menwongo:
This op self. Person never see work work you wan go Marry. Na lack of work d curse most ladies to be single as their boyfriends no get work

Oluwaremythe:

smiles,women always playing d victim.
Anyway,before you marry any guy,be sure yu know him well,at least to his faults,b sure yu can withstand his torture too,it's nt gonna be rosy every time(dat yu sud reckon too) and above all,drop ur pride at home before moving to a man's house
seriously no man in his right senses will take an humble&loving lady for a ride.
fights&arguments are normal...
1st to 5yrs in marriage are always d most delicate periods of marriage,jst be respectful and see ao things work out...
bliv dat there's nothing like gender equality.

RaggedyAnn:
Why are these guys always so worried about women being single? Thread after thread after thread of endless whining. Let the women be, they're not accidentally single.

xynerise:
Is being single an economic problem?

RaggedyAnn:
Why are these guys always so worried about women being single? Thread after thread after thread of endless whining. Let the women be, they're not accidentally single.

IamKashyBaby:


Aha...well, some of us that are still single, simply bcoz we dont go down with all the BS some men will bring on the table...

Some of us are busy chasing our own dreams..dream to be a selfmade woman..

And some of us, juz dont believe in marriage as a true happiness..Marriage is NOT for everyone anyway..

pocohantas:
Whenever this topic comes up, I hear the same old story. Ladies are this, they are that. There are bad men too in this Nigeria...
There have always been bad men and women, we're used to that.

Societal values have dropped, no gender is innocent.

Responsible guys will see a responsible partner as at when due. If this topic was why guys above 30 are still single, you all will come in chanting how it's slay queens everywhere. Now you suddenly forgot your fellow men are perpetrating crimes worse than 'slaying' hence reduction in responsible men too.

Why are the good ladies not getting married?
Why are all you good men still single?

The above is gonna be a new topic, this particular one...though sensible has been overflogged.


Emusmith, pick your own lesson and walk away too. This is a forum...don't beat yourself up over my views, you hear?

Obalende:


There is gender equality. Gender equality relieves men from financial pressures of marriage cos d woman gotta work.

tosyne2much:
[/b] I used to pity ladies who can't find male suitors but now, I no longer have a pinch of pity for them. When you get close to some of them and engage them into conversations, then you will get to know the reason why men don't take them serious seriously

Oluwaremythe:

God help subdue dis ur arrogant arguments&confrontations before yu move in tho...we(Realmen) only nid an advisor and a friend...not a commander&a boss kos
we're d boss naturally

AZeD1:
Am I the only one that thinks men like the OP are emotionally insecure that's why they keep coming up with feel good threads like this?

If you feel there's an increase in population of single ladies over 28, maybe it because a large number of them have realised that there's more to life than marriage.

GoldenSpine24:
Nice one op.
I believe it's directed towards all those who desire a marital union cos its obvious from some of the comments from ladies here that being married isn't a criterion for happiness....
Anyways My 5 cents,
Reason 1....Some of them have been jilted unfairly early in life and maybe failed to grow emotionally and are still scared of losing their hearts again. However, to counter that, If you never use your heart to love, who cares when it gets broken?

Reason 2....Some make a choice. Maybe environmental background or advise suggests that when they are older than a certain age they could settle. Again, we will always learn everyday. Marriage is the only institution you receive a certificate before you begin....

Reason 3...The attitudes. Oh, lawd! the attitude of some ladies make u want to cringe!!! Some are unnecessarily rude without cause, some believe that they are divine gift to man and therefore show an extreme level of pride cos of attention left, right and centre. Some get so choosy and blind their eyes to true intentions. If a man is financially dependent, has ambitions, worthy goals but not as rich as you would want him to be....I think if a lady despises such a man,she needs to be checked again. What prevents you from also sharing your ambitions or goals with him abi you nor get? Have something worthwile your are working towards, maintain a positive attitude of where you are headed and watch how he will unleash his undending stream of love and support towards you.

Reason 4..Preconceived Ideas..When you prejudge an event or person, you will almost find nothing good. Imagine a lady telling me the other day; All men are the same no matter what. How do you prejudge a person before getting to know him..then i told her i assumed she was going to be married to a woman..When she forbade it, I asked her; Then why do you pray to God for a kind, loving and chaste mate if all of them are already the same, does it make sense? Keep an open heart dear ladies..

The truth is; if you are one who desires marriage, not getting a suitable mate at a certain time can have its emotional toll on you either male or female. It's not easy for our ladies out there. We know they go thru a lot.

If you are a lady and fall within the scope of this thread, you know if you have some homework to do. You know where the shoe free you or pain you. We are not perfect doesn't mean we would not try. Why not look for the nuggets of wisdom from all the comments and improve yourself; attitudes, goals, open hearts?

All the best to the ladies.


Peace Out

jaytime:
I personally see this from an economic angle. Fact is, there are so many broke guys of over 30 out there who would have, all things being equal, gotten married to these ladies in question but they don't have the financial muscle to undertake marriage rites let alone shoulder family responsibilities.
In that case, there must be a resultant increase in the number of "redundant" spinsters.

jaytime:
I personally see this from an economic angle. Fact is, there are so many broke guys of over 30 out there who would have, all things being equal, gotten married to these ladies in question but they don't have the financial muscle to undertake marriage rites let alone shoulder family responsibilities.
In that case, there must be a resultant increase in the number of "redundant" spinsters.

sweetgala:


Self made women don't exist because self made people don't exist.

Even Jesus needed 12 disciples to fulfil the prophecy so why should yours be different; the man who may assist you to be all you can be may be just a friend or he may be the partner God planned for you.

You may never reach that pinnacle you so desire without that God purposed assistance

tosyne2much:
Emusmity, this write-up is well researched and articulated

I think the reason why most ladies end up in late marriage is because they live in fantasies and view marriage from a myopic view. That is to say that they screen and discard men for ridiculous reasons in their prime just to satisfy their fantasies.

Another thing that don't make men take them serious is that some of them have nauseating characters and are fond of saying "accept me for who I am". Most of these ladies don't really work on their attitudes but are only concerned about how to bleach, enlarge their butts/bosoms and look better than other ladies. The truth of the matter is that there is no perfect lady anywhere, but any lady who doesn't want to subject herself under the control a man will surely end up chasing men away.

And when they can no longer find men that will take them serious, they automatically become feminists. They become arrogant and will start raining abusive words on men that they are worthless

Jiang:
Adults are talking, let me learn from them so i won't make same mistake.

Hmm, senpei tachi, arigato gozaimas, i will try & get married b4 25......hmmm maybe 30...ummu, thats it

IamKashyBaby:


Aha...well, some of us that are still single, simply bcoz we dont go down with all the BS some men will bring on the table...

Some of us are busy chasing our own dreams..dream to be a selfmade woman..

And some of us, juz dont believe in marriage as a true happiness..Marriage is NOT for everyone anyway..

IamKashyBaby:


Aha...well, some of us that are still single, simply bcoz we dont go down with all the BS some men will bring on the table...

Some of us are busy chasing our own dreams..dream to be a selfmade woman..

And some of us, juz dont believe in marriage as a true happiness..Marriage is NOT for everyone anyway..

IamKashyBaby:


Aha...well, some of us that are still single, simply bcoz we dont go down with all the BS some men will bring on the table...

Some of us are busy chasing our own dreams..dream to be a selfmade woman..

And some of us, juz dont believe in marriage as a true happiness..Marriage is NOT for everyone anyway..

gokuu:
Everyday a new stupid post comes up.

How did op arrive at this conclusion that there has been an increase in "Women above 28 who are not married"? What was the null hypothesis? sample size? where was this study carried out? sampling method? He probably just overhead the crazy thought in a drunken beer parlour discussion and brought it on here.

Even if more Women are choosing to join the workforce and develop careers, is that not a fantastic thing. It is sure better to have Women contributing to the absolute GDP figures as opposed to reducing per capita GDP by becoming baby factories.

All these illiterate men that only think about marriage and babies are the ones pulling preventing national development.

gokuu:
Everyday a new stupid post comes up.

How did op arrive at this conclusion that there has been an increase in "Women above 28 who are not married"? What was the null hypothesis? sample size? where was this study carried out? sampling method? He probably just overhead the crazy thought in a drunken beer parlour discussion and brought it on here.

Even if more Women are choosing to join the workforce and develop careers, is that not a fantastic thing. It is sure better to have Women contributing to the absolute GDP figures as opposed to reducing per capita GDP by becoming baby factories.

All these illiterate men that only think about marriage and babies are the ones pulling preventing national development.

KKKWHITE:
Increase in single ladies and I am here still searching for a single lady can't believe that