jaytime:
I personally see this from an economic angle. Fact is, there are so many broke guys of over 30 out there who would have, all things being equal, gotten married to these ladies in question but they don't have the financial muscle to undertake marriage rites let alone shoulder family responsibilities.
In that case, there must be a resultant increase in the number of "redundant" spinsters.

Which law is that?

dingbang:
how long will it take you to be a self made woman biko?

Don't mind her.as she's typing ,she's crying

Not everyone is in a rush for marriage. It is not a race.

Some people are okay with being alone until the right person comes along.

Marriage marriage marriage!!!! Gosh, don't u hv better things to research n talk about? This issue has bin over flogged. Most people r married in this country cos of societal pressure n are mostly miserable in their marriages. Marriage isn't by force and it isn't the ultimate, in countries like Japan the govt is spending millions every year to Mk people marry but they still run away from marriage but here all we think about is marriage this n marriage that. The rate of domestic violence n divorce is on the rise cos people just marry any available partner so as to be counted among d married ones. We need to stop making people and most especially the ladies feel like a failure if they aren't married at a certain age, instead we need to focus on how to make people take their time to choose wisely. I have seen what broken home does to children. Please stop with all these sort of threads

NotOfThis:
Not everyone is in a rush for marriage. It is not a race.

Some people are okay with being alone until the right person comes along.

They don't ever believe this.

Am I the only one that thinks men like the OP are emotionally insecure that's why they keep coming up with feel good threads like this?

If you feel there's an increase in population of single ladies over 28, maybe it because a large number of them have realised that there's more to life than marriage.

You people are disgusting.
What is your business with single women? Did they ask you for help? Did they cry to you about their single status?
Why aren't you just as worried for your single brothers above 28?
You're all very stupid if you think a woman being single at a certain age means her life is worse than anyone else's.
Such retardedd posts littering nairaland.

Some people think Women should be financially independent her husband should not provide for her...

Feminism will create more marriages and liberate men from financial pressures of 'being a man'

dingbang:
how long will it take you to be a self made woman biko?

35 I think

IamKashyBaby:


Aha...well, some of us that are still single, simply bcoz we dont go down with all the BS some men will bring on the table...

Some of us are busy chasing our own dreams..dream to be a selfmade woman..

And some of us, juz dont believe in marriage as a true happiness..Marriage is NOT for everyone anyway..

slaymama spotted,seeing ur picture here alone,I know d typa lady yu probably are already...bt yu fit reach 37 before marriage sha,if yu dnt change dis ideology of urs...
yu may kom here and say yu dnt nid marriage ooo,bt I refused to be brainwashed with dat boldfacism...
d scar is inside I know

I no read your epistle, but IMO, the number of ladies above 28 are increasing because:

1) The number of sissies who call themselves men are increasing.

2) Female hypergamy is growing at astronomical rate, no one is good enough for them. You must meet all their criteria to be considered as a mate.

3) Guys who meet their requirements wants to take their pound flesh for their past disappointment before settling down with girls much younger.

How is this your business?

Just give me one example of how the status of single ladies in nigeria concerns you.

emusmithy:
The Sudden Uprise Of Single Ladies Above 28: Salvaging The Situation.

Hi all.

I'm not the kinda guy who narrates a menace with providing the solution.

I really don't give 'two rats' about the reasons why...

- Maybe she broke the heart of the son of a native doctor.
- Could it be she wasted away her prime years?
- Maybe, just maybe they stuck themselves to one guy with hopes of marriage but were later disappointed.

Look around you, there are everywhere, church, workplace, neighborhood, family etc.

Which is the way forward?

I believe it's high time we called a spade a spade and not an agricultural equipment.

The lashes fall on both genders, appropriately.

Let's observe some measures that can be taken to salvage this urgent matter;
(Forget those ladies forming, 'I don't need a man to feel fulfilled', I'm my own boss. It's deception + boldfacism. There's a scar inside.)

This thread is in Two Sections; Section A and B;

Section A - Guys :

A) Guys should start seeing ladies differently.

The average guy sees ladies as merely a *bleeping object*. With that kinda mental picture, how wan take marry? Ladies are delicate creatures of God to help you fulfil your purpose and theirs too (before feminists crucify me. )
Truth be told, very few of our ladies pose themselves as that object. Very few, I believe. Even at that, Guys, let's see ladies differently. This is a command.


B) Many Guys Don't Know What They Truly Want In A Girl

Why the make-up and break-up? It's all in this quote, "When the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable."

The reason many girls are still single is because guys have refused to propose and that's also because they're still NOT sure if she's the one. If you don't see her marriageable, don't fool her with promises thus chasing other potential suitors, hence overcrowding the 'single ladies world.' I told one lady, I can't promise you I'm gonna marry you. Today, we're still friends. I buy you lunch doesn't mean I love you. Stop arriving at asinine conclusions. Stop reading meanings into my generosity. I'm different.


C) Money and Diamond isn't all a Wife-Material needs.

The saying goes, 'if she's in love with you just because you're rich, she ain't a wife material.'
True ladies abound who want to build a home with you and your 'wretched purse'. Look out for them. Don't generalize that all girls are after the cash. Nada! That's archaic and shameful. There is more to marriage. Don't go for the uneducated girls just because you feel you can't 'afford' the educated and retty model who read Medicine. Why must you think poor before you 'die'? Infact, those other ones are not the solution. Your thinking is.
If I see what I want in any lady, your social status in inconsequential. Highest, you turn me down which all guys are used to, lol. Every setback is a setup for a superfluous comeback.



Section B (Ladies)

A) 'Clock is Ticking' ain't a delusional phrase but an obvious reality.

Many ladies don't really know that there is time for everything. Abeg open Eccl.3:1-13 and read biko. You're 21 and counting how many guys you've 'chopped' and didn't 'chop' you back. That phase of life is very brief. Birthday party after birthday parry and you are already close to 30 and your fleshy flesh ain't as inviting as they used to be. Those guys you friendzoned are now married with kids while you are there confessing, "My time is coming." Hello, wake up and smell the coffee, it's a bit cold now. Stop being repulsive and irritating when guys approach you today. Be nice and courteous. I remember LADY X who happily gave me her number, only for me to call days later and she starts forming, "call me later, I'm busy." I was like, who taught you this did a pretty awful job. So harrowing. Number Deleted, Life goes on!

Ladies, be nice to guys today. It's one of them that might marry you or recommend you to your *superman*. You mustn't stay single till 30 to learn this.


B) Having an inaccurate measurement of a successful spouse.

How do you measure a successful guy? Must he have a car? Good and fine, if he has. That's still not the yardstick.
Was once eyeing a lady when I asked about her, someone told me her REQUIREMENT. I retraced my steps. I'll be there soon, yea. Almost all the guys who asked for her hand are happily married. Do ladies have different privy parts Haba! Ladies, measure success by his dreams, prospect and daily efforts. How many ladies saw greatness in Mark Zuckerberg in Harvard dormitory? Only one gentle-looking, purpose-driven Priscilla Xang. Where were all the 'runs girls'? I'm discouraging the reason ladies wait endlessly for "Mr Right".
They look towards successful failures. They look at liabilities and demean assets. If you want to be a 'mummy' in church tomorrow, marry a pastor. Don't marry a bouncer that you would start dragging to church and forcing him to open a ministry. #yeye


C). "I DON'T CARE" attitude.

Lols, I told her, 'walk like a lady at times na. Not walking like a soldier heading for Sambisa"
She literally interrupted me with, "Any man that doesn't like the way I walk should go to *****." Okay o. I went away also. The truth is, if you don't kinda do the unusual, you might not get the unusual. Step out. Break out. Be rightly positioned. How can a guy love you for who you are? When you can't cook common egusi soup well, you aren't domesticated. You lack manners. On top all, you now joined them feminist- claiming right with you 'olowoorimi'. Who are you and what can you give him that he can't get elsewhere. Eish! He can get s*x outside from younger girls.
Get prepared! I-don't-care might be the reason no one cares about you but keep hurting you emotionally, year in, year out! Change!


Do you know? The world population is about 7.7billion and roughly 22% are young unmarried ladies. That means over 1.5 billion ladies are still single. Don't allow Amarachi do shakara for you jare!

SUMMARY; There are no general reasons why guys and ladies stay so late before choosing someone. Different strokes for different folks. If you have to go spiritual, it's okay. Shiloh 2017 is around the corner again. Meanwhile, make the work easy for God by applying any of these. Good morning.

tosyne2much:
Even with the attitudes some of them display on social media, you will begin to shake your head for the unfortunate man that will marry them

God bless u for this statement, imagine a lady who wish to be a full house wife saying I can't cook for my husband simply because am not his slave. like seriously I weak that day, just imagine full house wife.then what will she b doing all day? n if that kind of lady is referred to as sex object now,3rd World War will start. then what is she if not a sex object cos she only comes to the picture when a man needs to cool off.

cococandy:
You people are disgusting.
What is your business with single women? Did they ask you for help? Did they cry to you about their single status?
Why aren't you just as worried for your single brothers above 28?
You're all very stupid if you think a woman being single at a certain age means her life is worse than anyone else's.
Such retardedd posts littering nairaland.

I agree. This is a feminist cause. If men age discriminate women should also age discriminate!

Some married women come here and be saying things to rubbish this thread but they're married!
Some of them literally forced their way into his life but what are they advising the younger generation? To just chill and not worry about it, to keep being a slay queen and not prepare for a future hubby, something their moms are also saying.

Right now, I know women who are trying to connect their relatives (ladies) to me, for a marital relationship. I saw their pics, it's obvious that some of them have 'chopped' life.

Don't I have relatives above 28, single and I'm praying they position rightly for Mr. Right? I do.

You can DO NOTHING against the truth BUT for the truth.

#QED!

emusmithy:

Some married women come here and be saying things to rubbish this thread but they're married!
Some of them literally forced their way into his life but what are they advising the younger generation? To just chill and not worry about it, to keep being a slay queen and not prepare for a future hubby, something their moms are also saying.

Right now, I know women who are trying to connect their relatives (ladies) to me, for a marital relationship. I saw their pics, it's obvious that some of them have 'chopped' life.

Don't I have relatives above 28, single and I'm praying they position rightly for Mr. Right? I do.

You can DO NOTHING against the truth BUT for the truth.

#QED!

Close mouth biko. Na woman your power reach. That they are married means they should force every lady into marriage?

Fkforyou:
I no read your epistle, but IMO, the number of ladies above 28 are increasing because:

1) The number of sissies who call themselves men are increasing.

2) Female hypergamy is growing at astronomical rate, no one is good enough for them. You must meet all their criteria to be considered as a mate.

3) Guys who meet their requirements wants to take their pound flesh for their past disappointment before settling down with girls much younger.

Also women inundated with attention from teens to early 20s believe it's going to last forever because they were not well informed. It's not that guys deliberately hate or are being harsh to older babes oh, I think it's just biological wiring and primal instinct (like those of animals lol).

onyichick:
Marriage marriage marriage!!!! Gosh, don't u hv better things to research n talk about? This issue has bin over flogged. Most people r married in this country cos of societal pressure n are mostly miserable in their marriages. Marriage isn't by force and it isn't the ultimate, in countries like Japan the govt is spending millions every year to Mk people marry but they still run away from marriage but here all we think about is marriage this n marriage that. The rate of domestic violence n divorce is on the rise cos people just marry any available partner so as to be counted among d married ones. We need to stop making people and most especially the ladies feel like a failure if they aren't married at a certain age, instead we need to focus on how to make people take their time to choose wisely. I have seen what broken home does to children. Please stop with all these sort of threads

calm ur nerves babe...
90% of broken home are caused by ego,either from the man bt mostly from d woman....yu gotta be humble to sustain a lifetime rlsp...
marriage can't be write off for any reason in life...it's vital.

cococandy:
You people are disgusting.
What is your business with single women? Did they ask you for help? Did they cry to you about their single status?
Why aren't you just as worried for your single brothers above 28?
You're all very stupid if you think a woman being single at a certain age means her life is worse than anyone else's.
Such retardedd posts littering nairaland.

Lol take it easy dear, why do u have 2 sound so pained? you look bitiful by d way.

Nice one op.
I believe it's directed towards all those who desire a marital union cos its obvious from some of the comments from ladies here that being married isn't a criterion for happiness....
Anyways My 5 cents,
Reason 1....Some of them have been jilted unfairly early in life and maybe failed to grow emotionally and are still scared of losing their hearts again. However, to counter that, If you never use your heart to love, who cares when it gets broken?

Reason 2....Some make a choice. Maybe environmental background or advise suggests that when they are older than a certain age they could settle. Again, we will always learn everyday. Marriage is the only institution you receive a certificate before you begin....

Reason 3...The attitudes. Oh, lawd! the attitude of some ladies make u want to cringe!!! Some are unnecessarily rude without cause, some believe that they are divine gift to man and therefore show an extreme level of pride cos of attention left, right and centre. Some get so choosy and blind their eyes to true intentions. If a man is financially dependent, has ambitions, worthy goals but not as rich as you would want him to be....I think if a lady despises such a man,she needs to be checked again. What prevents you from also sharing your ambitions or goals with him abi you nor get? Have something worthwile your are working towards, maintain a positive attitude of where you are headed and watch how he will unleash his undending stream of love and support towards you.

Reason 4..Preconceived Ideas..When you prejudge an event or person, you will almost find nothing good. Imagine a lady telling me the other day; All men are the same no matter what. How do you prejudge a person before getting to know him..then i told her i assumed she was going to be married to a woman..When she forbade it, I asked her; Then why do you pray to God for a kind, loving and chaste mate if all of them are already the same, does it make sense? Keep an open heart dear ladies..

The truth is; if you are one who desires marriage, not getting a suitable mate at a certain time can have its emotional toll on you either male or female. It's not easy for our ladies out there. We know they go thru a lot.

If you are a lady and fall within the scope of this thread, you know if you have some homework to do. You know where the shoe free you or pain you. We are not perfect doesn't mean we would not try. Why not look for the nuggets of wisdom from all the comments and improve yourself; attitudes, goals, open hearts?

All the best to the ladies.


Peace Out

Fkforyou:
I no read your epistle, but IMO, the number of ladies above 28 are increasing because:

1) The number of sissies who call themselves men are increasing.

2) Female hypergamy is growing at astronomical rate, no one is good enough for them. You must meet all their criteria to be considered as a mate.

3) Guys who meet their requirements wants to take their pound flesh for their past disappointment before settling down with girls much younger.

You are right joor!

They're everywhere now o!
Recession too ain't helping their matter.

All these we are saying are all True.
They're too proud to concur.

Oluwaremythe:

calm ur nerves babe...
90% of broken home are caused by ego,either from the man bt mostly from d woman....yu gotta be humble to sustain a lifetime rlsp...
marriage can't be write off for any reason in life...it's vital.

From which woman?
Most homes break up when a woman has had it all, not otherwise. There is a reason why marital teachings are directed at women. Do you know what Nigerian women are enduring to remain Mrs?

jhudit:

Close mouth biko. Na woman your power reach, your fellow men that called you out, did they also force their way into any women?

That they are married means they should force every lady into marriage?

Lols!
You're funny damn!

They should see a spade and call it a spade.
Some married women, I feel just want to remain 'superior' over the single friends. They advise them to opt out of relationships anyhow.

My friends brings out the best in me.
Aunty: Tell them the truth ey!

emusmithy:


Lols!
You're funny damn!

They should see a spade and call it a spade.
Some married women, I feel just want to remain 'superior' over the single friends. They advise them to opt out of relationships anyhow.

My friends brings out the best in me.
Aunty: Tell them the truth ey!

Are you done talking?

Pls gals receive brain in Jesus name & be independent. No guy will spend money on u for free,u'll pay for it, either by hook or by crook,work hard,pray hard, nothing comes for free. And be contented with whatever u av. And to those girls who are ready to open 'yash' for any James & John who buys them material things, 'You worth more than diamond and Gold' use ur brain

GoldenSpine24:
Nice one op.
I believe it's directed towards all those who desire a marital union cos its obvious from some of the comments from ladies here that being married isn't a criterion for happiness....
Anyways My 5 cents,
Reason 1....Some of them have been jilted unfairly early in life and maybe failed to grow emotionally and are still scared of losing their hearts again. However, to counter that, If you never use your heart to love, who cares when it gets broken?

Reason 2....Some make a choice. Maybe environmental background or advise suggests that when they are older than a certain age they could settle. Again, we will always learn everyday. Marriage is the only institution you receive a certificate before you begin....

Reason 3...The attitudes. Oh, lawd! the attitude of some ladies make u want to cringe!!! Some are unnecessarily rude without cause, some believe that they are divine gift to man and therefore show an extreme level of pride cos of attention left, right and centre. Some get so choosy and blind their eyes to true intentions. If a man is financially dependent, has ambitions, worthy goals but not as rich as you would want him to be....I think if a lady despises such a man,she needs to be checked again. What prevents you from also sharing your ambitions or goals with him abi you nor get? Have something worthwile your are working towards, maintain a positive attitude of where you are headed and watch how he will unleash his undending stream of love and support towards you.

Reason 4..Preconceived Ideas..When you prejudge an event or person, you will almost find nothing good. Imagine a lady telling me the other day; All men are the same no matter what. How do you prejudge a person before getting to know him..then i told her i assumed she was going to be married to a woman..When she forbade it, I asked her; Then why do you pray to God for a kind, loving and chaste mate if all of them are already the same, does it make sense? Keep an open heart dear ladies..

The truth is; if you are one who desires marriage, not getting a suitable mate at a certain time can have its emotional toll on you either male or female. It's not easy for our ladies out there. We know they go thru a lot.

If you are a lady and fall within the scope of this thread, you know if you have some homework to do. You know where the shoe free you or pain you. We are not perfect doesn't mean we would not try. Why not look for the nuggets of wisdom from all the comments and improve yourself; attitudes, goals, open hearts?

All the best to the ladies.


Peace Out

I tried to put it this way.

[quote author=GoldenSpine24 post=57708630]Nice one op.
I believe it's directed towards all those who desire a marital union cos its obvious from some of the comments from ladies here that being married isn't a criterion for happiness....
Anyways My 5 cents,
Reason 1....Some of them have been jilted unfairly early in life and maybe failed to grow emotionally and are still scared of losing their hearts again. However, to counter that, If you never use your heart to love, who cares when it gets broken? Bro i swear i wish 2 buy u one bottle

Reason 2....Some make a choice. Maybe environmental background or advise suggests that when they are older than a certain age they could settle. Again, we will always learn everyday. Marriage is the only institution you receive a certificate before you begin....

Reason 3...The attitudes. Oh, lawd! the attitude of some ladies make u want to cringe!!! Some are unnecessarily rude without cause, some believe that they are divine gift to man and therefore show an extreme level of pride cos of attention left, right and centre. Some get so choosy and blind their eyes to true intentions. If a man is financially dependent, has ambitions, worthy goals but not as rich as you would want him to be....I think if a lady despises such a man,she needs to be checked again. What prevents you from also sharing your ambitions or goals with him abi you nor get? Have something worthwile your are working towards, maintain a positive attitude of where you are headed and watch how he will unleash his undending stream of love and support towards you.

Reason 4..Preconceived Ideas..When you prejudge an event or person, you will almost find nothing good. Imagine a lady telling me the other day; All men are the same no matter what. How do you prejudge a person before getting to know him..then i told her i assumed she was going to be married to a woman..When she forbade it, I asked her; Then why do you pray to God for a kind, loving and chaste mate if all of them are already the same, does it make sense? Keep an open heart dear ladies..

The truth is; if you are one who desires marriage, not getting a suitable mate at a certain time can have its emotional toll on you either male or female. It's not easy for our ladies out there. We know they go thru a lot.

If you are a lady and fall within the scope of this thread, you know if you have some homework to do. You know where the shoe free you or pain you. We are not perfect doesn't mean we would not try. Why not look for the nuggets of wisdom from all the comments and improve yourself; attitudes, goals, open hearts?

All the best to the ladies.


Peace Out [/quote Bro chop knuckle.. You nailed it gbam. 10000likes

jhudit:

Are you done talking?

I thought I was typing and not talking...

Madam, this is a social platform, not a one-on-one conversation, don't sound or think that I'm trying so hard to get you to buy my opinion or get your attention. Maam, 'Are you done talking' creates an awkward picture to me and IT'S NOT necessary.

slimpoet11:

Lol take it easy dear, why do u have 2 sound so pained? you look bitiful by d way.

Yes I'm pained

KKKWHITE:
Increase in single ladies and I? am here still searching for a single lady can't believe that

So many fishes dey this forum nah... Abi You No get net ni?

A country with messed up economy.

jhudit:

From which woman?
Most homes break up when a woman has had it all, not otherwise. There is a reason why marital teachings are directed at women. Do you know what Nigerian women are enduring to remain Mrs?

smiles,women always playing d victim.
Anyway,before you marry any guy,be sure yu know him well,at least to his faults,b sure yu can withstand his torture too,it's nt gonna be rosy every time(dat yu sud reckon too) and above all,drop ur pride at home before moving to a man's house
seriously no man in his right senses will take an humble&loving lady for a ride.
fights&arguments are normal...
1st to 5yrs in marriage are always d most delicate periods of marriage,jst be respectful and see ao things work out...
bliv dat there's nothing like gender equality.