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Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by BabbanBura(m): 4:49am On Jun 27, 2017
MARYchiells:
Sorry bro, I just checked you up to take note. I must avoid men who reason like you.

...very well my dear - his type are candidates to avoid like ebola!


















Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by zuto4u(m): 4:49am On Jun 27, 2017
God bless you Kennygee. I never knew that ladies like u still exist in Nigeria. U have just given me a new hope.
kennygee:


A man who loves you won't put you in that position.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.

I have seen many ladies fall prey to this lie and they ended up as single mothers with no man to marry them.

Most guys these days are just looking for women to bear one or two kids for them so they can eat their cake and have it.

That man doesn't love you, do things the way God ordained it from the beginning.

If you are not born again, repent of this way of life, let the Word of God be your guide and your manual and I promise you, you will not miss it.

Don't allow any man pressure you. Its easy to have sex and get pregnant, but what happens after you give birth to the child and this man leaves you?

A child born out of wedlock is a bThe astard, forger the sugar they are sprinkling on it to call it "baby mama or baby daddy".

Omo ale ni won pe.
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by BabbanBura(m): 4:58am On Jun 27, 2017
laudate:


Dump him! angry Unfriend him on Facebook, delete him from Whatsapp, unfollow him on Twitter or Instagram, do not reply him when he pings or calls you.... in short, erase him from your life. sad The guy just wants a cheap baby mama and free booty. A man who truly loves and respects you, will not dishonour you in that way. He will never put you in a position where family & friends would disrespect you, due to his actions.

fully agree with you on this. it seemed we haven't lost it all afterall - there is hope in this generation!

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Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by BabbanBura(m): 5:12am On Jun 27, 2017
elantraceey:
Ehya I'm not even going to talk about the pregnancy issue but about the total lack of respect he has for you.


Can you imagine? He told you other ladies want to have kids for him meaning what? He's your savior abi wetin? What nonsense!!!

Come babe, forget about whatsoever feelings you might think you have for him and make him realize your worth, you've made him already feel that he's doing you a favour by even dating you and trust me that's demeaning.


Do you value yourself at all? I sincerely doubt if you do else he won't have been bold enough to tell you that.


Abeg lemme not talk again

on point - Most nairaland babes, all thumbs up for you all on this matter! You all should come enjoy my babban Bura for free
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by zuto4u(m): 5:13am On Jun 27, 2017
Please my dear, don't even give it a second thought to avoid had I known. A word they say is enough for the wise.
lekpaciouse:
Please I need your advice as my guy want me to get pregnant for him out of wedlock that when the time comes we will get married,that other ladies are disturbing him have baby for him.
Please I need your advice
Thanks.
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Djbush: 5:19am On Jun 27, 2017
If you want to give birth to a bastard, then go ahead and give him a baby. It's your life and nobody will live it for you. Your choice!
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by SAMAYODELE(m): 5:40am On Jun 27, 2017
I am lookin at this from a different angle.
Do you think a guy needs your approval before he gets you pregnant?
You would just find out that you are pregnant, he says it was a mistake and from there he tells you not to ever abort.
All this drama would likely not be necessary. But then, there might be more to the story....
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by ashawopikin(m): 5:45am On Jun 27, 2017
kennygee:


A man who loves you won't put you in that position.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.

I have seen many ladies fall prey to this lie and they ended up as single mothers with no man to marry them.

Most guys these days are just looking for women to bear one or two kids for them so they can eat their cake and have it.

That man doesn't love you, do things the way God ordained it from the beginning.

If you are not born again, repent of this way of life, let the Word of God be your guide and your manual and I promise you, you will not miss it.

Don't allow any man pressure you. Its easy to have sex and get pregnant, but what happens after you give birth to the child and this man leaves you?

A child born out of wedlock is a bastard, forger the sugar they are sprinkling on it to call it "baby mama or baby daddy".

Omo ale ni won pe.
what is dis one saying? So if u wan buy car u no go test am?

Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by ashawopikin(m): 5:56am On Jun 27, 2017
lekpaciouse:
Thanks very much,like he said,he said other ladies want to carry his baby and I told him they are just looking for whom to father their baby,and he is very serious about it am just confused about the whole things.
e be like say u self wan carry d belle grin

Truth is a lot of guys are scared of having child bearing issues after marriage, who knows how many abort!ons d lady might have had, it's like buying a car, u have to "test run" to know if its working perfectly, whether new or tokumbo

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Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Nobody: 6:02am On Jun 27, 2017
MiddleDimension:


this is is the worst lie ever told! when will religious people stop presenting marriage like it is an evidence of love from a man? if what you are saying becomes tje default thinking and acrtion of every lady, then tel me why men would not start getting married to women just to sleep with them? or you think a man getting married to a woman just to sleep with her is sonething very good? since you quoted the bible, i am also sure you are one of those people who believe in paul when he said, for the sake of the flesh marry one. you really think thats a good idea from paul, right? many people who got married and became absentee husbands and wives while keep fuuuuking other people elsewhere, how much of an evidence of love was their getting maeeies to their spouse?

op, you know the guy better than anyone of us. you know if he is telling you the truth more than anyone,of us. so go with your mind and pls dont buy the evil idea this lady i quoted gave to you that marriage is the altimate show of love from a guy to a woman. AS,A GUY, I KNOW THAT IS A BIG LIE!!!

Husbands, love your wives like Christ loves the church.

Have a good day.
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by femi4: 6:06am On Jun 27, 2017
ifenes:
Naija mentality on marriage is really low...... Marriage is no guarantee a man will stay with you. You don't have to get married to raise a family.
You are poor upstairs. The best way to raise a family is in a marriage. What do you know about parenting?
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Kaybaba5(m): 6:11am On Jun 27, 2017
kennygee:


A man who loves you won't put you in that position.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.

I have seen many ladies fall prey to this lie and they ended up as single mothers with no man to marry them.

Most guys these days are just looking for women to bear one or two kids for them so they can eat their cake and have it.

That man doesn't love you, do things the way God ordained it from the beginning.

If you are not born again, repent of this way of life, let the Word of God be your guide and your manual and I promise you, you will not miss it.

Don't allow any man pressure you. Its easy to have sex and get pregnant, but what happens after you give birth to the child and this man leaves you?

A child born out of wedlock is a bastard, forger the sugar they are sprinkling on it to call it "baby mama or baby daddy".

Omo ale ni won pe.

Though have seen a man that told his wife to give birth to four children before he would pay his dowry . according to the man he has suffered alot in the hands of women. When the man proposed to them they will agree but after introduction they will vanish. Not that they have quarrel.they will vanish with his money...

Imagine the stress and spending..
So the woman in his house has born 4 children and the man fulfilled his promise

But to say the fact rarely u will see such man tgis day where baby mamas full everywhere

I arrest my case
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by ashawopikin(m): 6:11am On Jun 27, 2017
DaddyGngeess:
I am reading through all the comments everybody is saying dont try it, dont do this, dont do that, but i still want you all to know that there comes a time in a woman life when she will be begging for a man to get her pregnant either by fire by force, my advice follow your heart.

Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Nairaboi(m): 6:15am On Jun 27, 2017
o.p, I would hay hard slap if i was close, you sound so stupid.
Since you cant reason, who are the girls disturbing him to give them belle, and since he desperately want a child, why has he not given them the belle? So you will be proud to have a child out of wedlock? I am so pissed off right now because as stupid as you sound you would not apply the words of wisdom you read here i.e if this story is even true.
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by GasAndOilTheory(m): 6:18am On Jun 27, 2017
Dannmowe:
It will be hard for both parties
Which one are you in d picture
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by hollowpot15684(m): 6:22am On Jun 27, 2017
kennygee:


A man who loves you won't put you in that position.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.

I have seen many ladies fall prey to this lie and they ended up as single mothers with no man to marry them.

Most guys these days are just looking for women to bear one or two kids for them so they can eat their cake and have it.

That man doesn't love you, do things the way God ordained it from the beginning.

If you are not born again, repent of this way of life, let the Word of God be your guide and your manual and I promise you, you will not miss it.

Don't allow any man pressure you. Its easy to have sex and get pregnant, but what happens after you give birth to the child and this man leaves you?

A child born out of wedlock is a bastard, forget the sugar they are sprinkling on it to call it "baby mama or baby daddy".

Omo ale ni won pe.

quite illogical to conclude the man doesn't love her..
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by ifenes(m): 6:27am On Jun 27, 2017
femi4:
You are poor upstairs. The best way to raise a family is in a marriage. What do you know about parenting?

Especially in an abusive marriage where the parents feel tied together by force. A child does not need married parents to be brought up right. The society raise the child not the parents. Perhaps you should manners before making comments.

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Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Blessed16(m): 6:27am On Jun 27, 2017
ikp120:
Nigga no dey try. Haba! Why should he tell you that na?

Lemme help my niggas on this thread.

If you want to turn your babe to your baby mama, just puncture the condom that you want to use for fvcking her and leave the rest for biology. Hehehehehe cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy grin grin grin

Trust me, she no go even suspect. Na when she go miss her period wey e go dawn on her.
Abortion pills plenty for market, even at 3 months she can still abort it
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by bellotaofeek: 6:34am On Jun 27, 2017
ikp120:
Nigga no dey try. Haba! Why should he tell you that na?

Lemme help my niggas on this thread.

If you want to turn your babe to your baby mama, just puncture the condom that you want to use for fvcking her and leave the rest for biology. Hehehehehe cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy grin grin grin

Trust me, she no go even suspect. Na when she go miss her period wey e go dawn on her.

And If she is a bit faithful . She would definitely call your attention stammering like **babe we need to to to talk*** but if na then them na to go find money for abortion tongue
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by hollowpot15684(m): 6:35am On Jun 27, 2017
lekpaciouse:
Please I need your advice as my guy want me to get pregnant for him out of wedlock that when the time comes we will get married,that other ladies are disturbing him have baby for him.
Please I need your advice
Thanks.

According to your morals and values, what do you think is best for you?
contrary to most advice here saying "you shouldn't do it" or "he doesn't love you".. scrutinize your chances and see if baby mama is best for you..

Rather, i personally suggest you ask your boyfriend/fiancee to come to the magistrate with you to do a close/secrete hook up. then watch his reactions closely..

most people who advise you not to do it, do not only lack insight but also too quick to judge, and you have to be wary of such advice.
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by masterpix(m): 6:40am On Jun 27, 2017
lekpaciouse:
Please I need your advice as my guy want me to get pregnant f
or him out of wedlock that when the time comes we will get married,that other ladies are disturbing him have baby for him.
Please I need your advice
Thanks.

that means you are also one out many., he just a player that sees you as baby making machine.

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Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Nobody: 6:41am On Jun 27, 2017
laudate:

You don't have to get married to raise a family? shocked This is the kind of view that has led to the destruction of the family unit, which in turn gave rise to the breeding of baby mamas, slay queens, area boys and touts. And this happens when the discipline, security, norms, culture and values which are supposed to be established within the boundaries of a functional family unit are missing, simply because basic marital responsibilities and family structures, have been discarded.

If you get married and the man does not stay with you, at least the society & the law gives you a route through which you can file claims for alimony, seek redress or even bring his bad behaviour to the attention of his immediate & extended family members. When you are just a baby mama, olosho, friend-with-benefits, or a bed warmer, what leg do you have to stand on, as a woman?

thank you,I know two women who are currently suffering because according to the family of the men ,they were not married, the first is a lawyer who was assassinated, one would have thought as a learned man he would have atleast gone to the registrty ,they have three children and she is pregnant with the fourth ,now that he is dead,his family members have confiscated his properties saying that their brother never had a wife, the second example is my neighbor who have been cohabiting for 7 years, for the past 6 months he left her to camp with a young lady because she promised to ask her brother to send him abroad,even when she delivered two months ago,the man didn't show up,and his people and her people said they can't intervene because she is not married to him, she is left with three children ,the two older ones have stopped school, non of her family members or that of the man came for omugwo. Only a fool will say who marriage help, there are certain rights and privileges that can only be accessed through marriages, no woman with a working brain should knowingly fall for that, if the pregnancy is unplanned,that is a different case, if he is serious, let him do registry first,simple

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Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by femi4: 6:44am On Jun 27, 2017
ifenes:


Especially in an abusive marriage where the parents feel tied together by force. A child does not need married parents to be brought up right. The society raise the child not the parents. Perhaps you should manners before making comments.
lol abusive marriage my foot. Still doesn't change the fact that Successful marriages exist. Society doesn't raise a child. It influences a child. The first teacher of any child are his/her parents. Stop coming up with daft analysis

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Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Safiaa(f): 6:54am On Jun 27, 2017
Elesta:

Arrant nonsense
If you have something to counter my argument then say it. If not, desist from quoting me again. Good girl.
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Nobody: 7:03am On Jun 27, 2017
Do not try it. I repeat, do not attempt it. It's very dangerous to trust him over something of that nature. Unless you're ready to have him sign a court agreement that he be beheaded if he ever betrays you. grin

What were his reasons for making such a demand? Did he give any? That other ladies want to have babies for him? Does that excuse make sense to you?
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by AuroraB(f): 7:05am On Jun 27, 2017
lekpaciouse:
Thanks very much,like he said,he said other ladies want to carry his baby and I told him they are just looking for whom to father their baby,and he is very serious about it am just confused about the whole things.
My friend, you hypnotized or something undecided
Someone could tell you this means you are shallow shocked
Pardon me lipsrsealed
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Freeman59: 7:05am On Jun 27, 2017
lekpaciouse:
Thanks very much,like he said,he said other ladies want to carry his baby and I told him they are just looking for whom to father their baby,and he is very serious about it am just confused about the whole things.

Babe pls I know it's hard, but you gotta be strong. Leave that guy, he just doesn't love you. How could he tell you that? Seems you are the one who loves him... He's just busy cheating on you and telling you that the girls he's having sex with, want to get pregnant for him.

Come on dear, think.... Run
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Nobody: 7:08am On Jun 27, 2017
Freeman59:


Babe pls I know it's hard, but you gotta be strong. Leave that guy, he just doesn't love you. How could he tell you that? Seems you are the one who loves him... He's just busy cheating on you and telling you that the girls he's having sex with, want to get pregnant for him.

Come on dear, think.... Run
Couldn't have said it better. grin She doesn't sound all that smart.

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Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by ifenes(m): 7:08am On Jun 27, 2017
femi4:
lol abusive marriage my foot. Still doesn't change the fact that Successful marriages exist. Society doesn't raise a child. It influences a child. The first teacher of any child are his/her parents. Stop coming up with daft analysis

No the first teacher of a child is his environment. In fact I think a child can become a better peri in a polygamy family then a monogamy. A child needs to learn to live with everyone, not just parents. Marriage should be a choice, not necessity. You live in the past, a civilized world will do you a lot of good.

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Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Nobody: 7:09am On Jun 27, 2017
This is how people see fire and still walk into it. Later, they start saying the man they married is wicked and brutalizing them. When the foundation is weak and starting like this, why won't there be issues in future?
And if you and the other 'ladies' get pregnant at the same time, who do you think he will marry?! Use ur head. What an insult to tell you others want to be pregnant for him. He's a cheat or would-be cheat. Run now. Dont come back with nonsense pitiable stories in future o.
Re: Having A Baby Out Of Wedlock by Amenya96(f): 7:10am On Jun 27, 2017
obembet:


I don't blame the guy, he doesn't want to buy non- tested


Everyone dey fear fake things now.. Fake woman, fake pregnancy, fake womb....
you don't have to impregnate a girl before you know that she is fertile or can have children. For the love of Pete,education has told you that. He can actually go for fertility test if he is man enough.
Arrghhh

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