Trina0936:
OP you forgot to tell them how backward you are in researching and making up figures without any solid proof to back it up. One would think with such an elaborate writeup,you would at least spare us some truth without twisting lies to drive your pathetic point home.
Below is the link to real time statistics of the world population showing male to female ratio by age!! It clearly shows(if you take the time to look closely at it at all)that males outnumber females by at least 20% and this number only reduces after the age of 50. So that trash you wrote about single ladies increasing in number in the original post is fallacy without any viable proof! Rather it is the old men that are dying early you should be more worried about.
Here is the link,should you miss it blindly.
http://population.city/world/
People just sit in their bedrooms and type trash from God-knows where without any solid proof! It is very irritating especially when they claim to be educated and enlightened. Just to make front page you had to concoct lies out of thin air about women and it worked as usual!
As for the women who would believe every nonsense scrapped out of somewhere without proper research in this internet age,I pity you!
That is how they want to force you to make mistakes and rush into marriage then rush out again after divorce just because of this same old 'time is not on your side again' theory! Even my own mother still saw her period till she was 55! Which means she could actually get pregnant at 50 if she wanted.
Now with IVF its even better, women now get pregnant and give birth at 60! My point is just don't let anyone harangue you into something you don't wanna do. Marriage is not an achievement, ask divorcees! They should know better. Focus on yourself and be financially stable,you can have any man you want!! No one rejects good stuff! Peace!
http://population.city/world/

Ok

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Marriage is a thing of choice. Some of them who wished to marry maybe single because men have treated them so badly that they finally gave up on getting married.
Most marriages these days are not encouraging to singles. If u want to marry, go ahead and marry and allow those who don't want to live their lives as they want to.

Gbam! Is anybody holding anybody's skirt?

Emusmithy nice post I would say but the reason why the number of unmarried ladies of 28 and above is on the increase really has nothing to do with most things you wrote up there....

It's because men now realize they don't have to be married to enjoy the benefits of a married man.

Sex is cheap and it is easy to be a baby daddy...in fact you don't have to bother about the stress of financing a family.

Our ladies are making it even easier for the guys to aboid marriage with their crazy mindset of looking for a man to dump their bukata on and guys now know this....the worst part is that most guys who are very financially stable are never committed to one lady as they indulge in point and kill or pick and drop.

Until every lady is ready to work hard as if there is no man to depend on and be ready to settle with a guy based on his tenacity to achieving success in life without looking at the present size of his pocket I guess we will forever have an increase in the number of old single ladies.

If not for my love for christ abeg wettin I Wan use marriage do when I can conviniently lay as many random beautiful ladies as I can and get one babe pregnant while I continue with my life in total freedom without the stress of any lady.

Ladies should wise up and change their mindset before it gets totally out of hand.
My humble submition.

Please stp all dx *what's so special abt marriage talk?*. Marriage is absolutely cool(a thing to be proud of).....some girls r Jxt still comfortable wt the more than 1 di*k kinda lifestyle which hv landed most of dm in d single status they justifying nw. that's why they gvn excuses for staying single....lol pain dm sha.


*Truth is marriage is purposeful and an element of success to every human(male or female),

*at sm point in life even d single ladies justifying being single aspired to be married buh due to sm circumstances find themselves wia they r today(still aspiring or lost hope).

*If u feel being self made excludes marriage when d natural law thinks a union btw a human [s][/s](nt lower animals lik lions, cats etc..)[s][/s] male and a female is essential and an act of orderliness [s][/s](which distinguishes humans from other lower animals lik dogs, lizard etc..)[s][/s] in being self made then u still don't understand what the criteria ppl look at when terming u a success/self made.


*same applies to guys

Yea yea yea, Red it all, yariyariya bla bla bla, Textbooks, Articles and the rest.

Abeg the Cold nowadays no be here. If you are a Single lady seriouuusly searching. Just PM me, abi na E-mail me. esp if you are in Ibadan.

Mk we yarn ....

xynerise:
Is being single an economic problem?

help me ask them o,the way they take it personal and serious like it has a direct effect on the economy,just check out the choice of words "salvage the situation",smh, but they forget that just like it is the era of slay queens so also the boys of this generation are highly malnourished of sense of responsibility

"Meanwhile, make the work easy for God by applying any of these" this is the best thing I picked from your very sensible writeup.

Kondomatic:
This is funny especially your point A.

Guy, it is difficult to see women differently because majority of them intentionally portray themselves the way we see them.

Literally, you're saying that when I see a woman clad in the attire of a LovePeddler I should see her like God fearing lady because there are too many unmarried women out there? "

Bleep them all.

A lady who is serious about marriage will prepare herself for marriage and will marry, likewise guys.

The rest are gifts to enjoy while waiting for the one.

What savagery? Oba Akiolu must hear of this.

if There're more single ladies out there that means we have single guys above the age of 40 and pls dont tell me men can marry at anytime because i aint marrying anyman above 32.
Those old men you see in their 40's used their prime for yahoo yahoo, internet fraud , gigolo and useless lifestyle. who wants to settle with a cursed man?

Everyone seems to be interested in reasons why ladies are single whereas women nolonger care about single men. Very lousy set of people. the time you'all sit and gossip about women should have been the time you think of how to become rich instead you sit your lazy ass on Nairaland looking for whom to scam.

I can see the original bachelors jumping on this thread, so looking good has become a problem to you men or is it your money they are using to slay?, it cuts both ways, most Nigerian men are irresponsible to handle a family, too crude for companionship and worse still have Over bloated ego. And besides looking at marriages, it's just not encouraging at all

You nail it bro

Olasco93:
99% of what is stopping guys from marrying most of them is because of their wrong Attitude and Bad Character.
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Some of them are ruled completely by their emotions 100%, using Make-ups and Fashion to cover their Real sense of reasoning...
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The painful part is that majority of them this days offer their Puna too quickly... Making themselves too cheap for guys!

Bros, the issue is not that they offer it too quickly, it's that they have nothing more to offer after.

dingbang:
how long will it take you to be a self made woman biko?

In Nigeria it may take upto 20 years after university. so lets say you were 20 after university, then it takes another 20years to be self made that means we might be single till 40.
You think Nigeria is abroad where life begins at 16?

Nothing is wrong with being single and you see most women prefer to be single nowadays, i dnt knw why you lots wont let them be.

They ll be like all this play were for nothing

Why is this a situation to be salvaged? Why is it that black people are so concerned with marriage and procreation as if that's all they were put on earth to do?

Olalan:
For me singles girls above 28 fall into two categories, the ones who circumstances made them single(I do feel for them) and the other category are girls who caused it themselves with the lives they choose to live.
Just imagine the new rave of slay queens(dignified prostitutes)who mostly fall in the age bracket of 21 - 26 who live superficial lives not being married by 28 how do you help such ladies?

You make a good point.

Some have given up early while others are hoping to achieve statistical improbabilities. For every slay queen that gets married to her "befitting" celebrity husband, there are hundreds and even more hundreds who are perpetual professional bridesmaids.

The economy has contributed but the real damage has been through two big shifts in value.
1. The desire to appear to be, instead of becoming;
2. The turning of sex into a commodity experience

These two developments hurt women a lot more than men but inspite of this, many persist due to two other appearance based shifts in social behaviour
1. The exchange of individuality for "group think" and,
2. The socially cool status of the independent woman who asserts her right over her body and her lifestyle.

All these factors are supported by the breakdown in community and the fragmentation of family and personality. You can be anything you chose when you chose; a debauched personality by night and a trendy business person by day, a doting child to parents on saturdays and a worshipper on friday and sundays. Fragmentations means there is no absolute value. What matters is how you feel.

Basically women and men are victims of a massive sea change in human behaviour over the last 15 years. Everyone needs to take responsibility and stop blaming the trend while riding it furiously.

frenzyduchess:
I can see the original bachelors jumping on this thread, so looking good has become a problem to you men or is it your money they are using to slay?, it cuts both ways, most Nigerian men are irresponsible to handle a family, too crude for companionship and worse still have Over bloated ego. And besides looking at marriages, it's just not encouraging at all

very irresponsible, look at the case of our celebrity marriages. these marriages fold within one year and i don't see the trend going away soon.
when a guy enters into a date with a lady all he tells himself is that he is doing the lady a favor, with that mindset he becomes a dog immediately he puts her in the house. Women are gradually becoming wiser, so they rather prefer to pursue their dreams in life, become selfmade than using their prime to shed tears till they die of hypertension.

IamKashyBaby:


I cud say it all depends on what she wanted for her life..

Once she's self made she needs to maintain her lane..

OK.

The best part of this thread is that.................................................................................................


There won't be a COUNTER THREAD

Gone are the days when you get work almost immediately you leave school.

Graduate at 25 or less,

Search for job for 5 years.

If you don't have a job, don't marry- absolutely correct.

Poverty affects mentality!

If you say buhari administration is not to be blamed.


So do i

I guess b4 2040. sorry nah joke oooo. but aunty menopause is knocking, stop doing shakara. ask Linda ikeji she's really painful somewhere inside.

Toks2008:
Emusmithy nice post I would say but the reason why the number of unmarried ladies of 28 and above is on the increase really has nothing to do with most things you wrote up there....

It's because men now realize they don't have to be married to enjoy the benefits of a married man.

Sex is cheap and it is easy to be a baby daddy...in fact you don't have to bother about the stress of financing a family.

Our ladies are making it even easier for the guys to aboid marriage with their crazy mindset of looking for a man to dump their bukata on and guys now know this....the worst part is that most guys who are very financially stable are never committed to one lady as they indulge in point and kill or pick and drop.

Until every lady is ready to work hard as if there is no man to depend on and be ready to settle with a guy based on his tenacity to achieving success in life without looking at the present size of his pocket I guess we will forever have an increase in the number of old single ladies.

If not for my love for christ abeg wettin I Wan use marriage do when I can conviniently lay as many random beautiful ladies as I can and get one babe pregnant while I continue with my life in total freedom without the stress of any lady.

Ladies should wise up and change their mindset before it gets totally out of hand.
My humble submition.

Nice point Toks!

[color=#770077][/color] SOMEHOW i ladies with all oily makeup...they wonna be like ladygaga why not naijagaga

IamKashyBaby:


Aha...well, some of us that are still single, simply bcoz we dont go down with all the BS some men will bring on the table...

Some of us are busy chasing our own dreams..dream to be a selfmade woman..

And some of us, juz dont believe in marriage as a true happiness..Marriage is NOT for everyone anyway..

"Selfmade" is a myth, whether directly or indirectly someone's effort will nudge you to succeed.

obikirinoni:
The best part of this thread is that.................................................................................................


There won't be a COUNTER THREAD

Why

RadicallyBlunt:
Well I don't scorn them. And I think the major cause is d economy.

Unlike before when unemployment wasn't as much as this and the cost of living wasn't expensive, marrying a wife wasn't burdensome. Now, the case is different...a graduate man underemployed for 8yrs after school would always be scared of marriage.

The ladies themselves aren't helping matters. The days of "my husband is financially responsible for all my needs including pants" is gone. Its not about eating up ur Hubby's money again but about adding up to him which they were created to do in d first place...as helpmeets

For example if you're going out together and the journey cost 10k, if he provides 7k, then you as a lady shd help with d remaining 3k. And not expecting him to always drop everything all because he's d man.

In other words, ladies too shd have a job no matter how little and the essence of the job is not to just replenish her purse while she keep saying "its his responsibility to provide not mine"...but rather to support him. The earlier a lady understands this, the better.

This comment here is truer than the op's post

2dugged:
help me ask them o,the way they take it personal and serious like it has a direct effect on the economy, but they forget that just like it is the era of slay queens so also the boys of this generation are highly malnourished of sense of responsibility

Well it has no direct consequence on the economy. Not everything that does not affect the economy is good. This is a forum and people are discussing societal issues. Normally, ladies won't discuss this, so guys have brought it up. And everything said here are reality. I enjoy reading and only comment when I see a wrong comment. lol.


Back to the topic, marriage is good, any lady that says "who marriage epp" is not being sincere.

Let me say that slay queens made guys have a rethink. Do you know how ladies complain of dating broke guys. In most cases, I even earn more than what a lady can call a broke guy, yet I still see myself as broke. Lol.

Most things you see ladies do on social media gives responsible guys like us a rethink on getting married to such class of people.

NavyBlue:
Emismithy u nailed it. To be sincere, i'm tired of all this trashy talk about feminism, it makes me sick. It seems like the fashion nowadays for every girl to be an arrogant feminist. U hit the topic from all directions not all the rubbish i've been seeing here.
Being a feminist and preaching it doesn't change anything.
#proudly anti-feminist

You got the whole concept of feminism wrong. It is not about some crazy girls hidding under feminism to perpetuate evil, it is about empowering the girl child and women generally to be their best in all spheres of life.

That you got educated today was due to the efforts of the feminist movement. My mum was a victim of the hitherto suppression of the female gender. Despite education being free at the time, her father refused sending her to school, reason being that women's education were thought to end in the kitchen.

self made ko,,,self created ni

IamKashyBaby:


Aha...well, some of us that are still single, simply bcoz we dont go down with all the BS some men will bring on the table...

Some of us are busy chasing our own dreams..dream to be a selfmade woman..

And some of us, juz dont believe in marriage as a true happiness..Marriage is NOT for everyone anyway..