Good to hear, he has changed... I hope more of dem would turn a new leaf..

I can't agree any less, parenting is a team work not a one man show.

adesegun121:


Hope no be APC change

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Dafuq is this childish thing

cococandy:
You have actually spoken well and I do agree with the more important parts of your post like communication to educate the men, effects of social influence and abolition of bride price.

For that I'll ignore your other points the were out of line like the personal attack on me and your baseless generalizing about what women want/prefer.

When I said 'obsessed with headship' , it's not the same as 'talking about headship'. Two different things.
Bye.

I never saw this ending like this? Who would've thought

I thank God for his change, I pray same happen in some families that needs redemptions

obataokenwa:
Very good lesson. My mentality about women changed after I read Myles Munroe's book (Understanding The Power and Purpose of a Woman). From that moment, I will support my wife and my girls to achieve whatever they want to achieve. Steve Harvey's Book (Treat Her Like A Lady) also did a great lesson to me. I smh for men that beat their women.

Very good lesson.

My mentality about women changed after I read Men Are Better Than Women by Dḯck Masterson.

From that moment, I will just sit back and enjoy myself as I watch different women trying to use their fish brain to get me do their will without achieving their purpose

I smh for men who still allow women to fool and use them

auntysimbiat:
Hmmm... OK oo oo

shey you will not come and modify

NotOfThis:
Children are like sponges who soak in everything. That's why parents with little children should be careful how they treat each other b/c those kids are watching.

While he didn't realize how much his mistreatment of his wife was hurting his family on his own, but it had to take him overhearing his kids' conversation to come to this realization, I still appreciate that he was sensitive enough to see his mistakes, through his children, and change​.

The person is question is my cousin, and doesnt ''mistreat'' his wife,but thanks anyway for your input.

cococandy:
The man that will disrespect me in the presence of my kids has not been born. After the first time (if he's foolish enough to try it), it won't happen again.

My advice ladies: know who you marry. If he's obsessed with 'headship' during the dating stage, that's a big red flag.

Only insecure people need to put others down especially in the presence of others in other to elevate themselves.
If a man has to be taught that himself and his wife are partners and should always present a United front to their kids, he's not ready to marry.

You are everything I don't want to have as a woman.

To you now, Marriage is a battle ground.

Your type will become Single immediately after your first born.

Sister wisdom is the paramount to life.

Ordinary communication and humility can Weaken the most violent Man.

Nobody quenches a fir with fire.

Learn from your elders

sekem:


Very good lesson.

My mentality about women changed after I read Men Are Better Than Women by Dḯck Masterson.

From that moment, I will just sit back and enjoy myself as I watch different women trying to use their fish brain to get me do their will without achieving their purpose

I smh for men who still allow women to fool and use them

I've seen wicked men also that became bedridden at old age and their wife used their fish brain to show them "shege".

My people said... "A sheep thinks its doing anybody by defecating watery faeces on itself, but it will suffer the consequences when flies becomes its companion".

Ishilove:

^^

See him. Another member of the Brotherhood of Egomanic Fvcktards

I don't usually do this,but you must be dense,or you didn't read the story thru very well,the person in question is a cousin of mine,you would wish to be his wife with the amount of trips abroad she takes yearly,and he doesn't mistreat her in the least bit,was just prone to spoiling his kids a little too much,till he started realising they were playing his kindness for weakness.you must retarded to read thru and call him a egomanic fucvktard,you piece of shit.

obataokenwa:
Very good lesson. My mentality about women changed after I read Myles Munroe's book (Understanding The Power and Purpose of a Woman). From that moment, I will support my wife and my girls to achieve whatever they want to achieve. Steve Harvey's Book (Treat Her Like A Lady) also did a great lesson to me. I smh for men that beat their women.

You be correct person for reading that book jare!!! I have used it for referral here on Nairaland so many times.

Many men do this without realising it. When the wife says yes, automatically they say no. When it is no, they will say yes.

Its best to be on the same side. Kids are smart, they watch, learn and adapt.

NwaAmaikpe:
He is simply a woman wrapper who hasn't learnt how manipulative women are...


Before he will know it, he will be corked inside a bottle.

noted

NwaAmaikpe:
He is simply a woman wrapper who hasn't learnt how manipulative women are...


Before he will know it, he will be corked inside a bottle.

noted. Research ongoing

To the man who belittles his wife in order to elevate himself, marriage is a battle ground.

You're everything I wouldn't wish on my enemy

eastsidechillz:


You are everything I don't want to have as a woman.

To you now, Marriage is a battle ground.

Your type will become Single immediately after your first born.

Sister wisdom is the paramount to life.

Ordinary communication and humility can Weaken the most violent Man.

Nobody quenches a fir with fire.

Learn from your elders

Thinking of Adam and Eve right now at the garden of Eden

Piiko:
Ass wipe man suffering from inferiority complex embarrassing your better half to massage your ego. Scum!

Ikpuoto nne gi,scum.

sir, with all due respect, i have great respect for you for quickly retracing your steps when you saw that you were showing the children a bad example. kudos to you Sir.

thanks for understanding that GOOD women + WIVES are the ones that holds the home.

truly you are right on point. and God bless you and your family, you shall live long to see the reward of your good decision yield fruits in the lives of your children by the time they are married and giving birth to children. AMEN.

it is an eye opener to the fathers who want to use their wives to score cheap points by deriding her in the presence of their children. thanks a million times

Opening line in the narrative is wrong in all aspect. A home is not a battle field. With all the information available and the mistakes our parents made, who wants to be ruined by silly ego....I'm charge my foot.

cococandy:
The man that will disrespect me in the presence of my kids has not been born. After the first time (if he's foolish enough to try it), it won't happen again

My advice ladies: know who you marry. If he's obsessed with 'headship' during the dating stage, that's a big red flag.

Only insecure people need to put others down especially in the presence of others in other to elevate themselves.
If a man has to be taught that himself and his wife are partners and should always present a United front to their kids, he's not ready to marry.

abeg shut up jare, just be making unnecessary mouth

Ishilove:

^^

See him. Another member of the Brotherhood of Egomanic Fvcktards

so even you have joined the senseless crew.

"Using your wife to shine" before your children or others in order to drive home the point that you are the head is totally wrong.

What if your own decision (which opposes hers) is wrong afterall?

Some women tend to cork the man inside a bottle with the authority given them like someone noted before.

But here's the thing: In a case of opposite views, you as a man need to critically compare your point of view and your wife's own on a particular issue before making a choice (hers or yours).

Sometimes, the correct view will be yours; at other times, it will be hers. Think about the outcome of any of the views to work with before choosing one and forget about the-one-with-the-final-say and head-of-the-house bullsh.it

NwaAmaikpe:
He is simply a woman wrapper who hasn't learnt how manipulative women are...


Before he will know it, he will be corked inside a bottle.

Wait, I don't get you. He's a woman wrapper because he sees his wife as his team mate and partner, right? He's a woman wrapper because he has decided to train his kids in the right way? What would you have preferred? You want him to be a Major who pushes everyone around and doesn't seek his wife's consent before decisions are carried out right?

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obataokenwa:
Very good lesson. My mentality about women changed after I read Myles Munroe's book (Understanding The Power and Purpose of a Woman). From that moment, I will support my wife and my girls to achieve whatever they want to achieve. Steve Harvey's Book (Treat Her Like A Lady) also did a great lesson to me. I smh for men that beat their women.

If you have a possessed wife, you will regret coming across her not to talk about marrying her.

x240:
you are one of the reasons many Nigerians don't own up to mistakes.

It takes someone intelligent to make a mistake and try and correct it but it shows how shitty another person is who can't help but find a way to judge people and rain invectives.



Your type just come online and make mouth and frost. See you threatening fire and brimstone over something you could school him over gently. Asking for headship ain't about insecurity. It's a result of what the environment, society, culture and religion dictate. He who pays the piper, dictates the tune. More reason we need to abolish all these bride price, women not contributing to the family resources thing so they can effectively have a say and get marriages to be a team efforr not the he is the man and needs to do the all in all.

No one is holding brief for him but both men and women are actually guilty of pushing such narratives that the man is always right and the woman with her idiosyncrasies cannot be trusted with decisions. As much as that is not true the many examples of women letting their emotions cloud their judgment fuels such belief systems. It is a known fact that most ladies are risk averse and would prefer the "man" make the decisions.


It would take a lot of time to change the perception but we can all do more by training our boys that yeah they have advantages in some areas but the opposite sex also have skills that can be used in achieving greter results in a home. That's more pragmatic than all you i have not seen a man born or whatever you keep spitting up there. The problem of marriages that we have currently stems from the advices and views of you extreme lefties and righties in both the male and female camp who believe in absolutes and don't see things the way they are.

Young single ladies should take the more pragmatic approcach. You can't remove decades of nuture and environmental stereotypes out of him in a day. Else you would just be jumping from one guy to the other. Men aren't robots that you can't speak to and mold their outlook towards life.

ignore cocoa butter!, she is my long time friend , na so she sabi invoke fire o, her many years in yankee has turned her head up side !but she has a good Heart o

ego and low self esteem are the major reasons men make this mistake.

Thanks to God he has a good wife, that house would be on fire.

Good, he learnt the right thing on time.

Missfads:
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NwaAmaikpe:
He is simply a woman wrapper who hasn't learnt how manipulative women are...


Before he will know it, he will be corked inside a bottle.

at last u told us wot happened to u nd ur dads brain,so it was corked?? eeyah

NwaAmaikpe:
He is simply a woman wrapper who hasn't learnt how manipulative women are...


Before he will know it, he will be corked inside a bottle.

Hey, where did u get this mentality from?

cococandy:
The man that will disrespect me in the presence of my kids has not been born. After the first time (if he's foolish enough to try it), it won't happen again.

My advice ladies: know who you marry. If he's obsessed with 'headship' during the dating stage, that's a big red flag.

Only insecure people need to put others down especially in the presence of others in other to elevate themselves.
If a man has to be taught that himself and his wife are partners and should always present a United front to their kids, he's not ready to marry.

N what is this one saying again? U never marry u don dey form yanga!!!! As if u will beat him or starve him or do shiiiit!!! All men know they are d head! Take it or leave it! Its ur type DAT will be fighting for headship in d house with ur husband! Moral of d story eluded u it seems!