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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by Mofpearl: 10:55am On Jun 19, 2017
omohoneyland:
Please my people help me. We are from a poor family and I have a very stubborn boy of 13 years son that I want to put him under a Muslim clergy man away from my state. I want him to become a reliable person and to be very good a Arabic speaking. I am ready to come for better discussion. any of Imam that want to help me.

I am not sure about sending your child to someone else. If you want him to learn Arabic, you can send him to a school that teaches the language.
Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by eyinjuege: 1:27pm On Jun 19, 2017
People pushing their responsibility on others since time immemorial.
I hope you know all the Almajiris are under scholars, and only few have turned out well and even understand the religion.
You better imbibe your values to your child, and not push him on someone else.
I hope you know some alfas have been linked with doing rituals with human parts? I hope its not your son they'll use next. I also hope he wont also grow up to see nothing wrong in it

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by lepasharon(f): 2:41pm On Jun 19, 2017
And why do you want him to learn Arabic? undecided The language of those evil racist ppl?

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by Nobody: 3:26pm On Jun 19, 2017
omohoneyland:
Please my people help me. We are from a poor family and I have a very stubborn boy of 13 years son that I want to put him under a Muslim clergy man away from my state. I want him to become a reliable person and to be very good a Arabic speaking. I am ready to come for better discussion. any of Imam that want to help me.
You shouldn't haul him off to someone else to do your job for you. He's a child who needs his parents' love and care. At 13, his hormones are developing. If you put him under a Muslim clergyman​ away from your state, your son is going to feel abandoned and neglected and most likely his stubbornness would get worse. Try and get to the root cause of why he is stubborn and help him, not send him to someone else to raise him for you.

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by Solmax(m): 5:50pm On Jun 19, 2017
omohoneyland:
People are not getting me right. not that I cannot train the child but I purposely want him to learn and practise Arabic fluently and to learn how to preach the words of God to people.
Meaning U want to make the boy an 'Almajiri'
I don't think any loving parent should do that, under any guise of no finance or Arabic training.
I have seen what these children go through here in the north after been sent from far, I believe it does more harm than good both to the child and the society.

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by kaziblake(f): 10:08pm On Jun 19, 2017
omohoneyland:
People are not getting me right. not that I cannot train the child but I purposely want him to learn and practise Arabic fluently and to learn how to preach the words of God to people.
What are you saying?
Is it until they teach your child rubbish or in the process molest him before you will have sense?
Train him up yourself lazy man.I wish I was beside you I would have slapped you.

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by armyofone(m): 6:49pm On Jun 20, 2017
Sounds like the guy has many wives and children and as such has no time to properly play his role.
Give that child a quality education (if you haven't started already) at this age especially since your wife is there. No any alufa has the magic wand for good change. You and your wife together can do the magic.

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by omohoneyland(m): 8:04pm On Jun 20, 2017
some People are just talking the way it comes to their mouth. for sending my child to learn Arabic and become (Alfa Oniwasi) means I am a lazy man. imagine saying have more than 1 wife is DAT the causes of doing what I am willing to do. some guns are even saying learning an Arabic will make ones become boko harram, lazy sense. my children are going to a better school and have just 3 children. pls is better to close ur mouth if you have nothing to give.
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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by Nobody: 9:29pm On Jun 20, 2017
omohoneyland:
some People are just talking the way it comes to their mouth. for sending my child to learn Arabic and become (Alfa Oniwasi) means I am a lazy man. imagine saying have more than 1 wife is DAT the causes of doing what I am willing to do. some guns are even saying learning an Arabic will make ones become boko harram, lazy sense. my children are going to a better school and have just 3 children. pls is better to close ur mouth if you have nothing to give.
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guy this is a very poor attempt at trolling.

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by omohoneyland(m): 10:36pm On Jun 20, 2017
supergata:
guy this is a very poor attempt at trolling.
thanks very much.
Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by arent88(m): 7:11am On Jun 21, 2017
omohoneyland:
People are not getting me right. not that I cannot train the child but I purposely want him to learn and practise Arabic fluently and to learn how to preach the words of God to people.
if u want him to learn Arabic don't u have Islamic schools in ur area where ur son can at least attend and come back home everyday,must u send away to stay wit one mallam.I tink u are being economical wit ur reasons.

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by Ejanla07: 9:46am On Jun 21, 2017
if u re gonna give to alfa. be sure to collect advance because the alfa will butcher and and sell d eye 700, skull 1500
leg 2 900...hand 300...penis 7200...

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by Ezionye(f): 10:46am On Jun 21, 2017
Op, ur d best person to raise your child based on d reasons you provided
Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by PlayerMeji: 11:52am On Jun 21, 2017
I will like to ask, have you inquired from him what he would like to do if it 's business or trade or what kind of sport he would like to do, so that you can support him?

Let me tell you, growing up in the 80's is different to what's obtained this millennial, there are lots of opportunities and niches in every single thing around you. You might think he is stubborn but may not know if he actually is good in playing lawn tennis or singing.

Just imagine how many people would have complained about Olamide when he was growing up who didnt seem to understand his thought patterns but now he can comfortably provide for himself and his folks now.

In a nutshell, try to listen to his dreams and aspirations, know what he wants, and support him wholeheartedly, you stand to benefit more at the end of the day.

But, it also depends on your own content too. You cant give what you dont have, you know!

I hope you understand...

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by uboma(m): 7:55pm On Jun 21, 2017
lepasharon:
And why do you want him to learn Arabic? undecided The language of those evil racist ppl?



Your comment shows how myopic your thinking process is.

You lack exposure Gal.

Being able to speak different languages including Arabic, makes one an asset.
Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by lepasharon(f): 11:07pm On Jun 21, 2017
uboma:




Your comment shows how myopic your thinking process is.

You lack exposure Gal.

Being able to speak different languages including Arabic, makes one an asset.


Yes, but not the language of those wicked ppl

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by Nobody: 12:58am On Jun 22, 2017
omohoneyland:
some People are just talking the way it comes to their mouth. for sending my child to learn Arabic and become (Alfa Oniwasi) means I am a lazy man. imagine saying have more than 1 wife is DAT the causes of doing what I am willing to do. some guns are even saying learning an Arabic will make ones become boko harram, lazy sense. my children are going to a better school and have just 3 children. pls is better to close ur mouth if you have nothing to give.
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Bro,i wan talk in pidgin. Is like your son use the stubbornness resemble you. This your post speaks stubbornness.

your son is what you are. At age 13 you are ready to send him away? He will grow to curse you. Pls I beg you, show him love, stop flogging him like an animal. You don't need to type it, it's written all over your post that you beat him like a stubborn boy you made him to be.

Be the change he need.

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by uboma(m): 2:05am On Jun 22, 2017
lepasharon:

Yes, but not the language of those wicked ppl

Please stop the hate speech.
I support the learning of different languages including Arabic.
Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by lepasharon(f): 5:30am On Jun 22, 2017
uboma:



Please stop the hate speech.

I support the learning of different languages including Arabic.

Good for you undecided

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Re: I Want To Put My 13 Years Son Into Alfa Care. by uboma(m): 6:32pm On Jun 28, 2017
@ omohoneyland,
please read up the story in the following link,

https://www.nairaland.com/3887407/islamic-scholar-chains-6-year-old-boy

I am interested to know what you think afterwards.

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