sense. Help him by loving his mom too, it might be the case of an absent dad or a was present and abusive dad. Better yet, it might be that of a simple closeness which is not wrong, as long as he makes you feel comfortable and loved and his mother understands your role.......you understanding hers (which from your narration is nonexistent). Make it happen.....your soon to be inlaw is suppose to be your comfort zone.......the relationship between them might be potraying what you will be getting from this guy. If the mother dies he dies.........tell him to grow up already ![]() |
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